How can people s feelings get along for a long time without problems? How to debug the personality?

A psychologist once wrote that a mature love that can be called true love must go through four stages, that is, 1Codependent2Counterdependent 3

Independent 4The time it takes to transition between the interdependent phases is not necessarily and varies from person to person. The first stage of coexistence is the period of passionate love, and lovers always want to be together no matter what time and place.

The second stage is to be dependent When the relationship is stable, at least one will want to do what he wants, and then the other will feel left out. The third stage of independence This is a continuation of the second stage, which requires more time for independence and autonomy The fourth stage of symbiosis At this time, a new way of getting along has been formed, your other person (her) has become your closest person, you support each other together, create your own life together, you will not be tied to each other together, but will grow each other. However, most people can't get through the second or third stage, and choose the way of breaking up, which is a pity, many things will be fine if you want to communicate well, don't be too individual, don't think too much, trust each other, and so on.

The second and third phases will be shortened. It is not easy to meet and fall in love with your loved one, don't give up easily, two people get together because of fate, know each other because they have a heart, you really have to cherish this blessing, don't say that breaking up is not for no reason. I hope that seeing the above four stages can really give you some enlightenment and understanding, and we will gradually become our loved ones.

You have nothing in common with him, you don't look alike in appearance, and your personality is also very different, once you fall in love with him for a long time, you will be surprised that your eyes are a bit like his eyes, his smile is a little like yours, your walking pace is a little similar, and the expectation of speaking is more and more similar. He has a mole on his neck, and one day you find out that you also have an extra mole on your neck, and it turns out that we will become our loved ones. You used to like down-to-earth people, and he has always been frivolous, but when you fall in love, he will become an honest person unconsciously, and this change is not even aware of himself.

He originally liked lively girls, but fell in love with the restrained you, these days you are getting more and more lively, almost unable to recognize yourself, we will gradually become our other party's ideal person, this change, absolutely not deliberate. The longer the two people love each other, the more similar their temperaments become. You used to think he wasn't the type you dreamed of.

However, one day, you are surprised to find that he has become the type you like, and you don't have to look around, he is the person you are looking for. When you love someone deeply, you really lose yourself little by little, why do you still feel happy? Probably because you also earned it when you were on it, and you earned back his temperament and smile ......Happiness is very simple, so it takes a very simple person to get ......

7 9 It takes both effort to be meaningful and more perfect 7 97 9 Mutual trust 7 9 Mutual tolerance 7 9 Mutual care 7 9 Mutual respect 7 9 Mutual support 7 9 Mutual understanding 7 9 Mutual care 7 9 Mutual love 7 9

7 9 Believe in yourself, as long as there is love, happiness must exist 7 97 9 Sincere blessings to the family, good health, happy and sweet Forever happy 7 9 7 9 Sincere blessings to have a beautiful, happy and sweet future with the one you love 7 9

1. There are always different opinions:

Different people will always have different opinions on the same thing, but you have to know how to respect each other and know how to respect each other's opinions. However, if you always insist on going your own way and ignoring each other's opinions, then the other party will feel that there is no need to continue, and at this time, the incompatibility of personalities is likely to lead to the end of the relationship.

2. Different hobbies:

The same interests and hobbies can be a good way to promote the relationship between two people, but if you have different interests and hobbies, then the common topics between you will be greatly reduced. When the communication between you is significantly reduced, it means that the relationship is about to end.

3. Disagreements on future planning:

People with similar personalities will mostly have the same expectations for the future, for example, they hope that the future will be stable or full of challenges, and people with similar personalities will also have the same plans for the future. However, if there is always a big disagreement between you about your future plans, then your personalities are probably not very suitable.

4. Don't trust each other:

Someone who truly loves you will definitely give you enough security. But if he always deceives you again and again and hides something from you, then how can you trust him? At this time, you feel that he can't give you a sense of security, and he thinks that you are always suspicious of him, in fact, this is also a manifestation of personality incompatibility.

5. Dislike the other party for being impatient with themselves:

If his feelings for you are true, then he must be clearly different from you and other members of the opposite sex, for example, he is very cold to other members of the opposite sex, but what about you? Always be very patient, and be very gentle in front of you, this is the expression of love for you. However, if he is very impatient with you, it is also a sign of personality incompatibility.