What kind of parents will you become in the future?

Jiang Zhishu's parents, Liu Mei and Xia Donghai, and Yu Zhouzhou's aunts and uncles. I want to be a parent who respects his child's wishes, doesn't put pressure on him, doesn't force him to make a lot of choices, and lets him live the life he wants. It's better to be able to open up with your child, like a friend, rather than the current relationship between me and my mother, who quarrels when they don't get along.

When I was a child, I discussed with my friends about growing up and having a boy and a girl, but I didn't have any idea at that time. Now I want to have a boy in the future, to teach him to be a man since he was a child, to teach him to be a man, to teach him to be upbringing, I hope he can become the kind of person who will feel relaxed when he gets along with him, and will feel that he is a cultured person, I also want to teach him how to treat his girlfriend in the future, he must be good to his girlfriend, and he must give her all the good in the world and all his preferences.

To be able to have common topics, to have some common interests, to be a respected mother and a mother who respects her children, to be able to lead by example but to be friends with her children. Don't beat the child, don't scold the child, and don't feel that you will always be the one who is the elder and refuse to listen to the child's opinion.

Respect the child's choice, do not ask to be outstanding, at least the school should not be wasted. If it is a girl, it will be "rich" and cultivate temperament from an early age. If it is a boy, then "upbring", and respect girls from an early age.

I want to be a very enlightened parent, and I just want him to be healthy and happy. I really wanted to get married and have children sooner so that I could have the energy to play with him.

In the future, I must educate them well so that they can become useful people. I think I should be a strict mother, because I grew up in such a family, and my parents' strict teaching to me had a certain impact on me, and I personally believe that children really can't be too pampered, and they will be afraid of being appropriately strict, and they can only be deterred when they make mistakes.

I feel that in the future, if I am a parent, I should be able to do what I say, don't say what I can't do, say "no" to my child, and let my child become the master of learning and become a role model for my child. Lead by example. A good parent should set an example for their children, and every parent does not want their child to be a person who is not liked by others, so parents usually need to pay attention to their words and deeds.

I'll definitely read more books on being a good parent and learn about it. Spend more time with your children, communicate and communicate with your children, and everything will be fine. I am not used to children, and I can't spoil them.

Let them realize that every penny is hard for parents, and if my children become people who have clothes to reach out and food to open their mouths, then I will definitely blame myself for being a failed father.

If I have a baby, I will calm my heart and then take a good look at my baby, be an approachable father, when the child grows up in the future, I will also stand at the same age as him to think about things, of course, if he does something wrong, I will also point it out, and strive to make the child take less "detours".

I will try my best to provide a good material life, I don't expect him to achieve much in the future, and I won't object to his early love or anything, because it is already very good for someone to like him. I just told him about the detours I had experienced, so that he wouldn't repeat my mistakes, or he wouldn't listen to me, and I couldn't do anything hahaha. Hopefully I can catch up with the little brother I like, and hopefully I can be the mother I want to be in the future.

Everyone has a day to become a parent, and I am also one of them at the age of 37, and I have summarized the changes after becoming a parent, and there are three points, which are that I work harder, I am more filial to my parents, and I have less socializing in the drinking field.

With a child, the expenses in all aspects of life have at least doubled, or even more, starting with the child's milk powder money, diaper costs, various examination expenses to the hospital (the cost of examination of children and wives), and the wife's soup (at least two dishes and one soup every day). At the age when the child reaches school, the cost of kindergarten is also a large sum, although primary school to junior high school can be free of tuition, but there are still a lot of miscellaneous expenses, and the child grows up, the quality of the clothes is high, and the clothing will also spend a lot.

Therefore, if you don't work harder, life will be very difficult, and for me in an ordinary family or people like us, working harder is inevitable. Before having children, you may be able to live a chic life with a job, but after having children, you still need to think of various ways to make money, and sometimes you will go to work as a substitute driver at night.

Before I got married, I basically lived a chic life every day, and every time I saw some parents complaining about the tireness of taking care of their children, there was nothing in my heart, and sometimes I felt that I was not so tired with my children. Now it's my turn, and I found out that it is really not easy to raise a child, and I really understand the meaning of "a handful of and a handful of urine", not to mention that my parents also raised three, so what kind of tiredness it has to become.

Seeing my parents getting old, I always feel bad in my heart, thinking back to the hard days of the past, I need to be filial to them.

Every day when I go home, I see my wife busy at home, a person has to take care of two children, from the time I get home from work, I have to cook, wash clothes, and bathe the children, and I am always unhappy in my heart, so I go home after work every day, do all kinds of housework with my wife, and then accompany my wife and children to eat dinner and watch TV, and be happy every day, it is better than drinking outside and my wife is tired and tired at home.

If a person does not get married and has no children, he will never be able to experience the hard work of being a parent, only after becoming a parent, you will find that your responsibility has become greater, and you need to be responsible for your wife, children and parents.

After becoming a parent, my life has changed dramatically, and my parents, my marriage, and my economy have changed. It's like changing a way of life, re-adapting to a new life, and feeling a different life.

1.Be more understanding and respectful of your parents

Before getting married and having children, I occasionally talked back to my parents, and my parents felt that whatever they did was good for them. However, after having their own children, they can truly understand the difficulties of their parents, and gradually become more and more understanding of them, know how to take care of their parents, and respect the willingness of the elderly.

2.Learned to save money and work harder

When there are two people, there is no extra expense to earn a little and spend a little. Now that children are growing up, they need enough economic foundation for life and study, and the elderly are also slowly getting older, which is the time when they are old and young. If you don't have enough economic foundation, you have to save some unnecessary expenses from your own side, and at the same time work harder to meet the normal life of the family.

3.Manage the marriage of two people well and want children

To have a good growth environment, the most important thing is to manage the relationship between two people first. Mom and dad love each other in order to let the child feel the warmth of home, and the love and attention of dad and mom to the child are different, both of them should accompany the child, so that he can grow up healthy and happy.

After becoming parents, there should be some changes, but more or less, let us accept different selves, live well, and work hard to live.

After becoming a parent, I have changed more about money, more responsible, and more compassionate.

Because after becoming a parent, all kinds of expenses continue, children's milk powder money, children's kindergarten tuition, are a lot of expenses, so that I can't make too much money I feel a lot of pressure, every day is either at work or at home to take care of the child, there is no other thing I want to do, every day I want to make more money to buy better milk powder and nutrition for my child.

After having a child, watching him grow up every day, I feel that the burden on my body is very heavy, at least I think about what other children have, and I also want to give it to my own child, so I have been working hard.

Being a father is not simple :

As the child gets older and older, he feels more and more that it is not easy to be a father, not only to make money to let him go to school, but also to educate him, after all, the child will grow up to be a parent, for fear that he will become an unqualified parent.

After a few years of accompanying the child, I slowly found myself more and more vulnerable, and I wanted to help when I saw the poor person, and my compassion became heavier and heavier.

Give your child the freedom to choose and don't interfere with your child's choice to the greatest extent. Earn a lot of money, buy a lot of things for your child that you wanted when you were a child but couldn't buy it, train your child to be an artist, scientist, etc., designate a plan for him, do your best to support him, don't quarrel, and create a relaxed, warm and loving growth environment, so that the child can grow up healthily with a happy family.

In the process of parenthood, we inevitably have inexperience, resulting in many negligence. For example, the child is sick and finds out after a long time, so he can only regret it with tears as big as a bean. For example, a very simple problem, the child can't learn anything, so he slapped him in a hurry, but his heart hurts more than the child.

For example, a child is clamoring for a certain toy, but he is shy and blames himself for his incompetence. For example, the child finally got the first place in the exam, but he didn't know what to say, so he could only be silly and happy.

In fact, the way we educate our children is influenced by our own parents. For example, when I was a child, my parents quarreled at every turn, so I secretly decided that I would never quarrel. For example, when we were young, our parents bought us a lot of snack toys, so we vowed to give their children a lot of snack toys too.

For example, when I was a child, I had never been to Disney Chimelong, so I planned to take my children to see it during a certain vacation.

Secondly, as a parent, you really need to learn to be respectful, of course, I know that tutoring homework often drives parents crazy, but let's think about it, if you take your child as your leader, as your client, will you still be impatient and lose your temper with it? Don't talk about my own children, I can do whatever I want, the child is not an accessory of every parent, he is him, he is an independent individual, respecting his wishes, respecting his choices and above all respecting his personality. Of course, I don't deny that many children are still immature, but this does not mean that they can't think, they can't learn, I often say that they are just small, not stupid.

When we learn to respect their opinions, of course, sometimes their opinions can be very one-sided, ridiculous, and extreme, but as parents, we just need to guide our children to express themselves correctly, rather than suppressing their thoughts.

Finally, we must know how to take responsibility and give strength to children, when children need affirmation and help, don't be stingy with our strength, I don't deny that some people fall in order to cultivate children's independence and don't help, looking at the child's eager eyes, as parents we shouldn't give him strength at this time? Isn't the reason why families become families is that they should support and help each other? In such a society, if we don't want to help our children when they are in trouble, who is willing to help them?

Our cultural inheritance for thousands of years is not to educate us in this way, why can we stand for thousands of years, isn't it inherited in this way?

As parents, we are also constantly learning, and when we learn to face, respect, and take responsibility, I think we will also grow up slowly with our children.

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If we want to be a parent who can let the child develop freely, all we have to do is to instill in her a more correct three views, and then leave her own choice, it is up to her to do what she likes, in this way, I think he will be very happy and happy in his future life.

I want to be a great parent and make my family and friends have a really good time and have a really good time, so I feel good at this time and I like it. So sometimes I want to be a parent like that, and I want my children to be happy.

I want to be a very enlightened parent, because I feel that my childhood was too strict with my parents, which will lead to my childhood not being so happy, so if I were to be a parent, I would definitely choose to be an enlightened parent and let the child choose what he wants to do.

Parents who want to be able to give their children complete love and a complete family want to be parents who are as easy as friends with their children, and parents who can easily share happiness or sadness want to be financially able parents who don't feel burdened at least financially, no matter what their children want or what they want to do.