At what moment did you understand a certain thought or behavior of your parents?

When my little family was in a state of flux, I was very depressed. Many people are trying to persuade me, comfort me, and hope that I will come out of the shadows. One afternoon, Mom, quietly told me something.

She said she was illiterate, but could only write names. When our family moved from the countryside to the small town, my mother didn't have a job. But the family conditions were not good, and in order to improve her life, she began to sell dry noodles.

She told me that in the beginning, there were few people who came, and business could not be done. She still gritted her teeth and insisted. One afternoon, when she was tidying up the storefront, she found a pair of shoes in the corner of the storefront, brand new.

She estimated who had fallen. Later, this person came back and asked my mother, did you see a pair of shoes? My mom immediately took it out for him and saw that he was dressed a little in tatters.

gave him 5 yuan and said, "It's all from the countryside, it's not easy, you take it to catch the car." "A few days later, business was suddenly very good.

Mom thought it was strange, and when she asked, she found out that the person she helped that day was someone near the town. He felt my mother's help, and when he met people, he said, "So-and-so on that street in the town has a very kind heart, and if you need to change the dry noodles, go to her."

Once business picked up, my mother said that she often couldn't sleep at night, and her mind was full of numbers. But she gritted her teeth and persevered. She said to me:

There will always be a lot of things that happen to people, no matter how difficult it is, as long as you think it is right, perseverance will have good results. Although my mother said this sentence very easily, I know how much hard work is involved behind it. She is using her own experience to inspire me, and she knows her like a mother.

At that moment, I felt like I had gained a tremendous amount of energy. Since then, I've been getting better.

When he was young, he was the most sticky to his father, and he held the corners of his clothes wherever he went, until he left home to study, and completely let go of his hands to grow savagely. After many years of separation, there is little communication. Then there were several changes in the family, misunderstandings, complaints, desires and other emotions unconsciously grew to the chest blockage.

When I suddenly looked back, the gap between me and my father was already far away, and the sky was on different sides. Fortunately, I entered the education industry and learned from my children how to express love to their parents. So he followed his heart and took the initiative to invite his father to go to the beach on a weekday afternoon.

Once this coast, there was a memory between our father and daughter when I was a child. My father refused at first, but finally satisfied my willfulness. I'm afraid it's hard to forget this afternoon.

The sea has its own natural healing effect, and when we walk on the beach, we don't talk about work, we don't talk about marriage, we don't talk about all the scorching realities. On the way back, I finally began to mention my feelings and demands after every misunderstanding over the years. Ah, I'm really wronged, I don't understand why, I don't understand why the people who used to be closest to me choose to believe the words of others and constantly question me.

The rays of the setting sun jumped in through the front window and enveloped my father. I could clearly see a strand of silver glistening on his sideburns. "I'm sorry for my daughter, but I can't remember a lot of things before.

You've worked hard all these years, kid. "At that moment, I understood the secret hidden under the black hair. How ruthless the years are, how difficult life is, why should you be harsh on your parents?

After all, in this world, the position that can be employed without a certificate is a parent.

When I watched my four-year-old son fall asleep, I couldn't help but touch his forehead and hair and tidy up the quilt for him, even though I knew that the quilt didn't have to be moved. At this time, I can't help but think of my mother who has left, and it will be almost two years today. When my father died in 2007, I was still in school.

When my mother passed away in 2016, I had been working for 7 years and my son was 2 years old. Raising children knows their parents' kindness, they used to think of them nagging, they were not educated and incapable, and they were not able to speak, but now when they play with their sons, they can't help but think of them, and remember how good they have been to themselves since childhood. Now I am most afraid and unwilling to see the kind of scene involving the illness or death of a loved one, or this kind of topic, whether it is in reality or in film and television.

Every time I think of them at once, and then tears come out. Sometimes, on the way home from overtime at night, I would stop the car on the side of the road and cry the steering wheel. I wish all parents in the world good health and cherish the time spent with my parents, but I will never have the opportunity to listen to my parents again.

When I was eating dumplings tonight, my dad suddenly cried, and we all thought it was hot after eating dumplings, but it wasn't. I have an older brother in his twenties, who was born with rabbit lips and was abandoned by my parents (please don't spray more than 20 years ago, my family was really poor and poor, often rice can't be eaten, my mother eats tofu dregs, my parents have no culture, I didn't think that rabbit lips can be cured), now my parents want to recognize him, but because of some reasons in reality, we don't often contact his adoptive parents, my dad misses my brother very, very much, today because of a song "Mom I miss you" tears collapsed, My dad cried like a child, I seem to understand his feelings a little, my dad misses two people the most in his life, one is my grandfather who has passed away, and the other is my brother. Of course, it's not all of these, my dad's pressure is too great, there is a factory at home that is struggling, hundreds of thousands of debts, losing money every day, his son is in college, and he has to pay wages to workers every month, these may be nothing in the eyes of some rich people, but my dad is a very simple farmer born, no culture, he has worked very hard to run this factory, and wants to revive this factory, so he is really tired and I feel sorry for him. ‍‍

After I worked, I complained to my mother because of emotional problems, but my mother did not blame me like when I was a child, but helped me analyze it very objectively and comforted me softly. I think the reason why my mother disciplined me a lot when I was a child must be because she didn't study hard when she was a child, so I look forward to me studying hard. It must be because her parents disciplined me less when she was a child, so she felt that there was something missing, and she should discipline me well.

Well, I'm already grateful for being able to do this to me as an adult, and I forgive you for the pain I suffered as a child

As the saying goes: raise children to prevent old age. When people reach middle age, they know that their parents are the biggest insurance in their lives, with unlimited mileage and unlimited period, which is the biggest barrier in the heart of walking in this world!

When I was young, I tried my best to deal with my parents, but now I can't imagine that if you lose your parents, you will lose the person who loves you the most in the world, and you will no longer be anyone's child. The love of parents makes the course of life never out of insurance! ‍‍

I am a man, I don't like to rub skin care products, and I don't like to wash my hair with shampoo. However, my mother always asked me to clean myself, I felt troublesome, she said that movie stars are not glamorous, they don't like to be clean, and they can't even find a girlfriend, and I always refute that I am not a movie star, and I am not in a hurry to find a girlfriend. Later, when I went to college, I slowly changed and learned about the world, and I felt that the focus of this sentence was not on movie stars, but on having a worry-free life.

It turns out that the farthest distance is not the ends of the earth, but you want me to live better, but I flee from the embrace of finding freedom.

I didn't understand why my mother was always nagging and talking bitterly. This year, I came to the house to support my family, and my work was not going well, and my income was low. So every time I want to quit but don't dare to resign, I want to spend money but I don't have money to spend, and when I see my sister who quit after graduation, I suddenly want to nag, and I want to say to my sister, you are so tired of your sister, when will you grow up and share some for me.

From the time I started to learn to smoke, I learned about my father's behavior.

I hated smoking at first, and I hated people who smoke in public. But my dad is a smoker, from I don't know how to be sensible, and in the past 21 years, my father has never given up this hobby. Under the pressure of my mother and me, he did not refute but did not completely quit smoking, and he still retains this habit to this day.

My dad wasn't born silent, but he changed too much and became more and more silent. When I was a child, I just hated the smell of smoke, which was like the hot sun in Nanjing summer, spicy. I don't remember how many times I pinched my cigarette butts, or how many cigarette butts my dad relit.

Later, after I left home from college, the smell of smoke was less, but I still hated my dad for smoking.

It's clear that I don't have a good relationship with my dad, and I hate some of the things he does in his daily life, but that doesn't stop me from worrying about his body day by day. A lot of times this kind of thing is unspeakable, and all I can do is tell my father again and again not to smoke, not to smoke in public.

But one day, I started smoking. I always thought I would never touch such a thing, and I still remember the feeling of hating the smell of smoke to the core, but fate played a joke on me, and by chance I learned to smoke, although not many times, but always lit a cigarette when I was uncomfortable.

I always feel stupid, why do I smoke when I'm sad, is it for the chaos of my head at that moment? Or is it for the sake of the confusion of that moment? Or do you want to escape from this world for a while?

Every time I hesitate in pain, I will light a cigarette, as if I saw that night many years ago, my father sat downstairs alone, full of cigarette butts, moonlight sprinkled, and the burning cigarette butts curled up and smoked, and the sadness of that moment, I remember it to this day.

So I often think now, maybe my change in my father started at that time.

When I became a parent, I suddenly understood the sweat that my parents had paid for me at that time, and the countless days and nights that I had been working hard for early and late.

When I was looking for a job, my parents let me learn to speak when I was a child, so I got my dream job with my excellent eloquence, so I am grateful to my parents for forcing me to learn speaking.

When I grew up, I realized how important it was to read more books and exercise, and I didn't realize it before, but now I realize that knowledge and physical health are much more important than games.

When my children also started to go to school, I began to be nervous about my children's learning status and grades, and suddenly understood the strictness and teaching of my parents in the past.

My mother has always taught me to study hard and get into a good university, otherwise I will suffer in the future, but I don't think so, I used to think that I didn't have to go to a good university to get ahead, but now I regret it, and I understand my parents' hard work.

After I had my own children, I could understand the strictness of my parents, and I wanted my children to be better.

When I had a child, I suddenly realized that my parents' meticulous care for me came from the subconscious, which is the truest portrayal of father's love and mother's love.

Since I was a child, I can understand my father's feudal and superstitious thoughts, and most of my father's thoughts are still a matter of my grandmother's education.

When I saw that many of my mother's colleagues were married to us and didn't necessarily go back once a year, I understood why my parents didn't approve of me marrying away.

That was the first time I got drunk, and I suddenly realized how painful my father was to get drunk every time he socialized, and how much I could help him get some alcohol afterwards.

I have always had a big opinion of my father for many years. I think he is a very cowardly person, he doesn't care about his family, he doesn't care about his mother, and he can't make moneyAll the unhappiness in the family is caused by his incompetence. These reasons are my mother's complaints about me.

Whenever she was dissatisfied, she always called ** to complain to me. For many years, my father was going to work and leave. During the holidays I always hear my mother scolding my father.

One time my mom cried badly in front of me. I was angry and rushed to my father, who had come back to celebrate the New Year like me. I scolded him to his faceTold him all about my mother's displeasure with him.

Dad always bowed his head and remained silent. When we finished talking, he would smoke until dawn. Later, when I passed by my father's place of work on a business trip, I saw my father, who had been working the construction site, and he and those who worked with him were complimenting the wife of the family for how virtuous he was, and how well-behaved and sensible I was!

At this time, I realized that I really didn't understand my father, and even for many years I only heard my mother complain, but I forgot to ask my father why, and my father took all the faults, but he never complained to anyone, even at workHe still said this about our thoughtfulness to him, to be honest, when he said these words, I guess even my father's own heart was in tears!

No one in the family understood my father, but he didn't complain to us, and on that day I took my father out for a meal, and asked him why he didn't explain to us, so that we could misunderstand and blame him, and he said that he was still incompetent, so that you could live such a hard life; That day I came home for the first time and yelled at my mother! I don't know if you have seen the migrant worker at the train station, he was reluctant to buy instant noodles in the waiting room, he said, "It doesn't matter if you eat it when you're not working!" "He has tears in his eyes, do you see them?