What moment does your life feel bleak?

My father's sudden death made me feel grief-stricken and powerless, from the onset of the illness to his death, only one month, even if I accompanied him, I couldn't hold his life, and suddenly felt that life was impermanent. It is the Qinghe Festival, and I wish the souls of my relatives who are far away in heaven to be well.

In the eighteenth and nineteenth year, I fell in love with a girl from our village, and we fell in love with each other for a year and a half, when my family conditions were very poor, and I did not dare to marry into the family, and finally she broke up with me and married into a wealthy family.

When you want to do something, but you find that you have no ability to do it, when you spend ten days to complete a task, and are completely rejected by colleagues and leaders, when you go to apply for a job and interview, and when you are asked by the interviewer and are speechless, you care a lot, and pour all your career, when you have nothing, in the dead of night, you think about life, think of your past, but there is nothing to prove yourself.

Everyone may take a different path, but on everyone's road there will be setbacks, there will be radiant times, but also there will be a low period of life, the low period will be the darkest moment for us to face life and face the world!

Career failure. When your career fails, some relatives say to you, let you not do it, you want to do it, now you know that if you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you. You can only have bitterness that you can't say, and you cry silently alone at night.

My earliest moment in the face of darkness should be the college entrance examination, the college entrance examination is also the most important turning point in every student's life, at that time, we are all working hard to prepare, I feel that time is always in a hurry for me, even if I call to eat and go to the toilet, I will keep looking at the time, especially when it comes to the countdown to the college entrance examination for 100 days, it is even more powerful, I simply forgot to sleep and eat, it is not an exaggeration to say this, so I stayed up at noon to the moment of going to the battlefield, I still fell off the list, it was a failure, Remember when I locked myself in the house for two whole days, except for going to the toilet, I didn't eat a bite of food, and I started to think about the rest of my life, review? It's still a part-time job, and I've been wandering, and I really want to never go out and see anyone! Later, I went to become a soldier, and my mood slowly recovered!

I have dreams, but reality oppresses me and I can't realize them. A chicken job, but after the love of a few people, unhappy and want to resign, they are embarrassed to speak. My husband is not angry and wants to divorce, but he can't just leave.

The reality is that you are obviously unhappy, but you still have to laugh. The path you have chosen, with tears, has to go on.

Let's talk about the "gloomy mentality" and "gloomy life" ......

Some time ago, there was a lot of discussion on the topic of depression, Shirley, known as the "Korean peach", ended her young life because of this, and the fashion blogger @Late Night Xu Teacher and the food blogger @Xiangxiang Dazhan I followed all talked about their experiences of depression in **.

Sometimes the changes from physical to psychological are not visible to others, but I am uncomfortable over there.

How could I be like this", "I'm so disappointed in myself", "I'm so uncomfortable", ......This is the monologue that keeps coming up in their hearts when they are sick. In the eyes of outsiders, they are not shocked, but in fact, their hearts have already been turbulent......Surrounded by constant self-blame and chagrin, he was tormented.

There was a time when I was also at my darkest moment, my whole person was controlled by emotions, and I was very disappointed in myself and had nothing to achieve, but on the other hand, I had difficulty calming down and doing things, which was accompanied by procrastination. It's hard to extricate yourself from this vicious circle.

Yes, our bodies can get hurt and sick, and so will our minds!

As long as you think about it, you will actually feel much more relaxed, allow yourself to have a lot of imperfections, and instantly feel that your breathing is much easier.

Everyone has a dark moment, both mentally and personally.

So, next time, if you feel that you are in a "dark mind" or a "gray life", you might as well try to tell yourself: I may be sick during this time, it's nothing, I need to take a break, I can also seek help from others, they all care about me and are willing to help me out of trouble.

Take it easy ......

Psychological analysis: Everyone's life is both bright and gloomy, when the bright part is about the dark part, we will feel that the world is bright and colorful, when the gray part is greater than the bright part, we will feel that the world is gray.

There are too many dark parts of the subject's world, that is, you have experienced too many setbacks in the process of growing up, too many injuries from Tuansui, and too little love you get.

So we have to find a way to add a little bit of brightness to our lives, we can make a few close friends, we can comfort ourselves when we are feeling down, we can also get along with our parents, and we can get some support.

We can also trust your counsellor to ask for help to change our perspective on certain things and turn the dark part of our life into a colorful part.

In fact, everyone in this society has to experience a lot of setbacks or pressures, and each of us cannot have smooth sailing to live in our old ageThat's why I think there are times when I feel very bad in this society.

Just like you asked, then all kinds of difficulties we encounter in lifeMaybe we're all going to hit our lives, so how do we get through these bad times?

First of all, I think we can talk to our parentsWhy? Because I think my parents are the closest people in the world to us, if you can't tell your parents, then who can you talk to? In fact, I think that in this society, we often encounter unpleasant things, and the most important thing is that we need to find a solution.

This first requires us to find someone who can help us solve it together, and our parents have more social experience than we will definitely come up with some ways to help us, so I think a person who wants to go through some difficult times is to communicate more actively, especially with their own parents.

The second one I think can be a tripBecause I find it a particularly pleasant thing to travel, when you come to a strange place alone. Far away, the society you originally lived in is far away, and those things that make you feel unpleasant come to a strange place, so I think you can learn about some of the local culture and food ** belong to your own bad emotions, so I think it is still a very good travel to let you see what the outside world is like, so I think travel is also a way to help us adjust our mentality, because tourism can make us feel good and happy in life.

When I was at the lowest point, I always persuaded myself not to be impatient, but I really couldn't calm down. Always want to climb to the sky in one step, but this is impossible, only step by step out of the predicament, there is no shortcut, everyone should not be in a hurry, because it is not a problem that can be solved in a hurry, only by working steadily or doing some stable small business, can you slowly get out of the predicament, the more impatient the more prone to mistakes, the easier it is to be deceived, calm down to see yourself.

I've had a time when I thought about getting rid of it at that low point. But I think of my parents, who gave birth to me and raised me, who gave so much for me, and if I just go away like that, let them send gray hair and black hair. This is an act of unfilial piety!

So think more about your parents, their dedication and hard work are not easy. The road is chosen by yourself, and you have to go on no matter how hard or tired you are. The most important thing is your own mentality, keep a good attitude to face everything, I think anything can be overcome.

Everyone may encounter dark or low times in different periods, and you can talk to someone when you feel that you are dark, but you can't ask for help, no matter what difficulties you have, you have to face it sooner or later, and you will win if you defeat the demons, and you will have more growth experience.

People need things to grind in order to grow! Why do you hear a lot of truths, but you still can't live this life? This is because the truth you hear will not enter your heart, and only what you perceive can govern your actions.

After spending more than a month alone in a dark room, I watched movies and listened to **. I cry when I see a sad scene or hear a lyric. I feel that life is meaningless, and I can't listen to the comforting words spoken by my family and relatives.

Finally, my uncle forced the door open and took me to the car for a spin outside, and I felt like I was in the world. It's dark now, but I've always believed that the light is tomorrow.

The job of maintaining a stable life was innocently lost, the career that had been working hard for two years was stranded, the girl who had a crush for two years got married to someone, the loved one died suddenly, the only wallet was stolen by a pickpocket, and the hand was injured if I wanted to do something to make a little money to do living expenses, I didn't know how to get out of the trough of those two years, I gave up all my illusions after the personality change, and walked over step by step, after years of hard work, I have a stable life, but there are more challenges in my life, as long as I have confidence in myself, Everything will get better and better.

People will experience a lot in their lives, when I was studying, I complained about homework, hated the days of school, grew up and entered the society, I sometimes complained about the unsatisfactory work, the pressure of life, not when I went into the trough, I was always depressed, ran to a no-man's land and roared with all my strength to vent all the bad things, I don't do it after a long time, because sometimes I watch TV or some ** people, their experience is just the tip of the iceberg compared to them, so that I am always very happy when I encounter unsatisfactory now, Because what happened to me was not the worst. Or maybe I've changed, time has erased the fangs, everyone's experience has something intriguing, life can't be gray all the time, one day it can be colorful, first of all, you have to believe, and secondly, you have to work hard.

The darkest time, well, is now. In addition to going to work, work, two points and one line, squeezing the morning train subway that can never have a seat, but I don't know what I want to do in my head. I have a job and I get paid, but I'm still confused.

If you want to do what you want to do, it means losing your stable income, giving up your ideals, and one day you will become a salted fish submerged by society. Between the two of them, they will never be able to become what they want to be, and they struggle and suffer for it. Darkness is the helplessness of one's own incompetence and reality.

And I choose to watch movies, chase anime, and write to vent, live in my imagination, and truly become myself.