If you don t love it, do you want to continue to endure domestic violence for the sake of your child

If the negative number is less than zero, such a father will leave a big shadow on the child. In particular, boys tend to follow their fathers, and if your husband is too violent, he will plant a cowardly character or a dark side in the child's personality. As far as you are concerned, you should be the first child, you are not too old, he doesn't know how to cherish it, don't be too accommodating to him, your life is not dependent on him.

Be sure to communicate more with people who believe in it, and live a healthier life. Of course, if you miss the old love or your husband is not very far wrong, then say something else, and say nothing less about the beating of his province. You grasp that degree yourself, don't pass it if you can't get it, don't listen to anything if you get it, it's useless to change it.

Be strong.

Don't put up with it, you just think about the child from your own point of view, you should think about it from the child's point of view, in such a family, can he grow up well, does he want his mother to do this for him? He will feel guilty and distressed when he is sensible, and he will blame you at the same time! Once your husband's behavior starts, there will be no end, if you don't tell your family, he will be more open, and his life will be very long!

Let's leave decisively! There's no need for a family like yours to exist....

If it's really for the sake of the child, then leave him.

A female netizen said that she has been married for 5 years and now her child is 3 years old, but she has always had problems getting along with her husband. She said that her husband has a short temper and is rarely able to understand her feelings. Recently, because of some things, the two have quarreled a lot, and her husband even beat her in a quarrel.

She also said that although the two often quarreled before, her husband didn't do anything, at most he pushed her. As a result, this time not only slapped her to the ground, but also grabbed her clothes and yelled. She was frightened by this, and at the same time felt that it was difficult to forgive her husband for such behavior.

This female netizen is very entangled in whether she should divorce her husband, after all, the child is still young, and if the two divorce, the child will become a single parent. So should you choose not to divorce for the sake of your children if you are subjected to domestic violence? In the editor's opinion, it is clearly not supposed to be.

For such a situation, this female netizen must first defend her rights, and secondly, if she feels that she can't forgive her husband's behavior, then divorce directly, without any hesitation.

Domestic violence must not be easily forgiven, because this kind of thing has a first time, and it is easy to have a second time. Moreover, the other party's domestic violence will become more serious every time, and may even endanger their own personal safety in the end. If you don't resist, he will think that you are a bully and encourage his arrogance, so he will become even more disrespectful to you.

A female colleague in our unit is a living example. Her husband treats her very badly, and sometimes even beats her up over trivial things. But for the sake of her elementary school children, she chose to swallow her anger.

Originally, she felt that she had made such a compromise, and her husband would improve because of it, but the truth slapped her hard.

Once, my colleague's husband got drunk and came home late. The colleague said a few words to him and asked him to drink less. As a result, he was beaten violently by his husband, and his colleague was admitted to the hospital.

After this incident, her colleague was completely dead, and she felt that if she continued like this, she might not even be able to save her life one day.

Eventually, after enduring 10 years of domestic violence by her husband, her colleague chose to divorce him. Because her husband was idle and didn't do his job, the child was also awarded to her. After that, the colleague quit and had a new life of his own.

At last year's party, she told us that she is living happily now, and her current husband loves her very much, and said that she regretted not divorcing earlier.

Everyone's happiness is in their own hands, so don't let some worries make us cower and stop on the road to happiness.

Let's start with the conclusion: being subjected to domestic violence and not divorcing is a greater harm to the child.

The Swiss psychologist Carl Jung had a term for "shadow".Refers to the psychology that cannot be presented in the sunlight and ends up hiding in the shadows, but it does not disappear, but appears in a destructive way that we cannot control

Children who grow up in a domestic violence environment, even if their daily lives are temporarily calm, will always walk on thin ice, for fear that their parents' anger will suddenly erupt like a volcano. Once it erupts, any resistance from children will only exacerbate the anger of the parents. For such children, there is no safe place to hide, no way to escape from their abusers, and no reliable person to provide protection.

Constant anxiety, fear, and pain will slowly erode their body and mind.

For such children, they will also suffer when they grow up. First of all, such people develop an extreme sense of distrust and security towards others. He tends to make the worst-case assumptions about everyone and then arm himself with emotional armor to keep no one close.

If they start a family, they may become the new perpetrators because they learn only to use violence to solve problems and vent their emotions from their role models (parents). At that moment, the child becomes a substitute for the parent who was previously abusive, and it is their parents who are really angry with the abuser. Or, more women who grow up in domestic violence become new victims and tragedies.

Childhood abuse and domestic violence can affect an individual's perception of himself/herself: "I am a low, incompetent waste, which is why my father and mother beat me". This low self-esteem can gradually evolve into self-loathing, and gradually evolve into their fixed patterns of thinking and behavior: severe low self-esteem, a strong sense of powerlessness in life, extreme fear of others, and nameless anger.

Children become the shadow of their parents' marriage and family life, and children from abusive families are more likely to become new perpetrators or cowardly victims. In this way, will there be parents who think that it is for the good of their children not to divorce?

Many women are trapped in an unhappy marriage because of their children, and for the rest of their lives, he has to pass in a mess, and it is only at the moment of the last breath that he realizes that his life can not be so sad, so in the case of husband's domestic violence and children, of course women should divorce but for the sake of children.

If your husband has domestic violence and you still have children, you should divorce, you must know that in fact, children living in a domestic violence environment will not be happy, it is likely that they will be involved in this cruel fight because of the father's domestic violence against their mother, and in the end they will be hurt by their parents, then this situation is undoubtedly what the mother does not want to see, in fact, you must know that the implementation of domestic violence is more harmful to the child than a single parent, then you think about it from this perspective, you know that it is for the child, If your husband has a tendency to domestic violence, or domestic violence, you must take the child away immediately, and in the end, you must understand that the right to freedom and happiness is only you who can control the right to freedom and happiness of your child, and it is also in your hands at this moment.

First of all, you must consider the child's growth environment, if this husband is a person with domestic violence, then you will inevitably have such doubts, he can still bear domestic violence against me now, after all, the child is still too young, then when I can not ignore my child in the future, when my child grows up, he will be disappointed in the family, will he conflict with this father, will he become the target of public criticism, and then this father will domestic violence again The probability of this child appearing is very large, You rarely hear of a domestic violence husband, he will let go of the child, on the contrary, he will add punches to the child and the wife, so you should leave immediately for the sake of the child.

It's not right for you to do thatDon't say anything for the sake of the child, you really think about the child, then take the child away quickly, because the child lives in a domestic violence environment, which is harmful to the child's growth, and the child grows up to either swallow his anger, or he is withdrawn and introverted, and then it is violence, therefore, it is recommended that you choose divorce and pursue your own happy life.

01. There are only zero and countless times of domestic violence, don't make excuses for saying anything for the sake of the child. First of all, I think that as long as domestic violence begins and you endure it once, then there will be countless domestic violence in the future, but you will forgive him, and you will not really leave him, so as to make him worse. And I don't know how you came over, 8 years of domestic violence life, what do you want to do with such a husband?

Besides, you said it was for the sake of the child, but didn't you think that the child really wanted to live like this? Children live in domestic violence all day long, and the child's psychology will be hurt, which is rarely normal. Instead of living such a painful life with children, why not start a new life with children?

Children can also lead normal lives, right?

02. For the sake of the children, they should also be separated. You keep saying that it is for the sake of the child, so for the sake of the child, you must be brave enough to say "no" to your husband's domestic violence, so that the child understands that domestic violence is wrong, and establishes the child's correct outlook on life, and when the child encounters the same thing, he will know what to do is right. If your child is a daughter, have you ever thought about whether she should choose the same answer as you if she grows up and encounters domestic violence?Do you regret it?

Or if your child is a boy, he thinks domestic violence is normal, and he will do the same to his wife and children in the future, do you think the child is happy? Definitely not happy, just tormented in the fire pit,Harm others and yourself.

03. Summary. If you are not happy, the child can feel it, and in this environment, the child will also have a quarrel and fight for three daysPsychological shadows。Don't lose yourself for the sake of your children, only if you are well, your children will live well with you.

You should get a divorce because domestic violence is against the laws of our country, and even after the divorce, the other party will provide you with monthly child support, so you don't need to worry about the pressure will be particularly high.

You can choose to divorce, which is good for the children, because the other party's frequent domestic violence against you will also leave a great psychological shadow on the children.

At this time, you should decisively choose to divorce, leave with your children, and don't condone domestic violence.

If the other party is really such a person. I think it's better to get divorced. After all, there is such a thing as domestic violence. There are countless times.

1. Respect the child's wishes and wait for him to be 18 years old before separating In the process of waiting for the child to be 18 years old, you can at least choose to separate and leave domestic violence. You already have your own income and your own life, and if you don't leave and continue to entangle with each other, you will only get yourself deeply involved in the relationship. If you are willing to be involved and are not even willing to carry out the separation, it means that you still need the relationship.

And if it's really like you said, you don't want this relationship anymore, then please don't use the children as a shield, leave from now on, separate, and visit every month. 2. Turn around and leave now If you just want to be free, you don't have to talk so much, you don't need the other party to draft an agreement, can't you just draft an agreement for him to sign? You asked him to draft it, just to postpone it any longer.

You say so much blame and criticism, it is better to prove everything with actions. What your husband said makes a lot of sense, "Don't fight, does it matter if you win or lose?" "You all let go, you don't fight, and it doesn't make sense for you to accuse him again, and then bring us together to criticize him.

So, if you really want to leave, don't let someone else draft the agreement, please draft the agreement yourself, it's faster. If you can't, then think about whether you really want to leave, or if you just want to keep your moral point of being able to criticize and attack him. Should I continue to endure domestic violence from my husband for the sake of my children 2 How to protect myself from domestic violence 1. Try not to intensify the conflict on the spot In the process of quarreling, try not to touch the other party's bottom line or deliberately provoke the other party.

2. Call the police or ask the neighborhood committee for help in time After finding an opportunity, call the police in time to ask for help from the police, if it constitutes a minor injury, it can be handled as a criminal case. In addition, they can also seek help from the nearest neighborhood committee or local women's federation, and according to the relevant provisions of the Marriage Law, it is the duty of the neighborhood committee and other departments to stop domestic violence. 3. Seek medical treatment in time When you are injured, go to the hospital in time**, and the cases and X-rays that seek medical treatment can be used as strong evidence for future lawsuits.

In many cases, it is not difficult for us to find that most women choose to endure domestic violence because of their children, but they don't know that such patience will only make the other party worse, until one day, the degree of domestic violence becomes more and more serious, and Piki's life is endangered. When encountering this kind of thing, we must learn to take up the law to protect ourselves, rather than let the child lose his mother one day, it is better to choose divorce, at least the child still has a living mother.