I m afraid to tell people what I think

Different people will have different ideas, and when I was thinking about your question, it suddenly occurred to me, if you were here here, wouldn't you be guessing your thoughts?

So I don't want to say anything to you about why.

Instead, what I want to say is: Well, do you keep a diary?

I write, in the past, but, many times, do not need a diary, yourself and yourself too much, do not need to pay attention to write down, pay attention to whether their mood is a little better, talk more, and silent people. There are places for people to try. People who have played different roles, like naughty children, just enjoy themselves.

So it's not bad, the secrets that are said, and the thoughts that don't want to be expressed, are not important.

The important thing is that I want to be like this now, and I feel that I can be comfortable with other people.

I know why, and that's because you're afraid that your friends will one day tell your secret. I'll teach you a way to do it a little better. Just don't tell the secret of your heart to the same friend.

not putting all our eggs in the same basket" so that we will be more at ease.

Maybe there's no one you trust yet!

I'm afraid that others won't think so, I'm afraid that others will talk about my thoughts, I'm afraid I'll be hurt.

1. "Where there are people, there is psychology", people's psychology is regular, enterprise management, ideological and political education, personnel selection, safety production, interpersonal relations, etc. need to be told and understand people's psychology. Studying psychology is conducive to people's better and more complete understanding of these problems and dealing with them. By studying psychology, we can improve our overall quality and help ordinary people's lives.

A person's comprehensive quality is reflected in all aspects, and psychological knowledge is a very important content. People who have mastered the knowledge of psychology will have a deeper understanding of people's psychological state, and then have a deeper understanding of how to behave and how to do things, which is extremely important for their own development.

Birdcage logic, spotlight effect, Barnum effect.

This theory has even been called one of the 10 kinds of psychology that humans can't resist, and that's a little story. A pair of friends, one said to the other, "I'm going to give you a beautiful birdcage that you hang in a conspicuous place in your home, but you can't throw it away, you can't put it away, and we bet you'll soon buy a bird and put it in the cage."

The friend didn't believe it, agreed to the bet, and hung up the birdcage. As a result, as long as relatives and friends come to the family, they will ask him that the bird has gone to **, not only that, but he also feels very uncomfortable looking at the bird cage every day, so it didn't take long for him to have to buy a bird and put it in the cage, and another friend successfully won the bet.

The spotlight effect.

At a small party, a student walked into the room wearing a T-shirt with the face of a popular pop star, and he was very nervous because he felt that he was wearing a shameful outfit and made up a lot of embarrassing scenes. It is even thought that more than half of the people will notice the ugly clothes that Jean Mo wears and then laugh at him. But when the party was over, he realized that only one of the slippery stockings had seen what he was wearing, and even turned his head and forgot about it.

This is actually a very famous experiment, people tend to have the illusion that they are in the spotlight and that they will be laughed at for their actions, but this is not the case, the world is big, everyone is busy, and there is no time to pay attention to other people, just like you don't pay too much attention to a stranger. So, you can do whatever you want, and you don't have to worry about the eyes around you, because people don't pay too much attention to you. ......

I hope mine can help you.

What is the psychology of a person who doesn't want to tell others what he really thinks? Is the same for friends and family? Faced with this question, I would like to say that you must have heard such words.

When a person only says one out of three comics, don't abandon your heart. Why do some people think this way? There is no more plausible explanation than being betrayed by someone else.

Then another sentence appeared in life. It is indispensable to hurt people's hearts, but it is indispensable to be vigilant about people's hearts! Why is this so?

Because the people closest to you tend to hurt themselves the most. That's what people call empirical. Therefore, some people ask the monks how to deal with the complex red dust.

The monks warned that they should not talk, do not ask about things, do not meddle in things, and do not come back early. What a kind heart confession, what a precious treasure of life.

If you ask why people have such strange ideas? There is only one answer: fructose, deceived.

Once bitten by a snake, ten years afraid of the well rope. This is the "empirical talk" of the comer. What kind of psychology is this?

That is everyone's innate "self-preservation psychology" and "defensive psychology", which is actually the advance accumulation of the psychological invisible "security line of defense". After all, the sense of self-defense caused by insecurity psychology. Is "someone who doesn't want to tell others what they really think" doing it wrong?

That's right! Because there is a precedent, others or oneself have been told secrets. It's not his own mature idea, and he is used by others as a joke of "an idiot talking about dreams of friends", and the embarrassing feelings can't be expressed in words, and the heartache is unbearable and irreparable.

Do you feel like you regret dying at this time? "I really regret telling my friends about my thoughts beforehand. "I didn't know that the people who betrayed me were my relatives.

Is this still rare?

So this has the most private space for each of us, and no one else is allowed to come to this intimate area. As time passed, there were situations where you kept your privacy and didn't let others touch it. The "door" that was originally open to others will never be opened to anyone.

Using the language of the web is a word: what is the result of fear? Soon, others think that "deep mouth" and "hypocrisy" will also have the views of "deep city" and "unreasonable".

People who don't want to tell others what they really think" are right? That's right! Because he thinks that the time is not right, and there is no need to inform others in advance that it is not too late to say when the idea is mature or fruitful.

Now there is a popular saying on the Internet, that is, people who are not successful will put P no matter how reasonable they say, and successful people will also make sense to put P. The best way to do things that others don't want to tell us about is to stop pursuing them. Leave a little leeway, make a little more space, and it won't hurt anyone.

There are many reasons why you are reluctant to tell others what you think, and look at the following possibilities, if there is anything you can be careful about:

Lack of trust: Sometimes, we choose not to reveal our thoughts because of a lack of trust in the other person. Maybe you're worried that the other person might not understand, criticize, or take advantage of your ideas, so you choose to remain silent.

Fear of being denied or criticized: Some people are afraid of the reaction of others, fearing that their ideas will be dismissed, criticized or ridiculed. This worry may come from negative experiences in the past, leading you to choose to remain silent in order to avoid possible harm.

Social anxiety: Social anxiety is an emotional state of feeling uneasy, nervous, or self-conscious in social situations. If you have social anxiety, you may find it difficult to express your thoughts and worry about being the center of attention.

Lack of self-confidence: A lack of self-confidence can lead to a reluctance to share your thoughts. You may feel that your point of view is not important enough or taken seriously, so you choose to remain silent and unwilling to share it with others.

Prefer to be private: Some people are naturally private and don't want to reveal their inner thoughts easily. This may be because you prefer to think independently, protect your privacy, or enjoy your inner world.

1.Maintain a positive mindset: The first thing to realize is that preparing for exams is a normal thing to do, and there is no need to feel embarrassed or stressed. Everyone has their own learning and development needs.

2.Be open-minded: If someone asks you what you're working on, talk about it and share your goals and progress. You can also briefly state that you want to focus on your studies and not want to be distracted for a while.

3.Set up your personal space: Find a place where you can focus on your studies, whether it's a library, a study room, or a quiet room. This allows you to avoid distractions from others and have better concentration.

4.Ask for support: Talk to a loved one or friend, tell them you're preparing for the exam, and ask for their understanding and support.

5.Self-manage your time: Make a clear study plan and schedule, arrange your study time reasonably, and give yourself enough time to prepare, so that even if others ask you, you can deal with it calmly.

Most importantly, believe in yourself and focus on your learning goals. Even if someone asks, you can face it with a positive, confident, and rational attitude.

Some people may be reluctant to reveal their thoughts to others for the following reasons:

1.Fear of being criticized: Some people are afraid that their ideas will be criticized or denied by others, so they are reluctant to express them directly.

2.Fear of being attacked: Some people may choose to remain silent because they fear that their thoughts will cause them to be attacked or hit by others.

3.Personal confidentiality: Some people may consider their thoughts to be very personal and less willing to share them with others.

4.Lack of self-confidence: Some people may lack self-confidence and are afraid that sharing their thoughts will be incomprehensible or ridiculed by others, so they choose to hide their thoughts.

However, if you are reluctant to share your thoughts, it may have some negative consequences for yourself, such as affecting communication, improving communication skills, and missing out on opportunities. If you want to change this situation, you can slowly try to express your thoughts bravely, and gradually increase your self-confidence and motivation by talking to people you trust.

Reluctance to tell others what you think may be due to feeling shy, fear of being judged by others, fear of having your opinion denied, or fear of sharing your privacy or feelings. These feelings are normal, but if this situation persists for a long time and affects your life, it is recommended that you seek help from a counselor. They are available to help explore their thoughts and emotions, and offer support and advice.

Because everyone has their own privacy, no one wants to tell others, they don't want to be vetoed, suspicious, and they don't want others to feel that they are naïve and boring.

If you're afraid of stress, be honest and tell him that you're afraid they'll ask you and stress you.

It is impossible for others to know your thoughts, they will only speculate your thoughts from your expressions and practices, maybe your expressions and practices are too obvious, and their speculation is more pretentious, how can others know your thoughts, and it is not a mind reading...

Do you hate those people or not? Is it really annoying, or do others guess that you hate him, but you don't!?

How long has this been going on?

I can understand the fear and pain you are feeling, in fact, you may have some illness, I hope you can go for a professional diagnosis, it will be helpful to you

I am a psychological counselor, I sincerely recommend that you go to the psychiatric department of the local regular hospital for a professional diagnosis and identification, even some problems can be cured through **, I hope you do not shy away from the doctor

Excessive nervousness, that's all it can say.

Relax your body and regulate your emotions. Stretching, running, diet modifications. Believing in yourself has the power to overcome such irrational thoughts.

I wish you good health.

The two upstairs add up to the answer to your needs, that is, this state of mind of yours is related to your character and the education you have received since childhood.

The wind shows you how to overcome this psychological barrier.

First of all, you have to be clear that everyone's preferences, thinking, etc. are different, and they cannot be exactly the same.

Secondly, you have to be clear that because other people think differently from you, it doesn't mean that other people are smarter than you, maybe your ideas are very correct, but others don't realize it. You should stick to your own ideas.

Van Gogh, for example, did not appreciate his paintings during his lifetime, and now his reputation is so high. For example, Maupassant, he submitted but was not accepted, and he submitted again and again, and the rejection category was very high, but he did not deny himself because of this.

So you need to change your mindset.

1. Say what you want to say, and you don't expect others to agree, it's just your own expression.

You can start by asking more questions from others, regardless of them.

It's also interesting to ask about points here, not to change things, but to see how long today's points are more interesting than tomorrow. Each question has 1 point, and the more the score accumulates. You can try to work for that 1 point.

2. You often think about it, if everyone thinks the same as you, what a terrible scene it will be, without personality everyone knows what others think, like the opposite sex and like the same ......

So it's normal for you to think that others are different, and you can also disagree with other people's ideas.

Get out of your own psychological confusion and you will discover a more exciting world around you.

Bless you!