How to let go of the one who is destined not to get?

A person you are destined not to get, no matter how much you give, it is just a waste, a waste of your time, a waste of your energy, and a waste of your feelings. So if you are destined to not get it, you should let it go as soon as possible. Spend your time, energy, and affection with someone who is worth giving.

If you give so much and still don't get it, it means that this person is not yours. A person who doesn't love you, a person who is indifferent to you no matter how much he pays for you, he doesn't have you in his heart at all, and he can't have you in the future. So you have to be clear about your place in his heart, and at the same time you have to put his position in your heart.

None of us can be so selfless as to give all the time without expecting anything in return.

You just need to stand in a distant place, quietly pay attention to him, and hope that he is happy. To love someone is to make him happy, since his happiness is something you can't give, then all you can do is silently wish him happiness.

A person who is destined not to get it means that there is no fate between you. And you just need to get out of your own one-man show, you will see the bright sunshine ahead, and you will find someone who loves you. That's your happiness, your happiness.

In this life, you will meet many people. Some people are destined to be just a wave in the ocean of your life, no matter how you want to keep it, he will eventually disappear in your vast ocean of life. And some people will be the harbor of your life, a warm harbor that you can dock for a lifetime.

So when you understand the people you meet in your life, which are the waves and which are the harbors, you will no longer be sad and cry for a wave, because you will eventually find your own life harbor.

Shift your focus and find someone who can be with you. In fact, many people will face such a choice, not everyone you love can be together, and there are many regrets in life. Someone once asked the question of "I like my best friend's boyfriend, what should I do?"

In fact, when you ask this question, the answer has already come out, and under the judgment of social morality, the right choice you can make is to give up on him.

In the same way, in the face of people who can't be together, just give up. Find someone you can be with and choose the right person for you. It may seem like a compromise on life, but since you already think you're not destined to be together, the best option is to give up.

There is no need to torture yourself, taste the pain of not getting but wanting to get, just choose another person who is suitable for you. Life still has to go on, and such a choice is not a good choice. <>

Still remember, it's okay, but time will let you go. It's too hard to completely forget a person, and since he or she has walked into your heart, there is no need to force him or her to leave. No matter what makes you obsessed with a person, such a person will always have personal merits, which you don't have, and the most that attracts you is at least a good one, and such an advantage occupies a place in your heart.

Such a person can choose not to let go, and when you slowly step by step to be able to do the same as him, at this time your values may have changed, and what you can't let go of is just the past, all you care about is your future and yourself. No matter which way you let go of such a person in your heart, it takes a process, take your time, and every step is your gain.

It's already destined to not get, then let it go, you can try to let another person replace him, although that person will still be in your heart, but the appearance of another person will make new changes in your life, your mind and heart will slowly get used to his existence, time will dilute the inner him and then dilute it; Or he is completely gone, leaving no skeletal behind, and life forces you to let go of him and continue to move forward.

He has loved him for many years, he loves very much, and even beyond loving himself, from the first time he saw him, he became unable to extricate himself, and fell deeper and deeper, and after a long time, he seemed to see that I liked him, so I said my thoughts and wanted to be with him, but I didn't refuse or accept, just didn't speak, I didn't understand what he thought, so I slowly became no longer so close to him, because I was afraid that he didn't like me, and I was afraid that my behavior and my liking would affect him.

But he came back to me to talk to me and play together, but he just didn't talk about things together, because he couldn't let go of him, so he began to continue to be good to him, trying to guess his mind and doing his best to do something for him, he never refused, friends said that I scolded him stupidly for having no conscience, I would be very uncomfortable at first, and then I got used to it, just treat him well and continue to like him.

It lasted like this for about 6 years, and finally one day he told me that he was getting married, I was not as uncomfortable as I imagined, as if I had guessed this ending at the beginning, no blessing and no tears, and left silently, but after all, I couldn't let go, after all, I had loved deeply, so in addition to drinking or drinking, only after alcohol paralysis would it not be so uncomfortable, decadent for a long time and finally slowly began to stand up and continue to move forward, because you know that no matter what you do, it won't help, so you start living again, Live a good life, dress yourself up very beautifully every day, and force yourself to laugh.

Time is really a good thing, he will dilute everything, and let the beautiful person come to you, he came, loved me very much, and then you will find that your smile is more and more, and the one in his heart he hasn't remembered for a long time.

If we know that the other person is destined not to be obtained, then what we can do is to try not to think about the other person, try to let ourselves forget, and make more psychological hints, suggesting that we should be rational and try to live our own life. In addition to the usual psychological cues, you should also communicate and play with friends more, and find more things to do for yourself. Believe that you can come out and understand that this world is the same without everyone.

Generally, our feelings are fragile during this time, so we should grasp the family and friendship well, and understand that there will still be people in this world who love you sincerely and selflessly. If you still can't give up, then try to accept a new relationship, maybe the new relationship will soothe your heart. You will like someone again, and it will be easy to let go of what you can't get.

Because cherishing the people in front of you is the most important thing.

I used to be a scumbag in high school, but the boy I liked was a top student. We are separated by more than a dozen classes. At that time, I also knew that the boy was something I would never get close to.

But I still can't let go of it in my heart, and I can't forget him every day. My friend was very worried about me, and then one day I mustered up the courage to confess to him, but I found that I didn't even have a chance. At that time, I began to forget about him and began to try to live my life and study hard.

Later, I met a boy who really loved me.

If there's something you can't change, try to change yourself. It's not as hard to give up as you think. Why bother to make yourself live so hard for someone you can't have.

I believe that as long as you work hard to live your life and make yourself better and better, one day you will find the person who is just right for you.

You already know in your own heart that you are destined to not find him, and at this time you should find all kinds of ways to forget about him, and don't want to hear about the two of you. Because it's useless to think about it, you already know that it's impossible to be together again.

Go out on a trip to see the world around you, travel can be a distraction, let your mood be released. Go to the top of the mountain and shout, and all the grievances in your heart are suppressed, and all the anger is roared. Go to the sea and sit and think about why you can't let go of him, what is there for him that you can't let go, you will meet better.

To experience an extreme sport, in the face of life, everything is a small thing. For example, when you jump off a cliff, you only have one thought in your head, which is to be born, not these messy things. Everything in front of life is a trivial matter, and anything can be solved.

You can go out and have a big meal, you can go out and buy something that you wish you had bought for a long time, but you didn't buy it. Eat a big meal to let your stomach go free and let your mood go free. Psychologists say that eating can relieve a person's depressed mood.

Be sure to tell yourself that you will forget about him. Psychological suggestion is particularly effective, if you keep thinking about the things between the two of you, keep thinking about him, keep telling yourself that you just can't forget him, then you will definitely not let him go. But if you tell yourself every day that he's not for me, I'll find a better one, and you'll forget about him in a few months.

There are many ways to do this, and you have to tell yourself that you can, and then you will find a better way to solve it.

There is no one you are destined to not let go, not to mention that you are not destined to get it and you can't pick it up and put it down. Life is just a few decades, only your relatives who can't let go, they can't get it, they are all passers-by, they just appear around you, making your life fuller, and it won't have much impact on your life. So don't be sad and sad about these people, because you're punishing yourself for something that didn't happen.

After all, we are other people's guests, not that we deliberately separate or end on purpose, but that time will widen the distance. Your sweetheart will also go from a cinnabar mole to mosquito blood on the wall. Parents are not allowed to give up and let go of others, and if we don't get them, we can let them go.

Because even if you drink, be sad, and stalk, you still can't get it. It's better to be happy and happy to meet the future.

Forgetting that a person is actually just two words, starting a new relationship is just a decision, and a person who can't get it doesn't even need to let go. I used to think that the person I liked also liked me, but after I confessed, I knew that there was another person in his heart. However, I was not disappointed or sad, because after confessing, I found out that I did not love him.

Because if you don't let go, you will be more free. I can tell people that I can still let go after I have worked hard.

If you can't get love, it's like getting sand in your hand, the tighter it is, the faster it will drain, and we always like a fool desperately trying to tighten, in fact, letting go is a very easy thing to open your hand for a moment. Really get drunk and eat a big meal or go home and see. You have to believe that love has the power to fight but family affection has the strength.

There is a junior high school sister in the same dormitory, and she is very beautiful. One night I cried and told me that I had failed, and the person I thought I had forgotten still appeared in front of me, and all my efforts failed. I really like it.

After drinking beer all night, I cried until I fell asleep and there were tears in the corners of my eyes. The next day was another good man.

So there's nothing that a big drunk can't solve. If one doesn't work, then two. It's easy to fix.

Believe that letting go is also a kind of beauty, and letting go of him and you will have the whole world. It's not the person you're letting go, it's just the feeling of liking the person. To let go of that person is to let go of yourself.

No one is destined to be the only one, there will be better people waiting for you ahead. Maybe when you first start to let go, you will think: why are you so stupid, obviously he is so good, so beautiful, why can't we go through ups and downs together.

These are all natural and normal, and time will help you smooth out the memory of this time. Let you look back on it in the future and be able to talk about it calmly with a smile. The person you are destined to share with you in this life is waiting for you.

The sun will still rise tomorrow, and it will still be a good time. Encourage yourself, believe in yourself, give yourself some positive psychological hints, and a good attitude plays a vital role in letting go of a person who is not destined to be together. At the same time, you can also read more books, let yourself enter the ocean of knowledge, improve your spiritual realm, and communicate with the protagonist of the book heart-to-heart.

Books will tell you the answers, and let you calmly let go of impossible people and things. If you have the conditions, you can also leave the place where you live now, go to a place where there is no other, change the environment, and change a different mood. To discover and discover the beauty of this world, to broaden their horizons and minds, to embrace the great rivers and mountains.

Let go of a man and get a city.

You believe that if you can't get someone, you don't chase it anymore, and it will. It is time-consuming and labor-intensive, but it is not good for yourself.

I don't think all likes will get the desired result in the end, and for those who are destined to have no results, letting go is the best result.

Later, I found out that the other party already had a partner, and recently I had begun to plan marriage with my other half. Out of concern, she would still comfort her colleague a few words, but unexpectedly, she said: "Actually, everything is not a big deal, I can learn to let go."

When the other party is around, the other party doesn't actually know his own mind, but he just dissociates himself from himself again and again. He didn't want to lose this friend who grew up together, but at the same time, he also knew very well that he couldn't give the other party the results he wanted. Then, since it is destined that there will be no result, then, not starting is the best result, which is responsible for both parties.

Of course, the process of letting go of a person is not as easy as you think, but you can't always stay where you are, waiting for the other person to turn back.

Life is not an idol drama. There is no moving background** and a tactful plot waiting to be entered, life, what is needed is to be down-to-earth.