Under what circumstances can I hit a child ? When must you never fight?

When your child does something wrong, you can hit your child. But if you still say the wrong thing, you can't hit your child. It is possible to educate in language.

When a child commits a matter of principle, it can be beaten, such as violence against others, such as deceiving others, at this time it is really okay to beat. If you can't fight other small problems, don't fight, and don't use force against children if you can explain the truth.

It is okay to hit your child if he or she has made a big mistake, but pay attention to the severity; But never fight when there are outsiders, because it will leave a psychological shadow on them.

Basically, don't hit the child, unless it's a matter of principle.

I am in favour of proper corporal punishment education.

Whether children can hit when they make mistakes is a controversial topic now, and many parents believe that not hitting their children will not solve any problems, but will make their children rebellious. At the same time, many parents feel that their children cannot succeed if they do not fight, and the best way to solve the problem is to establish their own authority to their children and let them be afraid of themselves.

Bear child, can you fight in the end?

My personal opinion is that of course it can, and, in the process of homeschooling,The appropriate use of corporal punishment can help children establish a sense of boundaries and avoid serious consequences due to excessive spoiling

But I don't advocate fighting at every turn, and even if you do, you need to be informed of the situation and be measured.

The purpose of punishing children is to provoke them to reflect on their own bad behavior, and in the hope that in this way, children can learn to use more correct or socially normatable ways. As the saying goes, there are no rules.

When children move from the family to society, they will inevitably encounter many legal norms and interpersonal rules and etiquette. If you lack a sense of rules from an early age and think that you will not and should not be punished for whatever you do, you will have great difficulties in adapting to school life and moving towards a key ant society.

Excessive spoiling of children, not only can not help children establish necessary and appropriate rules, but even continue to condone the development of bad behavior, many parents to find that the child has been irretrievable before regretting it, such a tragedy in reality is seen a lot. As the saying goes, parents don't educate, society will educate itself.

Now that the economic conditions are getting better and better, parents are paying more and more attention to their children, and even from focusing on them to doting on them.

Do you still remember the case of Zhu Xiaodong, a 29-year-old man in Shanghai, who killed his wife and hid her body?

The parents of the victim Xiao Yang do not accept any apology and compensation, and only hope that Zhu Xiaodong will be sentenced to death and executed immediately.

Their daughter, who is as beautiful as a flower, once resolutely married Zhu Xiaodong despite her own opposition. After marriage, Zhu Xiaodong not only did not work hard to make money and give his wife a good life, but instead spent the money earned by his wife's hard work to raise various cold-blooded animals, and even had ambiguous affairs with other women.

In the end, during a quarrel over trivial matters, Zhu Xiaodong strangled his wife, wrapped the body in a sheet, bought a freezer from the Internet, and then hid the body in the freezer for 105 days. During this period, he also overdrew his wife's credit card of more than 100,000 yuan and squandered it everywhere as if nothing happened.

What makes people feel hateful is that after the incident, Zhu Xiaodong's mother said shamelessly: He was unintentional ......He is the ...... who missedHe was afraid of ......He was still a kid and hadn't experienced anything ......

Her own child has committed such a heinous crime, and as a mother, she is still protecting it, you can imagine how much she dotes on her child.

There is a saying that "stealing needles from a young age, stealing gold when you grow up", if a child does something wrong since he was a child, and his parents can casually forgive and not pursue it, then the child will continue to make mistakes and even embark on the road of crime when he grows up.

5 Manifestations of Parents Doting on Their Children.

Doting is a shackle, but many parents don't know which situation is spoiling. To this end, education experts have summarized several manifestations of parents' doting on their children for parents to check themselves.

1. Give the child special treatment and easily meet the child's requirements.

Some families are not in good condition, but the parents are particularly doting on their children, and then at noon, the parents cook a little white noodles to eat, or order pickles for white rice. But it will be specially made for children, chicken, duck and fish, there are a lot of meat, and there are good things to give to the child first, and easily meet all the requirements of the child.

In the long run, children will become selfish, believing that they deserve special treatment at home, and that parents should suffer from their hard work. Not only is he selfish, but he will also develop a lazy character, and he is not willing to work, and he always thinks about pie in the sky.

2. Pay too much attention to children and do everything for them.

Some families, four elderly people, plus parents, six people take care of a child together. The attention of the whole family is on the child, so that the child thinks that the focus of life is himself, and the whole family can be happy when he is happy, and the whole family must be sad when he is sad.

<> "Should Children Be Beaten? The order of beating the child.

1 Tell your child why he hit him.

Every time you hit the child, you have to say, why what, so I have to hit you.

2 .Prepare your child.

I'll hit you in 5 minutes, you prepare If you want to talk, you only have 5 minutes, and if you talk about it, you won't fight, and if you can't talk about it, you have to fight.

3.Guiding reason.

The more you imitate filial piety and Li to deal with this matter rationally, the child will treat you rationally and let him understand that I am not angry and beat you, but that you have committed some problems and must be beaten.

4 Caution refers to finding a special area T-domain.

Don't hit the living room twice, the bedroom twice, and never hit the child in the study.

5 can be played again.

Don't just clean him up, but educate him Whether you have malaria or not is not the key, understanding or not is the key After the shot, I found that the shot was not in place, inform him why, I decided to play again in 5 minutes Hit again, and after 5 minutes, be ready for him to reflect, communicate, and go through the process again.

6 We'll talk again in two days.

Half a day after the fight, let's find time to talk to him about the beating, and the main preparation is mainly to share feelings.

You can't hit a child in a fit of rage. Because hitting the child at this time is often just to vent anger, the punishment is often out of proportion, ignoring the reason for the child's mistake, and it also makes it difficult to explain to the child why he hit him, so it is easy to accidentally injure the child. The 3-year-old is in the game stage, and the child has a strong sense of autonomy.

At the same time, the child's conscience and sense of morality are also developed, and self-unity begins to emerge.

It is okay to hit the child in case of violating the principles, do not hit the child when he does something wrong or says the wrong thing, but tell him why he is wrong.

The child is very unreasonable, and he can be beaten when he is domineering. You can't fight when you don't know the reason for his mistakes, and you can't fight when there are a lot of people.

So, what are the 4 behaviors?

1. Lying. Honesty and trustworthiness are the traditional virtues of our country, and they are the foundation of our children's education, but in real life, some children always like to lie, and even become a habit, such as when they make mistakes, children will lie to avoid responsibility.

If your children are often like this, and the parents do not correct it in time, it will have a great impact on the children, resulting in the children not having good friends, and they will encounter walls everywhere when they grow up and enter the society, and they can only live under the protection of their parents. Therefore, when you just find out that your child is lying, parents need to guide them correctly, and if they don't change after repeated teaching, you can consider teaching them a lesson.

2. Use threats to achieve goals.

Studies have found that if parents do not properly guide children to control their emotions during the rebellious period of 2 years old, they will put forward all kinds of unreasonable needs with their parents after the age of 3, and if you do not meet them, they will evolve into threats.

In the process of raising children, parents must not promise their children everything, and appropriate refusal will make children more obedient.

I believe parents have encountered this situation, when you take your child to the mall, when the child wants a big toy, if you do not satisfy him, the child will cry, or even roll on the ground until you buy it, this behavior is a threat.

In the face of this situation, parents must have their own position, must not be soft-hearted to agree, there will be a second time, if the child keeps crying, you take him to a place where there is no one, let the child cry, until the mood stabilizes.

3. Disrespect for others.

Parents should let their children understand from an early age that only if you respect others, others will respect your truth, so that children will be more popular when they enter the society, and their popularity will become very good.

Now there are many children who have the habit of disrespecting their elders, usually not only yelling, but even hitting their mothers, the root cause is that you are overspoiled, in the face of this situation, parents must correct it in time, otherwise the future will be the child who suffers.

4. There are no rules.

Parents should develop the habit of abiding by the rules before the child is 6 years old, such as saying hello to the elders when they go out, thanking others for helping you, etc., only by letting the children know what to do and what not to do, they can grow better.

In the whole process, parents must lead by example, we often say that parents are the first teachers of their children, and what kind of person their children will become in the future depends entirely on how you educate your children.

Children lie, do not have a long memory, children do not respect others, do not respect elders, yell, have no rules, and are also very impolite, such a situation can hit the child, and help the child grow better, to let the child know what to do and what not to do.

Even if the child makes a very serious mistake, he can choose to hit the child, after all, this is a matter of principle, and if they are not educated, they will feel lawless.

It is okay to hit your child when he lies. Because lying is a very bad behavior, parents must force change.

Whether a child can fight = whether a parent can fight. If a parent can hit a child at will, that child can also hit his or her parents at will. After all, hurt and love are mutual.