What to do if you are afraid of failure? Fear of failure is the greatest failure

Praise the child, and the child who does not praise well may have the above reaction. So what is the right compliment?

In fact, praising children must be specific and accurate. If you want to praise, you should pay attention to his efforts, praise his progress and praise his process of doing things. In a simple sentence, it is to praise him to let him know what is so good about him, such as:

Dad saw that you carefully reviewed the questions today, and the wrong questions were one less than yesterday"; For example: "Dad saw that you had a little red flower today because you helped the teacher sweep the floor" and so on, so that the child knows what is good about him? Progress in**?

Doing so will allow children to slowly achieve objective self-evaluation.

On the contrary, when we praise children, we often praise them in exemplary ways, such as: you are so good, you are awesome, you are too beautiful, you are too good, and praise the adjectives of these results. In this way, the child will easily rely on external evaluation, and in the long run, there will be an addiction to seeking recognition, and the child will do things in order to be praised, and when there is no external praise, the child may self-deny and even do not want to suffer failure.

In addition, I am also against the excessive use of material rewards, which will deprive the child of his sense of ability, he will think that he is good when he has a reward, and he will not do it well without him, or if he has a reward, he will not do it without him.

In a word, you can say something nice, but you must know that let your child know that he has progressed, fortunately, and not blindly boast.

Then let yourself succeed.

In fact, this is also caused by a lack of self-confidence, exercise yourself more and actively seize opportunities.

1. What do you want to do well and are afraid of failure? 2. Do you think you can do this well? 3. If it fails, can you find the reason from you?

If you can't find it, that's destiny, and you have to accept it; But this kind of failure is actually a kind of success. , the point, you are afraid of failure, more likely because you yourself are not prepared and can't do this well at all! It's not that you're afraid of failure, it's that you don't intend to succeed.

In fact, from another point of view, this is a good thing, and the fear of failure will make you more prepared. Successful people have one characteristic, they think about what to do if they fail before they do something.

I'm sure most people are "scared", because so is mine.

But what's the use of being "afraid"?

I think it's not unreasonable, I remember a story told in a high school politics book:

In a small town, the Grim Reaper and the mayor say, "I'm going to take a man at night". The mayor told the townspeople the news, and for this reason, the townspeople panicked, fearing that death would take them away.

By the next morning, the mayor found out that 100 people had died in the town. The mayor finds the Grim Reaper and asks him if he didn't take only one person? The Grim Reaper said indifferently

I did take only one person, and the rest of the ninety-nine were taken away by fear. "The story, while absurd, does reflect the people's excessive fear of fear, which can lead to worse consequences.

In life, we are afraid of failure, so we choose a stable job and a comfortable life early; Because of the fear of failure, we don't even have the courage to start succeeding.

You don't want to plant flowers. You say, I don't want to see it, little by little. Yes, in order to avoid the end, you avoid the beginning of everything - Gu Cheng said, in order to avoid failure, we avoid all possibilities of success.

Failure is not terrible, what is terrible is that you don't even have the courage to try, that is the most complete failure!