Help me analyze it, I m emotionally confused

After reading it all, I think you are still more suitable for confidantes and simple friends, especially if you are in a different place and there is no face-to-face communication, this is very dangerous in the initial stage of the relationship, and in the end it is likely that you will not even be able to make friends, so let go of this idea ......

As for Shan, I suggest that you also think about it, is there any possibility of recovery, after all, it is impossible for her not to feel your love, and of course, you also have to consider the distance of the space......Alas, in fact, my situation is very similar to yours, buddy advises you, it's better to find it nearby, don't force it if there is no good one, spend more time on study and work, it's good As for fate, it will always come, don't ......be in a hurry

A junior boy.

You are only unrequited love for that (Shan), and Ben is not in love, there is no betrayal, let alone a flower.

Let's talk about you and Qin.

Maybe she sympathizes with you, maybe she treats you as a friend, maybe after a lot of communication, she will have a crush on you, but if you want to confess, it may not be suitable, you can joke with her while chatting, and probe her tone. Then make a decision based on the situation, otherwise you will not have friends to do it. Let you lose this confidant.

There is a relationship between men and women called confidante or confidante blue, not necessarily to talk to her much is to like, this may be a kind of dependence, encouraging you when you are lost; If you're really sure that you like Qin, then be brave enough to chase it, Shan is a part of your emotional growth, it's impossible to forget it cleanly, sometimes let go when it's time to let go, this is also an opportunity to make yourself happy.

Dude, I guess it's better to be friends, because you're so lonely now, and you've just had some emotional setbacks, don't make a decision so quickly, wait and ......Feelings can't be rushed, since you have feelings, you are not afraid, or friends are better ......There is room for development, and now you can say anything.

Friendship between classmates is precious, don't touch her lightly. I think you're still in school, and it's too early to think about these things. If two people can really get better, then of course it's good.

If the two of them are not suitable, then even the least of friends will not be able to do it. You will lose a soulmate. So I suggest that you don't say it now, just like it in time, but also like it silently in your heart.

Or don't say it, friendship is friendship, stop being involved with love, or your ex-girlfriend's good friend. You don't think it's appropriate. It's better to be friends, you can still fight if you have nothing to do, if you insist on being together, and don't say whether she will accept you, it's fruitless to accept.

If you don't love it, you should let it go, don't delay others.

You try to leave him for a few days.

Look at how your heart feels If you're going to miss him It's that you're still in love with him It's been 14 years Passionate love won't be gone for so long As the saying goes, husband and wife are still the same match.

You didn't think about her a few days after you left him, and that's when you really didn't love her anymore.

If there is no third party, it means that you have really entered the stable period of marriage, and now it is not about love, but family affection, cherish it.

Love only has a 3-year shelf life, and after that, it is family affection, don't fantasize about eternity.

If you don't love it, let it go, lest both sides feel bad.

Find out why, is there a better attraction for you!

If you have not betrayed each other and are still loyal to each other, then I suggest that you should not talk about divorce so rashly, you should adjust your mentality with each other, and use more thoughts to discover the beauty in life and the good of each other.

For example, you can travel together, create some small surprises, and give each other a small gift ......If you can find some fresh feelings between each other from time to time, love and marriage can last for a long time.

What is really in love, the once sweet words have become pots and pans, and the once deliberate flattery has become a habitual ......Plain is true.

Do you have a baby? If you have children, is it too irresponsible for you to divorce without loving such a simple one?

Also, please think about your wife, after 14 years of marriage, after you leave her, will she be able to live independently and well, whether she can have the capital to start a marriage again, 14 years is really important for a woman, maybe she is no longer beautiful or she is not so gentle. But her 14 years of youth have been given to you. I don't know if it's because of someone else or something that makes you feel this kind of unlove, but I think marriage is not only about love, but also about responsibility.

Divorce is not just a matter of two people, it is a matter of two families or even three generations. Please be cautious.

Try to talk to your wife, like a friend, sometimes there is really the least communication between lovers.

Now there is no love, only family affection, you are no longer a romantic couple but a realistic couple, for the sake of life, for the sake of the children, you two live on Don't divorce until you have to, After all, it is not easy to get married for so long.

You don't love him because you don't know her well anymore! There is a lack of mutual understanding between you as a husband and wife. There's some quarrel or something. Think about it! Say it well! Any situation can be resolved!

You've been married to her for 14 years, and it's a mistake to let her go! Not only does it hurt her, but it also makes you miserable!

Remember that you don't love her, but that you lack communication with your wife!

Try to find the feeling of first love again and create some atmosphere.

For the sake of the child, this is how to live.

After 14 years of marriage, love has already become family affection, and after living together for 14 years, can it be said that you can let it go?

That's your home, isn't there something that makes you nostalgic?

14 years have passed, what else can't be endured?

Are you going to go into a cycle of honeymoons, torments and blows? Put your mindset in place. Love in the end is a relationship of relatives.

Does love care about age? Does love care what others say? Is love only realistic?

In life, some people come and go, some go and return, some are close at hand, some are far away, some pass by, and some walk all the way. Maybe they met at the end of one of the two roads, walked together for a distance, and said goodbye at the next fork in the road. In any case, it is inevitable that the sadness will be scattered at the end of the song.

Love is simple because everyone will say, "I love you and will give everything for you!" Love is hard because not many people live up to his promises. If you really love someone, you will love if you don't promise; If you don't love someone, you will betray what you once promised.

From now on, be smart and don't ask others if they want you, love you or not? If they want you or love you, they will naturally say to you, but when it comes out of your mouth, others will be proud and don't care about you. Don't care too much about some people, care too much about some things, and face it with the best mindset because this world is like this:

Often in front of the things we care about the most, we are the least worthless.

I think you should miss it once, cherish what you have now, and remember ......

Follow your feelings and don't let yourself regret or regret it! Don't compromise on everything!

If you are always like this, it will be a disservice to your current boyfriend and your previous boyfriend, so decisively give up your current ideas and live a good life with your current boyfriend.

In a word, don't regret it since you did it, and don't do it if you regret it. There is a kind of love called letting go. You know.

First of all, when you see him uncomfortable, you are also uncomfortable, which means that you still have some feelings for him, and I want to say something unpleasant, there are two men around you who like you, are you very happy?

In fact, you are not happy in your heart, you hurt him, and then you hurt the man who is with you now, what's wrong with you, why are you doing this, do you care about the mouths of the people around you, do you care about those things? And do you love him? If you love him, you won't break up, you don't deceive yourself, don't deceive us, your eyes don't love him anymore, if you love him, you won't part with him, that man is pitiful, really, you hurt him.

Only you know if the shoes will fit, after all, you are the ones who live together.

Abandon? Choose? Why do you have to talk about age, is age a problem?

If you feel that he is immature, you should talk to him and talk to him about your troubles. Men will have a process of maturity (generally later than women), age is not much of a problem if facing love, and it is only two years younger and not too much, and there are many people in our family who are still walking together as a result!

As for your current classmate who is together, he is good to you and really treats you, you have to think about whether you love him, whether you can love him, if you can't love him, don't stay with him, people are emotional animals, and they will be hurt.

I'm in love with a woman three years older than me, tell me if I'm going to jump off a building or do something else? Age is not an issue, and don't care what others say, you don't live for someone else.

Let me give you an example. Appropriate or inappropriate, I hope to give you some hints.

Attitude towards the word "resentment".

Stage 1: Complain with resentment.

If others treat me badly, I won't treat him well. Treat him with the same or even twice as bad. Because he treats me badly, I have a grudge against him in my heart, so it's normal to complain with a grudge.

The second stage: repay grievances with virtue.

This is also the traditional virtue preached by our Chinese nation. The ideas of Confucius. If others treat me badly, I will treat them with a kind heart. There must be a relatively small number of such people.

The third stage: repay grievances directly.

Whatever you think in your heart, I will do it to you. Not against the will.

I think the third attitude should also be adopted for relationship problems. Don't go against your heart, do whatever you want.

We weren't happy, but we weren't unhappy. Calm is also a good state.

Those three stages are my understanding, of course, repaying grievances with virtue should be a high realm, and if you can't do it, you don't force it, which needs to be cultivated).

I hope you can approach it with a calm heart. I wish you happiness.

It's better for you than for yourself, and in the end someone else will hurt meAnd she didn't do anything. She thought I had done it herself.

Follow your feelings and heart, and don't betray your heart, or you will be left with a lifetime of regrets.

The question is, what do you want in this relationship? Whether you need a man's responsibility, or pure feelings, the current boy matures late, but it doesn't mean that he won't mature, see if you have that patience, you are two years older than him, and you have the responsibility to make him more mature and strong, your current boyfriend gets along for a short time, when you get along for another year, and your ex-boyfriend is still persistent, at that time you are the most tangled time, stay alone for a while, analyze yourself, analyze your ex-boyfriend and current boyfriend, Make the final decision, all the pain and reluctance will pass, and while giving others a chance, you are also giving yourself a chance, good luck.

Hello friends: their own feelings and their own happiness, they are the clearest, others just give you some advice, not necessarily how you are, others do not understand your emotions, nor can you feel your feelings, everyone's love is different, you are two years old is not much, many people with a lot of age difference are also very happy together, Ma Yili is 8 years older than the article, and it is not a happy marriage and children, so I hope you can be assertive and follow your inner feelings, Don't miss out on your own happiness because of other people's opinions, and you don't have any big contradictions together, this is rare, why don't you let go of happiness, but ask for trouble? May a lover eventually become a family.

Not all those younger than you are not suitable for you, the main thing is to see if you have feelings, what do you think? If you like him a lot, you're going to feel bad. After all, forgetting a person is not an easy task.

Feelings should be managed with heart, I advise you to think clearly, which one do you like the most? Which one do you care about the most? If you don't understand, this kind of relationship between three people will be very awkward, and you will be very uncomfortable, which is not conducive to the development of your next relationship, because there will always be awkwardness in your heart.

So what are you trying to tell you by asking? Should you choose an ex-boyfriend or a current boyfriend? In fact, this kind of question doesn't help much, I have also had the feeling of you, I don't know what to do, I want to see everyone's opinions, but even if everyone clearly tells you what to do and choose who to choose, it is useless, because in the end you have to make your own decision.

Personally, I don't think you need to worry too much about other people's eyes in emotional matters, generally speaking, boys will be more immature than girls, but your feelings, whether you get along with each other and whether you are suitable and happy only you know, there are no absolutes in the world, and it is not that he is young and naïve in his thinking must not be happy. It can be seen that in fact, you still love your ex-boyfriend in your heart, but you feel that you are already with your current boyfriend, out of a sense of responsibility and his kindness to you, you feel guilty, life is your own, and you know who you want to choose best. It is impossible to achieve a situation where all three people are equal to happiness, if you still want to be with your ex-boyfriend, but you are worried about the world's eyes and worry about the insecurity in the future, it is better to choose an ex-boyfriend, after all, no one is necessarily in the future, you and your current boyfriend will definitely grow old together, this is risky; If you also love your current boyfriend in your heart, then you have to think clearly.

I wish you happiness.