I graduated this year, and when I was looking for a job, my family asked me to come back here and he

I am a child from the countryside, and if it were me, I would start from the grassroots. There are a lot of people who like big cities, and it's true that big cities are bustling. However, if you want to find more opportunities and exercise it is better to be in the village.

I advise you to first establish your own outlook on life and values, and think about what you really want. Money? Or honor?

Or is it personal value? If you establish your own outlook on life, it is easy to do anything. People who don't have an outlook on life and values will be confused wherever they go.

This close friend, although he applied for the job, "the treatment and benefits of the unit are good, five insurances and one housing fund, and there is staff housing", but the distance is far away, "more than 3,600 kilometers away from home, it takes 4 hours to fly". As you said, "As long as you go, you have to put down roots over there, buy a house, get married, and have children." With parents at home to take care of, and you're not around, you've had a lot of precedents for problems, and the result is that you'll regret it as long as you're gone!

In the old man's opinion, it's better not to go. Although the transportation is convenient and well-informed, it all needs money as support! You also said that "the most important thing is your parents and family, and your parents are slowly getting older, and you are afraid that you will not be able to come back and take care of them if there is any emergency."

The old man hopes that you will carefully consider where to stay, where to go, and choose for yourself!

I went to work first, stabilized, and took my parents over to live together.

Children are the eternal bonds of parents, in fact, your father and your mother should want you to stay there, but you must know that you will live your own life in the future, and you will form a family, so face everything with the most rational view. It's all up to you.

Now which one have you chosen? Do you have any regrets?

Many people go to college in the hope of being able to find a good job, after graduating from college, everyone will be busy submitting resumes and looking for jobs, will you choose to find a job by yourself or let your family help you arrange it? Let's talk about this topic together!

1. If I can find a job I like, then I will choose to find it myself.

After graduating from university, I will first choose to find a job on my own, because I know what kind of job is more suitable for me, and I will choose the job I like, because I think that only if I like a job, I can be willing to do it, and I can work harder to complete this job.

Second, if the job arranged for me by my family is more promising, then I will also follow the arrangement.

If my family arranges a job for me, not only do I like it very much, but it is also very promising, of course I will not object, work is to make money, can bring a good life to my family, my family must be thinking about me, in order to let me have a good future, will arrange a job for me with heart, I should thank my family.

3. Young people must have a reasonable plan for their work.

Nowadays, there are many young people who quit naked at every turn, or have low eyes, always hoping to find a good job that is easy and profitable, but there are very few such jobs, if they are not able and unwilling to work hard, then no matter how good the job is, it will not be suitable. When young people go to school, they should have more contact with the society, and when they are about to graduate, they should have a good plan for their work, only in this way can they harvest a happy job that satisfies them.

After graduation, if the family can help you find a particularly good job, it is better to let the family arrange it, because if you find it yourself, you will run into walls everywhere, and the salary is not high.

I think I will let my family arrange it, because my family will always think about themselves, and what they arrange for themselves will definitely not be bad, and since there are resources, they should not be wasted.

Of course, I was looking for a job on my own. I'm an adult, and I solve my own things. What kind of job do you have the ability to find, and when you enter the society, you can no longer rely on your family.

Find it yourself. First of all, you can better understand your learning status and ability, and you can choose the job you like to apply. Secondly, if you are young, you should learn to survive independently in society and be independent.

Personally, I think that after I graduate, if I look for a job, I still have to rely on my own strong strength to find a job, after all, this job is my job in the future.

You're in the same mood as when I first went out to work, when I was 16 years old.

But life is cruel, and your thoughts make you contradictory.

What I want to tell you is that when you are young, it is normal to be homesick and miss your parents, but you have to think about the long term.

It's really nice to be home, with the care and love of my parents. But after a long time, Mom and Dad will be old, who do they rely on when they get old, you are their son, they have to rely on you.

Now that you have some craft, wouldn't it be better to practice outside for a few more years and return to your hometown when you can be on your own? Giving up halfway like this won't do you any good for your future development, right?

I'm sure mom and dad also want to see their sons have a good future, and in the future, when they are old, they can give them a good life, so it's worthwhile for you to leave your home for a while, isn't it?

How to say it. Men have to learn a skill to be an iron rice bowl. Doing sales is challenging for young people, but you can also learn a lot.

Since you're already self-reliant, that's good. Even if you can't afford to share the worries of your family now, at least don't add to your family's troubles. Do whatever you want, and don't let the family worry about it.

Don't spend your family's money, earn it yourself. Don't hesitate to give yourself a go, you won't regret it.

Let's be honest:

Judging by the jobs you're looking for, your professional skills aren't too strong ......Otherwise, I would have gone to large enterprises and institutions to apply for jobs long ago......So you need to work hard to learn the technical skills.

Also, the most critical issue you have right now is to close yourself off ......You can't let the society adapt to you, but take the initiative to adapt to the society. This is actually more important!

You try to be a back kitchen, or a cashier, and you can communicate less with people. It's a personality problem, and it's hard to change.

I think your family wants you to work in your hometown after graduation, so maybe they have their thoughts. They want you to be there for them, and they want you to be close to them, to see them from time to time, and to take good care of you for anything. I think it's normal for parents to think this wayThey are more about us because every parent thinks about their children and they want their children to do well.

I came back after graduation because I felt like I wanted to be a little closer to my parents, because they were old, so I didn't want to be too far away. Because after graduation, where to work is generally set at **,The number of times you may come back each year is also very small, and these parents will also take it into account. Maybe they just want you to be closer to them and see you often.

For us, maybe we want to pursue our dreams. But parents may think differently than we do, so you can do your parents' work, and tell them that even if you are far away, you will often go home to see and often call your parents, so that they can get a kind of relief. Parents want our children to do well, talk to your parents and trust them to respect your ideas.

If that's the case, talk to them about why you don't want to go back and discuss it with your family.

You can talk to them well and say that it will be better to develop outside than to go back to your hometown.

You can give yourself a time limit, go outside, and go home if you fail.

Follow your own heart, and if you want to develop on the outside, follow your own ideas.

You can tell your parents what you think.