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Summary. Thank you!
How to gradually distance yourself from a classmate girl and not offend her in the situation.
Thank you! In fact, it was only three or four years to be a classmate. Acquaintance is fate.
What about this, arrange the time by yourself and stagger it with her itinerary. For example, she said: What are you going to do together for a while, you can go back to be embarrassed, what are I going to do in a while, so I can't accompany you, you can find someone else.
When she asks you to go with her after school, you can say, you go first, I'm a little lazy today.
Slowly, for a long time, she won't call you, because she knows that your plans are staggered, and she will go to someone else to join her.
You can also talk less, talk as a last resort, and at other times, bring headphones and listen to **. In this case, even if you hear it, you can pretend to it.
Or show that they are unhappy, and people don't like to be around people with negative energy, because they may not be comforted and they don't want to.
May life be happy.
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1. Respect each other and learn to be tolerant.
Everyone has their own personality, hobbies, and characteristics, so we should understand the needs of our classmates as much as possible, respect the interests and hobbies of others, recognize the differences between our classmates and ourselves, and do not easily belittle some characteristics of our classmates, let alone point fingers at the way your classmates dress and judge them.
Strengthen communication and get rid of loneliness.
Adolescent boys and girls have limited cultural knowledge and life experience, and their interpersonal skills are not yet mature, and sometimes they cannot grasp the relationship with their classmates. Therefore, students should strengthen communication with each other, talk to each other often, fully express their thoughts, and let students understand each other's personalities and characteristics. Establish a good image in each other's minds.
Always remember that it is only reasonable for someone to ask for forgiveness for their mistakes to treat others in the same way.
In order to maintain a good psychological state, we must first be calm, change "hot treatment" to "cold treatment", and always remember to "curb conflicts". You must know that blaming the other person and retaliating for a tooth is a harmful and foolish act. Psychological research shows that when people's emotions reach a certain level, they will be "vented", and after venting, they will be in a relatively balanced state.
Therefore, if someone provokes or attacks you for something, you must be calm and calm, let the other party vent their impulsive feelings, and when he is impulsive, you will find a way to deal with it before it is too late, and it is often more advantageous to "strike later".
How to deal with classmates.
Secondly, patience, waiting, waiting for the opportunity to persuade, patience does not mean that we give up our principles, give up the right and responsibility to solve problems, nor do we want to fear and avoid conflicts, but we need to control our emotions with a good attitude and choose the best way to deal with problems. For misunderstandings that are difficult to clarify for the time being, you can speak up and explain the reason. If the other person refuses to accept it, you need to be patient, wait, and let the facts speak for themselves.
When the time comes, many misconceptions are often self-evident.
The last point is the most important, that is, when you hurt others, you must be brave, take the initiative to admit your mistakes, make amends in time, and correct your own mistakes.
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When a person lives in a warm collective environment and is in harmony with the people around him, he will have a sense of security, maintain emotional calm and stability, and be able to do things efficiently. Otherwise, you will feel lonely and depressed, depressed, irritable, and inefficient. As a middle school student, the main object of communication is classmates, if you can't handle the relationship with your classmates, it will cause a lot of unnecessary troubles, which will affect both learning and mood.
Therefore, good interpersonal relationships are an important condition for middle school students to learn happily and grow healthily, and it is also the foundation for further development in the future. So, how do middle school students build good interpersonal relationships with their classmates in this particular environment of school?
1. Equality and moderation, and honesty with each other.
Gao Chen is an enthusiastic and cheerful student who serves as a member of the entertainment committee in the class. She is bold and spicy, and often brings many fresh snacks from home to share with her classmates. But Gao Chen didn't think he had any like-minded friends.
Many people say that she is too enthusiastic, people can't stand it, and she has to accompany her to everything, which is too clingy. One of her best friends said that she was hypocritical, utilitarian and purposeful. Several times, due to the non-cooperation of Beishen students, the work of the organization could hardly be carried out.
Gao Chen couldn't figure it out, why he had fewer and fewer friends when he paid so much.
Good fences make good neighbors. Good relationships rely on being honest and honest with each other, not about sweet words or heavy gifts. Gao Chen's help to his classmates is conditional, and he wants his classmates to be inseparable from him and support his work.
Classmates think it's uncomfortable to be with her, it's not free, and it feels too clingy. Normal, healthy, and coordinated friendship means that every person should treat others sincerely and kindly, and give each other what they can when they need it.
The most important thing in people-to-people interactions is sincerity and goodwill, which is also the fundamental principle of life. Duplicity, hypocrisy and arrogance are difficult to have friends, making people think that there are too many scheming. Unbalanced friendships don't last long.
For example, if your friend gives a little for you, and you always give a lot in return, it will make him feel unable to reciprocate or have no opportunity to reciprocate, and after a long time, he will be enveloped by a sense of guilt, causing an invisible pressure, which will cause your friend to choose to be cold or distant. At the same time, students should also realize that good interpersonal relationship is the exchange of ideas and understanding between the two parties and the care and help in life and study, rather than the form of inseparability and intimacy.
2. Accept yourself and take the initiative to socialize.
After Wang Ning came to the urban school from the countryside, he lost his original advantage in learning, and he was not able to get the attention of teachers as before. He felt that when he spoke, someone was always laughing at him, and he didn't want to ask questions in class. In the dormitory, the schedule was out of place for others, and he was used to going to bed early and waking up early in the countryside.
But his roommates like to lie under the covers at night and talk about some trendy topics, and he is very annoyed and can't interject. In the morning, he got up to wash, and he always made some noise, which affected everyone's rest, and his roommates were full of complaints.
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Learning to get along and cooperate with people you don't like is the basic "scheming" in dealing with interpersonal relationships. One of the characteristics of human nature is to be close to those you like and appreciate, and you don't want to get along with those you don't like or appreciate. However, real life is cruel, there is not so much arbitrariness, for various reasons, we often have to deal with people we don't like, or even people who are hostile to us, which requires some skills, one of the most important of which is to treat everyone with sincerity, including those you don't like.
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How to deal with the relationship between good people and jujubes, remember these eight words is enough, Yeqing really benefits for life!
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Friend, after carefully reading the long questions you wrote, I know that you have been isolated by some of your classmates and have fallen into a difficult situation. There are many reasons for this. I have a few observations as follows:
1. You are a shrewd and meticulous person, in fact, it is better to be confused about some things in life. Half deaf, half dumb, half confused, half wise, half foolish, half sage! Half of life is in me, and the other half is in nature!
Second, being a man is full of principles, and people without a principled position can never stand up to their waists, and they can't find friends who know each other in the world;
Third, we must grasp a yardstick in life, not only adhere to the necessary principles, but also be confused. How to grasp this scale has deduced thousands of successful examples of life;
Fourth, schools, especially high schools and universities, are condensed and intertwined with various social contradictions. Conscientiously handling these contradictions and leveling interpersonal relations will undoubtedly be of great help to enter the society in the future;
Fifth, these classmates of yours are not lacking in loveliness, in the interaction with them, grasp your own principles, enhance friendship and strengthen understanding, you will gradually adapt to the current society. You should not avoid them or even abandon them, as long as you do not avoid them, they will not avoid and abandon you after all.
Friend, when a mature person looks back on the past, he will find that on that vast road, there is no encounter that can be omitted, and no mood can be surpassed. The course of life is like a chain that is intertwined, you can see clearly and clearly, and you must go through the road you are willing to take or the road you don't want to take. Many of these realizations can only be attained at a certain stage.
I believe that you will gain many warnings on this path of life, so that you will radiate your charm of life to your surroundings.
Friend, when I was your age, there were many friends of the same year and old friends, including my classmates, teachers, elders, and professors, who erected one monument after another in my heart. When I feel confused and lost in the path of life, these monuments are one of the sources of my strength and wisdom. It can be said that a person's success or failure is inseparable from whether he can handle interpersonal relationships correctly, especially whether he can level out with the people around him day and night, and what kind of friends he has made.
It would be my honor if I could get your approval for these superficial views. Thank you.
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I really sympathize with you, I've been in this situation too. In the past, there were two girls in our class who quarreled, and the good popularity pulled a small gang to isolate the popular one, and then slowly developed into the whole class, the popular girl was actually quite simple, and when she cried and went to the office after the quarrel, the scene where most of the people in the class laughed is still fresh in my memory. Later, for a long time, everyone ignored her very much, and privately took pleasure in slandering, I didn't hate her, but I had a better relationship with the girl she quarreled with, and I could only echo her bad words when she said her.
Having said all this, I want to tell the landlord that the people who isolate you don't mean that they all hate you, most of them are for self-preservation, and you can only rely on yourself to break this situation.
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Sure enough, it's a high school girl.,It's just some jealous things.。 You're beautiful and people like you, it's not your fault, you just go on with your high school life the normal way. As far as high school boys are concerned, liking beautiful girls is not necessarily because they like girls, but because they just want to use their appearance to show off to others.
Coupled with your introverted personality, it is easy for people to misunderstand that you are cold, and it is not surprising that you are excluded by others. In fact, if it is really just jealousy, this contradiction is almost unsolvable for girls. So it's not that they're hard to discuss, it's that there's no room for negotiation.
There wouldn't be so much to do with us boys...
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It's not that complicated, in a word: envy, jealousy, hate! Because you're beautiful, because boys like you, especially two boys who like girls, they like you, and it touches their self-esteem, so it's just revenge on you.
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High school is needed to have a friend who is to be a friend if they are really and excessive, you become friends and other people are funny and others end up winning the only person behind them to despise them in life, because, only to see the good of others win respect for people, always have to rely on sarcasm and elevate themselves, only they are not confident and guilty of sex. Time will make them regret it, I hope you have the same time, facing the sun, through the mist!
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I probably know the reason why A hates you. It's because you quarrel with her boyfriend that she's jealous, so she will ridicule you. You're also at fault, your friend's boyfriend has to keep a little distance, and you have to be measured when you joke, if other girls are you, they will hate you.
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If you are in a relationship, you have to make others feel that you are a good person, an honest person, and be generous, and when the relationship is good, you can make it a little bad Hehe, men are not bad, women are not loved, so it seems that the relationship is faster.
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It is very important for middle school students to manage their classmates well for learning and growth, and you can refer to the book "Education Monograph" on the whole process of upgrading in high school.
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Don't care about those rotten people, be strong in your heart, don't fall in love, as long as you study hard and have good grades, you will be admitted to a good university in three years, and you will stay away from those rotten people.
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If high school students keep sarcastically mocking you, it means that they all like you.
In high school, beating is kissing and scolding is love, if there is always a person of the opposite sex who can't get along with you, it means that she is interesting to you!
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The 29th episode enjoys the blessing of the people, the deep prayer for the blessing, the infatuation of the woman's love is re-healed, and the 30th episode Baochai borrows the fan machine with a double knock Chunling is infatuated and outsider.
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Learn about their habits! Communicate with them generously! No matter what she says! You just say mine. Just like you! Get to know them from the exchange! You can also send them some food! When you do something wrong, take the initiative to apologize! (Important).
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That's because they think you're better than them, they're jealous of you, don't pay attention, study hard, and when you get admitted to a good university, they will come and take the initiative to slap you.
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