What is the impact of a divorce on the children?

What is the impact of divorce on children? It deserves the attention of all parents.

After divorce, the child will not get a complete family, if the child gets the father's love, he will not get the mother's love, and if the child gets the mother's love but does not get the father's love, in this environment, the child can easily cause psychological damage.

Both parties to the divorce will consider not affecting the children, but the fact is that almost every divorced family has a certain impact on the children to a greater or lesser extent, and the biggest one is that the children are prone to inferiority complex in their personalities.

Divorce will definitely have an impact on the child, the child will not get complete love, and it will be difficult for him to believe in love later in life.

It will hurt the child's heart and make the child unable to experience the common love of his parents.

If two people get divorced. In order for children to not be able to enjoy mother's love and father's love at the same time, it is easy for children to feel inferior and insecure.

Children living in defective or remarried families after their parents divorce are more likely to have psychological problems, such as personality variations, psychological disorders and even mental illness, than children living in healthy and normal families.

Divorced couples and children will lack another part of love no matter who they follow, and many children will have low self-esteem because of their parents' divorce.

Parents behave lovingly in front of their children, but the sudden news of divorce is unacceptable to their children. When children mistakenly think that their families are happy, but as a result, the illusion is shattered, the blow to the child may be even greater, making the child even more unable to accept this reality, and causing greater damage to the child's mental health.

Growing up in the pity of others. When I was a child, I grew up in my grandparents' village, and when the whole village saw me, they said, this child is so pitiful, I went to say to my face that you know no. That's why I'm reluctant to be honest with others, and that's why I don't want to be gregarious and don't want to make friends casually.

This also caused me to have a bad relationship with my roommates, hiding something, and I felt alienated from others, and I was a little jealous.

Personally, I don't think it's a big deal for parents to divorce, but from a macro point of view, both the children themselves and outsiders feel that the divorce of their parents is a bad thing, especially the world thinks that children from divorced families must have a flawed personality. This label leads to those children becoming sensitive, inferior, and even irritable and irritable. The label theory believes that after a person is labeled, the person being labeled will develop in the direction expressed by the label, so don't label someone else.

From my perspective as a child, the impact was devastating. To be precise, I have spent many years trying to correct my three views and my radical views on men. However, I have become a people-pleasing personality all year round.

The fiasco of my original family also made me suffer from gains and losses, and I had the worst psychological preparation for all these things, as well as an avoidant personality. I'm very tolerant, no matter what the circumstances are.

Children lack father's love and mother's love, and when they grow up, they will lack love, have a withdrawn personality, and have few friends.

When a child knows that he only has a father or only a mother, he will have a feeling that he does not understand. Some children will ask, while some children will not ask, and the children who do not ask will feel that their family is special and afraid that others will know. Slowly become introverted and become self-depressed.

How much damage does divorce do to children, I don't know if you still remember this year's TV series "The Hidden Corner", in which there is a genius boy Zhu Chaoyang, Zhu Chaoyang has gone from a teenager with excellent character and learning to a murderer, which can be said to have a very big relationship with his original family.

Because of the contradictions between husband and wife. leads to the dissolution of marriage, and children become the biggest victims. Young children grow up insecure. As a result, children have low self-esteem, withdrawn personalities, few words, introverts, rebellious, and unsociable interpersonal relationships!

Of course, children are not iron-clad.

Four: I no longer believe in love, and I will hate marriage very much. What a beautiful word marriage is, it is the proof and result of two people's love, and it is the starting point and guarantee of a happy life, so normal people are very yearning for marriage, because such a life is very happy just thinking about it in their minds.

However, for the children of divorced families, marriage is the source of their suffering, and the source of all the unfair treatment they receive today, so they hate marriage very much in their hearts, hate their parents for giving birth to them and ignoring themselves, and finally will have the idea of not wanting to get married for the rest of their lives.

Whether it has an impact on the children depends on the status of the family before the divorce. If the husband and wife are affectionate and do not quarrel or quarrel before the divorce, then the children will definitely be uncomfortable with the absence of one parent after the divorce. My parents divorced, but they fought every day before the divorce, and I was worried every day that they would fight too hard and whether one of them would die.

They got divorced, and I don't think I have to worry about it anymore. But their divorce still had a great psychological impact on me, my dad threatened my mom, saying that if he dared to take away a child, he would kill her, and we all knew that my dad did it. My mom left on her own, I felt abandoned by my mom, even though I was very good now, I still felt bad, and I didn't believe that a self who didn't even want my own mother was worthy of love.

So the explanation to the children after the divorce is really important.

The damage of divorce to children is immeasurable, I think a marriage is not forced to do so, don't choose divorce, those three views do not match, personality does not match, no feelings are all excuses, when you get married, if you don't have these, will you still get married?

The divorce of husband and wife is the most harmful to the child, which will cause the child's lack of maternal or father's love, will be more lonely, more inferior, more rebellious, and may make the child's thinking deviate from the normal track a little bit, and there will be abnormal thoughts and abnormal behaviors.

It has a little impact on the child, I waited until the child went to college to go through the procedures, so that the child is older after all, and he understands some truths, and it is not good when the child is too young!

Other families don't know, anyway, my son fell from the top five to twenty-five in the third year of junior high school, a month has passed, and now the midterm exam is back to the top eight, and the divorce hurts the child too much.

Wait for the children to support themselves independently before leaving, as long as people have the idea of divorce in their hearts. Divorce is a matter of time, and the later the divorce, the more lose-lose.

The impact is quite big, try to have more love for the children, in order to reduce the harm to the children, never marry again, this is my personal idea. It's been four years since I got divorced, and I've been living with my two sons, both of whom are now in their second year of high school, and I hope that my two sons can be admitted to the ideal university, and the company is still very happy!

After the divorce, the children cannot accept the disintegration of the warm family for a while, and they are psychologically unbalanced, and they are prone to form a rebellious mentality, and they have confrontational behaviors towards the people around them, which is manifested as refusing the requirements of others for no reason, and no one can listen to their words, they will blame their parents, contradict teachers, and have a hateful and cold attitude towards anyone.

The shadow and harm brought by the marriage law to the child who remarries with the mother, after the divorce, the father abandons the child who is waiting to be fed, and the child remarries with the mother, and cannot change the surname to make the child sensible and estranged in the shadow, knowing that he is not biological, and even the little partner may make fun of the child who is not biological and cause harm to the naïve mind.

Children are different from adults, and they don't know how to adjust when they are hurt. So most children choose to be silent. As a result, there is no way to be released, and there is often low self-esteem, depression, etc., which affects the character and affects the whole life.

The child's psychology is fragile, and the divorce of his parents will bring great harm to the child, and he does not know how to face his present and future. Even he felt that in front of his relatives, friends and classmates, he could not hold his head up, and felt that it was a very humiliating thing. Therefore, as a father and mother, you must be cautious about this matter of divorce, and if you really can't get together, you must make a good decision about your children and don't let them be hurt.

It doesn't matter, it has an economic impact, a woman with full civil capacity will suffer if she divorces a man, and there will be a lot of ugly behaviors in divorce, for property, for children, what killing, evading responsibility, fighting for property ......Two people will calculate every penny clearly, in fact, you don't need to calculate, the state and society will help you calculate.

Although I am an adult, I remember when I was in junior high school, when the teacher asked the children of divorced families to raise their hands, it was really painful and inferior. I felt like when I raised my hand, everyone was looking at me with contempt.

I'm in college now. When I was with my classmates, I didn't even want to mention family matters. Very sensitive.

Therefore, although the damage is not very big, it affects a lifetime. So the behavior of parents after divorce is very important. only knows that blindly belittling each other is not worthy of being a parent at all.

I think it will have an impact, but the child's father said no, he is also a single parent, I thought he would feel more deeply, but he said that his parents are very good divorced, so he thinks that if we have a conflict, we should also separate, and he is also a single parent, and he thinks it doesn't matter, so he is very determined to divorce ......

Just like Hong Lei said, he felt that husband and wife were not harmonious and not good for children, and he asked the children.

The healthy growth of children requires a good family environment, and whether the relationship between parents is normal has a crucial impact on children's mental health. Divorced families. The whole process from the breakdown of the relationship between the husband and wife to the quasi-divorce and even after the remarriage will bring pain and suffering to the young minds of children, such as parents do not handle the education of children before and after divorce, it is easy for children to form various abnormal psychological qualities, therefore, parents should take into account the psychological needs of children before and after divorce, and should strive to reduce the psychological trauma caused to children to a minimum.

What is an unsound family? I think that unhappy families are unsound, what happened to divorce? People have the courage and ability to choose single parents, and what is passed on to their children is independence, hard work, and self-motivation. The children raised by the two people who are most afraid are not as high as the quality of single parents.

Children are in adolescence, which itself is a critical moment in psychological development and social and relationship cognition, and for a long time before the divorce of parents, the relationship between parents is generally more tense, so children are already very sensitive before their parents divorce. When the divorce of parents is a fact, the balance of family relationships is broken, and it is difficult for children to adapt to the imbalanced relationship and environment. At this time, the psychology will become more and more sensitive, insecure, in order to alleviate such emotions, will take extreme ways to vent, such as indulging themselves to attract the attention of their parents or depressed and inferior, etc.

It can be seen that divorce has an impact on the psychological and character development of children, but the size of the impact depends on the age of the children, the changes in family relationships and quality of life before and after the divorce, the conflicts and relationships between parents, and the new family relationships, and many other factors.

Children are the biggest victims, filled with shadows in their hearts. Because they have lost their father's or mother's love, they no longer have any sense of security. Their feelings will become very fragile and confused, whenever they see other children happily following their parents to play, in front of their parents and mothers, they will feel how lonely they are, how careless, and lose their due self-confidence, feel that they are not as good as others, sometimes even give up on themselves, all day long, do not procrastinate, do not care.

There is no self-motivation, no sense of happiness, and the whole person becomes very muna. If you don't get it right, you might ruin your child's life. Men and women consider the interests of their own parents, and their parents stand up for their children, I can only say, you are not married, this is cooperation, husband and wife are negotiators, this kind of life can live for a long time.

Therefore, after marriage, the husband and wife are a family, and the parents are people outside the family, this concept must be clear, filial piety should be filial, but the interests of their own family should be the priority. The impact of a couple's divorce on a child is lifelong. Let the child bear the pressure of his own heart and the influence of the outside world, and live in helplessness and disappointment.

But the impact of not divorce on couples is not small, and they live in depression and torment all day long. Therefore, it is necessary to explain things to the child, and guide them in a good direction to untie a knot in the child's heart. Minimize damage.

The biggest impact is the child's psychological problem, because the child has a comparative psychology, and the children around him have both parents, no matter which one he is, he always feels that he is more senior than other people's fathers or mothers, which will make the child have an inferiority complex prematurely; Children of single parents are generally very sensitive, and it is easy to become panicked by the slightest thing.