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After the child is out of school, as a parent of the child, you can ask the child about the learning and life at school, but pay attention to the way.

We can use some positive ways to ask questions, and try to avoid negative ones.

For example, we can ask our children, are you happy at school today? Did the teacher praise you? Is today's lunch your favorite again?

Do you have any interesting things to share with your parents? These questions are all positive, and your child can feel it and is willing to share some good things with you.

Try to avoid negative questions, such as: Have you been criticized by your teacher today? Is the food in the cafeteria hard to eat? And so on.

We all hope that the child is sunny and positive, and our questions are also positive, so as to give the child positive psychological hints.

What can't be asked?

Legally speaking, parents are the first guardians of their children, and they have the responsibility and obligation to make necessary understanding and guidance on their children's life and study at school.

From a moral point of view, parents are also the strong backing of children, and are an important role in helping, guiding, educating and guiding the healthy growth of children's body, mind and intellect, and are irreplaceable by other elders, teachers, classmates, friends or others.

Children can have privacy in front of their parents, but they can't hide it. Parents should establish the prestige of parents in front of their children (the prestige here is not authoritarianism, the most important thing is to let children know how to respect parents and elders), what questions can be asked, or whether he is willing to communicate with you.

If your parents don't even dare to ask too much about your child's life, study, etc., or are worried that there will be problems if you ask too much, then who cares about your child?

First, parents can't ask their children if anyone is bullying you. Today, the teacher didn't train you, you didn't say anything. Is the school meal to your liking?

And so on, these words should not be asked to the child, because in the child's heart, a seed of kindness should be left for the child. Let the child have a pure and pure heart, tell the child to do more good deeds and help his classmates. Don't ask things that shouldn't be asked, let the child be selfish and feel great.

First of all, you should pay attention to how your child's life is in school, whether they are unhappy, whether there are interesting things happening, whether anyone is bullying the child (if there is an encounter, tell the parents in time), and then pay attention to whether there is any homework, or what difficulties and pressures are in learning. Don't just care about learning.

The child comes back from school.

As a parent of a child.

There are so many questions to ask!

Are you having fun at school today? What new things have you learned? Let's share it with my mom.

The teacher praised you today, saying that you listened to the class very seriously today, and your mother was proud of you!

Questions that can't be asked:

Why are you only back now? Was it left in school by the teacher?

Look at you, you're so dirty, what's going on?

Did you listen carefully today? Is the homework sloppy again?

In short, more encouragement and love.

Less blame and reprimand.

Yes, the child's class is very hard for a day, and he also needs to change his mind and say more happy things, which is very good for the child's mood.

When the baby reaches a certain age, it is time to take him to the university for education. When parents are waiting for their children to get out of school at the school gate, some will talk to other parents, and some will look at their mobile phones to kill time, no matter what you are doing during this time period while waiting for your children to get out of school, don't do these 3 things, otherwise you will accidentally hurt your child's young heart.

One: Talk about your child's privacy in public.

Because the school gate is full of Bao Bao Bao Mom, so many Bao Bao Bao Mom gathered together, it is easier to talk about the topic of discussion is their own children, talking and talking, will shake out all kinds of things about the child, not that the child is 3 years old when he still has enuresis, that is to say, his child always eats when eating, in short, all the child's things are published to the public. When a child happens to hear an adult talking about a topic after school, it will hurt his self-esteem a little bit, and in the long run, it will also affect the family relationship between the child and his parents.

2. Lack of attention to social order.

In the eyes of children, their own parents are very great, if one day you don't care about your speech and behavior, it is likely to affect their baby's majestic brand image in their hearts. For example, when talking loudly in a public place or littering the litter occurs, the child may wonder why other people's parents don't do it. In this way, the child will create a state of shame and think that his face is not bright in front of his classmates.

If you have such incorrect personal behavior, you should change it quickly, otherwise your child will learn to train your behavior.

Three: There is no concept of time.

When picking up their children from school, some parents think that it is still early anyway, so they should just walk around, and the result of this practice is that they cannot receive their children on time. The people children want to see most after school are their parents, and when they don't see them when they go out, they will be more or less disappointed in their hearts. When this kind of frequency grows, children will feel that their parents do not love themselves enough, which will cause an inferiority complex.

The first point is that I don't like my parents, I always nag and I don't like them, the second point is that I don't like my parents to leave too much homework for me, and the third point is that I don't like parents who always force themselves to do something.

The first quarrels, the second urges them to do their homework, the third compares the children with other children, the fourth plays mahjong, and the fifth is going out for a walk.

Elementary: Which teacher do you think was the most interesting today? Then ask: Why? (Students hate to ask about grades, so they can know how he is doing at school).

Junior High School: Dinner. (Rebellious period, everything is wrong, the less the better) High school: Today, tired or not, rest first, and wait for dinner. (Emotional sensitive period, you have to reveal your concern) hope to adopt.

1. What homework did the teacher assign today?

2. What do you eat in the school cafeteria today? How does it taste?

3. Did you encounter anything happy (unhappy) today?

4. Did you bully you? Have you made friends?

On the way home from school, parents began to chat with their children, and let them talk about what interesting things happened in the kindergarten today, so as to exercise their oral expression skills. After arriving home, help the child to do simple hygiene (such as washing hands), and then you can play games with the child, and then eat, tell the child a story after the meal, exercise the child to listen to others carefully and attentively, at this time it is almost time to let the child rest, play a day The child is also very hard, don't forget to say goodnight to the child, and hug her and kiss her, tell the child that you love her, which is very important for the child.

Being able to ask this question shows that you are a person who is good at thinking, knows how to communicate with your children, and cares about your children's hearts, and your family atmosphere should be relatively harmonious. In reality, as soon as the child comes home, many parents only know to ask about the results, if the child does well, he will happily tell you, if the child does poorly, it is possible to lie, or find other reasons for themselves, in the long run, the child will not be willing to tell you what is in his heart, and then produce resistance.

There are also many parents who just pick on their children's poor performance in the class today, or the head teacher has complained to the parents today. Originally, the child had just come home and was about to open his mouth to communicate with his family, but the parents turned the child away with a word, and what they felt was not the care of the parents, but the complaints and blame again and again. Wise parents will think about the topics that their children like every day, and as soon as their children come home, they will start from the perspective of concern, such as they will ask:

Do you have something happy to tell your mom today? "Come on, Mommy has a gift for you," "Come back, Daddy will tell you a story first," "Son, I think your math teacher has a good way of lecturing," "Son, after the homework is done, Dad will ride the bike with you, okay?" "Child, I think that if Dad takes this test paper, he may not have a high score as you," "Child, Dad gave you a question and told me."

In short, parents try their best to make the child feel that you are standing with him, that you are not suppressing him as an adult, but communicating on an equal footing, and that he will at least not dislike you, which is the basis for entering the child.

The most important thing to ask is what you have learned in your studies today, and you must listen to your child, and at the same time, do not have particularly serious inducing words, and then do not ask your child if he has been bullied by others today.

You should ask if you are happy today, which is also the most desired question for parents, so that it will not cause dissatisfaction to your children, and they can talk about some problems they encounter in learning.

One is to ask the child what he has learned today. This is because it helps the child to recall and review what he has learned. The second is to ask the child if he has been bullied.

I think it is better to let children do their homework first, so that they can play to their heart's content, and so that they can have better opportunities to play before going to bed.

For them, parents can let their children play for 30 or 40 minutes after school, and then write homework, wash, and sleep, maybe the effect of filial piety will be better.

After school, children should still be allowed to complete their homework first, and then go to play, only after completing their homework, and then playing, there is no burden.

I think it's okay to arrange your time wisely, and to respect your children's wishes, so that they can have time to play and finish their homework.

First of all, we must know why children don't say it, in fact, not only children, but adults also have this situation many times. The most important thing is not to speculate on children with the thoughts of adults. First of all, children don't know right and wrong, many times they are bullied, only the most basic emotional changes, sad and sad, but don't know that others are wrong.

Even in many cases, the strict education of parents will give children the impression that they also treat themselves like parents, and children themselves have no concept of equality, and whoever is stronger is higher than themselves. Some parents have always been commanding and listening, and children belong to the kind of existence that doesn't let you say it, so you don't say it. The second is that many times parents cannot guide and lead by example correctly, such as some invisible behaviors to let children know that it is useless, and it is useless to say it.

There are often some thoughts and needs of friends who are not understood by their parents, such as wanting to eat or play, but their parents directly do not allow or scold them, instead of reasoning. Although the children don't understand the truth, they also know that they are not necessarily wrong, but they are not supported. In the same way, I told my parents, and my parents would say that this is who is wrong, and next time you should pay attention, and then you can go to the teacher or something.

And some parents say that as soon as the child is angry, they will beat the child first. I feel ashamed of myself. Or the child was wronged and rushed directly to the school and beat him violently.

Children are slowly imitating, learning, and understanding, and not telling their parents is nothing more than saying that it is useless, or that it is better not to say it, and at the same time, they do not understand right and wrong, and their own rights. This needs to change slowly, first of all, many things need to be put in the perspective of children. The second is to let children know right and wrong, how they should and shouldn't be, and at the same time know that their parents will not scold and laugh at themselves, and if they do something wrong, as long as they can have the courage to take it, their parents will not scold.

There is also more communication with children, many times children also want to treat their parents as big friends, and parents just treat children as big toys and pets.

Children don't say it in school, it's their own choice. Then we, as parents, should definitely ask about our children's learning and living conditions every day. The child can choose Jizhou or not, but the family Xiaofeng or the elder must ask. This is a clever sign of parental responsibility for their children.

Parents should ask: What did you enjoy at school today? You shouldn't ask: Did a classmate beat you today? The teacher is not scolding? Parents should ask positive questions and not negative ones.

It should be asked: Is there anything interesting happening today? Let the child think for himself, and exercise the child's language and thinking skills.

Is there anything I can help with? You can find out if your child is being bullied or have other problems at school. Don't ask:

Did someone else bully you today?

You can ask your child what interesting things he has done at school today, what he has learned and gained, and he should not ask what he has been criticized or failed to do well in the test.