Cai Kangyong s way of speaking, Cai Kangyong s way of speaking .

I bought two books that I hadn't read for a long time, but they really looked easier than any other.

I have always felt that Cai Kangyong speaks gently, knowledgeable, warm, and funny. After reading his book, I realized that speaking is also to learn and practice, and it is the most cost-effective thing to speak well. And how you speak and what you say, you are who you are.

I have always felt that I am a stupid person who can't speak, but after reading this book, I suddenly have the motivation to practice and improve my speaking skills!

Each of these two books has 40 short essays, each introducing some different methods and tips.

To sum up, there are mainly (or I am impressed) by the following points:

1. Think from the perspective of the audience, figure out what kind of person the other party is, what they want to hear, observe + deduce + try;

2. Know how to "see in the eyes and put it in the heart" of others, that is, to make people feel "valued" and "interested";

3. Practice more, face the mirror, record, and ask familiar people;

Fourth, the way of speaking should be vivid and interesting, not boring, not too long;

Fifth, generally explain the theme first, then elaborate, and finally summarize, no more than three views, the content should be specific;

6. Learn to listen and ask appropriate questions in a targeted manner;

7. Swallow the word "I" back and replace it with a separate word to maintain a sense of mystery;

8. Make others feel "unsatisfied" with you, don't be too well-behaved and set up obstacles;

9. When talking about business, it should be expressed clearly; Chat privately, and keep your words to yourself.

And a few tips:

1. Empathetic greetings;

2. When introducing others, in addition to the name, add a simple and distinctive introduction;

3. Gratitude should be expressed, but not just thank you, but explain the reason for the thanks.

Fourth, if others praise you, you will reply a compliment;

Fifth, every time you complain about something, you will praise it;

6. Try to blame yourself when you say "no";

7. Coquettishness: The core is to show weakness, and at the same time hold the other party to the sky;

8. Self-deprecation: In fact, it is self-confidence;

9. Suppress the tone and pause, and pause appropriately;

10. I don't know what to talk about, but what to eat.

Since it is said that "if we say it well, we will gain the most", then try to say it well! Start with one or two points!

Cai Kangyong's way of speaking" is the most fun and humorous way of speaking of the well-known host Cai Kangyong.

The 40 short essays in the book do not have a methodical speaking technique, but illustrate through examples to make the conversation more interesting and moving. I don't care about the art of speaking, but I care about the way of speaking. I don't care about the art of speaking, I care about the way of speaking.

The way I speak is to keep you in my heart. 」

16. Do you want to know what happened later? - Suspenseful speech.

To practice this kind of "suspenseful" speaking, it is actually very convenient. As long as you relay something to a friend, every time you say a few words, stop a little to see if your friend will ask, "And then?" ..."And then?

If you ask such a question, it means that your method of narrating things is attractive; But if you pause and your friend doesn't think about it and moves the conversation elsewhere, it means that you are very bored and the other person doesn't care what happens next. You can find an opportunity to change the way you dress up in the stall hall and repeat the same thing in a different order, and see if your friend will ask "What about later?" this time. ”

Example 16 Overview: Using suspenseful speech during a chat can help you find out if your conversation is attracting attention, so as to determine whether the topic continues to be a topic or a different way of talking. lest the chat between the two become a self-directed and self-acting of one person, which will put the conversation in an awkward situation and make the other party unbearable.

It's been a long time since I knew the book "Cai Kangyong's Way of Speaking", and I haven't been quiet to read it properly. The content of the book is very pragmatic, the road is simple, the simplest and most authentic words, like boiled water, nourishing the once painful soul. Cai Yongkang Xingzao seems to be sitting across from the reader, telling you some skills about speaking.

For example, what to do if the topic is stuck; What to do if the topic is too sharp; Humor and telling jokes are not the same thing.

What you say is a collection of the roads you have walked, the people you have met, and the things you have experienced. "In the long road of life and complex interpersonal shutdowns, communication is inevitably difficult, perhaps by learning some "ways of speaking", people can communicate more smoothly.