What can be done to change the stubborn thinking of mothers?

<> many girls will say that they were cared for by their mothers during their own growth. However, at the time of their adolescence. They always forget their mother's care, they always think that their mother talks too much, their mother's stubborn thoughts, and so on.

But in fact, the stubborn thoughts of mothers are for the sake of our children. So sometimes we don't have to change these minds, we have to try to understand.

You can choose to sit down and talk to them, and tell them that they have grown up, because in the eyes of Mom and Dad we will always be children, and they are not very aware that we can make our own decisions and take care of our own lives. If you really can't communicate, you can secretly do a little resistance, anyway, that's how I let my parents accept it little by little, hhh, but this method should be used with caution, because after all, the family is different.

If a person has such a character for the first half of his life, he has basically been stereotyped, in fact, there are many people of this type, don't try to change him, because you will definitely be disappointed, you can only make yourself strong. Don't hate your mother, he is already your mother, this is a fact that cannot be changed, all you have to do is make yourself a warm person, good luck and good years.

There is actually a lack of communication between me and my mother, because my parents are out all the year round, and I rarely see them every year, almost only during the winter vacation and New Year, so my mother often only asks me to study, I think this is a very stubborn idea, so I want to chat with her more and communicate.

Many people say that it is useless to reason with their mother, and nothing can be changed about their mother's stubborn thoughts. In fact, on the contrary, if you use some radical methods, it will make your mother think that you are rebellious, if you can calm down and talk to your mother, this is the best solution.

Listen to my mother's words, there are a lot of ** now, most men are like this, everything he does has a purpose. It's too late for you to be hurt, and it's still your mother who is sad. Isn't there such a saying, the most knowledgeable are the parents, and at the same time, only the parents will care about your own interests and be good to you.

Don't try to change your parents' concept through language, the success rate of you changing your lover is only a few tenths of a percent, not to mention the old people who are different from the times? Perceptions are determined by experience, not by words. When your differences are in some ethereal areas that will not immediately cause **, you just have to play haha, coax, admit your mistakes, divert your attention, and you won't lose pounds of meat, right!

I think the most important thing is to have two people sit down and talk. You can't lecture your mom in angry words. The two of them can talk calmly and resolve all the things that are on their minds and those unhappy things.

This overcomes all solutions.

Their current standard of living is quite comfortable, although they can't buy luxury goods, but the basic life is definitely no problem, they can also travel occasionally, children can learn what they like, and they can also ask for a personal tutor. It allows children to grow up in a relatively affluent family environment, and does not allow children to experience any poverty.

However, one of the dilemmas she faces is that if they maintain relatively comfortable living conditions, they may not be able to buy a house or a car for their children in the future, nor can they give them a decent bride price to marry a wife. After all, their family has two sons, and if they really want to buy a house and a car, they have to have two copies of everything.

One of her worries: I'm afraid that when the children grow up, they will blame her for not saving money for them, not buying them a house and a car?

After reading it, I just wanted to say to her, "If you do so much and your children will still blame you, then you are a failure as a parent." It's because you give too much to your two children that they have so many demands and complaints about you.

You have given your children a relatively good standard of living, much better than the children of many families, and it is already very good to be able to achieve such living conditions as your family, and you have done your best, so why should your children blame you? ”

What good living conditions, a 200-square-meter house, which is beyond the reach of many families.

If even you have this concern, what do you ask a lot of parents to rent a house? What do you do with a lot of families of four crammed into a house of less than 60 square meters?

There is no need to worry about this, just do your best to love your children and be good to them, and the rest is up to them. The more I grew up, the more I began to hate my parents, their ignorance, their shallowness, their weakness, their selfishness.

I also have an older brother at home. The family is in the countryside, and the self-built house and a car are all the assets of the family.

When I was 12 years old and in junior high school, my mother told me that this house would be my brother's in the future, and I didn't even think about a corner.

I went to high school at the age of fifteen, a county middle school, a boarder, and only went home during the winter and summer vacations. There is a girl in the dormitory, she and her mother dare to scold. I thought she was so unfilial, how could she scold her mother.

Later, it was found that she had a good relationship with her mother, and she also had a younger brother, but her mother said to her: "As long as I am one day, there will always be a room for you in this house." ”

Later, when I was admitted to university, my parents took me to school, and the train arrived at 4 o'clock in the morning that day, and many parents and students stayed in the on-campus guest house together. My mother took the opportunity to chat with other people's mothers, and heard that other people's suitcases are similar to the kind of children's and mother's bags, seven or eight large and small, uniform color, and 10,000 smaller. My suitcase was bought in the county supermarket, more than 200 one, I can't remember clearly.

It's been a year since I graduated, and I'm still using it.

You are already an adult and have the right to accept and reject what anyone else asks you to do. So in the face of parents like you, be sure to communicate with them comprehensively about this matter. Tell them you don't like that. This should be done concretely.

First, find a time to sit down and talk to your parents about what they think about them always asking you to do things you don't like. If your parents don't think that they make you do something you don't like, it means that they don't pay attention to your feelings at all.

Second, try to do your part well, so that your parents believe that you can make your own decisions and plan your own life, and you don't need your parents to tell you what to do.

Third, separate yourself from your parents. Because you are an adult who has entered society, you don't need to implement everything according to your parents' wishes and decisions, you have your own thoughts and ideas, and if you are not fundamentally separated, then many of your major decisions in the future will be influenced by them.

In fact, I have a deep feeling for this matter, because my mother is a person who loves to worry about my affairs, and even she likes to "arrange", but I am indeed a person who does not like to let others do a lot of things for me, so in order to avoid such things, I silently did a lot of resistance, such as often doing things first and then playing, and only informing them of the final result. It turns out that I have done a lot of things by myself, and I don't necessarily need the advice and participation of my parents, and there are many cases like this, I believe that they will let go of your heart, and they will not ask you to do this and that often. The premise is that you must correct your idea of relying on your parents, and it is not so difficult to listen to them, try to express your thoughts, and your parents will understand you and choose to let go.