How to speak so as not to cause misunderstanding?

You can't speak because you don't have confidence in yourself and are afraid of saying the wrong thing, so we should learn when to speak, when not to speak, and when to say what to say so that we can get twice the result with half the effort.

A person who can talk can capture the hearts of others, so when cultivating your good eloquence, you should enrich your thoughts, in addition to some teaching books on communication, you can appropriately expand some of your own horizons and cognition, through reading books, watching movies, and ...... on the InternetThis will broaden your conversation

There are many books on communicative eloquence that will be very helpful to you

Carnegie's "The Weakness of Human Nature" is a must-see, so that it can teach you how not to say the wrong thing, if you are okay with the mouth, it is better not to speak, and you must first learn not to say the wrong thing This is also a book that tells you how to behave in a way and observe words and feelings

The most important thing is to gain experience from practice, and the interaction of any person is very delicate.

You have to slowly experience this yourself, learn lessons and experience from real guns, and over time, you will naturally have witty words and a river of words

If you can, I hope you read more books to increase your literary style, read some books on poetry appreciation, and memorize them appropriately, which is a shortcut to quickly strengthen your language arts, so that your words are icing on the cake, and your tongue is full of flowers

In short, you must speak wisely, you can not have flowery words, blurt out the ability, but you must be able to accurately express your thoughts and views, and harmless This is the most important thing

To sum it up, you care too much about what others think of you. If the misunderstanding doesn't matter much, it doesn't need to be explained at all. You don't get tired of explaining everything, and sometimes deliberately explaining it can be counterproductive, and explaining too much will give others the impression that you like to make excuses.

Being misunderstood by others, you may be very unhappy, some depressed, some sad, and even some angry, while the person who misunderstands you may be sad and may be angry. Everyone is in a state of emotional instability, we all know that the words spoken when we are angry are the most hurtful, "good words are warm in three winters, and bad words hurt people in June and cold", at this time, even if you want to explain, the other party may not listen at all, or wait for both parties to calm down before talking.

Then don't say it, it's better not to say it than to say the wrong thing, if you don't speak, others won't be sure what you're thinking, and they won't jump to conclusions about you.

Don't try to prove anything, don't try to prove anything, do what you have to do, time will prove whether you are right or wrong, and others are not stupid.

There is a sentence that says that the explanation is to cover up, then it is better not to explain, some misunderstandings are better if you don't explain, the more you explain, the deeper the misunderstanding.

To explain or not to explain, time will tell, or depending on how you treat the person and your relationship.

1.Explain when appropriate.

2.Those who are clear are self-purifying, and you feel that there is no mistake and there is no need to explain.

3.Find a third party to help you convey your voice indirectly and tactfully.

The key to solving this problem is to communicate, and it is important to choose the right time and occasion when communicating.

1.Obviously, it should not be when the other party is still angry and annoyed, but when the other party is a little calm and can already come to reason.

2.As for the occasion, if it is a private matter, I personally recommend finding a quiet public place such as a café or something. The business-related advice is solved in front of everyone. Of course, these are just some suggestions. Everything depends on the situation.

Hope it helps!

Find a chance to explain! But it depends on what kind of person misunderstood, and some people can understand it without explanation. There are some people who will not believe you no matter how you explain it.

Something that focuses on the heart! Today, I tend to prefer to read some essays like chicken soup for the soul. Some transcendent views on life will resonate with you! In dealing with people, I also take the things of fame lightly!

Misunderstood. Explain it to him.

Explain clearly and misunderstand the problem.

Just dissolve it.

Sometimes people can misunderstand what you say because the other person doesn't understand what you're saying, or because what you're saying is ambiguous, which can easily lead to misunderstandings.

As the saying goes, "Gongs and drums listen to the sound, and speech listens to the sound." Meaning:

Listen to what others say, pay attention to the meaning of the words and keep an eye on the spine. Whether it is positive or derogatory, whether it is praise or criticism, whether it is sincere or false, and so on. That's why a lot of people always say, why what I say is always misunderstood, you don't mean something, but others hear it and have other meanings, so they misunderstand you.

I will give you one of the most common examples in life, which is that boys speak more straightforwardly, and they say whatever they want in their hearts, so they often understand what girls say in a literal sense.

For example, girls sometimes complain to their husbands: Oh, husband, we stay in the house every day, it's boring.

A lot of straight men tend to fight back by saying, "Didn't we just go out to the movies and eat on the weekend?" Have you forgotten?

In fact, what a woman really wants to express in this sentence is: Honey, I especially hope to go out with you today, because I am really happy to be with you. Why don't we go out to dinner together tonight?

But the man's first reaction was to respond to the girl's "stay at home every day". I didn't understand that the girl's implication was that she wanted to go out on a date with a guy again.

This seems to be a misunderstanding caused by the different understandings of both parties, but it is actually caused by the unequal communication style and communication skills. Such misunderstandings do not only exist in intimate relationships, whether in the workplace or at home, misunderstandings can often occur when two or more people are in contact.

Why misunderstandings occur, in addition to different understandings, many times, we often inadvertently hit the other party with our casual words and ways of speaking, thus causing misunderstandings.

Because don't scatter and carry fierce people, you have a hidden mind, everyone has different ideas, and the understanding of the bridge is also different, so sometimes the misunderstanding will be misunderstood.

Sometimes you are misunderstood by others, mainly because your expression skills are not very strong, or you don't understand what the other party means.

This is because everyone's thinking is not the same, the starting point of thinking is also different, and the other party may not have listened carefully to your pure side-by-side words, which are all factors that cause misunderstanding.

When we are misunderstood and questioned, how should we communicate secretly?

If someone objects or questions you, your first instinct may be to jump out immediately to explain or vent. But in this case, no matter what you say, the other party will think that you are quibbling.

It is recommended to use the Rapoport negotiation method. This method means that when we are questioned, we can first repeat the other person's point of view and confirm that we understand it correctly before proceeding to the next step of communication.

In other words, we create a friendly atmosphere first, and then we let the other person know that we can reach a consensus by working together by calmly listening, telling, repeating, and giving feedback. In this way, the other party will be able to listen to what you say.

The most important thing about the Rapoport negotiation method is to use a cooperative mindset and to see the other party as a collaborator, not an enemy.

For example, when you are interviewing for graduate school, the interviewer asks you a tricky question. Don't say it directly:

Let me repeat it, is that what you are talking about, and am I right?

Scientist Robert Orman has an interesting point to share with you: if two rational and sincere seekers of truth argue about an issue, the result of the argument is bound to be that they both come to an agreement. In other words, if the argument is not happy, then one of them must be hypocritical.

I hope that no matter what problems we encounter, we can communicate calmly, reasonably and effectively.

Don't be afraid of being misunderstood by others, everyone may be misunderstood when you speak, because what you say is what you want to express, but other people's thoughts are different from yours, other people's understanding has other people's thoughts, you may say a sentence out of good intentions, some people will be cranky and want to take what you say as a bad thing, and some people are empathetic and easy to understand, so don't be too entangled in, whether others understand your words? Will there be ambiguity? There is no one in the world who can be understood by everyone and no one can express their thoughts in the most perfect way, so you can enhance your communication skills by communicating more, reading more books, and participating in some activities, but don't think that it is impossible for everyone to understand everything you say.

So don't worry about it. The best way to make it easier for others to understand is to speak different types of people to different types of people, for example, you talk to the elderly and children to speak in different ways of expression, of course, you have to use an easy-to-understand way, young people have more trendy people and some more outdated people, as well as highly educated people and low-educated people, that is, the words spoken by famous TV hosts will be understood by different people as different meanings, this you can do experiments with your family. It's not just about your expression, it's about the understanding of the person listening to you, who may have different understandings because of his different experiences, different ages, and different thoughts.

So again, don't dwell on how others understand you, you just need to express your thoughts, and don't worry too much about it.

Be yourself, people who don't understand you don't need to explain.

If it has already happened, then wait until everyone is angry and then talk calmly...Because everyone is angry and can't listen to anything.

It may be that you can't speak clearly, covering too wide a range, and the meaning in a sentence can be understood a lot.

Hello, I am also such a person, think about problems from the perspective of others in life, empathize with others, understand others, maintain a sincere and tolerant heart in communication, and the words spoken are not easy to hurt others.

Listen more and talk less Think for a few seconds before you speak.

Don't talk about other people's rights and wrongs, don't expose people's shortcomings, and don't talk about other people's privacy in life, and never exaggerate: exaggeration damages the truth and makes people doubt your opinion. The shrewd person restrains himself, shows caution, speaks concisely and to the point, and never exaggerates himself.

Never be arrogant: often talk about your strengths and show off your strengths in front of others. This invisibly devalues others and exalts oneself, and the result is that others look down on oneself more.

If you offend others, apologize sincerely.