What is it like to not get out of college for four years?

You may feel lonely, envious for a short period of time, and have an inferiority complex for a long time. Why can they take off the single, and they haven't.

It doesn't have a big impact on a person who likes freedom, I like to eat alone, go to class, run, but it's a little uncomfortable to sleep at night, and I hit ** after the lights go out, and I can't squeak.

Originally, I thought that being single in college for 4 years would be a terrible thing, but when it averages 1460 days, 35040 hours, 2102400 minutes, and 126144000 seconds, you will feel that you will just continue to be single in the next second, so there is nothing to be afraid of.

One person goes to the library, goes to self-study, goes to class. I go to dinner alone, and occasionally a bunch of friends are clustered. The first two years of study are too tight, and the last two years are not in school for all day internships.

Take classes with your roommates, eat with your roommates, go shopping with your roommates, sing K with your roommates, and sleep with your roommates. The saddest thing is that your roommates are all out of singles, but you haven't. ‍‍

My heart is very calm, I don't feel anything at all, and I don't envy me when I see others entering in pairs.

I often envy my roommates and classmates, and I go in and out of pairs. Eating alone, going to the library alone, there is a sense of loneliness.

Watching couples show affection, watching school tyrants show their grades, going to the library, there are actually two school tyrant couples sitting opposite me. ‍‍

I really don't understand why I'm single, those who are better looking than me have boyfriends who are uglier than me, and I'm still alone?

Did you always feel that you wouldn't be able to fall in love when you got to college? Now the fact is: really! Target! Talk! No! Finish!

It is not possible to generalize.

It's easy for some people to get off the list, and it's hard for some people. Some people are a hidden sea king, and some people are a recognized professional farmer. Some people may be fostered, and some may be a 10,000-year-old widow king.

You look at a good-for-nothing, ugly-looking person with a very beautiful object; You look good, people with good conditions have been unable to get off the list.

To sum up, getting rid of singles is a particularly metaphysical issue. Sometimes you don't know when you're going to get off the list, but it's hard to get out of the list if you deliberately pursue it. You may still be a bachelor in four years or even before the age of 30, and some people may just die alone and take over the life.

It's miserable, some people are actually a person with good overall quality, but because they didn't do well at a certain point, they were buried. Then he also felt inferior because of this, gave up on himself, and finally lost sight of everyone.

Don't worry about this kind of thing, people have a destiny in this life, who you can meet, who you can be with, and what kind of person you can become, all have been decided. To put it simply, getting rid of a single is hard to come by.

Getting out of college depends not only on the ratio of men and women in the school, but also on whether you can grasp the opportunity. For those who have the courage to show themselves, it is not difficult to get off the single, but for students with a relatively small circle of life, it is more difficult to get off the single. Let me share my personal opinion below.

1. The ratio of men and women is unbalancedTo a certain extent, whether or not you can get rid of singles also has a certain relationship with the ratio of men and women in schools. Some of my classmates went to science and engineering colleges, and the ratio of men to women was really out of balance, telling me that I could hardly see female students.

It's really difficult to get out of singles, and it's like entering a nunnery for majors and schools that are too normal, and the ratio of men and women in our class is good, nearly 1:1, so it has a certain relationship with the major.

2. There are few opportunities to contact different people: After going to college, you will find that college and high school are very different, everyone is not tired of being together all day, and only during class hours can encounters happen, everyone is basically busy with their own work, and there are few opportunities to learn more about each other. If you don't participate in some activities or clubs, student unions and other activities, then your life circle is even smaller, let alone contact with different people.

3. Don't take the initiativeIn college, there is often less youth and impulsiveness in high school, and most people are often in a state of waiting and waiting, so there will be a fate that has ended before it has begun. Missing out is the end of most students, so don't mention the matter of getting off the list.

1. Participate in more activities and express yourself: If you want to get out of the list early in college, of course, you need to participate in more activities. For example, if you enter a university club, a student union, or a class committee, you can meet more different people, and no matter how much you express yourself, you can show your strengths to everyone, and it is not a matter of minutes to get rid of the single.

During the college period, although there will be the influence of some school's hard resources, as long as you take the initiative, actively express yourself, and get to know more different people, it is also very fast to get rid of singles.

After a difficult middle school period, we finally entered university with expectations for the future. It is important for us to study as college students, but in addition to studying, love is also very beautiful. Then we can't help but think about whether it is so simple to get off the single, in my opinion, the difficulty of getting off the single lies in three conditions, that is, the time, the place, and the people.

What is the right time, the right place, and the right people? The time of the day is the destiny of the sky. It will always come when it should come, and you force it not to come, but before you know it, it comes, quite a bit of "looking back at dusk, that person is in the dim light" meaning.

The love encountered in this way is always beautiful, and inadvertently sparks appear between two people, and the flame ignited in an instant is enough to illuminate the hearts of two people. The location is favorable, that is, all aspects of the conditions are favorable to your single. For example, if you are a boy, in a major or school with many girls, then it is a matter of time to get out of the list, and conversely, if you are a girl, in a major or school with many boys, the same is true.

The geographical advantage is favorable to you, and the conditions of the advantage are biased towards you, and you ...... off the singleSimple. And I think the most important thing is that your own conditions are enough for you to get out of the list. First of all, you can't stay in a dorm, can you?

How can you meet your love if you don't go out? The second is to improve your own literacy, one more specialty will have one more shining point, and some people will be attracted by your shining point. At the same time, dress yourself more, not to mention how eye-catching, at least you need to be clean, no one will want to talk to a sloppy ghost, right?

After that, you can actively participate in activities, class, professional, school, through contact with other people, you can find the right object for yourself, and at the same time be discovered by others.

In my opinion, it is not difficult for college students to get rid of singles, and if you can do this, you have already completed a big step. Believe it, as long as you are an active person and a person with shining points, your own white moonlight will appear sooner or later.

The first experience is that when you see someone in love, your first reaction may be very envious, but it will be very dull in the following time. When I first entered college, we were friends who had just become familiar with each other, especially for girls, and they were always with each other when they didn't have a boyfriend. But when I saw those female friends I was familiar with and found a suitable boyfriend, my first reaction was to bless them very much to envy their female partner and be able to find a good boy, but if it was their desire to fall in love, it was definitely not so strong.

The second experience is that after being single for so many years, I also have a different understanding of life and see the beautiful other side of life. After all, if there is no object, then there are so many fewer worries about falling in love, and there is one less person to make yourself angry. Although there is less sweetness of love in this process, I have also gained a lot of friendship, and I can enjoy a good life, and I can go shopping together, travel together, and do what I want to do in my spare time, which is actually very beautiful.

The third experience is that after being single for so many years, you will become less and less willing to fall in love, especially for girls. In fact, in today's society, there are still many entertainment tools we can use, and the world we live in is still very broad. They will feel that it is more conducive to their own value in other things, and it is also more attractive to themselves, but after seeing so many emotional things, they feel that falling in love is unnecessary and a waste of time.

The fourth experience is that a girl who has been single for four years in college has a very strong willpower, and when she concentrates on one thing, she will not put her energy on other things. This shows that this person is very good, and it also shows that this person has his own direction in his heart and has his own plans for the future. They are often working hard to make themselves better, and they are all working hard to make themselves look more radiant.

One of the most obvious feelings is the change in attitudes of parents. At first, my mother praised me for being a good boy who was worry-free and sensible, and I didn't have to worry about my early love at all. Later, when I was in my junior and senior year, my mom started to joke with me, asking me if I secretly had a girlfriend outside and didn't tell them.

I can't bear to tell her, but I really don't. After that, the joy disappeared, and my mom began to seriously ask what kind of girl I liked. She even said to me vaguely:

Son, if you have any physical problems, you must tell your mother. "—Sorry to worry you, I'm really healthy and well-developed. ......It's just that I can't find the object.

Helpless. Good friends will also jokingly ask, I think you are very good, why don't you keep looking for a partner. I, the freshman year, was ignorant and played in clubs everywhere, the sophomore year was debating, the junior year was taking the TOEFL GRE, and the senior year was engaged in scientific research.

College passed in a blink of an eye, and I didn't have time. It's okay to deceive others for this reason, but it's still a bit untenable to deceive yourself. After all, after so many nights in the dead of night, the moon is dark and the wind is high, and the feeling of trying to reproduce asexually is only understood by yourself.

Lonely. As a purebred single dog who has never been in a relationship, it is really unconvincing to explain the benefits of being single. But I still have to say that being single is actually pretty good most of the time.

Don't worry about having a date, you can stay up late to play games and sleep until noon the next day. Order a pizza and you can eat it for days without having to cook. A man takes the subway to the Metropolitan Museum of Art for an afternoon to see paintings and sculptures.

Step on a line of footprints in the snow where no one passes through the park. Sit by the Hudson River and watch the large ice floes drift by, then walk home with your back to the sunset......Or lonely ......

That's probably it, occasionally envy couples, and occasionally rejoice in being single.

When a person is very lonely, when he is sick and has no one to take care of him, and he can only go to the hospital by himself, he will be especially envious of the girl who has a boyfriend by his side.

But when I see the people around me dividing and combining, I feel that it is good to be single, and it is really better to go to the library to read more books and enrich myself when I fall in love.

On the question of being single for four years in college, I asked six college students what they had to say.

One: It has laid a solid foundation for the next single life.

This sentence can really be said to be quite heart-wrenching.

I've been single for four years in college, and I've had a single experience, so I know how to live alone, and even if I'm still single after graduation, I won't feel unaccustomed.

But this kind of habit that you are used to by being single is really not a good habit.

He will wear down your fighting spirit, you still have to find a girlfriend, don't give up.

Two: Fortunately, I only went to junior college, and I was single for three years.

This mentality is also quite optimistic.

But what I said is the same as finding a girlfriend without continuing to be single after graduation.

The biggest worry is not that I will be single for as many years as I go to school, but that I will continue to be single after graduating from college.

Three: I know more Japanese actresses than I have ever met in four years of college.

Many boys will know this.

Specifically, it's not good for me to say much as a girl, you can understand it yourself.

I'm sure many people who see this will understand it, right?

Four: I've been ugly all my life, and I haven't met a blind person.

Many people say that the so-called love is that one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer.

In fact, this is the same as a person who is ugly and a person who is blind is a truth, in the final analysis, it is willing. But what I'm afraid of is that ugly is ugly, but I haven't met blind.

It's very heart-wrenching, is it because I'm just ugly that you don't like?

Five: I fell in love with my roommate.

During the day, I take classes with my roommates, eat with my roommates, go shopping with my roommates, and sing K with my roommates.

Finally, at night, I slept with my roommates.

It's a sad story that I didn't want to tell, but please wish us happiness.

Six: The most contact with the opposite sex is the dormitory aunt.

Some people say that the main things that I have said to the opposite sex in the four years of college are the following: Auntie is troublesome to open the door, Auntie I want four taels of rice, Auntie I want to fight this dish.

Yes, the people who usually come into contact with the most are the dormitory manager aunt and the cooking aunt in the cafeteria.

I don't know if I'm too homely, or I'm too ugly, in short, the contact with the opposite sex is very limited, and I have never talked to the opposite sex, and I have never taken the initiative to see me.