Why do some mothers hate their babies very much? What are the reasons?

Some mothers don't like the baby because of the disgust of the child's father, the dislike of adults is transferred to the child, some may be the baby is too noisy, too naughty, the mother can't accept it, it is a little disgusting to the child's behavior, some of the mother may be short-tempered, do not like the child to affect her, feel that the child is a burden, and even have disgust.

Some mothers are affected by the family, are dissatisfied with the gender of the baby, and will hate their baby. There are also mothers who have a bad relationship with their husbands, so they don't like the baby very much. There are also mothers who feel that the baby has robbed them of their favor, and the family cares about the baby, so they hate her.

Mothers hate their babies, which are generally related to their original families, and they grew up in a loveless environment, so they naturally don't like their children; Another reason may be related to the child's father, and the story is only known to the mother herself; It is also possible that my mentality has not changed, and I still think that I am a child, but I am about to start taking care of the child, and it is very hard to give birth to a child, and pregnant women are prone to postpartum depression and other problems.

It is possible that the child did itThings are far from what we ask, so it's easy to hate children. There is a saying that hatred of iron does not become steel, but in the face of children, there are some things he can't do, and even he doesn't understand what he says, and he feels helpless, so he will have a hate for children. In fact, this is a very normal emotional reaction, in life, many people face opposition or even say their own words, the other party does not accept their opinions, it is easy to have a kind of resistance, and even feel uncomfortable.

But some people will turn this kind of resistance and non-acceptance into hating each other. <>

Don't have too many expectations for the child's limbs to bend the chain, let the child grow up naturally, as long as there is no violation of some principles, there is no violation of laws and regulations, then there is no need to restrict the child too much. As the saying goes, the higher the expectation, the greater the disappointment, so don't expect too much from your child. <>

It may be that the child has brought too much burden to himself and made himself too tired, so he will hate the child. When the child comes to this world, it brings us not joy but pain and fatigue, then out of the body's instinct and the brain's reaction, we will have a disgust for the child at the first time. Just like some people say that if I don't have children, maybe I can have infinite possibilities, maybe without children, I don't have to be so tired, I don't have to work so hard, I can be more self-conscious.

Hate children because they feel that children are dragging oil bottles, causing trouble to themselves, making trouble and affecting their own pursuit of happiness, so they will turn this emotion into hating children. <>

It is not excluded that there is no emotional interaction with the child, so he will hate his own child. If the interaction with the child in ordinary life is relatively lacking, and even the number of communication is relatively small, it is naturally not possible to establish emotional interaction and will have a certain sense of strangeness to the child, and some unsatisfactory behaviors of the child, it will produce a hate psychology.

Introduction、Some parents may find that they sometimes like their children very much, but sometimes they will be lenient not to hate their children, and this emotional change will make parents feel very curious and don't know why they have become like this. <>

OneWhy do parents have feelings of hating their children?

If parents hate their children, it is actually a relatively normal phenomenon, and it is also relatively normal to have this kind of psychology occasionally, because it is impossible for everyone to have a good mood to face their children. And their children sometimes have naughty phenomena, which will make parents very broken, and everyone's emotions are out of control, so it is very normal to hate their children. If your emotions will be more negative, you may also have this kind of psychology, but this kind of psychology is very normal, everyone will have this kind of emotion, so you don't need to worry too much about it.

2. What to do if this emotion occurs

In fact, if parents have this kind of emotion, it is very normal, because every time parents will be with their children, and every day parents need to watch their children, if the time is long, parents will be more tired, or more hated their children, in this case, you can give yourself a proper relaxation to relieve it, this pressure may be much better. Or parents can also choose to send their children to their elders to take care of them for a few days, because when they are more irritable, it may affect the harmonious relationship of the family. Sending the child away can give parents a very big relief, which is very helpful for improving their mood.

3. Summary

If parents hate their children, it is very normal, it is impossible for everyone to maintain a good mood at all times, and remember that the child is often with him, so it is normal to be bored and hated.

It may be because of postpartum depression and the inadaptability of role switching, which has caused the psychological and physiological stinging of the mother, resulting in low mood and irritability. Pei Fan.

It may be because your children have some bad habits, so you hate your children.

I think it is very likely that you feel that the child is dragging you down, and the child is particularly naughty, which makes you feel a sense of disgust with him, and I suggest that you correct it immediately.

<> "Why Children Hate Their Moms More and More."

10 common mistakes moms make.

1. When the child is mischievous.

X hurt type, if you don't obey, I don't want you.

Encouraged. Although Mom has always loved you, Mom doesn't like you like this!

2. When you're angry.

If it weren't for you, I would.

Encouraged. Mom was a little sad, but not with you.

3.The child doesn't do what you want x hurt me, it's all for your good.

Encourage such as concealment.

Mom thinks it's better to do it!

4.When your child doesn't listen to you.

X hurt type, I dare not listen to my words, do you?

Encouraged. Tell Mom what you think?

xHurt typeWhy are you so stingy, you don't know how to share.

v Encourage the child to be interested in your toys, he has not played with them, you call him and shout how to play, okay?

6.When the child doesn't want to say hello, why is the X hurt type so timid, it's really rude to not say hello.

Encouraging aunties especially like you, and if you say hello to her, she will be happy.

7.The child chattered.

X hurt you shut up for me.

Encouraged. Change the subject.

Shall we go and listen to a story together?

8.When you're busy.

X-Hurt Don't bother me, don't see I'm busy.

Do you have anything to say to your mom? Mom is busy, wait until she's done and then listen to you, okay?

9.When the child does not know how to do the problem.

X-damage type, how can you be so simple and not scumbag? Why are you so stupid?

Encouraged. It's okay, Mom won't study it together before, okay?

10. When the child cries, it is not allowed to cry in the hurtful way, and it is not allowed to cry, so hold it back.

Encouraged. Mommy knows you're sad, baby.

<> "Why children hate their mothers more and more is actually very simple.

When your child wants to buy a toy and refuses to leave.

I definitely won't buy it today, if you don't leave, I'll go!

This toy already has a similar one at home, so what should I do if I buy it again? Shall we set it in first and then bring a new one home?

When you're busy, but your child is pestering you.

Don't bother me, go play by yourself for a while!

Mom is completing her own task, have you done your task today? If not, let's do our own tasks and meet in the living room in about 30 minutes, shall we?

When the child doesn't do what you say.

Don't say it, listen to your mother!

That's a good idea, but can you tell your mom why? If this reason is reasonable, Mom will consider listening to you!

When the child can't stop crying.

Stop crying and arguing! If you cry again, your mother won't like you! Mom will accompany you to the corner and cry for a while, and then you will tell Mom later.

What happened and what do you think, okay?

When your child doesn't greet anyone.

Why are you so rude?

This aunt likes you very much, but if you don't greet her, she thinks that she believes that you don't like her, but she is sad. The next time we see her, take the initiative to say hello to her and tell her that you don't hate her, okay?

The child is timid and does not take the time to try.

Why don't you even dare to do this, it's too weak!

Mommy is here, let's be brave and give it a try! Make the easiest one first, if not, mom will help you as soon as possible!

When a child bullies other children.

That's what bad boys do!

Mom knows you didn't mean it, there must be a reason for you. But whatever the reason, you have hurt other children, we will go to him for this matter first, and then you can tell me your reason in person.

When your child is not doing well personally.

How do you see how people can do it?

Wow! You're better than last time. Then let's set the next goal, lift the pin wheel, Mom and you will practice together, and next time we can stand on the stage and say.

<> "Why Children Hate Their Mothers More and More."

Actually, the reason is very simple.

1. When the child is disobedient.

Damage. Don't you even dare to listen to me?

Encouraged. Tell Mom what you think?

2, Lan when you are playing **.

Damage. Go away, go away, didn't you look at your fingers and pants and see that your mother is teasing Qingqing!

Encouraged. Hush! You want to talk to your mother, right? But my mother is beating **, and when my mother finishes beating**, I will listen to you.

3. When the child does not want to share.

Damage. Why are you so stingy and don't know how to share!

Tympanic pre-excitation.

The child is interested in your toys and he has not played with them, can you teach him how to play them?

4. When the child is mischievous.

Damage. If you don't obey, I don't want you.

Encouraged. Although your mother will always love you, your mother doesn't like you the way you are.

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1. When the child is mischievous.

Damage. If you don't obey, I don't want you.

Encouraged. Although Mom has always loved you, Mom doesn't like you like this!

2.The child doesn't do what you want.

Damage. I'm all for you.

Encouraged. Mom thinks it's better to do it!

3.When you're angry.

Damage. If it weren't for you, I would.

Encouraged. Mom is a little sad, but it has nothing to do with you, thank you for being by my side, Mom loves you.

4. When your child doesn't listen to you.

Damage. Don't you even dare to listen to me?

Encouraged. Tell Mom what you think?

5.When the child doesn't want to share.

Damage. Why are you so stingy, you don't know how to share.

Encouraged. The child is interested in your toys, he has not played with them, how do you tell him to play with them?

6.When the child doesn't want to say hello.

Damage. Why are you so timid, you don't greet the mountain attendant, it's really rude.

Encouraged. Auntie likes you very much, if you say hello to her, she will be very happy, next potato or let's try to say hello next time, okay?

7. The child chatters.

Damage. Shut up.

Encouraged. Let's change the subject and listen to a story together, shall we?

8.When you're busy.

Don't bother me, don't see I'm busy.

Encouraged. Is there anything you would like to say to your mother? Mom is busy, wait until she's done and then listen to you, okay?

9.When the child does not know how to do the problem.

Damage. Why can't you be so simple? Why are you so stupid?

Encouraged. It's okay, Mom won't study it together before, okay?

10. When the child cries.

Hurt not to cry, hold back.

Encouraging mom knows you're sad, baby, mommy understands you.

<> "Why Children Hate Their Mothers More and More."

10 common mistakes moms make.

1.When the child cries.

Hurt not to cry, hold back.

Encouragement: Baby, Mommy knows you're sad right now, you can cry enough and talk about what's going on.

2.When you're busy.

Hurt: Don't bother me, don't see I'm busy!

Encouraged: Do you have anything you would like to say to your mother? Mom is busy, wait until she's done and then listen to you, okay?

3.When the child is mischievous.

Hurtful: If you do this again, your mother won't want you!

Encouragement: Although your mother will always love you, she doesn't like it when you do this.

4.When the child doesn't want to share.

Hurt: Why are you so stingy, you don't know how to share!

Encouragement: You see that the child is very interested in your toy, he has not played with the toy, can you teach him how to play with it?

5.When the child does not listen to Ashiga.

Hurt: Don't even listen to me, do you?

Encouraged: Baby, do you have an idea of your own? Can you tell me?

6.When the child doesn't want to say hello.

Damage: Why are you so cowardly, you don't even say hello!

Encouraged: Auntie likes you very much, if you say hello to her, she will be very happy, next time we try to say hello to her, okay?

7.When you're angry.

Hurt: If it weren't for you, I would?

Encouraged: Mom is a little sad, but it has nothing to do with you, thank you for being by your mother's side, mom loves you so much!

8.When the child is chattering all the time.

Hurt: Shut up! Don't talk anymore!

Encouraged: Is it okay for mom to listen to a story with you? Change the subject.

9.The child will not do the problem and dig during the period.

Damage: You're too stupid to be that simple!

Encouraged: It's okay, mom didn't know before, let's study it together, okay?

10.When the test results are not satisfactory.

Hurt: Look at other people's children, you look at you!

Encouragement: It doesn't matter if you don't do well in the exam this time, let's summarize it together and strive to improve next time than this time!