I had another argument with my roommate, and I felt that I had a very annoying personality

You have written so much, I know that your heart is lonely, this belongs to a process of growth, everyone will have such an experience, in addition to learning the knowledge of the profession in college, but also to learn a very important skill, communicate with others, how to communicate well, is the real ** you are experiencing now, not your character, but you have not thought about how to communicate from primary school to university, it will be more decent, and it will not make people ambiguous. In fact, what you said is really nothing, that is, the communication is not done well, and if you can't say it, you can't talk about it, so you talk nonsense about things that shouldn't be said, which makes others uncomfortable! That's all, don't care!

It's not your problem, it's a problem that today's children have. As a person who has come from the past, I just want to tell you to stop and think about some questions when you are young, such as how to communicate with others, how to think from the other person's point of view, and remind yourself from time to time that it is reasonable to say this. Is it acceptable to others?

I think you'll be more progressive. Don't blame yourself! It's not a big deal, it's just some experience necessary for the process of growing up!

And this thing needs to be figured out, it needs to be experienced! Of course, in addition to communication, you also have to learn to be generous, learn to have principles, in the principle of things, you can not care too much, but if you violate your principles, you must resolutely fight back, it is difficult to be a person, the bigger you will feel more difficult. Let's take your time!

Hopefully, your university will be the most memorable and wonderful period of your life!

Our personality is almost the same, is not around the friends are not many, every friend who contacts you will be very good with you when you first know you, but will slowly alienate you, in fact, this is not a problem between roommates, is a way to deal with people, and the problem of receiving people, first of all, you should ask yourself, whether you really treat everyone around you, if you are sincere to everyone, then you don't have to worry, people and things in society are very complicated, firmly believe in their own way of doing things, in a specific environment, Unconsciously, you will change, or you will be more adaptable to the collective, and don't care too much about the friction of the people around you, there will inevitably be friction between people, if it is your own mistake, just have the courage to admit it, I just belong to the kind of person who is embarrassed to say it even if he knows that he is wrong, and would rather compensate with action, even in the face of his parents, he has more self-esteem, or he loves face more I don't know if you are like this, and everyone has their own personality, and they have lost their own personality so"You"Not anymore"You"yes, isn't it, So you don't have to deliberately change your personality or anything, just make sure that you are sincere to everyone around you, I am now working, slowly, I will change my personality and temper, society will really make people change, But the essence of human beings will not change, that is, the starting point of your heart will never change, Society is the best school to change a person, will let you learn how to behave in a way, we all belong to the more depressed people, the surface is more cheerful, But people who are more empty in their hearts, or who care more about other people's opinions, I don't know if you are like this, try to do more group activities, communicate with others, and express yourself, you will find that you will be more cheerful, and will not care too much about those so-called self-esteem, I hope I can help you, a friend with the same personality as me, hehe,

There were five people in our dormitory, and we got along okay. Actually, I was worried that I wouldn't get along well with them at first. But now a year has passed, and everyone is getting along quite well.

I remember when I first entered the school, my brother who took us told us that she felt that living in the same dormitory was fate, and many people living in the same dormitory were very similar in many places. At the time, it sounded quite suspenseful, but I also took her words to heart, and I really found that we are very similar in some places, although later I also found out that even if I share the dormitory with other classmates, there will be similarities, but I learned to cherish fate and get along well.

Later, I found out that there are still many differences between them, personalities, hobbies, and living habits, but I often feel fortunate that I can be in the same dormitory as them, because we can tolerate each other, which is a good point, and I have learned a lot from them.

You said a few things about your roommate's badness, in fact, if you find it carefully, she must also have advantages, think about her good when you are unhappy, and you will find that little thing is nothing. There are some places in her that you can't get used to, in fact, as long as it doesn't affect you, it's okay, after all, everyone has their own way of doing things, and they don't want to be interfered with too much. Of course, I also think it's bad to use other people's things casually, but judging from your description - she loves to learn, often uses your things but doesn't like to tell you, stingy, could it be that her family conditions are not good, maybe because of her strong self-esteem, she will be like that, you might as well pay attention, if so, you should be generous, I think you should also be a very cute person ("What about me?

Sometimes it's a little stingy, "Isn't the person who can say that cute, hehe), I believe she will be grateful to you for this, and you will gradually get along.

In addition, I also have a suggestion, use the time after the lights out to take the initiative to talk to her a few words - "lie down", talk about topics that are of interest to each other, talk about the recent things that have happened in school, (I don't know if you are in the same major, if so, there are more common topics, if not, you can also use the excuse to ask her about her professional problems) I believe she will also be happy to talk to you, because she is also the only roommate of you, and she is also very miserable to live together every day. And no one can see anyone when the lights are out, let go of face, it's easy to tell the truth, get up the next day, smile at her and say goodbye early, I believe your contradictions will be slowly resolved.

In short, adjust your mentality, getting together is fate, cherishing fate is blessing. I wish you and your roommate a speedy resolution of the conflict and become good friends!

Everyone has things that they are not used to, but you need to have a certain amount of stamina, don't say it in front of others, otherwise it will be annoying.

According to the situation, your character is:"Paper can't hold the fire"And the stingy type, it is also because of the only child that you have created a strong desire for exclusivity and unreasonable character.

I grew up in a greenhouse!

As you said, your personality is unbearable and not easy to integrate into society, the most important thing is to communicate with the people around you often, if you feel shy, then it is best to communicate with others in the network first, practice more, read more about the temperament of others, etc.

If you feel that you are wrong, you should first sort out which step you have taken wrong, **revise, **start again.

In fact, it's not difficult, you already know that you're doing it wrong, as long as you know how to implement it, it's good.

As long as you have that heart, you will be able to achieve that goal.

Scolding is a habit and it's not good, but you don't want him to be good, at least you won't be depressed because you're in a bad mood, you can see that you're a cheerful person. I want to communicate with others, but I can't control the scale. People are mutual, I would rather people bear me, I want me to bear others.

Don't be too ruthless in doing things. Don't make up for the past until you have to, everyone has things that others are not used to, let the past pass.

First of all, you wrote this self-aware article, I took it, because it was very similar to me, but I used to want to write it, and I didn't bother to write it, lazy, hehe.

This is the experience I have summarized is that it would be good if you were dumb Remember that if you say too much, you will lose So say less Unwilling to deny Others are not good at forcing you Know that you are not selfish But here, it's not to teach you to be selfish, it's that you don't care about other people's affairs except for helping, you can't get in the way of yourself, as for the one you said A sentence or two that others inadvertently say will touch your nerves, so you can be depressed for a day It's that you're too sensitive Of course, there's me Hehe... As long as you care about the little you can be at ease...

Also, keep your "Book of Reflections".

Khan is a little bit like me, ah, I'm also a little distressed, I've been working hard to change myself, but people can't be liked by everyone, so you control your temper more on weekdays, don't be too careful.

You're the one who destroys the harmony,,, and there's 1 or 2 in every bedroom. Annoying stuff.

In fact, it's also good to fall in love with loneliness.

You're not wrong !

It was they who pulled him by mistake.

Establish prestige.

Apologize with QQ! If it's really your fault, you should apologize!

Go your own way and let others say go!

Likes to pry into other people's privacy.

Some students love to chat, but most of the time they chat is to inquire into other people's privacy. There are some privacy questions that roommates don't want to ask all the time, but they like to keep asking questions.

It's not the roommate who gets it, and it's not the same if you don't tell. The important thing is that the privacy they ask about is not something they just listen to and forget about it, and they like to talk about it everywhere. This kind of behavior is really a headache for the roommates.

Being overly enthusiastic about giving ideas to others.

Some of the roommates are very fond of Yinwu Qihuan"Help"Others, others encounter something, they will always put forward their valuable suggestions in time. If roommates don't follow their advice, they will lobby over and over again about how correct their advice is.

Too cold.,Ignore roommates.。

Some students don't know if it's because of their personality or if they're too arrogant, they usually keep a straight face, have little communication with their roommates, and live in their own little world every day. Although it did not affect others, it did not integrate into the small group of the dormitory.

It is normal to stay up late in the university dormitory, but there are some students who always do not wear headphones when they are entertained, and the noisy sound affects others, but they completely ignore it. When others talk about him, he symbolically lowers his voice or argues with others.

Psychoanalysis: Hello. It seems that you are very entangled, on the one hand, you want to tell your roommate your true thoughts and feelings, and you will not have the heart to do anything else if you hold the words in your heart; But on the other hand, you are worried about the reaction of your roommates, afraid that they will reject you because of what you say.

You want to be heard and accepted for who you really are.

Wanting to be seen, understood, and accepted by those around us is a natural expectation, as each of us will need a sense of connection and belonging, and even correlate self-worth with the degree of acceptance. This need has a positive meaning because it makes you willing to connect with others, to care about their feelings and reactions, and to be considerate of others, which are the basis for building relationships.

But if we care too much about what others say, or even equate whether others agree with us with whether we are worthy of love and acceptance, then we may lose ourselves.

No matter how confident and sociable people are, they are unlikely to be recognized and cared for by everyone, and they will meet people who are close to each other and people who are not so compatible. Interpersonal communication is not always easy, but it is possible to learn and grow.

Your interpersonal fears may stem from your family environment, and if you don't feel safe growing up, you're prone to self-doubt – doubts about your deserve the love and acceptance of others. When you are young, you are not yet self-conscious, and you do not have the ability to speak for yourself and make choices. But now that you are an adult, you can tell yourself that the attitudes and evaluations of others do not represent your value as a person, and you can see and define your own value and accept your own needs and feelings.

Talk to your roommates about what you think, it's best if they can understand you, and it's their right if they have a different opinion. It's normal for people to have different perspectives, different needs and boundaries, and you can try to get used to it, or you can choose to keep your distance. But instead of thinking that your whole being is denied and rejected because of someone else's rejection of an idea, you can still find opportunities to connect and cooperate in other areas of your life.