Have you ever been urged to marry when you first reached the age of 30?

Everyone is giving opinions lightly, no one cares, and they are discussing important matters related to the lifelong happiness of others. It's always best to say irresponsible. After all, for the vast majority of people, it is too rare to be able to guide the lives of others as a person who has come before.

I'm experiencing it now.,As long as I call the family ** or go home, I'll be urged, and my parents won't let go of any opportunity to communicate with you.,I also want to find a partner to marry.,But I don't want to make do.,I still have to meet people who love each other willingly, otherwise I'd rather lack than abuse.。

Some people can't bear the pressure and find someone to make do with them and get the certificate, and after marriage, the family is full of contradictions, and it is too late to regret it. There are still some dead pressures, but they can't get the understanding of their parents, they don't dare to go home for the New Year, and they don't dare to call the family.

Just like when I was a child, I didn't do a good job of inspection, and I would panic when I saw the people around me hand in a paper. Because in this world, not everyone has the steadfast perseverance to obey their hearts.

Urging marriage is a carnival of a group of people, and they don't care if you are happy or unhappy in the future. A large part, shocking to say, is that they joke about your life's events just to find a topic to talk about at the dinner table.

Urging marriage is their business, and the happiness of marriage is a major event in their lives, don't panic because the people around you are married, stick to your heart, and don't compromise.

The funny thing is that the people who urge you to get married today are the same people who teach you not to divorce tomorrow when you encounter marital misfortune. They never cared about what kind of life would happen to a person who entered into marriage hastily.

If you don't get married by the age of 30, both men and women will be urged to marry, but now most people in society in their 30s are not married, which is quite normal, and now they are thirty-five or sixteen years old before getting married.

Yes, parents and family members with traditional thinking will have Cui marriage for their children, after all, this is a custom left by us for thousands of years, and parents do not want you to be helpless when you are old, and many parents prefer to be able to bring their grandchildren when they are still healthy, and when they are old, they can also enjoy the joy of family while helping their sons.

According to the personal family situation, the family will be very anxious when the age is generally delayed to the age of 30, and even urge the marriage to be tighter. This is a normal family phenomenon, mainly because the family will be worried about whether you can live happily in the future, and another point, maybe the family will worry about not being able to pass on the family lineage, and a series of problems will arise one after another. The final answer is:

Mostly will.

Yes, at the beginning of this stage, the rhythm of being urged to marry will become more and more urgent.

Depends on what your parents think.

Enlightened parents only demand that their children live well, so why should there be marriage.

The older you get, the greater the chance of being urged to marry.

None of us in our twenties thought that there would be a moment when we would be afraid to go home. Home is a place we have longed for and a warm existence. But now, in addition to warmth, there is also a touch of melancholy ......

Especially in recent years, when I come home for the Chinese New Year, a large family gathers together. The urging of family members, the questions of relatives and friends, and the gossip of neighbors made us a little afraid to return home.

Not everyone has the ability to easily deal with their cross-examination.

We are only in our twenties, and we may not know what kind of life we should choose, we may not know what kind of life we want to live, and we may not have met the person we want to be with all our lives.

We have seen more of the love of our parents' generation, and there are happy ones, but those are also a few. It's more because there is no emotional foundation, all kinds of discord, noisy every day, all of which are improvised.

But we who have received higher education are not here to repeat their mistakes. We have our own thoughts, we have our own choices, we don't want to come to this world in vain, we want to live this life in our own way and at our own pace.

And there are some people among them, because they are afraid that their parents will worry, so they take the road arranged by their parents, choose a stable job, and choose the boys and girls that their parents like.

But over time, our minds will be affected. One generation influences another. How do we live our original selves?

It wasn't until the first two years that I realized how deeply my family environment had influenced me.

I was born in an ordinary family, and my parents only had me when they were 40 years old, so they loved me very much. They didn't read, but they encouraged me to read and change my life. I'm grateful.

They are very kind and teach me how to behave, many times my mother is teaching me, and my father is not talking much, but they always quarrel, growing up in such an environment, I am not lacking in love, but in fact I am very insecure.

The family influence is really big, and it may also be a matter of age difference, and my mother once asked me how I thought about marriage in recent years.

I understand that she cares about me and wants me to live a happy life, but I am deeply influenced by them, I have watched them quarrel since I was a child, I was a little afraid of marriage, and I was insecure since I was a child, so I was very cautious when choosing relationships.

I don't want to just pick a similar person, someone my parents think is suitable, and live a similar life like this.

But there are also many parents who don't get involved in their children's marriages, and I was really envious of ...... once upon a timeBecause my mother has been worried about everything since she was a child, I rarely mention it to her in my current work and life.

I believe that many people, like me, are hesitating and confused between various options.

If we work hard and succeed a little bit, our parents may not be so worried, but if we are brave and try to communicate with them, maybe everything will be different.

I hope we can all be brave enough to be ourselves and choose the life we want.

<> "Have you ever been urged to marry?

Anxious Chinese parents: "If you don't get married, I can't even hold my head up in front of my relatives." ""No matter how good a woman's career is, she will not be happy without a family.

Seven aunts and eight aunts: "A man must start a family at the age of 30 first, and then start a business, and he can't float anymore." ""Your children are in their thirties and haven't gotten married yet, and I'm holding my grandson.

Carl Jung, a Swiss psychologist and founder of analytical psychology, proposed the collective unconscious, which refers to the universal human spirit that has been preserved by countless experiences of the same type preserved by heredity and accumulated in the deepest layers of Siddan Liang Yuanni. It can be passed down from generation to generation because there is a corresponding social structure that serves as the backbone of this collective unconscious.

Taiwanese scholar Sun Longji wrote in the book "The Deep Structure of Chinese Culture": "In China with collectivist culture, a person is incomplete, and he cannot even constitute an existing social unit, such as bachelors and older unmarried women, madmen, etc., who have not become scumbags, they will be excluded from the family system, lack the right to speak, and their material interests will be ignored." "

For most Chinese parents, interfering in their children's marriages is not only an ordinary "custom", but simply a matter of "political correctness." You can't live differently from others, if it's different, it's not normal.

I also hope that she is happy, truly happy, and can have a marriage without regrets. She shouldn't marry her parents, he shouldn't listen to any gossip outside, she thinks about getting married when she hears too much, she should think about getting married with the person she likes. "— The movie "The Leftover is King".

I would like to share with the subject some of my life as a "passer-by" who has a similar mental journey with the subject and my feelings about getting rid of the single, as follows:

1. First of all, don't think about finding a similar partner to marry casually. After all, this is something that will affect you for the rest of your life. The person you want to choose is the person who will sleep next to you for decades in the future, the person who you can share when you are uncomfortable and happy, the father and mother of the child, and the person who can bear the burden and support a family with you.

It's really not easy to find such a person. But the more difficult it is, the more serious and cautious you must be, because if the marriage is not happy, you are the one who "completely" bears the consequences.

2. The second is to enrich your life, because only if you are wonderful enough, you can meet that equally wonderful person. Instead of worrying about getting rid of singles, it is better to save this time and devote it to your hobbies. Become a better version of yourself first, and then you can meet someone who is also independent and dazzling;

3. Consciously expand your social circle, which will greatly increase your chances of getting off the list. Specific ways include: local blind date stickers; Local blind date dating groups in your own group; a variety of large-scale offline blind dates; Take the initiative to reveal that you are single with your work partners and friends, and ask them to help find single resources around them; Reliable real-name dating apps, such as one companion, only marriage and love, etc., use big data and algorithms to match high-quality people of the opposite sex with similar views, hobbies, and educational backgrounds.

When I was twenty-six or seventeen years old, my family urged me to get married, and my parents arranged about a dozen blind dates, all of which were met by their colleagues or friends. But seriously, it may be because of the relationship that is a little resistant in my heart, no one has a fancy to me, but several of the other party have taken a fancy to me. But because I didn't have the heart to get in touch, I ended up with it.

The older leftover men and women are the same, and they are under a lot of pressure to marry, and sometimes they don't dare to go home.

Yes, because of the age, the family often urges marriage.

It's already old, and it's normal to be urged, because there are still people who care about you, and if it's someone else, no one will urge you.

You are 34 years old in a blink of an eye, and it is right to be urged to marry every day, we have not been urged to marry, we are free to love and get married.

The ancients said: Men should get married, and women should get married. The law of nature is that they all hope that their children will start a family and start a business, and it is normal to urge marriage.