What should I do if the leader gives you small shoes? The leader often wears small shoes for me, wha

In the workplace, everyone does not have deep hatred, and there is not too much conflict of interests, do not offend people, and live in harmony with everyone. Deal with things, consider the other person's feelings, and think more from the other person's point of view, so that you will have more friends. Learning to be tactful is also a skill in the workplace.

According to this line of thinking, your boss will no longer give you small shoes, and maybe he will like you very much and become a good confidant. ‍‍

Real gold is not afraid of fire, evil is invincible, as long as you have the ability and true colors, no matter how many small shoes you can wear. Only those who are capable are prone to envy. It is an instinctive human reaction for the leader to put small shoes on you for no reason, and it is possible to feel that you are a threat to him.

And that's okay! You have to be yourself, self-confident and self-reliant, try to keep a low profile, and carefully handle the relationship with the leader. ‍‍

In the workplace, there are too many such things, and it is good to get used to it. Think about it, why does the leader give you small shoes? It could be due to the following reasons:

You have inadvertently offended your leader. Your ability is stronger than your leadership, and your leader will get rid of you by stinking you. Your leader is indeed the kind of person who speaks ill of everyone and so on.

It is necessary to understand the reason why the leader gives you small shoes, so as to find a breakthrough to solve the problem. If the reason is found, then find the leader to solve the problem, but you can't openly fight with the leader. ‍‍

As the saying goes: the body is not afraid of crooked shadows, and the feet must be correct and steady. If you act rightly in the workplace, walk straight, complete your work well, and make fewer mistakes, such an employee, the boss just wants to retaliate against you, and he can't find an excuse to start; I am also worried that I will wear "small shoes" for you, which will not be able to block the mouths of the people, and the people's hearts will be discouraged.

And in this way, the real "Bole" can see your ability and appreciate you and promote you. ‍‍

If your leader is a man, ask him out for a drink, remember, after a man drinks, all the words can be spoken, as long as the words in his heart are spoken, the problem is basically solved. In this way, you become very good friends. If your leader is a woman, you buy some good cosmetics for her, and remember to be strategic in giving them to her.

And then praise her for being beautiful, and she is a lot of men and women, etc. Praise people should be natural, just don't make others feel disgusting. ‍‍

In fact, people inevitably have emotions and make mistakes, and no one can always know and act together. Don't be your boss or colleagues to always think about your emotions and development, be tolerant and allow him to make mistakes. Regardless of whether your boss or co-worker is targeting you, accept accusations or denigration against you.

Measured in the heart, some will generously admit and change it, and if not, it will be reluctantly sounded as a wake-up call. Not having a direct conflict with your boss can reduce the other party's hostility towards you, and make the other person feel that you are showing weakness. ‍‍

After all, workplace relationships are eventful and win-win cooperation, and if you want to stay in the company, you must learn to maintain a good relationship with your boss. First obediently take the "little shoes" and put them on, find an opportunity to take the initiative to communicate with the boss, resolve the conflict and express sincerity, obtain the understanding and support of the boss, and turn the conflict into a jade silk. Let the people who watch the joke have nothing to say!

If what you did is not wrong, talk to the leader and listen to the leader's ideas, use communication to solve the problem, and leave if there is no way to solve it.

Endure him and let him, practice basic skills hard, and do his job well.

If the leader is too much, then slap the table and scold him, it's a big deal to leave.

Communicate first, if the communication is fruitless, you will leave if you have no way, and you will not be able to work well if your work is unpleasant.

If there are conditions, if you can stay away from such a leader, stay away, or even leave this company.

Resign. Because the leader often gives you small shoes, then it is very difficult for you to work, and it will be very tiring, so you should quit.

You can find a time to communicate well with your leader, because the leader's practice is very affecting yourself, and if the communication is not fruitful, you can choose to leave.

If this happens, you can change positions internally, but if you still can't solve the situation, you should choose to leave.

There may be some misunderstanding in wearing small shoes, or it is possible that you are better than her in some aspects, you can recall whether there is a misunderstanding, if not, it may be that you have surpassed him in some aspects, and your excellence has reached his status, so he will wear small shoes for you. If he can't tolerate your excellence, you'd better apply for a transfer or another department. Is it your personal misunderstanding or did you do something.

So first of all, you need to have a one-on-one interview with the leader, and then make a decision after communication. If you misunderstand or you have done something wrong, review it yourself, if the leader is the kind of person who deliberately wants to erase you and exclude you, then you have to seek justice and have a showdown with the leader.

If the leader is reckless, you have two choices: go or go. Of course, you can't go in vain, report to your superiors, and if not, expose him and expose what he has done.

It is possible that this inferior leadership will be dismounted. The leader just gave you small shoes to wear, which means that the problem is still not too serious. If the problem is already serious, the leader will definitely take more severe measures to crack down on and punish you.

You should immediately communicate with the leader in private, if you feel that you have really done inappropriate, too much, sincerely apologize to the leader, get his forgiveness, and say that you have insufficient experience in handling things, not intentionally. In the workplace, it must be clear that to confront the leader is to destroy the interests and future of the workplace.

Whether the industry or type of work you are engaged in is really suitable for people with obvious integrity and fortitude. For example, if you have a public relations position, it is difficult for someone who is too upright and resolute to do it, but you can't say that there is no need for a public relations position. Each position requires people with different personality traits.

I believe you understand that integrity and fortitude are a high quality in life, but they may lead to high friction and low efficiency in doing things. If you are in a position that does not suit your personality, then decisively change careers. You know, it's hard to change your personality.

In such a situation, I think you should choose to leave, because such a leader will affect your career development, so you should choose to leave.

You should choose to leave this company, which means that your boss does not particularly like you and has not developed much in this company.

In such a situation, I think you should find a leader to theorize, and at the same time, you should also tell the other party what you really think, and you also need to do your own job well, and don't let the other party find faults.

As a subordinate, it is common for a subordinate to encounter a leader who wears small shoes for himself, and there are three basic channels to solve the problem: one is to know the truth; the second is self-reflection; The third is to take the initiative.

Learn the truth. In the factory, I am always angry with the leaders, and I often wear small shoes for myself, the truth is that your emotional intelligence is not high enough; If you want to quit your job but are worried that it will be difficult to find a job, the truth is that your ability and quality are not strong enough. And to be able to see these, the premise is that you must have the ability to "remove the false and retain the true".

The leader is always aimed at himself, and he also wears small shoes, which means that the leader must have an opinion on himself, and behind the opinion, he must not have dealt with it well in a certain link, whether it is a sentence, a thing or a work cooperation, etc., or it is purely that the leader has a personal problem, the probability of this situation is extremely low, but this is the premise of solving the problem.

If your skill level becomes irreplaceable, then not to mention that your salary is irreplaceable, and it is not that you are looking for a job but a job is looking for you.

Reflect on yourself. There is a result, and there must be a cause. There is no doubt about that. Therefore, when you feel that many things are aimed at you, you must think more about whether you have done something wrong, and in fact, it is true.

For example, two things that I have personally experienced. One is about dealing with the relationship with the leader. It was an office director some time ago, when there was a white affair at home, he notified the other people in the office, and on the day of the white affair, all but one employee in the office did not participate.

After that, in less than a week, I could clearly feel that the office director raised his eyebrows and eyes at the employees who did not participate, saying that the basic business skills were too poor, and saying that the work was not active and proactive.

The other is about finding a job after quitting your job. There was a lathe operator in a workshop of the company, because of the problem of repaying the mortgage at home, feeling that the hand salary was low, so he applied to the company not to pay insurance-related matters, and after being rejected, he left decisively, and did not work out of a week, he started his old business in another machinery manufacturing industry, because the lathe operation technology is excellent, he has just joined the business backbone, and he has twice the salary than before, not only is it not a problem to repay the mortgage, but there is a balance every month.

From this, it can be seen that there is no flame mountain that cannot be crossed, the key is how the "banana fan" in your hand is.

Initiative. Whether you are wearing small shoes or worrying that it is difficult to find a job, the key is to take action, solve it, and sit and talk, it is likely to stay in the stage of entanglement and complaining.

Leaders wear small shoes for employees, and as employees, they should communicate with leaders in a timely manner to resolve misunderstandings and conflicts between the two sides through communication. In this way, the leader's dissatisfaction with himself can be fundamentally resolved.

01 Start from the overall situation and obey the arrangement.

In the workplace, when you find yourself wearing small shoes by the leader, your mood will be relatively low and a little negative, but as subordinates, we can't be impulsive, and some people will choose to resign impulsively, which is not the most rational approach.

You must know that the bell must be tied to the bell, and solving the problem is the most important.

Starting from the overall situation, do not do against the leader, obey the leader's arrangement, and support and cooperate with the leader's work, which is also part of our work.

Therefore, when dealing with this situation, you must first have a big picture, obey the leader's arrangement, and don't openly confront, which will only make the leader more bored with you.

For example, the leader wears small shoes for you, and deliberately embarrasses you when arranging work in a meeting, knowing that your ability is limited and there is no way to complete the work, but still arranges for you to do it.

If you directly and openly confront the leader at this time and refute the leader, it will only make the leader more bored with you, think that you are ignorant, and refute the leader's face, and then he will target you more unscrupulously.

02 Be calm and rational and look for the reason.

When being led to suddenly wear small shoes, no matter what the mood is, calm yourself down, stay sane, nothing happens for no reason, find the reason first.

Think about your performance in the recent period of time first, see if the reason is on yourself, and whether it is when you accidentally did something wrong or said the wrong thing and offended the leader.

For example, when you have a meeting, do you steal the limelight from the leader and make the leader very embarrassed, or you say something wrong, find the cause of the problem, so that you can prescribe the right medicine and solve the problem fundamentally.

03Prescribe the right medicine to solve the problem.

Find the reason why the leader gives you small shoes, prescribe the right medicine, solve the problem, find a way to make up for the situation of Weipi, and regain the favorability of the leader. In the first case, the leader is the typical villain. When you encounter such a villain leader, you will be against you everywhere, in fact, if you look closely, you will find that it is not for you alone, but for many people.

So in this case, if you can't leave directly or change the leader, you have to work with colleagues to deal with it, one person's ability is limited, everyone should deal with it together, the leader will think about the overall situation, and will no longer deliberately embarrass everyone.

In the second case, because you are too public, you deliberately suppress you. Some people have strong work ability, or are more flamboyant in their work, although the leader will value those who are strong in work, but they will also suppress those who are too flamboyant.

Be a low-key person, do things in a high-profile manner, when you are too public, steal the limelight of the leader, the leader will naturally suppress you, know the reason, change your work style, you will naturally be able to regain the trust of the leader, avoid being targeted by the leader.

In the workplace, be cautious in words and deeds, maintain respect for the leader, safeguard the interests of the leader, actively cooperate with the leader's work, and believe that the leader will value you very much.

People with high emotional intelligence know how to hide their edges, keep a low profile, work hard secretly, and grasp every opportunity for promotion and salary increase.