If you have a very sensible child at home, will you feel distressed or comforted?

If the child is very sensible, I will feel distressed.

1. Children should be free to play. It is the nature of children to be playful and active, and I think children should play like other children, tell their parents when they encounter what they want, and cry when they are unhappy, instead of just staring at what they want very much.

They don't dare to tell their parents, they don't ask their parents to buy them those things they like, they feel that their parents don't agree so they don't bring it up, but when they see other friends playing, they are very envious and eager in their hearts.

I don't think children should know so many things, they don't have to understand the hardships of the adult world, they just need to have fun at the age when they should play, and enjoy their childhood.

Second, children are sensible and less naïve, they are sensible early, and they will feel sorry for the child. Very sensible children often have less innocence in their eyes, a simple, their eyes will become dim prematurely, when I see them like this, I feel distressed, I think they are very sensible are caused by their parents.

If the parents have the ability, the parents can pamper the children, and the parents can let the children have fun in their arms, the children will not be so mature and sensible.

I think it's the parents' inadequacy that the parents' helplessness will cause the child to be so sensible, as a parent, I hope the child can be happier. There are some things that children should not be responsible for at their age, and there is no reason for them to take on these things for their parents, such as how old children are to take care of younger siblings for their parents, or help their parents with cooking and household chores. These things are what parents should do, not what children should do, and I feel sad to see children sensibly take the initiative to take these things.

I would find it particularly comforting. Because I was tired from a day of work, when I returned home, my children were able to share some things for themselves, which made me very happy, and I thought that it was worth it no matter how much I paid.

I'll feel a little distressed. Because I think children should be innocent and romantic, so that children will feel happy and happy.

I would find comfort because sensible children don't get into trouble and can help their parents.

I think it's comforting, because children are sensible early, and it is not necessarily caused by family pressure.

I think the way is – a good fight.

Seeing this question, I couldn't help but answer the question, my boyfriend and I have been together for 9 years+, and the relationship has been very stable, if there is no accident, I should be able to enter the marriage hall smoothly. I think there is also some experience to share this question.

The most important thing between lovers is communication, communication, and communication.

There are many ways to communicate, and the common one is the usual chat, whether it is face-to-face or online, it is an effective way to communicate. But for me, I think the best way to communicate is to have a healthy quarrel every time there is a return, a return and a collision.

What is a healthy fight?

There are several characteristics of a good quarrel:

One. A healthy quarrel can release one's bad emotions.

I believe that many people have experienced cold violence, and some people even think that cold violence is more terrible than hot violence, and hot violence can at least have two people collide and touch; And cold violence makes you doubt yourself and escalates the contradictions.

Problems are always ignored and there is no time to solve them. A good quarrel can allow us to release our emotions and make the other party feel their grievances and dissatisfaction. Only with communication can there be a solution, and cold violence will only cover up one's emotions and make the conflict more fermented and worse.

Two. A benign quarrel allows us to see each other's character and three views better.

Everyone has a time when their emotions are out of control, and it is at this time that a person's behavior and morality can be better seen. In the early stages of a relationship, we will maintain a good image of each other in front of the couple, polite, beautiful and kind.

When our emotions are out of control, we can't help but expose our truest side, and irritable people can't restrain their tyrannical habits; Indifferent people are cold and violent towards you, refusing to communicate and ignoring you; The prodigal person turned around and complained to a confidant of Lan Yan or a confidant after a quarrel, and did not think of looking for you to solve the problem; People who don't care about you easily tell you ...... break up

Quarrels are a necessary test for couples, and a healthy quarrel is like a test paper to test the emotional problems between us. The unfit couple lost the test; And the right couple will only get to know each other better through testing, know that ** can be improved, and become more and more incompatible with each other.

Three. Benign quarrels can be retracted freely.

This is the most important point of a healthy quarrel. Clearly know that the essence of quarrels is to solve problems and get along better.

So no matter how fierce the quarrel is, how confrontational and disagreeable each other's points of view are, but because they know that they will not be separated, because they know that it is to solve the problem, they will all reconcile in the end. It's not a question of who bows his head first, it's that both of them know that the quarrel is to better run in with each other, so if they quarrel, they will take it back.

Chat communication on weekdays can certainly help us understand each other, but just like the answer can solve the problem, our reactions and practices when there is a quarrel can really let us understand each other more deeply.

May every couple be able to grasp every benign quarrel, and since they have chosen to hold hands, don't let go easily.

Whenever I see a sensible and obedient good child in the playground, I am very troubled by my naughty baby who is mischievous all day long, but sometimes being sensible is not necessarily a good thing.

Every time I take my baby to the children's playground in the mall, I will bring him a few favorite hidden orange toys for him to swap with other children. At the same time, tell him that if the child is not willing to exchange, do not rob it. But you have to hold on to your favorite toys, and if you don't want to give them, you won't give them.

Today, we went to the children's playground as usual, and a little boy ran over to grab the baby's toys, and he naturally hugged him tightly and did not let go. The parent said, "Don't be so stingy, let's play for a while", and my baby and I said that you can swap games with him. He obediently went to the boy to exchange toys with him, but the boy didn't want to exchange and just wanted to play with us.

I whispered to the baby, "He doesn't want to exchange and there is no way, your toys, you make your own decisions, if you don't want to give it, don't give it". Of course, the baby and I were sarcastically ridiculed by the boy's parents, and the words of "no education, slamming the door, and no interest when I grow up" kept saying, so I didn't hear it, and took the baby to play on the slide.

Later, the little boy went to rob someone else's toy car, and the child who was robbed of the toy cried very sadly, and heard the child's mother say, "You are good, don't cry, mother will bring you delicious food", and sure enough, the baby stopped crying.

Looking back at the baby, he was happily chasing a young lady to play. Even so, he clung to his beloved toys and did not get snatched away by others. Some parents may say that I am too spoiled by my children, but I think that if the baby's toys are snatched away by others, I am really derelict as a mother.

If being sensible and obedient means being bullied, I'd rather he be a naughty child, we can't bully others, but we can't let others bully.

The more sensible the child, the more insecure they are, and they have developed a habit of being willing to wronged themselves and give up their ideas in order to cater to others and meet the needs of others. For example, sensible children generally have good grades, because they care a lot about what others think and say about them, and they are very good at observing words and feelings, they are used to meeting the wishes of others, and it is in this way that they ignore their real thoughts and needs for a long time, so they do not feel very happy, because they have suppressed their psychological needs for a long time, and even extend to the idea of "social injustice".

Therefore, if the child is very sensible from an early age, takes the preferences of others as the standard, always refuses the needs of others, and even can hide his emotions in order to make others happy, parents must pay attention to it, rather than being proud of "my child is very sensible". A child's childhood should not be depressing, but happy and innocent.

Because the so-called "sensible" is to think so in the eyes of others. Sensible children know the difficulties of their parents, think about their parents and their families everywhere, and never put themselves first. Whenever something happens, the first thing that comes to mind is, "What would your family want to do?"

Instead of "what do you want to do!" So the long-term suppression of my feelings makes me never think about what I really need, what is my true thoughts?

Children who are particularly sensible around them usually show more mature behaviors and ways of thinking than their peers, such as rational decision-making, good emotional intelligence, and low-key personality charm. These are cultivated by parents in the daily life of Rizao Cave through words and deeds and guidance education.

1.Clarify family rules and values, and help children understand what is right and wrong, and how to deal with various situations in family and life.

2.Encourage children's independent thinking and problem-solving skills, and help them learn to be confident and courageous in the face of challenges and difficulties.

3.Through rewards and encouragement, build the right positivity and motivation to encourage good behaviors and habits.

4.Give your child appropriate responsibilities and tasks so that they can learn to be independent and self-managed, such as doing household chores, participating in volunteer activities, etc.

5.Communicate and communicate effectively with your child, listen to their ideas and opinions, and develop self-esteem and self-confidence.

6.Provide children with a good growth environment and resources, such as reading, entertainment, etc., stimulate children's interest and hobbies in learning, and cultivate self-awareness and taste.

7.Be patient and kind to your child, don't expect him to behave perfectly, give him respect and understanding, and build a close and trusting relationship with him.

In short, the particularly sensible children around us are educated and cultivated through parents, and the role and guidance of parents play a vital role in the growth of children.

Sensible children have one common trait:

Pay attention to the feelings of others too early, give up the right to appeal to oneself, dare not be willful, and be cautious.

It's also low self-esteem in the heart.,Always feel that your needs don't matter.,And adults have a higher evaluation of themselves than a bright one.。

As long as the bear child occasionally does a heart-warming thing, he can be praised by everyone, but once the sensible child does something out of the ordinary with Jing Mingbi, he will disappoint people all over the world.

Because it is too hard to be sensible, it is bitter in the heart.

One of my male visitors had a large debt when he was a child because of the average conditions of his family's business.

Parents often quarrel over this, and he becomes the more sensible child in the family.

When you see something you like, you can only look at it, and you don't dare to express your true thoughts to your home.

From childhood to adulthood, he was the "child of someone else's family" in the eyes of his neighbors.

Not only does he not let his family worry about his studies, but he also begins to take on some housework at home after the age of 7.

There is no poor child who is in charge of the house early, but at the expense of childhood.

In fact, there is no need for parents to say that children can also perceive that their families are not wealthy.

Because they will always find that other people's children always have a car to pick them up and drop off from school, and they are the squeaky electric car no matter the wind or shine.

Strong empathy, kindness, will be the first time to consider each other, value each other.

Weak, unsupported, afraid of losing, unwilling to quarrel.

Strong self-esteem, don't want to trouble other branches, obviously very tired and can't hold on, report more good news and not bad news, when others ask, they say it's okay.

Such a child really doesn't need to be so sensible. It is also a reasonable vent to express your emotions and needs, helping and being helped are mutual, tell the truth, say no to people and things you don't like, and refuse malicious judgments.

Surround yourself with people who appreciate your kindness, and don't let your kindness and upbringing turn into weakness and bullying in the eyes of others.

This kind of growth is more than the grinding of life, and even more so of their parents. Parents use their own ways and experiences to teach their children how to behave. This is the most valuable asset they give to their children.

This kind of education that takes place in the family often starts from the side, starting with "how to view ordinary workers".

In and out of the play, the parents of these children are not highly educated, rich enough, and not dressed beautifully. But they take their steadfastness, diligence, and simplicity as a mirror to give the children "proper clothes": any legal and proper work is worthy of respect; Any worker who creates a happy life with his industrious hands is glorious.

Pound the nucleus. We have discussed too much about homeschooling. Whether it is the anxiety of middle-class education that is on the hot search every once in a while, or those relatively silent left-behind children, all walks of life and families have their own difficulties and demands.

But the undeniable consensus is that a really good family education is indispensable for a pair of parents who exude light and energy, and children can draw spiritual nourishment from them and learn to be kind and grateful.