What are the right ways to marry in your local area?

There are some local sayings, that is, the family is right, the wealth and status of the two families should be particularly similar, the family is a teacher will generally marry the teacher's family, now it is more about free marriage, free love, after all, I like it, it is useless to say too much.

Our local people have no regulations for marrying, the important thing is to look at the feelings of two people, but in fact, parents also said not to find people who are too different from their own economic conditions to talk to, how can they be happy together with worse conditions, and there will be a gap in their hearts when they live together with better conditions, after all, the things they have been exposed to since childhood are different, in fact, we will not find a big gap in conditions, after all, the circle of life has been decided, my mother often tells me, It's enough to find someone who is good to you and will make you self-motivated, and you don't have too high requirements.

In our hometown, the family is not necessarily the kind of family that is particularly rich, their children tie the knot, if the man is particularly rich, and the woman is particularly powerful, in this way, it may also belong to a kind of family pair. Or, if both men and women have a particularly decent job, then they are a good match.

We don't have a lot of respect for this when it comes to local holidays, because if two people like each other, it's okay to accept what the other's family is. Therefore, if we like someone, we must pursue it bravely, and do not consider those useless obstacles.

We are very good at the door here, generally the two families are about the same, or the family is around, after the children go to school, they will still find local like-minded people to combine, so that regardless of customs, bride price wedding, are very good communication, and the days after marriage will be much more stable.

Generally, there is nothing to say, as long as two people really love each other, even if they have no money, they will go with the intention of the protagonist.

However, if it can, it is generally the man who gives a certain amount of money, and the woman goes with the same amount of dowry, mainly for the newlywed.

For the sake of the couple's life.

It is best to have the same economic level and cultural level between the two people, because the economic difference between the two families is too large, which is easy to bring great pressure to the party with poor conditions and affect the relationship between the husband and wife.

Many places, especially the wealthy, have high requirements for marrying, and they all hope that their children will find a family with a comparable family, for example, a businessman will definitely want to find an in-law who has an official in the family, and there is a unit that also wants to find a unit

In each case, both families are on a similar level.

At the material level, if the first two can be guaranteed, the smaller the gap in this regard, the better, of course, it depends on the way the two families get along, and so on.

I think it is also very relevant to the family.

No, we don't have a strong concept here, it may be that it depends on the character and ability of the other party.

The formula for marital happiness is that two people are evenly matched.

If there is a huge difference in the strength of two people, the strong party can maintain the face of the other party, or the weak party can not be afraid of external rumors, then the marriage can be maintained.

But in reality, both of these points have stumped many people.

Aunts and uncles are one such example.

When I was young, my aunt talked about a boyfriend, who was very good-looking, and my aunt liked it very much.

When talking about marriage, the grandfather disagreed, on the grounds that the boy's family had no money.

Grandpa was a cadre in an agency when he was young, and his family was relatively well-off, she had never suffered since she was a child, and the Rolling family had never been tired.

My aunt wanted to marry him, so in the end, my grandfather didn't fight his daughter.

In order to make his daughter suffer less, the grandfather bought a house for his aunt and introduced him to a job.

The two are also very affectionate after marriage.

Three years later, my uncle had just been promoted to manager, and my aunt was pregnant at the time.

From this time on, my uncle often did not go home, on the grounds that he was out for entertainment.

Of course, my aunt was not at ease, so she wandered around my uncle's company, and once, she really saw him walking into the hotel with other women in his arms.

The aunt was so angry that she fainted, was taken to the hospital, and the child was gone.

Knowing that the truth was revealed, my uncle became angry and blamed:

If your family has no money, who will marry you? I've had enough of your family's eyes after so many years. ”

In the end, my aunt regretted it and divorced resolutely.

Observed an interesting phenomenon of life:

Those marriages that are very different end in embarrassment; Those marriages that are the right ones are long-lasting.

Two people from different family backgrounds will have different lives and personalities, and all their experiences determine what kind of person he will be in the future.

The grievances suffered today will be filled elsewhere in the future; The lack that I feel now will surely be captured one day. The so-called human nature, even so.

Don't go against human nature, understand it, and follow it.

Love can not look at the family background, marriage must be the right family.

In a marriage that is right at home, no one takes advantage of anyone, no one is wronged, no one covets interests, and naturally there are not so many hidden grenades waiting to be exploded.

Only a marriage with the right family can have the possibility of long-term stability.

From ancient times to the present, why do you have to get married properly? Because getting married is a very important thing. It is the union of two families, and in ancient times, when two families represented two forces combined, a larger force could be formed.

This is very positive for the development of the family, because they have a stronger relationship, more interests involved, and better opportunities for common development, which is why they should be the right person.

In ancient times, marriage was not just a matter of two people, it was a matter of two families, a matter of two families, and what it carried was the prosperity of a family. Moreover, in ancient times, there was no free love, and most of them were designated marriages, so it was actually a matter of interest.

Now the door-to-door match is to make life easier and better for two families. There are also common values, and getting married in the right family will make the two families less troublesome, at least psychologically, he can accept it, and it is easier to agree. The union of two families, that is, the process of acceptance by two families.

Suppose that if one party is poorer, then the rich party has to help the poor party, then it is not fair to the rich party, and it will cause a lot of economic pressure. This unfairness is not only financial, but sometimes psychological. The mismatch between the two families will be prone to a lot of contradictions in the process of family integration.

Therefore, from ancient times to the present, it is generally easier to accept things, and it is easier to blend together. Many people can only rely on their own efforts to become a rich generation, so that they can match up with others, or will live a better life, this is a very realistic topic, we can't avoid it. Of course, there will be some people who are more open-minded, will not interfere too much, and will not care too much, due to the promotion of free love, as long as their children can be happy, many things can be ignored, but once there is a problem, they will take the door as a door.

Because before marriage, the living habits and values of both husband and wife are similar, and it is less likely to have problems getting along after such a marriage.

Because if it is not a good match, the values, consumption outlook, and outlook on life of the two will be very different, and the two are very prone to conflicts, or even divorce.

Because only when the family is right, both parties to marriage will be happier and more helpful to their families.

Because the family with the right family will be very topical, and the economic strength of both parties is relatively comparable, there will be no loss, and the three views are also relatively consistent, so that the married life will be very harmonious.

is because if the two family conditions are comparable, the personalities of the two people are also similar, so there will be fewer conflicts after marriage.

Because of the right love, there is no other pressure. The strength of the two sides is about the same, so there will not be such a situation as who looks down on whom. And in this way, the three views and educational concepts of the two families are also similar, which will promote the happy life of the young couple.

Because only if the family background is the same, there will not be many problems after marriage. If one of the families is rich or poor, the other family will be very dissatisfied. So I think it's good to pay attention to the right people.

Because only when the door is right, two people have common values and world view, so that it is easier for two people to get along in the future, and it is not easy to have conflicts.

Because only the two people will not encounter some problems in their future lives, and they also have certain topics to talk about in many things with each other, which also avoids some contradictions caused by their own concepts.

Because only the right door, everyone's economic strength is comparable, there is no one side dragging down the other, there are the right people, the same education, can better communicate, there is no chicken and duck talk about this kind of problem, only the door is right, everyone will respect each other.

Only when the family is right will there be a better life, the same personality, the same economic ability, and the same consumption standard will not be very different.

Because only the right conditions can prevent the two sides from finding fault with each other, and there will be no contradictory differences.

In order to enable young people to do a good job in marriage and handle marriage, it is necessary to emphasize the parents' right to know and the right to make suggestions and the right to veto under certain conditions.

The princess married a commoner, and the prince liked the village girl. can only appear on the comedy stage for self-evident reasons, such stories are liked by ordinary people. Ordinary people are underground and vulnerable, and may only rely on their dreams to cling to the powerful.

Of course, to put it nicely, this is to find love in a "high place", so I like to watch the story of "The Ugly Duckling Becomes a White Swan", and I prefer to watch the stage play of "The Princess Marries a Commoner, and the Prince Likes the Village Girl", and fully imagines: Maybe I can too. Dreams can be had, but reality is cruel.

The right family can stabilize the marriage, and the convergence of the three views can get along with each other, and it is not a derogatory meaning to be the right person for life. In reality, if you are looking for the other half, you must first see whether the three views converge. If you are a patriot and the other party often slanders the motherland, can you be together?

If you have high morals and the other person is virtuous, can you still love each other? ......First of all, the veteran police are analyzing the general phenomenon. The individual cases of those beauties marrying local tyrants and doctoral girls being willing to marry junior high school coal bosses are not included in the analysis.

If life is happy, it will feel very short; If life is painful, it will feel very long. People, who doesn't want to live happily, and will hope to grow as long as possible, so when looking for the other half, you must first ensure that the three views converge, and then talk about others.

Facts have proved that only marriages with comparable conditions, cultural matches, and small social status gaps can be more stable. There are many examples of this. This is the cornerstone of long-term stability in marriage, and it is not acceptable to refute it with individual examples.

I don't think I'm a person who hates the poor and loves the rich. But if my daughter is looking for a partner, in the case of ensuring that the three views of both parties converge, of course, I hope that the other party's conditions and cultural level are slightly higher, which is what I say in my heart. After all, marriage is all about living together and cannot do without the necessary financial support.

If someone raises the bar and says that it is enough for both parties to have love, nothing else matters. The person who said this must still be living in love and has not come out.

Door-to-door matching refers to the family environment, social status, economic conditions, knowledge, occupation, etc., which are conducive to the harmony of both parties.

It should refer to the family background and educational background of both parties, which should be the main factor of the match.

The matchmaking here mainly refers to the family background of both parties. The family backgrounds of the two parties cannot be too different, and if they are too different, there must be one side. will suffer. Because marriage is not just a matter of two people, but also a matter of two families.

A good match means that two people have very similar family backgrounds and have a lot of common language, so that they can live happily together.

The door-to-door match here refers to the family background, and there are some families whose incomes are relatively similar, and the parents of both parties are also relatively good, which is the right match.

1. The gap between the rich and the poor.

Everyone will be lucky and naively think that love is better than everything, but love can't escape reality after all. When you find a partner whose family conditions are very poor, and he is so poor that he can't even afford a car, let alone a house, will you be willing to marry him? Will your parents agree?

After all, every woman hopes that her future life is worry-free, you are the pearl in the palm of your parents' hands, and your parents will not let you suffer with him.

If the door is not the right family, the economic gap is too obvious, and the two people will obviously not be very happy together. Just imagine, when you search Lu Liang and want to buy a favorite dress, the other party dislikes it too expensive, and when you want to eat a good meal, the other party dislikes you for wasting, how can such a relationship be truly happy.

2. The gap in learning.

The difference in knowledge between two people directly determines whether there can be a common language between two people. Try to think about it, your knowledge is different from the other person, you have received a higher education, and many ideas are more advanced. And your other half is a person who didn't go to school very early, and then entered the society to work hard, he has already been polished by life, and he has made friends with some social people.

Your circle of friends and a lot of ideas are very different, can such two people talk about going together?

The door is not right, the two people who are not in the right household, the gap in knowledge leads to no common language, together will only be endless torment, there is only silence between each other, you don't understand what he says, he is not interested in what you say, how can two people go on.

3. The gap in vision.

A person with an open heart and a wide vision may see, hear, and touch things that may be beyond the reach of others. If a person goes abroad to study, travels across the ocean, and has experienced the customs and etiquette culture of various places, while the other person is a frog at the bottom of the well, always only looking at the most immediate interests of the recent and short-sighted, then these two people are contradictory in both words and deeds.

I believe that the difference in vision between the two people can be seen from how important it is to get to Sisandi. You can take a long-term view of one thing, but the other party only focuses on the immediate small profits, and contradictions and quarrels are an obvious thing.

4. Differences in family environment.

The family environment determines a person's growth, the cultivation of a person's character, and the quality of conduct have a great relationship with the family environment. A person who grew up in loving, harmonious family relationships, his personality is definitely caring, helpful, optimistic and positive. If a person who grows up in an environment that lacks family love and family disharmony is withdrawn, negative and pessimistic, and may lack self-confidence in himself, such two people will not be able to get together.

Many people don't believe in the importance of being the right person, in fact, as long as they have experienced it, they know that the difference in family environment can directly lead to the breakdown of a relationship. Two people who are so different, no matter how much you love him, no matter how much he loves you, it is impossible to be truly happy together.