What kind of ritual do people need? Why some people need a sense of ritual

Do you know what a sense of ritual is in life?

In fact, it doesn't matter what the sense of ritual is in the form, the important thing is that it can express your strong love, it is a way of life, and it is also a life attitude. It doesn't require you to go through a lot of work, nor does it require you to waste money, as long as you are attentive enough, it will become a good medicine in your life, make all the dull interesting, and all the fun will be infinitely magnified.

I feel that in marriage, two people sometimes need some sense of ritual and some romantic atmosphere, which will make the marriage of two people more bright and more emotional.

Now on the first anniversary of the two of us, I have arranged some cute balloons in my room, and I have made a candlelight dinner, and the two of us have a ceremonial celebration, which enhances our relationship in this way and adds a lot of romantic atmosphere.

I think the simplest and most traditional ritual is to eat the corresponding food during the Chinese New Year. For example, making dumplings during the Spring Festival, eating zongzi during the Dragon Boat Festival, and kneading a few rice balls with your own hands during the Lantern Festival, when the whole family enjoys the process together, it is a sense of ritual.

We need to maintain a sense of reverence for life through a sense of ritual, and give ourselves encouragement at the right time to feel that we are the protagonist of life, such as before eating every day, we should set the dishes in order, just like eating in a high-end restaurant, so that we can cultivate good habits. Checking yourself in the mirror before going out every day is like facing a grand dinner party, making yourself a gentleman with a good demeanor, and you can also change yourself for the better through these rituals.

In life, a sense of ritual is indispensable. For example, even if you live with a loved one every day, but you don't confirm your relationship through a ritual, such as a confession, the two of you are not boyfriend and girlfriend.

When you are in love, you can use the Moments to show affection and other ways to enhance the sense of ceremony, which can enhance the relationship between the two people and Zhang Jia's trust in each other.

The sense of ritual is to improve the quality of life. Otherwise, the days may be monotonous and boring. First of all.

It is an important holiday, so you can pay attention to it. Get involved. Second, it's an important moment.

It can be recorded as a souvenir. For example, birthdays, graduation anniversaries.

The sense of ritual to make yourself happy, isn't it for yourself to be happy, if the sense of ritual is only used to please others, not for yourself, then what's the use, then don't live for others, so I think, the so-called sense of ritual as long as you can make yourself happy and positive.

On some holidays you need to have a gift and you need someone to accompany you. In normal times, keep the living environment clean and tidy, and buy small gifts for those you like. Create some romantic atmosphere, these are good rituals.

We need to pay attention to some of the food and customs of traditional festivals. Get involved.

It's good to make yourself feel comfortable, there's no need to be so deliberate.

When I go to the restaurant to eat, I always habitually take a photo**, but I never post on Moments, I just keep it as a souvenir, I think this is also a sense of ceremony, it is already a habit of life.

The most important thing is to be happy in life, and the sense of ritual that is deliberately forced will only make people feel bad.

"In life, people hate to be bound by rules, but why do they need a sense of ritual? The so-called sense of ritual is to make a certain day and a certain moment different from other days in the cycle of days and days.

It's not that some people need a sense of ceremony, it's that most people need a sense of ceremony, such as weddings, vows, anniversaries, and so on.

The sense of ritual is a characteristic of human beings that has been brought into the genes from the development of primitive society to the present, and the ruler can make the decree more authoritative through the sense of ritual, the organization can make it look more formal through the sense of ritual, and the individual can comfort himself through the sense of ritual. So the sense of ritual is very important.

A sense of ritual is as much a sense of interest as it can make people take it seriously.

The purpose of the sense of ritual is to make oneself feel like you are living.

What is a sense of ritual?

Haruki Murakami said: Ceremony is a very important thing. When walking, you deliberately squatted down to help me tie my shoes, which was a ritual; When you go shopping, you deliberately remember that the clothes I like are bought and given to me, which is a ritual; The first thing you cut the cake on someone's birthday is a ritual, and it is also a ritual to remove the plastic packaging of a new book.

In fact, the ritual is to make the originally monotonous and ordinary things different from each other. The ritual is to make us feel awe of the things we care about.

So we will see those girls who pay attention to the sense of ceremony, use good-looking tableware for eating, use good-looking cups for drinking, wear new clothes for the New Year, confess in love, propose marriage, wedding dresses, prepare romance for Valentine's Day, give gifts to each other on birthdays, go home to accompany their mothers during the holidays, and go out to celebrate when they talk about a business for a promotion and salary increase.

Some people think it's a toss-up, but in fact, it's about managing every day of life with heart.

Marriage needs a sense of ritual, and what role can a sense of ritual play in marriage? Is it really necessary? The sense of ritual is actually something that everyone has.

It's just that everyone's focus is different. Or, many times men only retain this sense of ritual in love, and pay more attention to reality after marriage. For marriage, a sense of ritual will be a good spice if both parties can agree.

However, if it is only a unilateral request, it will become a kind of bondage over time. Therefore, life needs a sense of ritual. However, you can't force the other person to be like you.

You can maintain your sense of ritual in life, tell the other person what you need, and don't force it if the other person can't do it. Because of the blind reluctance, an unnecessary pressure and contradiction has been formed on each other, and the meaning of the ritual has been lost.

A sense of ritual is the standard configuration of a happy family. There are some contradictions between husband and wife who have been together for a long time, and the sense of rituals in life is a bridge to resolve the unhappiness between each other. My parents are like this, the two have differences of opinion and are going to fight, often my mother is not used to seeing it and always loves to get angry, my father just occasionally buys some flowers, enthusiastically buys vegetables and cooks and picks my mother's favorite food, plus two sweet words to coax the head of the bed to quarrel at the end of the bed and.

Every year, when I encounter various anniversaries, my father's roses will never be absent, and I will prepare exquisite gifts and go out to have a candlelight dinner alone with my mother, and I will be sour in the romance.

Parents are usually busy with work, and occasionally have a little surprise to relax, which can also promote family harmony. The sense of ritual is not because of the festival ceremony, but because of a beautiful moment that thinks of you and wants you to be better too. Having a sense of ritual in life should make life more sweet as a couple.

I have also seen in the circle of friends that in order to celebrate her husband's birthday, the wife decorates her home like a fairy tale paradise, with balloons, cakes, lanterns and rich food. The happiness and satisfied smile of the husband's shirt is enough to make any man jealous. Every wife dreams of having a husband who can buy a bag and a diamond ring for her birthday.

Therefore, although there is no sense of ritual in life, it may not have a great impact on the relationship between husband and wife. But a life with a sense of etiquette is a more advanced way of life.

Because life needs a little romance.

Is the sense of ritual equivalent to eating, sending flowers and watching movies? It doesn't seem that simple to me.

Because we modern people have to go to work, school, and fall in love, the sense of ritual has become almost monotonous and terrifying. Flip through the calendar and take a look at our traditional Chinese festivals, from the Lantern Festival to the Dragon Raising Head, to the Qingming Dragon Boat Festival and the Mid-Autumn Festival, the sense of ritual of the ancestors is much more than that of foreigners on Valentine's Day.

Eating the dragon boat of the Youth League and admiring the moon and chanting poetry, which is not the sense of ritual of our Chinese? Do you think this ritual is important? You can live without it, but what is the true meaning of ordinary life? It's not too much to make yourself happy once in a while in a boring daily life, right?

In the festival, eat something that is usually reluctant to eat, buy some daily necessities that are reluctant to buy, this is called a festival, also called a sense of ceremony, this is a little comfort to ourselves in the life of running around and working.

It may make yourself and everyone cherish it more and face it more seriously. In addition, it also left important memories.

Self-satisfaction, feeling valued.