Why do people suffer from gains and losses, and why do people suffer from gains and losses?

Make yourself so good that you don't have time to suffer from gains and losses, you say?

Only those who are afraid in their hearts will they be particularly troubled by gains and losses, jealous of others, and afraid of losing what they have gained.

People who are not confident in themselves, greedy, and cowardly are particularly troubled by gains and losses.

When it comes to love, people are not sure, or cherish it too much, and they will suffer from gains and losses.

When it comes to survival, people are not satisfied and greedy, so they will suffer from gains and losses.

When we were young, we only saw ourselves, and our world was also eating and playing, a simple personal need, and there was almost no affection for external things.

When we get to elementary school, we might like to play with any boy and we will like to spend time with mom and dad.

When we reach adulthood, we will think about what kind of job, or what kind of business to do, and what kind of other half we will find.

When we are middle-aged, we will feel sorry for our children, and we will understand better that our parents are not easy, and we will feel sorry for them. The career may also be thriving, and your husband or wife will take care of it wholeheartedly.

Seeing this, you should be able to see it, when we are young, we have nothing or even if we have, but the feelings in our hearts are not on it, there is no attention, and naturally there is no gain or loss. But the older we get, the more we pay attention to it, the richer our humanity and feelings become, and the more we pour our feelings into all kinds of things, so we can't let go of it.

People are always in pursuit of happiness, so they are always forgotten by happiness. That's because we don't know much about contentment.

I saw a sentence in the book that because I care, I am afraid of losing.

If you can be a little more bland, you won't be so worried. Because if you are a little bland, you can not care a little, and you can let go of a lot of things.

Loss is not necessarily a bad thing, because if you have lost, you will know how to cherish the people around you now.

It's useless to talk at length, and anyone can understand the truth.

The most important thing for people to live is to think about it, don't pay too much attention to some meaningless things, and naturally there are not so many gains and losses to think about. . .

Because we can't let go, people are animals made of feelings, seven emotions and six desires, and we are not immortals or saints.

Lust is at work! Because all men are greedy, so ...

Make yourself so good that you don't have time to suffer from gains and losses, you say?

Make yourself so good that you don't have time to suffer from gains and losses, you say?

That's because there are so many things to care about.

There are many causes of gains and losses, and I personally think there are the following:

1.The world is bustling, all for profit: the world is bustling, all for profit. Personally, I think that the reason why a person suffers from gains and losses is because he attaches too much importance to fame and fortune, and he always wants to get it and is afraid of losing.

2.People who suffer from gains and losses are often more introverted, pay too much attention to others' evaluation of themselves, and are afraid that their mistakes will affect their image in the hearts of others.

3.The people who suffer from the gains and losses are often the better people, who either bear the expectations of others or maintain the livelihood of the whole family, and there is no additional pressure that makes them have to think more than others.

I think if you want to get out of this psychological shadow, you must look down on fame and fortune, learn to talk, communicate with people who know you, don't face it alone, think about the good side when you encounter things, don't magnify the difficulties, there are always two sides to things, there is a loss, there is a gain, there is a giveaway, put a move, take a step back, you will find that the world is so beautiful!

Will the landlord think I'm verbose, in fact, I'm a little bit of a loser, and it's not easy to get out! The above is my personal remarks with feelings, absolutely no intention of attacking him as a traitor, and there is no scientific basis, due to limited personal understanding, it is for reference only.

Girls' gains and losses indicate insecurity.

In the emotional world, women are a group that needs a special sense of security. If the man a woman loves makes her feel unloved, she is particularly vulnerable to insecurity, and thus becomes a victim of gains and losses.

In fact, the most important thing for a sense of security is that a woman needs to give it to herself, which is more reliable.

Although most women also understand this, once a woman is in love, it is still very easy to lose herself and become selfless, and her personal emotions and moods are also easily influenced by men and become prone to gain and loss.

Whether it is a woman in love or a woman in marriage, this situation still often occurs.

Women have no confidence in themselves.

I always feel that I am not good enough and not worthy of my husband, so I will unconsciously put myself in a lower position and look up to my other half, without a sense of steadiness. But many times, it's often just women who look down on themselves. In fact, I am much better than I imagined, but it is only because I can't see clearly in the relationship, so I will suffer from gains and losses.

Women have no faith in men.

If the man a woman loves is too good, the woman is particularly prone to insecurity, for fear that the man will suddenly look down on her and not love herself.

But women seem to forget that a man's choice doesn't show that she values you? Besides, a man's usual thoughtful care and care for himself doesn't mean that he is worthy of a man's love? A woman's gains and losses are just thinking too much about herself.

Because of love, there will be gains and losses.

I'm afraid that after I get it, it's not as good as it is now, and I'm afraid that I won't get it and lose it, so this kind of psychology is very contradictory.

In fact, it also reflects the love for the other party from the other side.

Only when you really love each other and are stuck in a relationship that you can't extricate yourself, will such a situation occur.

If you are in a state of pursuit, you especially want to attract the attention of the other party, want to increase the other party's good impression of you, and improve your image in the other party's mind, so as to get closer to the other party. If the relationship has not yet reached the state of a couple at this time, you will especially hope that the other party can accept you and have each other. If you see each other talking and laughing with other members of the opposite sex, it will be very unpleasant in your heart.

I am especially afraid of losing each other, afraid that the object I like will be snatched away by others, or leave me.

At the same time, if you maintain a good state of communication with the other party, the relationship between the two parties is constantly improving and building. There will also be a situation of suffering, worrying that they are really together, and after in-depth understanding, they find that it is not as beautiful as they imagined. After all, no one is perfect, and when he pursues it, he will automatically shield the other party's shortcomings, and only the good of the other party will be in his eyes.

But when they are really together, after getting it, Lao Heng will find a lot of shortcomings and bad habits that he didn't pay attention to before. Therefore, before you get the other party, you will also have such worries. What if after being together, you find that there are inconsistencies in many aspects such as the personality and life of both parties, and if some of the other party's behaviors are unbearable to you, and if the other party is not as beautiful as you imagined, what should you do?

destroyed the image of the other party in their minds, and the two sides could not return to the previous state.

Therefore, when a person really likes to pursue the other half, there will be such a situation of gain and loss.

Especially when you are carried away by love and are crazy about the other person, and the other party unexpectedly accepts you.

Because of the sudden happiness, I will feel that I have gained and lost. When pursuing, all I think about is how to get the other half. And once you get it, you have to think about getting along. So this is also the most common situation of gaining and losing.