What to do if you fall in love with a woman who is 20 years older than you

Updated on psychology 2024-02-08
12 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    If it's true love, I'm really envious of you, my lover is also 20 years older than me, she looks very young, we love each other very much, we can sacrifice everything for each other, her husband was very bad to her at the beginning, so she had a relationship with me, and then when she wanted to divorce, her husband didn't let go. They really don't have any feelings at all, because her husband is not in good health and sick, and he smokes and drinks regardless of his body when he leaves her. She couldn't bear to see him die, and in the end she chose to be with him, and we could only break off, but I can't tolerate a second woman in my heart, I will wait for her, but the torment of this kind of day is only I can experience, thinking about it will cry, I have cried except for my mother's death, I have rarely cried, for her I have cried more than once, a pain that no one knows, only I am silently painful, you say I can find another one, it is impossible, she let me find love, true love, I think true love can't be repeated, and what I care about most is whether I can be with her after 10 years, if 10 years later, her husband's illness is cured, I will leave this world quietly, either to be a monk or to the real Western Elysium, in this world, too much helplessness, I met her I thought everything was raining and clear, but I didn't expect it to be warm and cold.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    It's better not to be together. If there is a large age gap, it is easy to quarrel, and even if you are together, you will not be happy. And you should also think about her, she has a child, do you want to have a single parent child in order to fulfill yourself.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It's almost time to be your mother, don't go crazy. It's better to be realistic. But if you can convince your parents, go ahead.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    Is 20 years older? Personally, I don't think it's likely to be together in the future, because I don't think your parents will agree either. Alas.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    It is not normal for a guy to like a woman who is 20 years older than him. Because most men are looking for a romantic partner, they will find a person of the same age as themselves to be with, and women who are more than 20 years older than men may give men a different feeling. As a result, men will treat older women as their mothers, especially some men will have a mother-love complex, and they will transform their emotions into love.

    I think I like each other very much in my heart, but if I really get along with an older woman, I will find that the age difference between each other is very large, and the three views are different. <>

    I think that the difference between men and women in love should not exceed 5 years old, and once they are more than 5 years old, they can feel that they are able to communicate with each other, and it is easy to have obstacles. As the saying goes, when men and women are three years old, the age difference of three years old will be easy to create estrangement when they communicate with each other. What's more, the age difference between the two people is 20 years, because the age difference is too big, men will always treat women as their mothers, and they rely on each other for everything.

    When a man likes a woman, he should also properly understand whether the woman is married or not, and if the woman has a history of marriage. Then it is absolutely impossible to easily believe in men's nonsense, because a woman who has experienced a marriage will not seem so willful in her relationship. As a result, they want to clean up themselves and dress themselves up more beautifully, in order to be able to live their own lives, and they are unwilling to pin everything on men.

    But if a man really can't control his emotions and wants to pursue a woman who is older than himself, he can also ask how women feel about men. If the man is more handsome, it will also attract the attention of older women, in order to find a good-looking man to admire.

  6. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    There is nothing abnormal about this, but the age difference of 20 years is still very large, and you must figure out what the reason for liking it is, if you treat her as a mother, it is not appropriate.

  7. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    This is a very normal thing, love is a very illusory thing, and there is no qualitative character, it comes according to one's own heart.

  8. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    In the relationship, you can transcend the age boundary, if you like a woman who is many years older than yourself, it is your own approval, you should treat others well, don't care too much about the world's gaze.

  9. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    Although people often say that love can cross time and space and age, but under normal circumstances, people always look for someone who is about the same age as themselves, if the age gap is too large, not only there is a generation gap in thought.

    It will also make others look a little weird, if I fall in love with a woman who is 20 years older than me, and the family is very opposed, what should I do?

    1. You should find out whether the other person loves you or not, and then decide what to do.

    I believe that for most parents, they don't want their son to find a person who is more than 20 years older than themselves to marry, because, in this way, their daughter-in-law may be about the same age as themselves, which always gives people a very embarrassing feeling, and it often attracts criticism from others in real life. Therefore, this kind of thing must first be figured out, whether the other party really loves himself, whether he really loves the other party, only after understanding this, can you make a better decision.

    Second, love that is not blessed by family is not easy to last, so you should break up with her.

    Marriage is not only a matter of two people, but also the union of two families, if the marriage of two people does not get the blessing of the family, then, in the future married life.

    often feel lonely, and it is also easy for feelings to crack. Therefore, before getting married, you must find a way to get the support of your parents. If the parents are resolutely opposed, they should still re-examine whether they really want to marry each other.

    3. If you are sure that this love is true love, then you should insist on it.

    Of course, the power of love is also immeasurable, and it is not that the age gap between two people is relatively large, so it must not be suitable for marriage, because there has indeed been such a year-old friendship in real life.

    If you are really sure that this is a true love, then you should insist on it, let this true love impress your parents, and I believe that they will eventually support this marriage.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    I think you can break up with him, because a marriage without the blessing of your parents will not be very happy at all.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    You should listen to the advice of your family, after all, the age gap between the two of you is relatively large, and there may be a lot of life conflicts in the future.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    You should break up, because such an age gap will cause a lot of problems in your feelings, and you will not be happy.

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