How to bridge the generation gap and start from the children s side

The existence of a generation gap will always bring more or less misunderstandings, just as this is true between young parents and children, and it is also the same between the older generation and the elderly.

For example, when you ask your father, who is alone, to move in, he always digresses and talks about how he got the house when he married his wife. It's not like he didn't listen to your questions. These nagging are just a reflection of the nostalgia that arises after they decide to leave their old house for good.

All you have to do is listen to him quietly so that he can go to live in a new place as little as possible without psychological burden.

Another example, your mother complained many times that her eyes were bad and she couldn't see clearly at night, but when you asked Tong Yanqing to go to the hospital, she resolutely didn't go. Why? It turned out that she was reluctant to go to the hospital for a check-up, partly because she didn't want to know what was wrong with her eyes.

All you have to do is persuade patiently.

1. Accompany more. The "multi-accompaniment" here is not to emphasize the number of times, but to emphasize the time. You can't rush to your parents to take a look, sit for 5 minutes, or say hello between work, but spend a considerable amount of time with them.

You may not have the time to spend hours with your parents every day, but on the weekends, you can cook a meal and make a cup of tea for them, and you can communicate more deeply.

2. In addition to listening or listening. What you need to learn here is to find out what you don't notice in the babbling words of your parents, which you don't notice.

3. Ask good questions. If your parents are looking back on an experience, you need to ask some open-ended questions. For example, when they recall a travel experience with a loved one, you can ask them:

How are you having a good time and how are you reling? "Because good questions help the elderly recall the past better. You can also help them organize their photo albums, ask them to tell about their experiences, or do some handicrafts together.

In fact, the real generation gap is produced by people themselves, such as having a generation gap with their parents and elders, such as having a generation gap with their lovers. Then there is the generation gap created by foreigners, let me tell you that Western culture is to study and attach importance to this point, and in the end, the people who engage in it are fragmented, what are they doing to study this? Is it to publish ** to make money know?

After it came to China, do you see this generation gap, that generation gap? In this way, people can't get along?

A father was very happy after picking up his son's **, and he told a close friend: "There is no generation gap between me and my son". His friend said:

What is it that makes you so happy"? He said: "My son has a girlfriend and feels like he is getting along, but he is also very nervous and wants to bring it back for me to see how it is."

His friend said, "Your son is really happy, this is Chinese culture, this is what modern people should have and learn."

There is another thing that is, a woman is engaged in scientific and technological research, and a man is a small student buried in his mind, and they get along on the road, for these two people may think that they may be together without a hidden trip, but it is often beyond everyone's expectations, because people are now not only a loving couple, but also children are in their teens, some people are curious to visit, and the answer is, "Status, work, and money are not life, care, encouragement, and praise are life, And it's a happy life. ”

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Speaking of which, it should be understood that the generation gap actually does not exist in our Chinese culture, but for modern society, the word generation gap is very poor at best, and it is the kind that is not goodFault finding！To put it bluntly, it isOpinionated! Let's see if what I'm saying makes sense?

Therefore, my suggestion is to improve emotional intelligence instead of crossing the generation gap, and there will be no such troubles.

When I was a child, I always looked forward to growing up, because when I grew up, I could do what I wanted, eat what I wanted, visit the most beautiful streets, and jump the wildest Di. As time passed, I slowly discovered that life was not as simple and casual as I imagined. Sometimes you can't listen to your parents' "advice", and you lose your temper with them from time to time, thinking that your parents don't care enough about you.

Is it you pushing them away, or are they not enthusiastic enough about you. The so-called generation gap, does it really exist between two or even three generations, in fact, everyone knows, parents can be said to be the only people in this world who want their children to live better than themselves. However, it is inevitable that there will still be some emotional contradictions that are difficult to alleviate and resolve in the physical and mental growth of children and family life.

The post-70s and post-80s bumper parents who grew up in poor conditions and the post-00s children who grew up in a superior family environment live in the same world, but there are definitely differences in ideology and behavioral awareness.

Parents often feel that they go out early and return late, and raise their children with hard work, naturally hoping that their children will make a difference in their studies, but often, these parents are too eager and utilitarian to urge and persecution, so that many children are "stressed" and overwhelmed in their studies, and they lose their curiosity and curiosity at a young age. As the so-called "good intentions do bad things", many parents are clearly "for the good of their children", but after spending a lot of time, energy and money, they do not get the understanding and respect of their children as "benefactors".

But it is not easy for children, they have grown up under the pampering of their parents and the elderly on both sides. Whether it is food or drink, it is almost "clothes to reach out and food to open mouth". Children think of willfulness and freedom, parents think of life and future, and naturally there is a deep concern for each other that is similar to "thinking and reality", which is irreconcilable and integrated.

This is the problem, because there is less communication, less communication, there is disagreement, so the generation gap appears. Here, I hope that all children, including myself, can talk more about their parents, about life, about the present, and about the future.

Personally, I don't think the generation gap is an occasional disagreement; The generation gap is not the rebellion of youth or the excessive secretion of hormones; The generation gap is the collision and friction between a person and other people's worldview after they have a preliminary understanding of the world. The only way out for the core of the trace is to seek common ground while reserving differences—but under the same roof, how easy it is to seek common ground while reserving differences.

Quarrels over trivial matters are only the appearance of the generation gap, far from the essence of the generation gap. The essence lies in the difference in outlook on life, worldview, and values.

When I discover the essence of life's little things, I am suddenly so powerless: the generation gap is not an occasional disagreement; The generation gap is not the rebellion of youth or the excessive secretion of hormones;

The generation gap is the collision and friction between a person and other people's worldview after they have a preliminary understanding of the world. The only way out is to seek common ground while reserving differences - under the same roof, how easy it is to seek common ground while reserving differences.

I hail and know that they truly love me and pay for me; I love them too. But we are not destined to be one type of people. I'm not a copy of them, I'm so different from them, I don't know whether to be happy or sad.

Parents should first pay attention to their own expressions, use more encouraging and positive words for their children, do not always order their children with a straight face, and cannot use sarcastic language to criticize their children. For example, parents always say "no", "no", "no", "no", "you should do this" and so on. This kind of communication will make the child feel constrained, and over time, the child will naturally resist the parents.

Parents try not to talk to themselves when communicating verbally with their children! Always pay attention to your child's reaction and attitude, and drive your child's desire to express yourself. If parents only care about themselves when talking to their children, it will suppress the expression of children's emotions, and will make children and parents unable to communicate emotionally, and it is easier for children to get bored with the conversation and be unwilling to communicate with their parents.

As children grow, they crave dialogue with their parents on an equal footing. Therefore, parents should respect their children's needs and communicate with them in an attitude of soliciting their children's opinions and discussions. In daily life, give your child more "power" so that he can also participate in family affairs, which can not only cultivate children's sense of family responsibility, but also make children's communication with parents pleasant.

Parents should not be arbitrary in communicating with their children, but encourage them to take the initiative to discuss with their parents and respect their views and opinions. In this way, children will become more daring to speak, dare to challenge authority, dare to express their true thoughts, and will naturally become closer to their parents.

In communication with children, parents should not impose their own ideas on their children. Parents can't always be right, so don't suppress your child's thoughts and opinions. If there is a disagreement between parents and their children in terms of ideas and opinions, parents should resolve them in a fair and just manner.

For example, point out the disadvantages of your child's ideas, or explain the possible advantages and disadvantages of your child's methods in practice. Even if the child's ideas and opinions are wrong, parents should persuade the child in a gentle tone, rather than reprimanding them bluntly, because this will discourage the child's desire to express himself and easily alienate him from his parents.

I think it's important to communicate with children often, understand their ideas, and at the same time let them know what we think, try what they like, gradually get closer to them, and have common topics with them.

1.First of all, if there is a generation gap between parents and children, it is necessary to find out the cause of the generation gap first. Different methods for different reasons will be able to solve the problem relatively well, after all, every family is different.

2.If there are some misunderstandings or lack of mutual understanding between the two parties because of the lack of timely and effective communication between the two parties, then it is best for the family to find a time with a good atmosphere on the weekend or after dinner, sit down and talk about their thoughts, which can not only eliminate some unnecessary misunderstandings but also deepen the feelings between each other. After all, children and parents are related by blood, and they are also the closest people in the world.

Generally speaking, there is a generation gap, and the main reason is that they don't understand each other. Maybe you should get your parents to trust you. Trust plays an irreplaceable and important role in communication between people.

If you don't trust your parents, or they don't trust you or think you're a child, so don't tell you anything. (In my opinion, this is a different kind of mistrust, but for different reasons.) Then it's normal for you to have a generation gap between you.

In fact, I also have a deep generation gap with my parents, I have no way to understand their world, and they have no way to understand our world. Always think that what you do is good for the other person. Although they don't understand each other. But it's really painful.

So I can get to know you. So now you have to make sure you talk to your parents. Are they willing to give you and themselves a chance to get to know each other? It's impossible to fully understand it, but having a start is the best kind of success.

Hopefully you can do it.

I envy that kind of situation, too. Good luck!

Understand each other, there is no threshold that cannot be crossed, and in the end you will find that it is not easy for each other.

Let it be, when the son has a sense of responsibility, he will have an inexplicable affection for his father.

Communicate with your heart and express yourself with words! Understand with action.

To really communicate through the heart, but before that, we should get closer to each other from some small things, such as through some small things in life, or the common preferences of two people, start with these common hobbies, and slowly deepen the communication, one day, we will be able to eliminate the existence of the so-called generation gap, I wish you happiness.

It's hard to understand.

Mutual understanding.

Let's take parents born in the 60s and children born in the 80s as an example to analyze this problem

People born in the 60s, from the Cultural Revolution to the period of reform and opening up, have relatively low cultural quality and living conditions, and now when the standard of living has improved, there is still frugality in their thinking, thinking about their children everywhere, saving money to buy a house and buying a marriage for their children, so that their hearts are broken. When I reach the age of fifty or sixty, due to physiological reasons, my physique is deteriorating, and it is difficult to cope with the impact and changes of new things. The accompanying outdated ideas are intensified, and there are communication barriers between stubbornness and self-awareness and children.

For the children of the post-80s, born in the era of reform and opening up, their culture, education, and living standards have been greatly improved. Nowadays, as the post-80s generation, it is the mainstay of society, and the work experience and life experience have matured, which is an excellent age to accept new things. Due to working hard outside, there is less time to live with parents, and there is relatively little communication, and there is a large gap in the ideological level, so it is inevitable that there will be different opinions on the problem, and there will be a generation gap with parents in terms of thinking and communication.

We must all face up to this problem, parents and children must learn to communicate with each other, drink tolerance, be humble to each other, reach a consensus, find a point of convergence, and create a beautiful and happy life!

Home and everything is prosperous!