Why is it that the rural banquet that people didn t get in the past is not even polite now?

The countryside is a circle of acquaintances. In the pastYesWhen a red wedding event is invited, they will come back to help. White things are different and will take the initiative to help.

But now in the countryside, not only are there fewer and fewer people helping out of red or white events, but there are also fewer and fewer people attending banquets. Absences are often present at the table. In severe cases, there are many tables where no one is present.

This phenomenon is also known as "cold feast" in the mouth of farmers. I think the specific reasons are as follows:

First of all, a large number of rural people have left the country. In the past, if someone had a banquet at home, it was very lively, and basically all the surrounding villages knew about it. But now it's really deserted.

The reason for such a big difference is that there used to be a lot of people in the countryside, and then very few people went out to work. But now only the elderly and women are left in the countryside, and the young people are going out to work. If the relationship is not particularly good, I will not come back because of the banquet.

Secondly, now the human touch of the countryside has also faded。In the past, people would often move around and help each other, so the relationship was good. But now they are all away from home, and there are few opportunities to see each other during the year.

Usually, people don't have much contact with each other. One contact is borrowing money. In addition, young people today are no longer like the older generation.

They have their own circle. They value the affection between friends more.

Finally, the atmosphere of holding banquets is becoming more and more strange。In the past, it was to keep friends and relatives happy. But now many people hold banquets for a purpose.

There is always a desire to collect money in a variety of ways, which makes many people dislike. Some simply don't go.

Nowadays, the countryside has changed amazingly, the road traffic situation has been greatly improved, and the standard of living is also rising.

Most of the people in the countryside have gone to the city, and the contact is gradually decreasing.

Because the current gift is too expensive, it is said that many people who are not very close have lost contact.

It may be that many people feel that the relationship has become weaker now, so they don't even have a courtesy.

Because now you pay attention to etiquette, you come to me with me, and I will go to you to return to you.

Nowadays, many people no longer live in the countryside, and the population in the countryside is relatively small, so they are not particularly close to the people in the countryside.

First of all, because people are really busy, there are many times when people in our village are working in other places, but there is no way to rush back, so there will be a situation where no one can get the courtesy. Secondly, part of the reason is that many people have a lot of banquets nowadays, and they have to hold banquets for any happy events, so people have no way to go because they are very busy.

This is because young people in rural areas are now going out to work, and young people simply don't have time to attend these feasts.

It is a historical tradition to hold banquets in the countryside. In the past, people in rural areas had to hold wedding banquets when they got married and had children, highlighting the wealth of the family. The extent of the funeral feast is not only derived from the remembrance of the deceased, but also reflects the Chinese culture of filial piety. Nowadays, cold drink banquets in the countryside are becoming more and more popular.

1.Some of the young people in the countryside are highly educated and settle in the cities, so they go back to visit their parents during the Spring Festival, some go directly to the cities to work, some settle in the cities, and most of them still build houses in their rural hometowns. In previous years, when the labor force moved to the city, everyone still took care of the villagers, but in recent years, everyone has been reluctant to engage in meaningless banquets.

The purpose of going to the city to work is to earn money that cannot be earned in the countryside. Originally, I only reunited with my relatives during the Chinese New Year. All kinds of banquets flocked to the venue, which has been the norm for many years.

Every year, I worked hard to return to the countryside, and my wallet was bulging, and several banquets were taken away by Zheng He. The purpose of earning money is to improve the living conditions of the family, not to cope with the banquet!

2.The quality of the banquet is not as good as it used to be. In the early years, the banquet was all for relatives to work together, and everyone ate a meal that may only be available during the Chinese New Year.

The standard of living in the past was not the same as it is now, so the banquet was more humane. Now, the standard of living has improved. Birthday banquets and various banquets on the beam are too frequent, and some are held for two or three days in a row in order to collect money.

Even after the divorce and second marriage, the children can enjoy drinking together, living, and all kinds of wonderful things together for several days in a row. Now people's living standards are not what they used to be. You can eat that meal if you want.

There is no need to pay for the sake of the so-called relationship.

3.The question of local customs. Now the banquet in some places is really inedible, and bad habits such as grabbing vegetables can't be served on the table by women.

Nowadays, people don't lack that meal, and when they have money, they still can't eat a decent meal. If it is not an immediate family member, no one wants to go to such a banquet and is not willing to pay for entertainment. There are also some banquets in the countryside, and indeed some banquets are held for a few days to collect money, for various reasons.

At the same time, there are also once-in-a-lifetime banquets, all kinds of people who only bring a lot of children to eat, and one person pays very little money. Collecting money is almost collecting money, losing money is almost losing money, and losing the original intention of witnessing various happy events with relatives. As long as you are thick-skinned, it will be difficult for those who want to make money through wedding receptions.

Those who want people to lose money, take their children to eat hard, or even want to change their red envelopes, it is better not to go. Such a wedding banquet is of little significance.

Banquets, or on the grounds of major events, for the purpose of family reunion and witnessing, other thoughts will become cold banquets, or will not be entertained, and people are not stupid.

In some rural areas, there are more and more "cold banquets", and in the past, people were not courteous, and now they are not courteous, mainly because the pace of people's lives is accelerating. Relatives and friends have less contact with each other. There is a phenomenon of weak family affection.

Because nowadays, most people use feasts to collect wealth and make money. When the banquet was first prosperous, there was no such thing as collecting money from the auction booth, and the general public congratulated the Lord's family with sincerity, and these people often took the initiative to buy some gifts to wish their blessings.

Nowadays, more and more people in society like to live a minimalist life, and they don't like the superficially empty communication of Tuanxian or Pihuan, and they are simplifying their circles, so some banquets in the countryside are slowly becoming less and less.

Let me tell you: no matter what, no matter how normal it is, it shows that the times have changed, and all traditional behaviors and concepts must also be changed, otherwise we will deceive ourselves. Here's why:

First, the time changes, and the standard of living is improved.

We went from poverty to prosperity, and at that time, we all thanked our country and institutions for our country's prosperity. During the period of change, opening up and getting rich, there was a slip of the people at that time: someone invited to eat in the nineties, which means that this person has the ability to eat, and the society can eat, and the one who must be rich first, 10,000 households, and the word card rings knock; At the beginning of the 21st century, it went to the next level. At that time, it was rumored in the society to hold a wine table and invite guests, and some people went to participate, so it was called "having the ability."", which shows that everyone looks up to him, shows that he is authentic, and the villagers respect him;

Second, from the aspect of etiquette.

In our hometown, in addition to the wedding ceremony; If the children or grandchildren are happy to eat the full moon, they will eat at least one package of Chinese on the wine table; There is also a birthday, the old man does not have a gift to participate in the wedding wine on his birthday, as long as the host ** invites you to participate, the host will feel the light on his face. This is a qualitative leap, and people's thinking has changed;

Third, urbanization has changed people's concepts.

Personally, I have been away from my hometown for 30 years, and I often go back when my parents are alive, and after my parents pass away, I only have major festivals and happy events for relatives and friends.

The reason is simple:

1.There are happy events in the township, but people don't know about it;

2.The people who know the gift do not go back to Pichong to rent, because the transportation is inconvenient to go back to their hometown, although they have two cars, they can't drive them, and it is impossible for the children to send them back to eat and drink and wait to pick them up, so they don't go; Very good friends must go back, so I have to let the children pick them up;

3.Now most of the weddings of the old family are held in the restaurant, because it is judged to be atmospheric, luxurious, and convenient. Therefore, the countryside is naturally gradually alienated, which is not my sin, but we should follow the trend of the times and change our lives.

We can't look at today's development from the perspective of the 70s and 80s.

In general: the times change everything, and we elderly people should try to adapt and adapt!

Because everyone's current pace of life is very fast, some people will be busy with work, they don't have time to go to the banquet at all, and most people live in the city, if you go back to the village to eat the banquet, you also need to delay a lot of time on the way, so don't talk about the old cost-effective, most people will choose to go to the banquet with the gift.

This phenomenon is mainly due to the fact that everyone is very busy with work and basically cannot come back from other places.

Nowadays, many people don't have time to eat, and most people are very busy, which is why this situation is caused.

I think this is mainly a gradual fading of the relationship between each other, and after a long time, many people no longer want to maintain this relatively weak relationship, so it will change slowly like this.

Because everyone is in the city, there is less contact with people in the countryside. I think this is normal, after all, the gift is because of a good relationship, and there is no need to maintain it if you don't contact it now.

Because the rural people are much less friendly than before, and many people do not live in the village, there is no need for etiquette in many cases.

It is because rural people like to be lively, and there are many banquets that follow, which makes people feel disgusted and spend money and effort; In addition, some people show off their lives at banquets, feel that they have a good life, and compare themselves to others, which affects the mood of some people; Then there are some people who have difficulty asking for leave and will not run back for a bite to eat.

This is because of the improvement of everyone's living standards, everyone no longer cares about material things, and it is okay when the mind arrives, and I hope that will be the same in the future.

With the increasing urbanization, the relationship between the villagers has gradually cooled, and they have not been in touch for a long time, so they naturally do not want to give gifts.

It may be that their feelings are cold, and everyone doesn't pay attention to relatives, so they naturally won't give gifts if they don't have feelings.

Because now many people realize that it is very troublesome for people to come and go after giving gifts, so they simply don't go, and I also think that it is very troublesome to send gifts to and fro, and you can go directly to dinner.