Why is it said that the more sensible people are, the less people feel distressed?

In fact, whether it is from our experience when we were children, or some TV series and movies we watched, we can find that it is true that the more sensible people are, the less distressed they are. Everyone knows that crying children have candy, and I think this sentence is really true, because only when you really put forward your needs, will people see you, know your needs and be able to meet you. And as a sensible child, always try to solve some problems by yourself, and sometimes you will solve it by fiddling with it, at this time adults will think that you are a very independent child and do not need too much love, so it is easy to become the one who is ignored.

As a girl, you will be educated by your parents like this since you were a child, although you are a girl, but you can't be too squeamish, and you can do what you can do by yourself. And our parents often say to us, why are you so blind, you don't understand this thing, so that we are always very cautious, afraid of bothering others.

When I grew up, I developed an empathetic look, I was embarrassed to trouble others about anything, and felt that I should solve these things independently, but in the long run, many people think that you are very powerful, you are very strong, even if something happens, you can complete it independently, and deal with it very well, so everyone ignores you, even when you are in difficulty, they also think that you can easily complete it, but in fact, at this time our inner emotions are very broken, It always feels like no one is coming to help us.

The more sensible we are, the more we should understand them, so sometimes it often becomes an excuse for them to make some very excessive demands. Empathy is a good thing, but we can't think about others everywhere, and trouble others appropriately, but can enhance the feelings between everyone, after all, communication needs to come and go, so that everyone will not feel that you have too much sense of distance, I hope that everyone who is sensible can get the care of others, I hope our sensible is just right.

Is sensibility a bad thing or a good thing? No one can really judge. Sensible people are easy to get praise from adults, but at the same time, they will lack the attention of adults.

It is precisely because they are too sensible that they will make the people around them ignore their feelings. That's why it's said that a crying child has milk.

Because sensible people don't cry, if they don't cry, they won't attract attention, and they won't have milk to drink.

01. Sensible people lack a sense of presence even more. In the family, naughty children will attract the attention of their families and will be loved by their parents more probly. Because if you are sensible too early, it is easy for parents to ignore psychological feelings.

They seem to understand everything, and they don't need to be taken care of by others, so they lack a sense of presence. In fact, it is not a good thing for children to be sensible too early, and it feels like they will be even more lacking in love. <>

02. Sensible people don't seem to need to be cared for. The most commendable thing about sensible people is that they don't need to be taken care of very much. They are able to take care of their lives well, rarely ask for help from the outside world, and do not seem to bother others, but in fact they bear everything silently.

And outsiders like this kind of people who don't bother themselves, but this also defaults to the fact that they don't need to be taken care of. <>

03. Sensible people habitually carry all difficulties by themselves. Sensible people are generally stronger, and they are not able to overcome difficulties all the time, but habitually resist everything alone. They also have times of sadness, but in order not to bring this bad mood to others, they tend to swallow everything themselves.

No one can really be strong, and sensible people are just pretending to be strong. <>

Sensible people are powerful in the eyes of others because they seem invincible. They are able to digest all the bad emotions on their own and bring out the best in them. But this state of being invisible to outsiders is the most distressing, in fact, sensible people also need to be protected.

The reason is none other than these three points:

1. Get used to facing everything by yourself.

Since childhood, he has not been favored, he can do anything by himself, he is used to the taste of fighting alone, how can he not be strong, if someone hurts, someone is petted, who is willing to carry everything by himself, who is willing to be so tired, that is, no one to rely on, no backing.

2. Spoiled children have candy to eat.

From childhood to adulthood, parents made them sensible, saving a lot of parents' hearts, so that they had to be sensible, and people complained that children who would be spoiled had candy to eat, because they couldn't be coquettish, too sensible, so they always had no sense of existence.

3. Too strong, people forget that they will cry.

Since childhood, I have developed not to trouble others, not to let others do what I can do, to develop a pleasing personality, to give priority to the feelings of others in everything, for fear that the other party will be unhappy, even if I am wronged, I will not say it, others think that I am always a small strong person who can't fight.

Because the more sensible people are, the more tolerant and considerate they are in the eyes of others, so the more sensible people are, the less distressed they are.

Sensible people are relatively strong, they will think about others first in everything, put themselves in a secondary position, and slowly the people around them will get used to his care, and will not think of caring for him.

Because you are sensible, let others feel that what you do is what you should do, because you are sensible, you may not need others for many things, and there will be fewer people who naturally feel sorry for you.

Isn't the meaning obvious, the question is who said it and whom, age, gender, and different meanings, and only people of the same kind can understand it. Looking at your question, I don't think you're very old, probably about junior high school, right? On the surface, it means that sensible people will make people who understand her feel distressed.

It's literal, this sentence is already very straightforward, very, very uncomfortable, sad, unhappy, the mood is extremely bad, I feel that everything is hopeless, there is only one lonely to share under this invisible pressure, this kind of pain is the most painful.

It makes people feel very distressed and cherished, and they love and pity Zhou Jean. It is a sentence that expresses a liking for a person or thing.

It should be that you don't understand a little, or you feel a little tired, and the most important thing is to see your mood.

It's very, very ......Cute!

Most of it is said by men to women.

Particularly. Pronunciation [gé wài].

Near-righteous town coarse] extraordinarily extraordinary, extraordinary, very special, very abnormal, extraordinary.

Antisense] ordinary general.

Particularly. gé wài ]

1.Outside of the norm.

3.Other than that; Extra.

Synonym. Extraordinarily extraordinary, extraordinary, extraordinary.

Antonym. Ordinary Average.

synonyms: special

Antonyms: general

Ask your own heart! Stubbornness will only be revealed in front of the person you love, and only the person you love understands his stubbornness.

Why is it that the more sensible you are, the less distressed you are?

Then you just pretend you don't understand.

After so many years, have you worked hard to become a sensible person who does not make trouble, does not cry? Whenever you are wronged, you silently choke in your heart?

Sensible is the standard for a person to grow up, but have you ever thought that when you become more and more sensible, the less people feel sorry for you. If you are sensible, not only will you not be treated well by others, but no one will understand your hard work, and no one will feel sorry for your concessions. You know why?

Because you never reveal your grievances, the people around you feel that you have no grievances; Because you are always thinking about others, everyone thinks that you should be good to them. Remember, when doing something, you must not do too much, if you are accustomed to others responding to your needs, then as long as you refuse once, then others will remember not the good you paid before, but your refusal this time. As Mr. Ma said, 100-1=0

And when you love someone, you can't love too much, if you always tolerate each other and accommodate each other, then as long as you can't achieve each other's requirements once, the other party will feel that your love has become less?

Sensibility depends on the situation. When you encounter difficulties, you can choose to support and understand the other party, even if you suffer a little bit and get tired, it doesn't matter. But what if the other party is vexatious?

I hope you can think about yourself well, don't suffer the grievances you shouldn't suffer at all, and be embarrassed by your own requests, and you must know how to refuse.

If you can smile a little more, it's okay if you're not so sensible, and the people who really love you will never easily abandon you because you are not sensible enough. Live freely, smile calmly, you don't have to please anyone to be treated well by others for the rest of your life.

I once read such a passage, and I was deeply touched by the abrasive:

Sensible people are the most distressing. Because he is sensible, he always thinks about others; Because he is sensible, he always forgives with a smile; Because he is sensible, he is always tolerant and humble. Who cares about your joys and sorrows? Who can understand your difficulty? Who else can serve you with the heart to hurt your grievances!

Before you are sensible, please love yourself well. Only those who have the ability to love themselves have the strength to love others.

Your sensibility is very expensive, and it should only be reserved for those who deserve it, those who are reluctant to let you be wronged.

In this life, may you have wine to get drunk, someone to accompany you when you wake up, and there will be no more grievances and cries in the middle of the night, only the morning when you snuggle up to each other.

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