I can t chat, what if I can t chat?

First of all, I think you are a little unconfident, it's okay to be bold, contact more with friends, don't be afraid, after a long time, you will naturally like to chat with others, then you will find that chatting with friends is a very happy thing, don't be afraid of the cold field, in daily life, there are many times when you will be cold and don't care too much, because the cold field is not caused by you alone, right! And it's not that you're cold-blooded, it's just that you haven't met someone you really want to love, and when you meet in the future, you will resonate with others! I will also be able to measure the mood of others at that time!

The environment determines the character, go outside to deal with others, and meet more friends.

It's also a type of person, nothing.

If you can find a job with a lot of people, it's good to take the initiative.

No, just don't talk about it, do whatever you want, is someone forcing it?

It's very casual to chat, you can talk if you want to, stay if you don't want to talk, and it's not an interview.

You're a bit of an introvert, but it doesn't matter, read more books, humorous stories, etc., and you won't be cold when chatting with friends.

This is nothing, this should be a personal personality problem, and you have been refined at the same time as others have coldly treated you, hehe, it's okay after a long time.

Don't take not being able to chat as a trivial matter. Not being able to speak is a big problem for professionals, not only affecting promotions, but also affecting getting along with colleagues, so how can you learn to speak?

1. Slow down your speech. When you speak, it's better to speak slower than to be unproductive, try to let the other person understand what you are going to say, don't rush to say it all at once, speak slowly.

2. Don't try to express too much at once. The communication between people is one sentence from you and one sentence from me, and if you say too much at once, the other party can't accept it.

3. Talk to prudent people. When you can't speak, then communicate with others more, when you go grocery shopping, you can talk to the aunt who sells vegetables, when you go to dinner, talk to the boss, try to give yourself the opportunity to speak, and you can talk to anyone, and you will find that it is not so difficult to talk too much.

4. Listen to others. There must be that kind of person among your friends who can speak very well, you can pay more attention to how he talks to others, you don't have to learn all of them, only learn what is useful to you, some people may be more humorous, that one is more difficult to learn, you can learn how he talks to others with bad words, this kind of person is generally more active, can mobilize the atmosphere, and is easy to get along with people.

5. Don't be afraid. I can't speak, there is a very important reason, that is, I am worried that the other party does not like to listen to what I say, or I will be ridiculed if I say that I am wrong, this is a manifestation of no self-confidence, it is not terrible to make mistakes, but it is terrible to make mistakes and not know how to change, and life is a process of continuous progress and growth.

6. Have a good mentality. Speaking is a small thing in life, don't take it too seriously, don't be too entangled, relax, change normally, just learn, the more tangled you are, the more bad it is, it's better to relax. It may be that you are in a hurry to communicate with friends, it may be that you do bad things with good intentions, or it may be that you are not very expressive and you can't really make small talk with others.

Small talk is also a great way to communicate with others. It doesn't matter, learn some chat skills, as long as you really respect others and communicate with others with a good attitude, learning to chat is also very simple.

I always thought I was not very expressive, so I rarely spoke.

Every time I have a meeting or party, I am the silent majority, and as long as I am not clicked on, I usually don't take the initiative to express anything. I'm like a speck of dust in the air, even if I see it, it doesn't make a difference.

When I was looking for a job, I read a lot of strategies in order to be able to gain the favor of others. I think it's really hard for me to say that you can't say nothing and have to be at a good pace during a group discussion. In every interview, I was embarrassed.

If I were the boss, I wouldn't want such an employee. But thankfully, I still found my current job, even though I really don't like the boss.

This week, I was fortunate enough to study the book "Say Important Things Three Times", as well as the communication method explained by Dean Wang in the class leader recruitment group, and I realized that, oh, it turns out that I am really the person who is very good at chatting and not communicating.

What is the reason for this?

First of all, I self-examine, I am a person who is easily controlled by emotions. There is a knife mouth, and it is easy to hurt people when speaking. In retrospect, it was really because I didn't control my emotions very well.

This is one thing that requires me to keep cultivating. I learned a lot in the emotion class last week, and the next thing is to feel and practice.

Another important point is that I am too self-centered, and I don't see from the perspective of the other person a lot of time. Dean Wang shared that communication is a two-way street, and if both parties clearly express their ideas and discuss a certain matter calmly, it may be much easier to solve the matter.

The last point is that I haven't learned the skill of listening. Listening to others is not just listening, but also interpreting with your heart. In the process of listening, to understand the real needs of the other person.

Often many times, without listening carefully, they are pulled astray by bad moods, and then they never look back.

Looking back on this week's study, I feel that there are still a lot of things to understand and learn on the road of life, and I also hope that I can gradually grow up with my hard work.

Summary. Here's how I see this issue: First, I don't think it's a bad thing in a sense.

There are a lot of things that are more interesting than chatting in the study, and you can fully immerse yourself in the book. Learn what you want to learn. Second, learning can enrich oneself and improve one's ability, which invisibly adds points to oneself and improves one's competitiveness.

Third, not being able to chat may affect your social interactions, and it may be that you haven't met people with similar interests to you, so you can't talk together, but this is not a problem, and your own happiness is the most important thing.

Here's how I see this Dan Peibi issue: First, I don't think it's a bad thing in a sense. There are a lot of things that are more interesting than chatting in the study, and you can fully immerse yourself in the book.

Learn what you want to learn. Second, learning can enrich oneself and improve one's ability, which invisibly adds points to oneself and improves one's competitiveness. Third, not being able to chat may affect your social networking, and it may be that you haven't met people with similar interests to you, so you haven't been able to talk together, but this is not a problem, and the most important thing is to be happy.

Chatting doesn't need to be too flowery, it's ** life, love yourself, love life, there will be a lot of topics!