As the old saying goes, it is better to teach people to beat their sons than to teach them to divide

This sentence means that the son is important, but the wife is more important, you can numbly teach others to beat the child, but others do not distinguish between people's affairs, do not give any opinions.

I don't think it would mean that it is better to teach others to beat other people's sons when there are certain bottom-line problems (such as other people's sons to take advantage of them), rather than teach others to share their daughter-in-law with the old king next door, or to mortgage their own daughter-in-law when they are in debt? !

Let's just say it, whose wife do you have a crush on?

This decomposition is very wrong.

Rather teach people to beat boys, Mo teach people to split their wives and rather demolish thousands of temples without destroying a marriage" has the same effect.

I can tell you with certainty that you must be wrong when you say this and understand it so much. Well, now that you have to say, you're not miscalculated, it's just that you only know one thing and think about one thing and don't really understand the meaning of this sentence. What this sentence really means:

Even if you see and hear that they are arguing over something or even fighting and then divorcing, you can't be sure that the reason why they are divorced may have nothing to do with the fact that they quarreled and fought over something. Only the two of them know what caused their divorce to be what led to their divorce in the end. Or maybe although they had a big fight, the two didn't want to divorce at all, it was just a momentary anger, and the two knew in their hearts that they could still live together.

So when you don't know and don't know the truth, you persuade them to divorce when you see them fighting, and you say that you are doing bad things with good intentions, and you are breaking up other people's families? And the most important point is, let me ask you, if there is a problem in your relationship or marriage, or if you want others to get involved, do you want others to come in and draw conclusions for you? Because feelings are only known by two people, it is impossible for any third person to know.

This is the true meaning of "don't teach people to divide their wives".

Have you ever thought about it, one day when they are together, when they sleep together, whisper and say that when you persuade them to divide, are you not pleasing on both sides? If a family doesn't talk to two families, no matter how iron the relationship is, it can't compare to family affection. You have to have a big heart to bear this happening, which means that you have a good chance of losing this friend.

Just warn others not to separate the feelings of other people's husbands and wives, and not to come up with the idea of separation. He didn't call anyone to be a peacemaker.

Yes, marriage is like shoes on your feet, whether it is comfortable or not, only you know.

Life is short, but happiness is important.

For the sake of a happy life and the real comfort of the family, it is still necessary to manage the marriage well, which is really inappropriate, and it should be resolved as soon as possible.

When the judgment is constantly reversed, it is chaotic!!

I don't know if you haven't read a book, you don't know the context, who would teach someone to beat their son and divorce for no reason, the condition of this sentence is"The son has a conflict with the son's mother"Usage,

It is a Cantonese saying that it is better to teach people to beat boys and not to teach people to divide their wives. It means that the son of a friend is not good, and you can suggest that a friend teach a good lesson. But if your friend's wife is not good, you must not teach your friend to divorce.

This is similar to what we said would rather demolish ten temples than destroy a marriage. Beating a son is an internal matter of the family, or it is called "if you don't beat it, you can't make a weapon", so teaching people to beat up is a good motive; Those who "divide their wives", that is, break up the family, are "guilty" for it. As the saying goes, "persuasion is not persuasion", if we rashly speak out and affect other people's marriages and change cause and effect, then we ourselves will also be affected by "cause and effect".

Marriage has a very high status in ancient times, and there is such a passage in the "Book of Rites": "Those who are faint will merge the two surnames, go up to the temple, and then follow the future generations, so the gentleman is important." Marriage is not only a matter of husband and wife, but also bears the responsibility of worshipping the temple and ancestors, and passing on the ancestry.

In ancient times, where Confucianism was the mainstay, marriage became the cornerstone of the social system at that time. Therefore, destroying other people's marriages is also a kind of destruction of a harmonious society, and the Taoist persuasion classic "Taishang Induction Chapter" believes that the act of destroying other people's marriages is an evil act and should not be done.

It is better to teach others to teach disobedient children than to instigate others to divorce and separate from his wife. This is similar to what we said would rather demolish ten temples than destroy a marriage.

Beating a son is an internal matter of the family, or it is called "if you don't beat it, you can't make a weapon", so teaching people to beat up is a good motive; The person who "splits the wife", that is, the family is broken, is the "sin" of stupidity. To a certain extent, this reflects a traditional mentality of social people, and may be a manifestation of the general people's slow sailing.

Whether it is for the parties themselves or for ourselves, in matters such as marriage, we still should not casually express opinions or even "persuade divorce".

As the saying goes, "persuasion is not persuasion", if we rashly speak out and affect other people's marriages and change cause and effect, then we ourselves will also be affected by "cause and effect". Many friends around me have suffered inexplicable implications and disasters of great or small sizes because of "speaking up".

Even if there is any problem between the two couples in other people's families, don't give others ideas to ask others to divorce, if their son does something wrong, they would rather teach them to beat their children than teach others to divorce.

The explanation is that even if he persuades others to beat his own children, don't persuade others to break up with his wife, which is similar to "rather tear down a thousand temples than destroy a marriage".

I was instigated and divorced, and now I'm miserable! Can you save me, God?