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01 Attachment. Psychological attachment is the emotional bond between a child and his or her parents, which cannot be ignored by parents.

For example, "independence".

Every life comes into the world with its own mission, the mother often responds positively to the baby, tries her best to be satisfied, the baby can be completely attached to the mother, and the child will naturally grow up full of confidence, and will explore the world with his head held high and complete his mission.

If parents train their children to be independent too early and compete with them at the age of age, the children may be stuck in helplessness and anxiety for the rest of their lives, always looking for attachment and satisfaction, and always have no energy for self-realization.

Two aspects of a secure attachment relationship with your child:

1. Respect children's needs. When children express their needs, parents should respond in a timely manner, give support to their children, and when they cannot meet their children's needs, they should also express themselves in a consistent manner with their children, so that children can feel the love of their parents, which is more satisfying than any food and gifts, and this sense of security is also more stable.

2. Face up to the needs of children. Children's reasonable needs need to be met in a timely manner, and unreasonable needs parents need to know how to express (listen, appreciate, I situation) firmly and gently insist.

Secure attachment is a flow of love between parents and children, and the child's good chanting habits will emerge naturally and without training. A truly good character is a natural choice for a child after receiving sufficient love and permission from his parents.

02 Let go. In family education, the most common mistake many parents make is to talk too much about their children and manage too much of everything.

This can easily lead to two extremes, one is that children are overly dependent on their parents, lack of exercise, have no opinions, and are difficult to adapt to society in the future. The other is to exacerbate the child's rebellious psychology, becoming more and more resistant to the parents' preaching, and even resisting in extreme ways.

The love of parents for their children is far-reaching. Love your child unconditionally, and at the same time have principled permission in your behavior, learn to guide patiently in big things, and respect your child's autonomy in small things.

In the process of growing up, the child cannot do without the experience of pain and failure, give him the opportunity to make mistakes, help the child and face the setbacks with him. Dare to let go of the child to experience the ups and downs of growing up, he can see the brilliant rainbow, and the future life will be wider and smoother.

Children who meet for the first time can immediately play together, simple and direct.

And adults should greet each other, share information, and judge value when they meet.

Every weekend afternoon, I remind my children to go downstairs to find their peers.

After all, as children grow up, the role of parents in children's socialization is getting smaller and smaller, and the sooner parents are clear about their roles and positioning, the more helpful it will be for children.

Children go downstairs to look for circles of interest, or games, or topics, or toys, or sports

At first, observe what other people are playing and the rules of the game, and if you are interested, you will get closer and closer, and join by default.

Children must pay attention to what kind of partner they play with, and what the other party is like, they will learn subtly. Friendship is also a two-way street, imitating each other.

What does socialization teach children to be quick and sensitive?

learned to control emotions - willful, casual temper tantrums will not be favored by their peers;

Learn to abide by the rules - game resources are limited, everyone can not occupy the public resources of their friends at will without restrictions, they must learn to take turns to use, so that the right to play can be fairly reflected.

Learn to communicate and communicate – In order for the game to run smoothly and for everyone to have fun, friends must work together as a team, so adequate communication is essential.

What can social parents do?

Encourage children to go to socialize, yards, interest classes, school clubs, contact with different environments and different children, and understand the habits of different people.

Read more, travel more, parents are cheerful and open-minded, and children are also extroverted and active.

There is a special mother who began to travel the world after marriage, giving birth to two daughters along the way. There are very few people who can break through the cage of material wealth and pursue spiritual wealth. Their children traveled around until they were five years old, attending World Kindergarten.

We can get the outside world from different channels and in different ways without leaving our homes. You can only wait for the epidemic to pass, and then experience it in person!

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An angel has finally descended into your home. This little elf is so weak, pure and lovely. I dedicate you to this Parenting Diary.

Record the most important business in the world - having children. With a beloved heart, the baby's daily eating, drinking, and sleeping are carefully depicted, just like a conversation with the baby. Through this process, you will learn how to interact with your children and add a lot of content to your parenting practice.

From birth to the age of one, the left-hand page of this diary mainly records the child's situation (breastfeeding, resting, crying, urinating, health, etc.), and the right-hand page can freely record the child's growth and parents' feelings. During the weaning process, it is important to keep track of the content of the diet and the child's reactions.

The nearly 50 famous ancient Chinese poems and nursery rhymes contained in the book are taught to children to recite in a timely manner, which is of great significance for cultivating children's cultural tastes and will benefit children for life.