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If you say that your own pro-lead type stops people from visiting your own home, and you still leave after a few days, and return to your own home, in this case, you are certainly lost in your heart, or even sad, which shows that you are a person who pays attention to feelings, and your relatives live in your home These days can make you feel some warmth and some family care.

But there is a saying that there is no banquet in the world, even if it is close to the relationship with oneself, it is impossible to always be by one's side, oneself is already an adult, should learn to adjust and control one's emotions, and be able to endure the pain of one's relatives, because one's time and energy are limited, and one should not spend all the time on sentimentality and entanglement, and should have enough time to fight and struggle for one's career, when oneself has achieved success in one's career, With a sufficient material foundation, it is completely possible to arrange a fixed residence for your relatives near your home, so that your relatives can stay with you for a longer time and will not let yourself be so sad and sad. Besides, you should not only care about your own feelings, but also take into account the thoughts of your relatives, although you invite your relatives to your home and leave them to live in your own place, maybe your relatives are not used to it, they still miss their hometown, so for this problem, you should not be too sad and entangled.

You will be sad when your relatives live in my house, because your relatives are laughing with you and are very lively, and time flies quickly, and your relatives are gone, and your home is deserted, and you feel very lonely, and time is very slow, because your relatives are gone, you are very sad, but you don't have to be sad that people are gathered and scattered, you can find happiness through other ways, such as reading, listening, watching TV, and chatting with friends with Huixin, which is also very happy.

Especially just after the Spring Festival, you and I, who enjoy a family reunion, and embark on the road away from home, are always very sad at this time of year. Leaving their elderly parents, and even leaving their young children.

Time for gatherings always passes so quickly, and this is the case with the author myself. Once a year, when I go back to Tongchai's house, my parents unusually don't talk about the time of my departure. Every time I leave home and return to work, I will be down for a few days.

I think that's probably a very common situation. The bond between family and family in Chinese may be tradition.

I think that only by constantly adjusting myself can I let go of such emotions. Where there is a home, there is no work, and where there is a job, there is no home. The pressure of life is forced by the choice of you and me, so why not turn this loss into the motivation for you and me to work hard?

I want to work harder to reduce or even avoid the loss of this separation with my own actions.

It's a problem in your heart, maybe you're thinking too much, naturally it's your own relatives, and it doesn't matter if you stay at home for two days. It's that my heart is too small. How to get rid of the psychology of being stingy.

1. Self-awakening method. It is often said that "the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change". For the psychological defect of stinginess, it is not noisy and laughing.

The method of correction is self-reflection, self-thinking, understanding the harm of stinginess from the depths of the heart, looking at everything objectively, rationally, and correctly, and gradually correcting this abnormal and unhealthy psychological state.

2. Read more books and read good books. For example, most Buddhist books advocate the promotion of good and the elimination of evil, and warn people to be universal to all sentient beings, to be compassionate, to do more good deeds, to do more good deeds, and to emphasize that good deeds are rewarded. Through repeated reading, subtly, and gradually eliminate the stinginess.

3. Small almsgiving. To eliminate stinginess, you may wish to start with small things, such as giving beggars small amounts of money, clothing, and food; Participate in some social welfare activities, raise funds for widows and loneliness, and eliminate stinginess through these activities.

4. Have a correct understanding of the money and wealth of Lingbi, and accumulate small goodness for great goodness.

Don't be sad, there is no feast in the world, calmly face the ambush, greet every morning with joy, and send away every dusk with an indifferent heart.

Look at some, you can hit ** when you miss, and you have the opportunity to gather again.

In life, with a reunion, there will be a parting answer, and with a parting, there will be a next reunion.

Because it is a relative, if it is necessary to live in your house, and the family can still live, you can live at home.

If there is nothing to do, you don't need to live in your house, and the home is narrow and you can't live in it, even if you are a relative, you can also refuse.

It depends on how long the relatives come to live in your house, if you live for a few days, you must agree to come down, otherwise the relatives will not have to do it in the future, if you want to live for a long time, at least a few months, it will definitely be inconvenient.

First of all, consider it according to your actual situation, and then figure out the purpose and time of your relatives to live, if it is really difficult, you must express it clearly before you come, explain the reason, and don't feel embarrassed.

Let your relatives stay in your house for two days, and then on the third day you need to find an excuse, such as asking your relatives to do the housework of cooking and washing dishes, or if your family is in business, let your relatives help you, if you don't do business, let your relatives take care of the housework, so that you need to be slower when you do those housework at home.

If you want to live for a long time, you should refuse it directly, because if you don't refuse at first, it will be more difficult to refuse later.

If you live for a few days, your house is spacious, if not, tell them that the house is not small, you can pay for them to book a hotel, so that if you stay for a day, the other party will also know that they will pay for it.

Well. Just a small stay. It doesn't cost much. So there's nothing left for that! I think it's normal.

If you really don't want relatives to come and live in the house.

Rejection is. Although it is not easy to say no.

But speak up. It's better for yourself.

If the home is spacious and it is a close relative, it is welcome to come to the house.

So find a reason to refuse tactfully, such as having a sick person at home.

If you have extra room, clean it up and set it up.

If you have something to do to stay for a few days, it won't affect it

Going to a relative's house during the Chinese New Year is a normal movement between relatives, and now the cooks are very busy every day, living a 996 life, and rarely have time to see relatives, so you can take advantage of the New Year's time to interact with relatives and deepen feelings.

I don't want to go, if I already have a job, it can be said that the leader has temporarily arranged a tricky job, and others can't handle it, so I need to stop you from contacting you to deal with this matter. If you don't have a job yet, it can be said that your classmates organized a New Year's party with their teachers and wore a balance shirt, and there was a conflict in time.

The excuse is only temporary, if you find an excuse not to go every year, the relationship between relatives will slowly fade, and your parents may not be aware of it, but relatives will have some thoughts when they see you not going every year.

During the Chinese New Year, every family has to go to relatives, but many people don't want to go again after passing through relatives, and such a situation arises because there are not many contacts between relatives and they are unfamiliar, and the lack of communication between themselves and relatives is more embarrassing, and their relatives urge them to marry.

First, because I don't usually have much contact with my relatives, I am relatively unfamiliar, so many people don't want to go to my relatives.

Relatives are the closest people to oneself and have a close relationship with oneself. But even so, the feelings between yourself and your relatives need to be communicated frequently. However, in daily life, because we are busy with work and study, we do not have a lot of dealings with the silver sales of our relatives, which makes each other relatively unfamiliar.

In this way, there will be little communication between relatives during the New Year, and they will feel uncomfortable, so there will be many people who do not want to leave their relatives.

Second, the lack of communication between myself and my relatives is more embarrassing, so I don't want to go to my relatives.

Each of us has our own likes and concerns, but there are big differences between different people. When people with different concerns are together, communication can be difficult. Once this situation appears in the New Year, it will be more obvious, and when you string relatives, you will lack the topic of communication because of the different concerns of each other, so everyone is embarrassed, which makes many people reluctant to go to relatives from the bottom of their hearts.

The third relative urged him to marry, and he felt uncomfortable, so he didn't want to leave the relative.

Relatives are very concerned about themselves, and this is a good thing for themselves. But sometimes, overdoing it can be counterproductive. For example, when you go to visit relatives, your relatives ask too much about your personal affairs, and even urge you to get married, which will make you feel unhappy and don't want to stay at your relatives' house, and then you don't want to leave your relatives.