Who creates parental anxiety about education

Why are most parents in China anxious about their children's education? This is mainly due to the environment.

First, with the reform and opening up, it has entered a market economy.

Times, money became the theme of the times. People compete fiercely in order to make money. Most parents feel deeply about it, so they want their children to work hard so that they can not be eliminated in the competition. In this way, parents' anxiety increases, and the pressure on their children's learning also increases.

Second, it is the modern Western concept of education that dominates education, which emphasizes child-centeredness, equality, respect for children's dignity, and the release of individuality. Therefore, under such an educational atmosphere, the child himself is an independent individual, equal to his parents and teachers, and has his own freedom. So there is lawlessness.

Child-centered education, on the other hand, emphasizes not punishing or criticizing children, and paying attention to the way you communicate with your children. In this way, parents and teachers will not be able to discipline their lawless children.

Third, when parents and teachers are unable to discipline their children, they can't help but get angry, and sometimes even treat them with their heads and faces. At the same time, although the traditional Chinese concept has been replaced by the modern educational concept of the West, there are still traditional Chinese concepts in the concept of many parents. This concept is that children should be filial to their parents.

There are filial sons under the sticks, and loving mothers are defeated.

When parents and teachers educate their children to be helpless, they also have a theoretical basis to punish the children, and punish the children angrily.

When beating and scolding children in anger doesn't work, they return to Western education, because modern education in the West is the mainstream. With modern education in the West, it still can't educate children.

In this way, most Chinese parents are at a loss for their children's education. Bookstores are flooded with educational books, mobile phones and computers are full of educational articles, and lectures by various education experts, each with a different point of view. Parents don't know who to listen to, these are the so-called experts, and what they say makes sense.

Therefore, most parents in China are particularly anxious about their children's education.

The reason is that parents are also parents for the first time, and if they are children, they are also children for the first time, so it is the first time for everyone, so it is inevitable that there will be problems in education.

I think the main reason is that after the students' learning pressure is reduced, many parents have begun to worry about what will happen to their children if they do not have good grades in the future society, which has led to many parents being anxious about their children's education, and their mood changes have also affected their children's thinking.

Parents are anxious about their children's education, mainly because they are afraid that their children will not learn well, and they think that they cannot educate their children well, so they will be more worried, but now the children's educational environment is getting better and better, and the education is more comprehensive.

Parental anxiety is an increasingly common family education problem in recent years, mainly because of the increasingly fierce social competition, parents have higher and higher expectations for their children's future and development, and at the same time, they are also affected by Internet information, and have anxiety and anxiety about their parenting methods and effects.

This anxiety may manifest itself as being overly concerned about your child's academic performance, interfering too much in your child's life and learning, or worrying too much about your child's future. This kind of behavior often has adverse effects on children, including increasing children's psychological stress and anxiety, reducing children's autonomy and desire to explore, and affecting family relationships.

In response to this problem, I believe that the following measures need to be taken to alleviate parents' anxiety:

Improve parents' educational awareness and literacy. Parents need to recognize that their anxiety may have a negative impact on their children, and they need to learn the right ways and methods of education, appropriately lower their expectations, and let their children grow up freely.

Strengthen family communication and interaction. Parents need to communicate with their children, pay attention to their children's needs and feelings, and provide emotional support and encouragement to their children. At the same time, it is also necessary to develop learning plans and goals with the child, so that the child has more autonomy and decision-making power. Lifting.

Establish a positive family atmosphere. Parents need to create a relaxed, happy, and positive family atmosphere, so that their children can grow up in a warm atmosphere. More fun family activities can be arranged to cultivate family unity and interaction.

Seek professional counselling or support. If parents feel that their anxiety cannot be controlled or handled, they can seek professional psychological counseling or support to relieve their emotions and anxiety and improve their self-regulation and management skills.

I don't think anyone is deliberately creating anxiety, but this is due to the contradiction between the current social education method and the traditional education method in our country.

The education system of today's society in China is gradually developing, and compared with the traditional education methods, today's quality education methods are more scientific and effective. However, some parents have the traditional concept that traditional education methods can teach better students. Therefore, different parents have different ideas, and it will contradict the mainstream education methods in society.

Therefore, most parents will always have more or less contradictions about their children's education, and I think this is also a normal phenomenon. After all, parents have ways to educate their children, and they can't just ask all parents to adopt quality education. In fact, there is no best way to educate, only the most appropriate way.

In addition to the difference in education methods, I think it is also more or less related to the parents' own knowledge reserves. Especially when parents educate their children, they are often unable to do it because of their own lack of knowledge. There is always a fear that my child is under pressure to learn because of my own influence, but I don't think it's necessary.

Learning is a child's business, not a parent's business, and parents can only play a guiding role, not a counseling role. If parents have such anxiety, they can choose to read some knowledge points by themselves to make up for their lack of knowledge. <>

In addition to the above two points, I think this is also inseparable from the pressure brought by the high school entrance examination and the college entrance examination, which in the past brought pressure to students. But now this part of the pressure has been transferred to the shoulders of parents, after all, most parents are very concerned about the future of their children. Especially in such an important exam, parents attach great importance to it, and sometimes even accompany their children to study together.

Sometimes it is not only the students who are tested, but also the patience of the parents. <>

The pace of development of society is very fast, and parents will still be anxious in order to let their children win at the starting line. It's anxiety caused by the environment.

Every parent hopes that their son will become a dragon and their daughter will become a phoenix, and they hope that their children's future life path will be better.

The main reason is that the current exam-oriented education makes people have to be anxious, because whether it is the high school entrance examination or the college entrance examination, they all need to be examined, and if they can't pass the exam, they can't receive a good education; It's not that anyone made it on purpose, that's a form of society.

Chinese-style parents are usually old and young, housing and car loans have to be repaid, and the elderly and children have to be supported.

What is the reason for the widespread educational anxiety of modern parents?

1.Parents don't want to fail. This can be a major cause of anxiety for parents.

I was still a kid, but it didn't work out for one reason or another. Because of the influence of economic conditions and the environment, I did not realize my ideals and did not get ahead, so I pinned my hopes on my children and tried to create conditions for them to realize their ideals.

2.The educational environment is getting better and better, and the competition between students is getting bigger and bigger. It can be seen from the current educational environment that it is precisely because of the increasingly fierce competition that the development of society has strict requirements for the comprehensive quality of individuals.

Then, when you are ready to enter society, you must have a rich reserve of knowledge to be competent in your job. Judging from the current social development situation, it is not difficult to judge that the next ten years will be a society with rapid development of information technology, so the requirements for technical application talents will definitely become more and more stringent. If you don't fully digest your basic education at the beginning of the company, you definitely need to work harder and spend more time later to make up for it.

This situation is actually very bad.

3.The pursuit of external ideals. With the increasingly fierce competition in society and uneven educational resources, children are worried about losing at the starting line.

Therefore, we strive to create the best living conditions for children, create the best learning environment, strive for the best education model, and create a perfect growth process. But the ideal is too full, and the reality is skinny. Especially competitive parents, the gap between them can make them anxious and anxious.

It turns out that the stronger the desire of parents to control their children, the stronger the child's hostility towards his parents, so the relationship between parents and children will definitely be strained, and parents will naturally be anxious. This will inevitably destroy the harmonious family atmosphere, and the child will not have a good learning mood, and the results can be imagined.

4.Parents have educational anxiety because there are too many variables for children. Just take school choice as an example.

I'm afraid I've been comparing which school to go to since kindergarten. When I got to elementary school, I started working around the famous good schools. I couldn't get into a good public elementary school, so I had to go to a private school.

It's because it's not good to put too much pressure on your child, it's not good if you don't put pressure on it, if you put too much pressure on your child, your child's spirit will be oppressed, and if you don't put pressure on you, you won't study well and will be lazy, so what should you do if you don't know what to do.

The reason is that parents can't find a suitable way to educate their children, and they don't know how to educate their children better, so there is a general anxiety about education, and they are afraid that they will blindly use education methods to educate their children badly.

Because the competitiveness is relatively large now, many parents don't want their children to lose at the starting line, as long as there is a little bit of weakness, they will feel very anxious, as if they have pulled down a lot of others.

Because the current parents are very serious in involution, they are afraid that their children will lose at the starting line and be said badly by others, so they will educate anxious.

On the issue of children's education, there are now many parents who are becoming more and more anxious, mainly because the involution behavior between parents is very serious, everyone gets together and always can't help but talk about children's learning problems, some children are particularly powerful, their parents always show off to outsiders, but not all children are very good, some parents feel that their children are more mediocre, so parents will let their children study hard for the sake of face, and parents are more worried about their children's learning problems.

For every parent, they hope that their children can become particularly outstanding talents, if a child has achieved a good score in the exam and is the first in the class, then these parents will be particularly proud when they go to the parent-teacher conference, but look at those grades are not very good, the parents of students are more embarrassed when they participate in the parent-teacher meeting, they are generally more worried about their children's learning situation, they always think about other people's children, so good, why are their children so dish, So in the heart will be more contradictory, but also hope that their children can become particularly good people, always want children to study hard, but also add a lot of pressure to children, maybe some children have strong maturity ability, grades do improve, but some children are not the same, their grades still do not improve much, but because of the behavior between parents, he always forces children to learn, and has been worried about children's problems.

Parents also know that they can't accompany their children for a lifetime, and when their children grow up, they will have to leave their parents sooner or later to work alone, if the children are not very hard at school when they are young, and their grades are not good, then they may not be able to enter a good school when they grow up, then the children will not be able to find a good job, for these parents, they are more worried about the future of their children, and they all hope that their children can live well, so parents find that their children's grades are not good, I will also be more worried and anxious.

Because many parents now want their children to be better than others, there is a serious comparison psychology, the current distribution of educational resources in the market is not very balanced, many parents in order to let their children not lose at the starting line, there is a serious anxiety mentality, to continue to put pressure on children, so that children can carry out more kinds of learning.

This is because parents now attach great importance to their children's education, and also hope that their children can have a very good future, and the competition in society is very fierce, so many parents are very anxious now, hoping that their children can win at the starting line.