I regret the past all the time, and it s very serious, it affects my life, is it sick?

The question of whether it is pathological can only be said by doctors, and if there is doubt, then it is better to go to the doctor. But your own adjustment is absolutely needed, because regret is normal, but it is too exaggerated all the time, and it also affects your normal life, which is definitely very serious, so you must find a way to adjust yourself in time, or divert your attention, and then not, if you really can't deal with it, then you still have to seek help from a doctor, which is the safest and should be the most effective.

I regret it all the time, and it has seriously affected my life. Is it pathological? It should be said that it is pathological.

Why? This is the gain and loss. Shilly-shally.

Always live in the past. The world is so a pathology. The average person is moving forward with the times.

How can a teacher recall the past?

Besides, there's nothing perfect about that. I always regret it, and there is no regret medicine sold in the world. It's just a matter of eating a trench and growing wise, remembering lessons and learning from experience.

It's just better to do better in the future. It's all right to strive for perfection, but you can't change yourself in the time that has passed.

It should be that you feel that you are not doing well now, and a large part of the reason is what you have done and decisions before, and maybe you will also think that if you had done that at the time or if you hadn't done that at the time, maybe you are better now. And you may not be very clear about the future plan now, in other words, a little confused, and your ability does not match your ideals. It's better to think about what you hope to do today in the future, and put your time and energy on the present, so that you won't regret wasting the present moment and not grasping the present moment in the future.

You may have very serious depression, there is also obsessive-compulsive disorder, don't always deliberately think about family matters, don't get entangled in any point, when you are in a bad mood, you go out alone to relax, it is best to be in a quiet place, think about things that are worth making yourself happy, don't worry about big things, your heart should be relaxed, don't be depressed, don't always have low self-esteem, don't put too much pressure on yourself, people are depressed, the whole body and mind can't function normally, there is no joy in unhappy things, everything looks meaningless, You haven't reached the time of birth, old age, sickness and death, go and relax more, don't look at people, go to see animals and plants, so that your mood will be much better, don't despair, someone wants to live and can't buy life with money, so you have to cherish life and believe in yourself.

This is a typical obsessive-compulsive depression, there are many things in the world that cannot be solved, it is impossible to go back, there is no point in nostalgia, you want to recall, you can only accept these pains, and if you don't want to accept them, then forget them.

Explain that you are too serious, or don't always dwell on the previous things.

Let time take away these things.

This is a kind of kidney qi deficiency caused by Chinese medicine, healthy people should be happy how to get along, it is recommended that you go to Chinese medicine for symptomatic conditioning, I believe there will be good results.

Hello, I see your problem, and I really hope that you can communicate with your family and friends, or you can find a professional psychological counselor. Because your emotional state right now is very volatile. You feel as if you can't control your emotions, but in fact you are the master of your emotions.

Think about what you want to be, what you want to be, and then calm your emotions and learn to be mindful. And these parts, the counselor will go with you**.

First of all, don't blame yourself too much and dwell on this problem! Take it easy. And you're already on the move, aren't you?

Suggestion! Be brave and dare to accept it all.

Big break big stand, don't break no stand! In the course of a person's life, everyone will encounter something, and the difference is that people may respond differently, for example, you choose to ask questions, and others may choose to talk to the people around them. The body is heavy.

That's because you don't want to get out of the memories of the past at all, so the person who made yourself so miserable is yourself. Let's face it and live in the moment! Life still has to be lived, and it has to be more exciting and beautiful!

Suicide, jumping off a building, murder, venting:

Of course, it is a happy thing to be competitive, but there must be a scale of competitiveness, and you can't be "competitive", and it is not a good thing to be in the limelight everywhere, you must know that "to be strong" is not the same as "competitive."

And I think it's very likely that you, the people around you, or your family are putting too much pressure on you, so relax in moderation and don't force anything.

Having a competitive heart is certainly one piece.

Du is happy, but the competitive heart must have a dao scale, can not be "competitive", it is not a good thing to answer everywhere that you like to be in the limelight, you must know that "to be strong" is not the same as "competitive."

And I think it's very likely that you, the people around you, or your family are putting too much pressure on you, so relax in moderation and don't force anything.

No matter what you do, you have to have your own goals, after determining the goal, arrange your own study plan step by step, and do it according to your own plan, as for how others do not care so much, you must learn to do your best, everyone's path is different, others can only learn from others, do not learn from others everywhere.

This situation is normal, people are not plants.

What doesn't belong to you should let go, the fish is originally in the water, if you hold it in your hand, it will die quickly, put the fish into the water, and the water will have its happiness!

The so-called boundless love is nothing more than trying to maintain her smile, that's all.

What you can't get is always the most precious, what you lose is always the most beautiful, what should be some happy memories, why is it a heartache? It's because you can't let go, you can't get it, and you are unwilling, this is people's greed and hatred tormenting you. Learning to fade is not to teach you how to forget, but to let you stop running a red light at the next intersection, as it says, you can't let go, you can't get it, you have to let it go to get it.

The past is forever, so why not use it as an example and tell yourself not to make the same mistake again in the future!

In fact, people have no regrets and regrets, but we look at things from different angles in our growth, one person has one view, maybe others encounter the same thing as you, and you have not done it well, don't regret your efforts, don't be afraid!

You are the best, you are who you are, no one else can replace your ideas!

You are so obsessed with the pain of the past that you are a sign that you have not gained true self-confidence at all.

The more you do this, the harder it is to gain self-confidence, you understand that the past is not important, the most important thing is that you are now and in the future, you have to do things that are useful to you, and stop meaningless memories.

Almost two-thirds of people will have this phenomenon, which is called déjà vu.

This happens to everyone. Only look down on everything. The heart will be at peace.

Hello, although I haven't answered many of your questions, seeing that you have asked so many questions, it is clear that you are full of confusion and confusion in your heart. On the surface, you don't have self-confidence, but have you considered that there are deeper psychological roots in your heart? And figuring out what is going on inside you is important for you and even in life, right?

Maybe your problem could be something else in your heart? For example, subconscious, strong self-confidence, anticipation, etc.? I'll send you a system message, and it would be helpful if there was detailed information to answer your question.

That is, if you are a perfectionist, then you must have something to be proud of, because perfectionists are usually strict with themselves and others, and you will first make yourself relatively good in a certain aspect, and you will continue to improve.

This is an absolute unity with the fact that you like to think, be strong, and work seriously. So it's not that you don't have self-confidence, it's just that you don't have enough self-confidence in some aspects, so don't beat yourself to death.

Don't dare to make a decision? Afraid of what? The big deal is to fail and start all over again, what don't you dare, as long as you dare to make a decision, what looks ahead and drags the mud and water to hell.

Go ahead, this step is not as difficult as you think!

Don't suppress some of your instincts, people's instincts are suppressed too much, and self-confidence will naturally weaken.

Be kind to low self-esteem.

Accept your low self-esteem.

Let it be confident!

You know that you need money to solve problems, which means that you are still a person with common sense and a person who handles things normally.

People who pursue perfection usually have a strict environment when they are young, and their parents themselves may have unsatisfactory aspects, they use their own dissatisfaction and requirements on their children, and they have excessive standards and excessive nitpicking for their children's work. For example, if a child makes a small mistake, he will be scolded and will not give him a chance to correct it; And if you do an excellent thing, but you don't give proper encouragement and praise, over time, the child will think that it is normal for a thing to have a perfect expected result, and it is unforgivable to fail or have unsatisfactory results...

Of course, it's hard to make anything perfect, so there's fear and fear of failure.

Think about what you have, for example, are you good at writing or drawing, or singing, or good at mechanics, or in production, or if you have a foreign language specialty?

People who strive for perfection usually have the advantage of having their own standards for what they do, and this standard is usually higher than the socially accepted standard, because you are demanding of yourself. This will give you some advantages that ordinary people don't have.

You may just be afraid to show it, afraid that you are not good enough.

Please pay attention to the following types of people in your life:

There are some careful, considerate people, they will find the shining points in others, please pay more attention to such people, and associate more with people who can appreciate themselves, which will help to improve self-confidence.

There are also some people who like to ask for help from others, when someone asks you for help, please don't reject them because you are afraid of doing badly, they don't mind how good you do, as long as someone agrees and tries their best to do it, they will hold a grateful mentality, at this time you will feel your own value.

In addition, socialize more with people with a peaceful personality and like the natural taste of flowers, birds, fish and insects, and less with people with strong personalities and vigorous and resolute behavior, which is good for your mental health.

A few people upstairs analyzed very well, anyway, try to eliminate the outside things in life, make you feel inferior, such as money factors, appearance factors, as for the problem of their own ability, you need to slowly experience and improve, you don't always think, your so-and-so friend has more ability, or your brothers and sisters how to do it, and you have a similar level of people to associate with, it will be good for your character.

Perhaps what people need most at this time is not self-confidence, but friends.

If you meet the conditions I say, then please do as I say. If you have a very confident person around you, be with him and he will give you confidence.

Maybe the pace of study or life is constantly accelerating, which brings you great mental pressure, feeling psychologically irritable, wanting to scream when you have nothing to do, seeing that you can't do a topic, you want to scold books, drop things, sometimes very inferior, sometimes super narcissistic. This is where the pressure of studying increases. There may be some disconnect in knowledge, which makes it difficult to work.

I hope that you will learn what you don't know and keep up with the pace of learning, so that your mind will not be irritable. You also need to adjust your mindset to make yourself physically and mentally healthy.

Adjust the time for study and rest appropriately, set a time for exercise, and often relax your mind to relax your tense nerves.

How to relieve and eliminate mental stress?

Ways to relieve stress: When you go home, you should yell loudly for 5 minutes to vent your grievances; Sit on the couch and listen quietly for another 15 minutes, after which you will feel much more comfortable. Or if you confide your grievances to family or close friends, you can be relieved.

Hopefully, through psychological adjustment, you will be able to deal with similar situations correctly and make yourself physically and mentally happy.

You should listen to more ** and let the beautiful music dissolve the mental fatigue. Brisk and comfortable ** can not only give people the edification and enjoyment of beauty, but also make people's spirits be effectively relaxed. Laughing is the best way to get rid of stress, so you can forget about your worries and smile often.

You should also consciously slow down the pace of life, deal with all kinds of complicated things calmly and calmly, and do not blame yourself even if you do something wrong, which is conducive to people's psychological balance and also helps to relieve people's mental pressure. Be brave and face the reality, and don't be afraid to admit that your abilities are limited and you can't handle things properly.

You need to make a lot of friends, talk to friends often, and communicate or confide in people from the bottom of your heart can not only enhance people's friendship and trust, but also make you feel good and your worries are eliminated.

I believe that I will be able to reduce stress, cheer up, feel comfortable, and be healthy, so that I can enhance friendship, learn and progress, and live happily with a good attitude!