How to get rid of it as soon as possible and heal well?

**The damage to girls is huge, such a man is also a test, since he is unqualified, forget him as soon as possible, cry when he is sad, cry until he doesn't want to cry, you have to be glad that you lost someone who doesn't love you, and what he lost is a person who loves him deeply. He will regret that he will eat the bitter fruit, you have to pity him and feel sorry for him, don't you, how can such a man be happy?? So it's even less worth it for you to pay so much for him, if you have a fetus for him, then just wait for him to compensate you twice in the next life, God is fair.

Forget about him. Such a man is not worthy of your love at all. Time will dilute everything, and now is to make yourself try not to think about him.

If you miss him a lot, you can do something about it, in short, you have to anesthetize yourself and not think about him. Slowly get used to it, and you won't think about it anymore. Remember to take care of yourself.

Big sister I'm still very young, but I'd love to see you keep the kids if you could. Maybe the days ahead will be hard, but when you are sad, your children will not leave you. If you're having trouble, just get rid of it (get him a graveyard) and start a new life.

Find a quiet place.

Regulates mood and body.

Wait until you think you can accept any facts.

When you meet him, you must make everything clear.

Speak your feelings as well.

Also to find out what he thinks.

Be calm.

Ignore him! What do you want him to do with this kind of irresponsible, try to forget about him.

Don't forget a forest for a grass!

Forget about him. This kind of man is not worthy of your love. Get together with friends and parents, friendship and family will help you heal.

Want to be a cow? I don't look back.,Just break up.。。。 FIND YOUR LIFE AGAIN ... That kind of man, tell him to get out...

The heart is calm and naturally cool. . . Begin to learn to treat this relationship with a normal heart, and you will find the true feelings.

You may be able to try to relax yourself, such as in a quiet place; Or start a new relationship!

I once told me that he was dating a girl in their class a month before I graduated from college because of someone I liked, and then I watched them graduate together and leave school together. And I was left alone in this school to continue my life. I was very sad at the time.

However, it soon came out. There are three reasons: 1. I confided in a best friend, threw away all my strong pretenses, and cried willfully, and it didn't matter after crying.

2. Soon after they graduated and left school, after my final exams, I used the vacation for a month to go to the townships and towns of various counties, remembering, the focus is on the townships, so that the scenery along the way is mountains and trees, or people who are busy farming, and endless golden rice fields. At this time, you will find that everyone is busy with life, and there is no reason for you to be depressed and heartbroken all day long. 3. When you are tired of running in various towns and villages, you can return home and rest for a few days, just like that, live as usual and continue to be happy.

Study hard and make progress every day

The secret is to start a new relationship.

The first is to vent your grievances, such as traveling, such as getting drunk with Tiezi once, etc.

Second, after venting, there is a cooling-off period, examine why you are always hurt, **do well, **do not do well enough.

Third, the recovery period is that everything is not a thing from the moment the heart is put down.

Fourth, it is a suitable relationship to prepare for the spring and the new one, and it is the right person at the right time.

In summary, when the judgment continues, it will be disturbed. No matter how good the secret is, you have to let go of the past and face the future!

Life inevitably brings pain. If we can learn to deal with trauma properly, we can not only help ourselves, but also help our friends when they encounter similar problems. Psychologist John Groher, an expert on mental health and human behavior, Piqd** recommended an interview with Groher, who recommended five practical ways to deal with trauma.

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Clause. 1. Have the determination to get rid of the pain. Groherr believes that we need to make a conscious decision to get rid of the pain, otherwise it will be difficult to move on from the pain of the past.

There are two advantages to making the decision to get rid of the pain, one is that it is the equivalent of telling yourself that you have a choice about whether or not you want to get rid of the pain; Another benefit is that it's your own decision, not the result of a passive choice. This means that once a decision is made, it is important to deliver on the promise and work hard to put it into action.

Clause. 2. Express your pain in a healthy way. This is easier to understand, for example, you can talk to friends and family, or go singing or swimming, which are all good ways to vent your emotions.

In addition, emotions not only work when spoken, but also when written, and a good way to do this is to keep a journal, or write a letter without a recipient. The process of writing is a good process of sorting out your thoughts, and in this process, your understanding of pain will become clearer and clearer.

Clause. 3. Focus on the present. Research has found that consciously giving ourselves some cues can make it easier for us to focus on the present moment.

For example, you can say to yourself, "It's okay. That was in the past, and now I'm going to focus on my own happiness and what I'm doing.

Clause. 4. Don't think of yourself as a victim. In times of pain, people tend to see themselves as victims and want to be sympathized and supported by others.

But Grohel argues that this can only exacerbate our feelings of pain. Because portraying yourself as a victim is equivalent to putting the initiative of psychological trauma in the hands of the other party. When you complain and blame, you want the other person to feel guilty, but what if the other person doesn't?

You may be more miserable. So, don't put your hope of getting out of your pain on someone else's attitude, you are the one who controls your emotions.

Clause. 5. Forgive others and forgive yourself. A scientific study found that people who choose to forgive are more likely to forget the details of past hurts because the brain has a physiological mechanism for forgetting painful memories.

Although it is difficult to completely forgive all at once, it is easier to forget those bad memories as long as you choose to forgive. In addition, we have to forgive ourselves. Forgiving oneself does not mean acknowledging the mistakes you have made, but accepting what has happened and accepting your imperfections.

Don't suppress your emotions. Then, you can try the following methods to help you get out:

Take a deep breath and relax. When feeling anxious or depressed, try to take deep breaths to relax your body, which can help calm your emotions.

Find a friend to talk to. Sharing your feelings with a close friend or family member can ease your burden and provide comfort and support.

Focus on your own emotional needs. Paying more attention to your inner emotions and needs, such as rest, relaxation, exercise, good diet and sleep, etc., can help you better cope with negative emotions.

Give yourself some time. Don't expect yourself to be able to come out right away, give yourself some time to get used to and process this emotion, and slowly adjust your mind.

The most important thing is to believe that time can do everything, and believe that you have enough strength to face and overcome these negative emotions.

Each source has a different level of damage and reactions, but there are ways to help you get out of it quickly. First of all, learn to control your emotions and minimize recalling unpleasant things in the past; Secondly, we should adhere to positive energy thinking, and read more meaningful and beneficial books, articles or film and television works to stimulate our hope and positive energy for life; Furthermore, we must learn to treat others with love and rationality instead of anger. Last but not least, it is important to pay more attention to the improvement and growth of your inner strength and ability.

Go on a trip with friends, see beautiful scenery, eat some sweets, read more books that are beneficial to yourself, and improve your self-cultivation.

Happiness is in your own hands, not in someone else's mouth!

It only takes a minute to turn your eyes against someone, but it takes an hour to fall in love with someone, and it takes a lifetime to forget a person. Don't go for the sake of beauty, it may be just an illusion, don't go for the sake of wealth, it will eventually fade and fade. Go to the one who can make you smile, because a smile can light up the darkness.

Hope you can find the one who will shine a light on your life. When the person you miss deeply appears in your dreams, you really want to be able to feel his real embrace. I hope you have someone in your life who can dream of it.

Dream what you want, do what you want to do, go where you want to go, and be who you want to be because you only have one life to fulfill your requirements.

Forget the past and cherish the future.

Life is short, the pursuit of your own happiness is the most important, if you still love him, don't care what others say, first work hard to recover, if you can't recover, then you don't have to be sad, because he has lost more than you, he has lost a person who loves him, and what you have lost is just a person who does not love you, who do you say is worth it?

Don't push yourself, don't put too much pressure on yourself, people should always look forward, the road walked, the people who have loved, will not come back in the past, and the return is no longer the original scenery of the original mood, people are always wonderful, when you have loved a person with your heart but have to break up with him, you will feel that life has lost all its color all at once, and even have the idea of ending your life, but when you tenaciously survive, You will find that in fact, the so-called unforgettable love turned out to be just a beautiful and illusory dream, since the fate is over, let it pass, you just have no chance with it on the road of life, maybe in the near future you will meet a more beautiful scenery at the next intersection of life, a better lover... Take a break for a while, let go of your baggage, relax, do what you want to do, and talk to your close friends, and your heart will naturally feel better. Usually to decompress yourself, don't drill the horns when you have troubles, think about the good, and slowly the knots in your heart will be unraveled...

Laughing at life, but also to cultivate an optimistic and open-minded healthy psychology. Lift your spirits and look to the future... Love is a sad fairy tale.

Anyone who has read it has left more or less regrets When we finish reading, we will understand a truth, that is, in the world of love, fate dominates everything, if there is fate, time and space are not distances. If there is no fate, even if we get together, we will not be able to understand, so let's let everything go with the flow.