Why do some people use ways to hurt themselves to attract the attention of others after a breakup?

Many of us always understand that we like each other so much after separationAt this time, they will punish themselves in this way.

Maybe I belong to the kind of person who is more sensible, although I have also experienced several breakups, but I have not done anything to hurt myself and you, because for me, no matter what kind of feelings, the other party is just accompanying you for a while, and you will be separated sooner or later, why make this matter so sad, open-minded, it is really not so difficult to give up. It's also because I've always had this attitude, and every person I've ever been with will say itI doubt that when we were together, did you ever love me, and why did you do it so lightly when we broke up.

Separated, choose to drink or sink, these behaviors will not solve any problems, and even make the other party look down on you, you think that your earth-shattering behavior can make the person you like turn back, but you don't know that you are pushing the other party farther and farther. We often say goodbye to this relationship in such an extreme way, because we don't want to end it so early, we want to be hysterical and degenerate, and we use this practice to prove that we really love this person.

You hurt yourself, there is no way to redeem anyone, it's just that you think it shouldn't end like this, you can't accept this fact, and if you want to escape from reality, you use alcohol to numb yourself. This approach is really not advisable, we have loved each other and separated, then it is enough to say goodbye seriously.

I think these people are just using this way to vent their frustration, and they are eager to get the recognition of others in this way.

I don't think it's worth it to drink and smoke after a breakup to get someone's attention, because after a breakup, no matter what you do, the other person will no longer love you, and even if you take care of it, it's just pity.

It's probably because I can't let go, although I broke up, I still live in the past, I care about each other very much, and I want to attract the attention of the other party.

The reason why they hurt themselves after a breakup is that some people may feel very uncomfortable in their hearts, so they will do this, but I don't think it's worth it.

I really don't think it's worth it, even if you like it and are reluctant, you can't hurt yourself, not to mention that he doesn't care anymore, so only yourself is hurt by doing these things, and only the people around you who care about you feel sorry for you.

I think it's not worth it to hurt your health in order to attract the attention of others after a breakup, not only does it not save anything, but it also causes boredom and disrespect for yourself.

Because some people want to make up for the lost person by hurting themselves, so that the person can change his mind. In fact, that person has long since left your life, and it is useless for you to do more.

Because they lack a sense of security and love, they hope that they can attract the attention of others in this way, and then redeem something, but in fact, they are simply hurting themselves, and in the end there is nothing.

Because I want to win sympathy, people are soft-hearted, not to mention that they have been together, drinking and smoking will make you look embarrassed, and it can also show that you actually care about each other.

In my opinion, self-harm after a breakup is not to attract the attention of others, but to hope that the person who abandoned him in the first place can even look at himself because of the stupid thing he did.