I ve had a stiff relationship with my girlfriend lately, so help me analyze it! Okay, chase points

In some ways, I can especially understand your girlfriend. She said, "If you really love each other, do you use conditions?"

This is what I struggled with the most when my husband and I entered the run-in period at the beginning. The more he loves me, the more demanding I become, and his love must embrace everything I do unconditionally. Don't tell me the reason, there is no right or wrong, only whether you can accept it, the good is me and the bad is also me, and it is the same until now, although I also love, but I would rather be broken than broken.

I think your girlfriend also has this kind of mentality, although she is very uncomfortable, although she is reluctant, but if you don't love her enough, she would rather be sad herself, and she will break up with you decisively.

Do you know, women are different from men, women are always more emotional than rational, especially women in love.

Men are rational, and you, obviously, are too rational.

To be honest, as long as you are a woman, you will be angry when you see something like the Six Covenants - before you do anything, you will set the rules first. What the girl thinks is: As long as you love me, even if you are wrong, you will tolerate me; If you love me, even if you don't say it, I will automatically do those ...... for youSo, watching this thing actually hurts people's self-esteem.

The underlying implication of this is, if you can't do it, don't do it. I can still let you go.

In any case, your ideas are still beautiful, and the rules and regulations you have listed are also good for the long-term and harmonious marriage, but the reality is not so ideal, otherwise there will not be so many couples who are incompatible and unhappy families, and everyone can write a letter of guarantee. To put it bluntly, this process depends on specific things to run in, rather than mutual commitments, people are more emotional than rational in the face of facts, even if they have made a commitment now, there is no guarantee that there will be no contradictions when encountering things. Don't be so naïve.

According to you, you've been dating for five months. If you can meet once a day, or there are many opportunities to meet, this time is not short, especially for marriageable men and women, half a year of love, negotiation and preparation for the wedding for half a year, this process of marriage should be just right. My husband and I have known each other for less than half a year, and we will inevitably get married by default.

Therefore, if you really love her and recognize her character, follow her wishes, start to negotiate slowly on the premise of marriage, prepare for the wedding, and then slowly run in in the process. If the run-in is good, it is more useful than writing a guarantee.

Although she is angry now, as long as you are willing to coax her with your heart and correct your overly rational fault, you will definitely be reconciled. Coaxing a woman is always more effective than reasoning with her.

It can be seen that you are a kind of person who has a plan, has an opinion, and wants to do things to the best of his ability. But don't you feel so tired? She's tired with you?

Since they have all chosen to be together again even if there are many obstacles, what are you still mentioning those conditions? I know that you are worried about whether you will be able to live like you were in love when you get married in the future, but I can only say that you have been misled too much by the outside world, and even a little pedantic. Who can guarantee later?

Who can say that you will never leave for the rest of your life? Who can say that marriage is necessarily happy or unhappy? Are you insecure?

Lack of self-confidence? What exactly are you running away from? Liability?

The responsibility you face when you get married is probably a hurdle that you can't encounter in your life. Listening to your description, I can't tell if such a girl is worth cherishing, but you are the one who should know the most, right? You might as well empathize with a girl, who was forced by the man to make a six-pact to bind!

I know you have good intentions, and those conditions are very reasonable. But the way you express it is too wrong and hurtful, even the most tolerant girls will be wronged in the face of these. You are living with a living person, not with these conditions.

Everything is negotiable and compromised, can you try to let a persuasive and somewhat authoritative, open-minded and kind third-party relatives lobby among you, not only to avoid embarrassment but also to raise problems and solve problems, all of them are happy? It's great to be able to get married, don't let this be ruined easily, it's a very happy thing to be able to love someone and be loved by someone.

Love needs to be happy with each other, marriage is a lifelong event, and it also needs to be carefully considered, although it is now the era of flash marriage, but the consequence of flash marriage is to increase the divorce rate. I think: since two people who love each other have finally come together, don't easily propose to break up, all problems should not be a problem in front of two people who love each other, please grasp it well, don't regret the empty hatred...

The brother can be regarded as a man who obeys his responsibilities. It's okay, this kind of thing has to be done slowly, and now that your relationship has deteriorated, I've had this too. But I overcame it.

First of all, I will accompany her a few times frequently (a must sacrifice), buy some small things to coax, have a better attitude, don't talk about your problems, talk about happy and happy things! (If it doesn't work, maybe he's a little disappointed in you, but he still has a trick) I wish you success!

When a girl is older, it's normal to have the idea of getting married, if you love her, just get married, and then work together to serve after there is any problem, and the run-in period will generally pass.

Since it's not suitable, don't force it.

What men have is potential. Besides, she's older than you, so what's the urgency for you?

This kind of thing is just a matter of going with the flow.

Good girls have. Why are you so bothered?

Some things are better to look at.

I think you're having trouble with school.

It's also what's wrong with getting married, what are you afraid of, I really don't know if you're a man or not

Love is sacred, marriage is quality.