Why can people who don t love each other have children and make do with them for a lifetime?

Because love is not everything, after marriage, it is firewood, rice, oil and salt, if you don't hate each other, you can make do.

At first, I really thought that the people around me chose to get married because of love, and I knew the truth, and my tears fell, because there were really few people who married in love, and most of them felt that they had reached the age when they should get married, and under the pressure of their families, they would get married if they found someone who didn't hate them.

Some time ago, my senior sister was getting married, and when I saw that she was quite happy with her partner, I asked her if she and her brother-in-law were in love with each other, and the two of them liked each other before they were together.

She gave me this answer, when she was in college, because she liked each other, she was with someone, and the two of them got along very well, with a spark of love from time to time, although there were quarrels, but most of the time it was still very sweet. At the time of graduation, after all, he still did not escape the curse that the graduation season is the breakup season, and the two parted ways.

She was very sad about this, the person she had loved for three years, and in the end it turned out to be this result, during that time she wanted to get married very much, because she felt that love was useless, and it was not without a problem. At this time, there was a person she didn't hate, who was also friends before and knew each other. There was no need to re-acquaint myself, but it didn't take long for her to tell me that my parents had met and that they were engaged in more than half a year, which was really not ordinary fast, and it was beyond the expectations of the rest of us.

I asked her if you love him. She shook her head, what's the use of love, I've reached this age, I don't seem to have much strength to love, and now I just want to get married. He's the kind of person who is suitable for marriage, but if it was for love, he wouldn't choose him.

He was right there when I wanted to get married, and I felt like he could give me the life I wanted, and that's it.

I don't love him, and I don't hate him, so it's fine, and I don't have any extravagant hopes for love, if there are no accidents, I should make do with it for a lifetime.

Listening to her words, I was really shocked, and I also saw that many people like her got married when they were old, not because of love. Maybe I'm still immature now, thinking that there is only love that should be married, and there is no age to get married. In the future, I will get married because of love, even if I can't wait, then keep waiting.

However, this concept is still not in line with the mainstream, so I really don't want to make do with it for a lifetime, which is not only wronged by myself, but also wronged by others. As time goes by, I don't know if I'll change my current mind, and when I get older, I join in and find someone who doesn't hate me to make do with for the rest of my life, which feels a little scary to think about.

After all, in fact, before China. Marriages are not very happy, after all, there are many marriages that are mandatory for parents. So they just have to get by.

Because love is not the whole of marriage, marriage is the firewood, rice, oil and salt of life, and a plain marriage will be happy.

For today's society, love can't be everything! The vegetables, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in life will grind the love away, and in the end it will be very bland, and people who don't love each other are the same, and in the process of getting along, they feel that the two are more suitable, so they will live like this!

The most important thing between husband and wife is not love, but their mutual understanding, love itself is a fairy tale.

This involves personal choices, and each person's reasons and backgrounds may be different, so it cannot be generalized.

Some people will be more chaotic and unhappy about the lack of family atmosphere, and the family affection is not expressed in time, but in general, a couple who have not had children can still be very happy and can establish a harmonious family relationship together. They can devote their love, attention, and money to other things, such as asking for a better life such as traveling, pursuing professional growth, investing, and so on.

In addition, some couples do not have children after marriage because they want their children to have a better environment for development, such as the improvement of family and economic conditions, plus their own health problems.

In general, it is possible to be happy by getting married and not having children, but in order to understand what other people think, it is necessary to consider their background and their personal value system.

There is no need, the child's heart is very sensitive, the two of you look like each other, he will naturally feel it, and such a family environment is not a harmonious and happy family environment for the child.

If the other party is not so bad, you should accommodate your life, if you are choosing a family, it will cause great harm to the growth of the child, not your own child, do you think he will kiss him? It's better to live like this.

What made us come together in the first place, can you find a reason to stay, it is also a reason to stay for the sake of the child, think about it yourself, if you really can't go on, don't force yourself.

Personally, I recommend not.

Although it is often said that children are innocent, the divorce of parents can have an impact on children. However, even if there is no divorce, if the relationship between the parents is not good and estranged, will it have a good impact on the children?

Moreover, although you are divorced, you can still educate your child well and instill positive thoughts in him. If you make do with it, it will only make a few people in the family unhappy.

I don't think so, in fact, it is also a harm to the child.

Why do you have to give him a baby if you don't love it? You have to ask yourself if you love it or not.

If you don't love it, think about it.