Whenever you feel lonely, how do you adjust?

People are social animals and will have emotional needs, when a person always feels very empty inside, it is inevitable to feel lonely and lonely, no matter when he feels lonely, how to adjust? <>

First, actively adjust your mentalityIn many cases, loneliness is the normal state of life, we must learn to face loneliness, so that we can better adapt to loneliness, enjoy loneliness, do not always immerse yourself in loneliness when you feel lonely, but let yourself actively overcome this mentality, learn to regulate your emotions, loneliness or not is just a state of mind for us, and a state of our life, when we are lonely, we can sort out our thoughts, learn to reflect on ourselves in loneliness, loneliness is not a big deal in the end. <>

Second, learn to divert your attention when you feel lonely. When you feel lonely, you can actively develop your interests and hobbies, do something that you think is meaningful, you can also use your time and energy for study and work, you can also listen to some soothing **, read a book, or watch a movie that you have thought about for a long time but have never had the opportunity to watch, so that your attention can be focused on these things, and you will not have the heart to think about whether you are lonely. <>

Third, enjoy life to the fullestWhen we feel lonely, it is generally a time when we feel that life is particularly boring, so in any case we must find some fun for ourselves, develop our own interests and hobbies, only love, can rival the long years, to actively integrate into the living environment and circle around us, manage our own life, manage our own circle of friends, no one in this world will always love you, but there will always be someone who loves you, actively meet new friends, and you can also let yourself go to an open environment to relax, Regulate your life and routine, clean up your mood, and cherish every day you live in this world.

When we feel lonely, we should put aside this thought, think that we still have relatives with us, or have our own friends (no matter how many), at least there will be someone who cares about you, so that you will not feel lonely. Or we can also relieve our loneliness by listening to songs and participating in activities.

You should guide yourself correctly, let yourself do more things that interest you, and make yourself happier.

Then you need to do something that makes you happy, and you also want to make your life fuller.

Sitting quietly in a person's huge ** business villa, all the household items should be had, very complete, and specially for our company's market mentor to have here.

Flipping through the book "The Method of Happiness", my intuition tells me that this book is not my favorite type, the professional theory is too strong, and the most important thing is that I feel that my happiness is not weak, relatively speaking, I feel that I am a very contented person.

Because of contentment, I am always grateful for everything, for the people I have met, and for the things I have experienced, which have made me grow faster and better. Being a grateful person is my greatest gift to my life.

But at some point, I was overshadowed by a sudden and intense sense of loneliness, intense, helpless, and sad.

For example, here and now.

I carefully analyzed my psychological process and found that this loneliness was due to an emotion after I opened Alipay and paid off Huabei.

Therefore, when I finished paying off Huabei, I clicked on the bank card to check the balance, and a strong sense of loss swept over. Moonlight = moonshine [high consumption]; Internship for 1 year = zero savings = debt [low income]. Am I expecting too much from myself, and my earning power can't support my spending power?

The standard of living and lifestyle have changed with the improvement of the economic level, the level of consumption has risen sharply, coupled with the thinking of not knowing how to manage money, and the incorrect concept of consumption, so that I can always keep money - it can be said"Loser"。

At this moment, I am in the midst of an unnamed sadness, and a strong sense of loneliness surrounds me unbridledly.

Since the beginning of college, I have been talking every day: I want to become a rich woman as soon as possible and go to the bright road of making a fortune! Speaking of which, I was still defeated by my own shriveled wallet.

The economic foundation determines the superstructure, when a person's basic food and clothing can not be realized, the time and energy to come? **To the capital to go for recreation?

When I used to read tourism, I had a strong sense of mission: I want to make tourism a patent that even the poor can have! Later, when I was traveling, I realized how much I used to swear, and how naïve and naïve and lost I am now!

One point ** section of quality, low-price shopping groups are really boring, it is not interesting to be complained, and bargaining with sales is even more boring. It's not that the poor can't travel, but the poor go to travel with a group, and the experience will not be very good. Nowadays, traditional travel agencies with group tours are basically a sightseeing tour.

In-depth tours are in the minority, the ** of high-quality groups is very high, and if you want cheap and high-quality groups, there is no such thing.

As "I Am Not the God of Medicine" said: There is only one disease in this world, and that is the disease of poverty, and there is no rule of law for this disease.

Everyone said that it was good to do tourism, you could make a lot of money, and you could go around for free to play ......That's good, so why don't you do it?

Suddenly I felt more lonely, not a peer, unable to be at the same frequency, unable to resonate, unable to produce sparks of thought.

You're so lonely, what should you do?

Work hard to make money, make enough money, have more freedom of choice, don't think about money for what you want to buy, don't think about time when you want to go, and don't need to look at the days if you want to see people, will you still be lonely?

When I went to the hospital alone, I felt very lonely when I was holding a hanging bottle and silently watching the potion fall drop by drop, and every age group had different feelings about loneliness.

Every age has the loneliness that belongs to the age at that time, and there is a different understanding of loneliness. At the age of seventeen, you begin to have some things on your mind, about empty dreams, about growing up, and about vague love, you carefully hide these things in your diary, afraid that people will see them, and you expect someone to see them, and you suddenly understand that this is loneliness.

Eighteen years old, about to take the college entrance examination, you pretend to be chic, full of free and easy, in every joke with friends, you say casually, why not be afraid of the heavy, but only you know how you put away your throbbing heart, in some nights, endorse until dawn. At the age of nineteen, you don't seem to be very lonely, the new environment, roommates from all over the world, forming all kinds of small groups, playing games together, singing together, taking classes together, you keep going to the group, and then you are grouping, but there are some truths, but no one has to complain.

At the age of twenty, you set a small goal for yourself, you start to memorize words, brush up on exam questions, go to the library alone, don't have to occupy a seat for anyone, eat alone, enjoy a table by yourself, and sometimes, eat two meals in three days, but no one notices. Twenty-one years old, a person's travel, chic you say you go, you climb the mountain at an altitude of 4,000 meters, cross the grassland, and cross the Gobi Desert, you take a lot of **, and then you understand that the original loneliness is your own mobile phone album, all of which are landscapes.

Twenty-two years old, you graduated, and a few friends said happy graduation to each other, you wore a bachelor's uniform, brought in friends who can take pictures, left a mark in every corner of the school, you haven't taken pictures for a long time, you seem overwhelmed in front of the camera, the day you leave school, you pull your suitcase from the dormitory to the school gate, it feels like walking for a long time.

At the age of twenty-five, the third year after you worked, you had a small success in your career, and you seemed to be accustomed to living alone, sitting in an empty room after work, pouring a glass of wine, toasting to the mirror, and the muffled sound of the cup touching the mirror actually echoed. At the age of thirty, after a long overdue love, you start your own family and a pair of children thrive.

When you come back from overtime at night, park the car downstairs, just in front of the familiar windowsill, you smoke several cigarettes in the car one after another, and you don't go out for a long time, because you know, the car is still yourself, and the door is firewood, rice, oil and salt. Every age has a different understanding of loneliness, but loneliness will always inadvertently make us experience, and occasionally enjoy loneliness.

One minute you're laughing with your friends, and the next you're home in an empty room.

There must be moments in your life when you are standing on a crowded street, surrounded by pairs of people, and you walk through street after street alone; There must be a moment in your life when you come back to a dark room from work, end a tired day, want to talk to someone, look through your phone address book, and finally tell the day's story to the family cat.

When will you be lonely? When you stay up late meaninglessly, when you don't know what to do with the machine, when you play with your mobile phone in a different place in class, when you keep buying spiritual traffic packages, when you don't know what to send when your friends don't know what to send, when the king throws up, when you get tired of listening to all the songs in the list, when you write a lot of comments but don't like a single like.

I remember on my birthday last year, when I got lost in a strange city, I wanted to squat down and cry, but I thought that I hadn't eaten dinner yet, so I still forced myself to open the mobile phone navigation, and the people walking by next to me spoke in dialects I didn't understand, and I felt that the wind in the north was blowing so cold. I remember that every time it was cold in winter, I couldn't help but shout to the people around me, I wanted to get married. Now I'm in a city that's about 10 degrees colder than where I used to be.

Everyone will have some friends more or less when they are young, but when they grow up, most of them will drift apart and fall apart, and some of the friends who usually talk to you most familiar with may have taken root in various cities, and at this moment, they are alone in a city, working for life, but when you want to go out to relax and relax, you find that there is no one to talk to.

Loneliness is different for everyone.

When I left my best friend, my dearest relative, went to college alone, and went to the doctor alone when I was sick. That's how lonely I felt at that time.

It's just that when I go to bed at night, I turn off the light, and the room is dark and lonely, and I don't know who to talk to when I open the chat box of my phone.

When I'm sad, I don't have a friend around to comfort me, and I have to go alone when I want to go to the movies and go shopping.

When I was far away from home and my loved ones, I felt very lonely and had no one to talk to.

Whenever I'm alone, I always feel very lonely, because I eat and sleep alone, and I inevitably feel lonely when I travel alone.

I am a boy and a wanderer, and when I come to a strange city, I feel the most lonely when I am away from my family, relatives and old friends, and that loneliness is especially intense at night!

The first time I left home and went out alone. Because it was the first time, I was very reluctant to let my family, especially alone, and I was very lonely the moment I stepped on the train.

Even when you're in a bad mood and don't know who to talk to, and you can only digest it slowly by yourself, it's also the time to take the train to somewhere else and drag the heavy boxes one by one.

I think loneliness is a feeling of loneliness because no one around you understands what you're saying, or if you're talking about something and they can't think of the same thing as you.

There are many people around me, but I can't find someone who is like-minded with me and can understand me, and I feel very lonely at this time.

I looked at the crowd, they were laughing, I could never blend in, it was like a barrier that cut me off from the hustle and bustle, I was me, they were them, they were in the world, I was in the middle of an island. The three of them walked together, and the other two were chatting enthusiastically in the front, and I silently followed behind and couldn't interject, pretending to be gregarious and feeling really lonely. When I woke up from a nap, it was dark in the house, and there was no message when I picked up my mobile phone, and the loneliness of this moment was vividly reflected.

A person is so thirsty at home that he drinks the cold water next to the bed in one gulp, which is as cold as his heart at this moment. I was also hungry, and I opened the refrigerator, only to find it empty. In the end, you can only tear open a packet of instant noodles, throw it into a bowl, and wait for five minutes to soak it.

I smiled self-deprecatingly, shook my head, and lowered my head to munch on the sparkling noodles.

Before, I always felt like a very vulnerable person. Likes to be lively, is afraid of loneliness, and can't stand to be alone. But later, I watched movies alone, went shopping alone, ate alone, traveled alone, cried alone, and laughed alone.

I seem to be quite comfortable with this lonely life, except for the occasional feeling a little sad. Actually, I'm doing well, I always believe that one day, I will get what I want and live the life I like.