Dealing with Mother in law, how to deal with Mother in law s difficulties

There are two points: first: move out, and second: accommodate her.

My current situation is not better than yours, and most of the men nowadays are stupid and filial, knowing that their mother-in-law is wrong, and they still say that they should let her order. It's best not to turn your face with your mother-in-law, it's the daughter-in-law who suffers, my husband's kindness to me is obvious to all, and I don't know how to deal with this mother-in-law relationship. I've also thought about how to it, I'm a foot taller than her, I can't help it.

And the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not solved by a person's compromise, when I first came to his house, sometimes I knew that my mother-in-law said bad things about me, I smiled at her with tears, so I insisted on half a year, her evaluation of me is very good, after all, people's patience is limited, I blindly tolerate, but she is more vigorous, now I have been in my mother's house for a month, I know this is not good, but what can be done, I have now changed from a tigress to a sick cat. Why don't you understand, see that your husband and I are almost stupid, I came back from my hometown last night, today they see me just like I went to the supermarket to buy something and just came back, I asked my husband to pour me a glass of water at noon, fucking said you can't do it yourself, my husband actually sat still, I really wanted to kick him at that time, what a fucking good son, don't fight, in their eyes there is only one mother, not to mention more than 20 years of feelings, we are only living for a year now, how can it be compared, Don't think about how to deal with your mother-in-law, I've seen double-sided tape, her mother-in-law is not good, in fact, it's more of a generation gap, the concept is different, but I envy Lijuan, her husband is really good to her, my husband can't do it, just like when I came back to the house after dinner at noon today, I was unhappy, he said, you have nothing to do. He never coaxed me again.

My husband and I have a between me, you know that I don't even dare to quarrel loudly in this house, and I live a lot of grievances. I didn't want to go far away from home at work, but now I think it's better to be far away, this year because my mother-in-law and my husband don't know how many times I've been in trouble, and I have figured it out, working to earn money is the most important, go out on Saturdays and Sundays when I have time, try to stay at home as little as possible, you are angry with her and she is angry with you, unless you guarantee that you are not angry, the fact is that you are already angry, I hope my life experience this year, you can take it as a warning, living a good life is the most important thing, if you have the ability to go out to live, you can't go out to minimize the time together, The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will affect the relationship between husband and wife, (less than a year, there is still a month left,) I obviously feel that the relationship between me and my husband is not as good as before. If you can't count on your husband, you can only rely on yourself, and a smart woman will not let the relationship between her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law develop arbitrarily.

I'm telling you it's useless, no matter how good you are to her, it's just her daughter-in-law, now there are not many things for women, it's easy to find a man's divorce, it's hard to find a woman, this is my mother-in-law's original words, tell you, if you don't have a job or can't make money, I advise you to stop, if you have the ability, stay away from her.

Endure... Have the money to buy your own house, move out!

Or if you live with them, you usually buy more snacks and give them a little dessert!!

First of all, as a mother-in-law, your son and you have a family, you can't avoid a sense of loss, you have to understand the old man emotionally. Secondly, after starting a family, it is best to be independent, the pot and spoon will inevitably collide, if the conflict between you and your mother-in-law intensifies, it will be difficult for your husband to deal with it. Third, we must work together to fight a world, and arguing at home is a waste of life.

I've been cleaned up by the old woman now, it's not that I obeyed her, it's just that I don't have the strength to fight with her, so I'm accommodating her now, it's all helpless!

1. Live separately from your mother-in-law. In a traditional Chinese family, sons and daughters-in-law live with their in-laws. After a long time, there will inevitably be a generation gap between the two generations. In particular, some stronger mothers-in-law are not satisfied with their sons and daughters-in-law, so they point fingers.

2. Honor your mother-in-law. At this time, the daughter-in-law must not only behave better than usual, but also care more about her mother-in-law and buy more things for her mother-in-law, so that your mother-in-law's opinion of you will gradually improve.

3. Deepen communication and raise more moderate views. Communication is a must, there is still very little communication between you, and you need to strengthen communication for this. At the same time, know how to present your own point of view.

This point of view must have your position, but it must not show too strong an attitude, and it must be put forward gently, and the thoughts must be infiltrated into the mother-in-law's mind silently.

It can be said that the most difficult thing to deal with in this world is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, after all, everyone is a woman, one is a man's wife, one is a man's mother, one accompanies him in the first half of his life, and the other accompanies him in the second half of his life, which can be said to be a big war that is about to break out. There are really very few people who can achieve the harmony between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, some families are daughters-in-law are more powerful, and some mothers-in-law are looking for trouble all day long, lest the world be chaotic. If the in-laws can't respect themselves, then they will definitely not be mad on the spot for the first time, so let's find the reason first.

One: Think about whether you have done something wrong.

There must be a reason why the mother-in-law is disrespectful to her daughter-in-law, and there are not many mothers-in-law who deliberately provoke trouble, most of them hope to be able to live a good life. But if you say that you didn't do anything wrong, it was deliberate, then it's another matter, and you're not easy to bully.

2: Patience first and respect for the elders for the first time.

If it's the first time, no matter how disrespectful you are, as long as you don't touch your bottom line, you can still bear it, after all, it's an elder, and you need to understand how you don't do it. If you say that you endure it once, and then you still do it, then you must be furious. Otherwise, the other party may think that you are a bully, and they are looking for your business every day, and they are very happy to watch you work, and they are busy before and after.

Three: Look at your husband's attitude.

The key to the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to see whether his husband will deal with it, and a man with high emotional intelligence can handle the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well, because he knows that his attitude determines the status of his wife. The big thing is that if your husband is also accusing you when you are wronged, then such a family can leave.

Therefore, when a woman is looking for a husband, she should also look at how the other party's family is, after all, she will have to deal with his family in the future, if the family is not good, then she must not have a good life in the future.