Why did ancient parents have common educational anxiety and how to alleviate it?

Fresh graduates from Tsinghua University come out to find a job, and they are very confident to offer a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan, and a junior college can rarely get a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan after working for ten years, which is the reason why parents are now anxious about education.

The wise man sees the same thing, the living environment has changed dramatically, and how can those who have come through the age of poverty want their children to relive the miserable days of their past.

One: the popularization of basic education everyone will carry out compulsory education, so generally speaking, the education level is above junior high school, unlike before 2005, when you mainly finished junior high school, then in the eyes of others already have a good education, no matter what you do outside, you may be superior.

But in today's society, college students and undergraduates grab a lot of them. When the general educational environment improves, if your children are not able to excel, then parents and friends must be worried about this.

Reading is indeed useful, and the vision of parents is long-term.

Don't always use "someone dropped out of junior high school and now becomes a big boss as an excuse" to comfort yourself that you don't study well, it's okay, there will be such a way out in the future.

As everyone knows, Maxima often exists but Bole does not often exist, and it is already a miracle that one of the 100,000 people has such a person. The least lacking thing in this society is smart people, and what is really missing is people who are really down-to-earth and stick to their dreams step by step.

How smart can you be, can you send satellites into space, or can you solve the world's problems?

Obviously, these things are impossible for 99% of people, but 1% of people can still do it. So these people have a very rich knowledge as a foundation to support, as long as there is such a technology, then they will have no worries for a lifetime, so for parents and friends, they have long been aware of these situations, so whenever the child's grades fluctuate, it always seems extremely anxious, because they know that if they are admitted to a key university, then you have taken the lead compared to others.

Three: the educational environment is getting better and better, and the competition between students is getting bigger and bigger.

Based on the above factors, three reasons are summarized: the current educational environment is getting better and better, and the competitive pressure is increasing;

The development of science and technology is becoming more and more rapid;

The gap between the rich and the poor is widening and the opportunities are getting fewer and fewer.

I think that first of all, you can get to know the child, learn about pedagogy, and then know how to solve this anxiety after you know more.

Because most parents are at a loss for their children's education and have no idea where to start, they generally have educational anxiety. Parents can properly learn today's modern advanced education methods and educational concepts, and naturally they will not be anxious!

Because modern parents want their children to get good grades, get a good university, get a good job, and have a considerable income in the future, to alleviate educational anxiety, they need to reconcile with themselves, and they don't have to think too much about their children, and there will always be good results step by step.

Because parents can't afford to lose, parents themselves have come from their student days, and they have personally seen the eliminated classmates, lest their children become the ones who are eliminated. If it is relieved, parents should not put too much pressure on their children, so that children still have to have a normal childhood, and at the same time, when children feel stressed, parents should give correct educational concepts and encouragement.

Because most of the families now have only one child, they are spoiled, so that the child can not be scolded, at this time the family must unite to correct the bad behavior for the child.

Modern parents have a common anxiety about education, this is because there is only one child in the family now, they are very strict with their children's education, the way to alleviate is to make parents understand that a good university is not the only way for children to get ahead.

Because of the current social environment, every child is very good, and it is very difficult to surpass others. This can only be alleviated by parental self-regulation.

There is a herd saying in social psychology, in fact, many parents in education are also coerced to pursue grades, and there will be some involuntary thoughts, because others are doing what, so I have to do something. On a social level, this is a kind of commercial propaganda. For example, a business organization can create the impression that other children are in Go classes, so parents will feel pressured when faced with a choice.

The school's strategy is to imply how much the other parents have done. When dealing with anxious parents, I usually ask one question:

What is your bottom line for your children, almost all parents say that they hope that their children will grow up to be able to support themselves, have a happy mood, and live a healthy life. As for what kind of outstanding work to do, it is the icing on the cake, and it is better to achieve it, but if you can't do it, it is good to live like a healthy person. It can be said that this is the original intention of parents, but it is covered by various renderings of society, after all, conformity is a very strong pressure.

You can lower your standards for your child appropriately, don't compare your child with other people's children, and find out more about your child's strengths, so that you will feel that your child is actually very good and can relieve anxiety.

To learn to relax, too much anxiety is not good for yourself, and it is not good for children, learn to communicate more with children, and usually do more relaxing things, such as listening to songs or something.

First of all, you can't be anxious about yourself, children's education is an abrasive thing, you must make sure that you are sober in order to educate your children well.

To have a normal heart, learn to respect children, there are always some parents who feel that children are children and must listen to their parents, so they condescend and give orders. This kind of parents who regard themselves as leaders, do not know how to respect their children, do not empathize, do not consider their children's feelings, and regard their children as their own accessories, as their children grow older, will only lead to more fierce resistance.

Think more about the child who will live his own life in the future, and as long as he works hard, maybe he is not talented in learning, and he may be successful in other things.

Let's just treat it with a normal heart. Because our children used to be parents, they also took us like that, and they didn't notice that I didn't have any major problems.

Every child has a different life, I can't make choices for my child's future, I just need to educate him in the present, as long as I feel that I have done my best to educate him.

You can try to let go, don't be too anxious, children's education, some things are two-sided, don't think too extreme.

You can make a detailed plan for your child's problems and situations, and slowly supplement them later.