Marriage Questions: Please advise. I really don t know what to make of this.

I understand your situation very well.

From a legal and self-protection point of view, the loan you repay, the renovation costs you pay, and the appreciation of the house belong to you as a husband and wife. Therefore, keep the relevant evidence, and the sky will fall in the future, and there will be evidence to follow.

People should trust each other. For your in-laws, brother and sister-in-law divorce, there should be a relevant lesson, take some self-protection methods, although not close to people, its practice also has some emotional damage to you, please understand, you don't have to mind.

Compared with family and marital feelings, money and real estate are nothing, if this matter is more serious, then your relationship will become more and more twisted. So, there has to be someone who makes concessions and compromises. Moreover, this person must be you, you give in alone, but the concerns of their whole family can be solved, how great it is!

As long as your husband and wife have a good relationship and manage your marriage well, the house will be yours sooner or later. But if you are too entangled in this matter, it will inevitably affect your feelings, and cause damage to your own image, leaving people with a handle.

It is recommended that you don't dwell too much on this matter, pretend to be confused, be benevolent and impeccable, and put feelings first. Under your high wind and bright festival, all suspicions and scruples about you seem obscene.

Reading your description, I feel a little uncomfortable.

I would like to ask you a few questions.

1.Do you love your husband very much? What does he love? What do you think are some of his good qualities?

2.What is your family's financial situation? What about the in-laws?

3.You work in a first-tier city, what do you do when you buy a house in your hometown? When are you going to go back to work?

4.Do you have children?

5.Does your husband have a clear plan for your future?

In fact, when you started to use your father-in-law's name to repay the loan, their family had this idea. They'll use the same way your brother did your sister-in-law against you.

You said that you don't care who owns the house, but after so many years of repaying the loan, if you can take out the certificate, you should be able to divide the money proportionally, and you had better consult a lawyer about this, but the hope is very slim.

If your husband and wife are in good relationship and there are no problems, you can continue with him, but you have to make it clear to him that your house is in your father-in-law's name, but your father-in-law also has a son, if one day your father-in-law dies, the house can only be regarded as an inheritance, and his brother can also share if he is unreasonable, and your mother-in-law also has to share a share, you had better ask him his brother's questions, is he willing to let the house be divided among his brother?

First of all, you have to understand that under the current new marriage law, whoever pays the down payment is the owner of the house, in other words, the house has nothing to do with you (a little ugly, but it is true).

Secondly, having said so much, you just need to remember that people are under the eaves, you can't help but bow your head, if your family has money, buy a house directly in your name, nothing happens, since you buy a house with your mother-in-law's house, you are destined to be angry, and you haven't fallen out, if you turn your face and divorce, this house has nothing to do with you, at most you will return your monthly payment.

In the end, the mother-in-law will think about her son after all, after all, you are not biological, you are a family in front of outsiders, but within you, you are an outsider (Chinese thought since ancient times), since you follow the traditional Chinese thought, let the mother-in-law's family buy a house, then you can only accept the traditional Chinese thought, you are an outsider, you have to keep your voice down.

The funds in the family** mainly come from your husband or you, are you tight on your life after paying off the mortgage, and how well do you know their family before you get married?

At the end of the day, it's a bit of a suspicion of designing you. I didn't treat you as my own family.

I think your husband and your father-in-law have a problem, maybe they have their own purposes, but it is obvious that they are targeting you, it is better to consult a lawyer.

Don't pay too much attention to what your family says. It is very correct to have a clear requirement for the other half. You have to be confident and follow your own ideas to find your other half. I'm sure you'll meet.

There is nothing wrong with what you say. If the family doesn't understand, then you laugh it off and don't have to argue with them. Now, it's not difficult to find someone with technology. It's a very ordinary normal phenomenon.

Family members are not sensible, you don't have to pay attention to them, first of all, you have to have self-confidence, and then you have to work hard to improve yourself, there are a lot of men with skills, and some can't find a girlfriend, the family wants to urge you to improve, right?

In fact, you have no problem with the requirements and expectations of the other half, maybe your family thinks that your personal conditions can not find such a good man, now it is not difficult to find a man with skills and ability, and you must consider whether your own conditions are met, you can't ask for your own conditions are not good and require men to have higher requirements, you can't require people to have technology, skills, and handsome and rich,

In dealing with the marriage relationship, both men and women want to find a better other half, and this is as it should be. The purpose of finding a partner is not to rely on the object to support yourself all your life, but to find a good partner to contribute to your duties to a happy family. Therefore, both men and women should live on their own, rather than relying on each other to support themselves.

You are right to have clear requirements for your object, you must stick to your own pursuit, and at the same time improve yourself in all aspects, so that you can firmly attract such a person when he appears. As for what others say, don't mind too much, they don't necessarily mean it in bad faith.

Your requirements are not excessive, it is normal, and it is not high, ignore the family's statements, continue to look for the object according to your requirements, and if the family is talking about your external image or character, etc., you must correct it well, improve yourself, and be able to improve your image and opinion in the eyes of the object.

Your idea is very right, we should find a suitable partner for ourselves. Don't listen to your family. They just think that you can't find it, so they will say that, let's not think about them, just find the right one for you.

Sometimes when family members talk to each other, they always feel that they hold me for your good mentality, and say a lot of hurtful words, which should be the injury of many original families, you know what kind of life you want, try to pursue it, and use facts to shut them up.

In these years, the backers will fall, and everyone will run. At any time, you can only rely on yourself, first let yourself have a technology, and then be able to support yourself, you will have better conditions for choosing a mate.

You're right, it's their problem. They are deliberately striking you, damaging your self-confidence and self-esteem, so that you succumb to your family and them.

You are a person who is very good at life, your idea is right, you are not afraid to find food in your future life after you have a craft, and your future life is your own middle to insist on it, and your family's suggestions should be used as a reference.

You can't be wrong with what you think.

Find someone with a skill, and life can be guaranteed. Practical.

Family members should not talk hurtfully, and they can communicate well.

This is okay, you can find a person with a skill to marry, your family is not optimistic about you, you are not worse than others, you can find one, just work hard.

If this is the case, in fact, what kind of person you want in your heart and what you want to find and what is suitable for you is completely up to you.

Maybe what your family says may hurt you, but what you say may be the reality. So you have to face the reality and find the right partner for you.

If you know a skill, it's not high, so how can you not climb it? It seems that your family's advice should be listened to less in the future to avoid being misled.

Sometimes you just need to be clear about your own ideas, and you don't need to talk too much if others don't understand you.

Don't wear down your self-confidence, as long as you think you can, try to convince your family what they think of you.

The problem of marriage is the most inexplicable issue, because every family has a scripture that is difficult to read.

Marriage is autonomous, other people's opinions are for reference only, and the final idea is to take it yourself.

Technology is only the ability to survive in life, and the most important thing is in marriage, depending on the character.

I think your family's idea is wrong, you have to stick to your idea!

You're all old thinking, your family is more civilized than you!

You can find it yourself, so why bother talking to them.

Maybe it's too direct.

God, what are you trying to do? Get married?!! God

If the evidence is all there, just divorce directly, and the court will definitely award the child to your friend

And compensation can be claimed!

Good luck to you guys

The marriage law has a roll-over, and if the child is under the age of 3, priority is given to the mother. It is recommended that you consult a lawyer to see if there are any good suggestions and solutions, after all, the mother of the child is now at fault, and may have the opportunity to fight for custody of the child.

Marriage means that two people have to live together for a lifetime. It's easy to get along with someone for a while, but it's not so easy to get along with each other for a lifetime. The so-called example produces beauty, because the first thing a person shows is always his merit (everyone will try to create a good image in front of strangers).

But when two people are together, day and night, it won't be like that, you can see a person more clearly, everything about him and her.

You must know that people always have shortcomings, not a big problem, you have to learn to accept, you think about it, you yourself also have a problem, so it is good for everyone to tolerate each other without major problems.

One of the most important things I value when I get married is responsibility. After being together for a long time, you may be aesthetically tired, but marriage is different from love, and marriage has heavier responsibilities, especially after having children. A family needs to be carefully maintained by every member.

Some people say that marriage is the grave of love, and I don't agree with it. In the world, you need someone to take care of each other and care for each other. Someone cares about you when you're sick, someone accompanies you when you want to talk, someone comforts you when you cry, and someone shares happy things with you Life is not too lonely.

Provided, of course, that you enjoy being with this person.

Don't spend time on trivial matters, just go by as your time comes.

Also, I'm not married. The above is just my opinion, just for your reference I have no practical experience

I'm married, otherwise I wouldn't be able to answer your question. To be honest, there have been bitter and sweet since I got married, I had fun when I was young, and I felt that it was good to be alone, but after 30, everyone else got married and had a family and children, and then I felt lonely and lonely. People must get married.

This is the law from the time someone to the present.

Marriage is like water, when you are not thirsty, you drink water tastes faint, and it feels indispensable, but when you are thirsty, you will find that water is so precious and so sweet.

However, in consideration of China's actual national conditions, in order to maintain the stability of the marital relationship within a certain range, especially among the vast number of rural people, the state conditionally recognizes the relationship between a man and a woman who live together in the name of husband and wife without marriage registration, which gives rise to the concept of de facto marriage.

The new Marriage Law has abolished de facto marriages, which means that the law now does not recognize de facto marriages, but only marriages that have been registered with legal formalities.

Therefore, no matter how many years you have lived together, as long as you have not registered your marriage and obtained a marriage certificate, it is illegal to live together. During the period of cohabitation, the courts generally do not entertain them, except in relation to children and property.

There is no such thing as dissolution of cohabitation, let alone protection and dissolution.

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Then he has a personal affair, good friends won't be like that, let's have a showdown! It's easy to say and disperse.

It's early, is it useful to keep the fetus.