Do you know what to do after a conflict with a colleague?

Analyze the situation and apologize if it's not a big deal. Many times we are in the way of face, unwilling to take the first step, in fact, we can solve the matter by saying sorry, maybe the other party has been hesitating to apologize, and our own initiative will break a lot of deadlocks, which is also a prerequisite for having good popularity. It's not a big deal to keep your head down and admit your mistakes.

I really can't open my mouth, I smile when I see each other, smile at each other, and then I don't want to hit the smiling person.

First of all, I think we need to calm down, since we have been able to face it rationally, the next thing to do is to calmly think about the restoration of the incident itself, recall the whole thing by yourself, and find out the reasons for the problem, the reasons may be many, it may be your own reasons, it may be the other party's reasons, or it may be caused by the objective environment, in short, we must find out the reasons for the occurrence of this contradiction.

Have time to ask her to have dinner together, that is, the kind of general classmates or colleagues who eat lunch and dinner, chat for a while at mealtime, in fact, look at others unsatisfactory more because they don't understand him and have hostility, just contact more, look at his advantages, I study human resources, in fact, most people are more kind, hostility can only be higher and stiffer, and it will affect work, occasionally help him sincerely, he will perceive it, if he refuses his kindness, then he is doomed to failure, Whoever makes concessions first is the one with the strength.

I will find a suitable time to open up with this colleague, calm down and talk, say my true thoughts, and at the same time understand the real thoughts of my colleague, find our contradictions, and then solve them together.

I usually confide in my closest and most trusted friends or loved ones. Listen to your friends or loved ones around you to see what they think about my affairs, and learn to be humble if it's a small thing. Don't always be on the fly.

Don't let a little thing affect your colleague relationship.

I think that no matter who is wrong, you must learn a way and method of expression, don't make others too ugly, and colleagues are all under the same roof, and you can't look up and see you down, so no matter who is right or wrong, it's good to take the initiative to stand up and talk about things first.

Most of the disputes between colleagues are due to work, so one of the most basic principles we have to do is to treat things not people, just talk about things, don't go off topic when arguing, of course, it is best not to really have a head-on conflict.

Disputes are not what everyone wants, so when you have a conflict with your colleagues, you should summarize the reasons for both sides, how to avoid this kind of thing next time, if you always have a conflict with your colleagues, it must be your own reason in the eyes of outsiders, so you must learn from the experience.

Then you should know how to communicate, because communication is the best way to solve problems.

A colleague of mine, do the table next to me, joke is not measured, some behavior is not educated, I don't know if it's because I sit at the table next to me and think I'm close or what, always make a very excessive joke on me, put up with her many times, yesterday I couldn't help but get angry at her, now in the cold war, should I talk to her first, after all, working together, still sitting at the next table, face to face all day long, old embarrassment, I decided to give her a step down, but also to reduce the impact on my emotions at work!

The workplace is grinding. Recently, I was sad for a long time because my colleague spoke in the wrong tone. In hindsight, I really can't make it worth. I treat people as friends, but they don't care about my thoughts. Why, it's better to be yourself. The most important thing is to be happy.

Oh, this is a very normal thing, let's understand each other.

The communication should explain the situation. Try to correct yourself. Resolve conflicts.

The one that impressed me was 15 years ago, when I first joined the work, my old colleagues arranged the work for me, I didn't want to be bullied, so after I refused, there were more and more contradictions.

In addition to the cooperative relationship, there is also a competitive relationship between colleagues, and it is inevitable that there will be conflicts due to different work concepts or personality reasons after dealing with each other for a long time. It may be just a good thing in itself, but if you leave it alone and do not take appropriate measures to deal with it in time, it is easy to deepen conflicts and misunderstandings, make the problem worse, and even lead to the breakdown of the relationship between colleagues, and ultimately affect your career development.

As the saying goes, "Many friends have many roads, and many enemies have many walls." "Although, the vast majority of people are difficult to become friends with colleagues around them, but more friendship, critical moments can always help a little, and more important is actually the second half of the sentence, in the workplace, if there are too many enemies, it is easy to be isolated and excluded, which will undoubtedly make it difficult for them to move forward, and kick the iron plate everywhere in the work.

In order to avoid such a situation, it is necessary to learn how to resolve conflicts with colleagues.

When there is a conflict between colleagues, the words spoken are often offensive and threatening, and the best way to deal with these words is to ignore them, so as not to exacerbate the conflict. Although even if the contradiction is resolved, the extreme words and emotions in the quarrel often make many people linger, and there is a knot in their hearts that cannot be solved, and in the future work, this knot can easily become a "fuse" and prejudice.

Therefore, don't take the past contradictions too seriously, learn to forget, and be generous. On the one hand, it is for its own interests, not to make enemies; On the other hand, it is to avoid affecting one's work because of emotions, and then there are communication barriers due to psychological barriers.

Therefore, in the face of conflicts with colleagues, ignore them, and learn to forget that it is more beneficial for themselves, and at the same time pay attention to improving their own value, neither humble nor arrogant.

At work, the probability of conflicts with colleagues is very high, so we must learn to resolve conflicts.

The first strategy: learn to forget.

Most of the conflicts between colleagues are due to some specific things, and even if the matter is successfully resolved, this kind of conflict will often continue in people's minds for a period of time, and may be implicated in dissatisfaction with people because of dissatisfaction with things, and then affect other things. As a matter of fact, the expansion of such contradictions is unreasonable and detrimental to both sides. So, don't dwell on the past and worry about it.

As long as you are generous and don't take what happened in the past too seriously, the other party will often treat you with the same generosity, and the conflict will be resolved.

Taking a step back, even if you are generous, the other party still has a certain prejudice against you, so don't pay too much attention to it. Because the interaction between you and your colleagues is not the kind of friendship and affection between friends, but just a working relationship, it doesn't matter if there are some contradictions and conflicts between each other, as long as it does not affect the work, you don't have to take it to heart. Besides, because the work itself is related to the common interests of both parties, whether it is done well or not will have an impact on each other.

Therefore, if you are generous, even if you can't influence the other party, then, if the other party is a smart person, for his own interests, he will not get into too much trouble with you, at least it will not affect the work.

The second strategy: proactive communication.

After a conflict with a colleague, there is often a period of cold war, at this time, you might as well raise your posture, be positive, take the lead and take the initiative to communicate with each other, and try to solve the problems between you. Among them, you must first put aside the prejudice against your colleagues and maintain a kind and peaceful attitude. When you take the initiative to communicate, colleagues who have conflicts with you may be vigilant and think that you have other plans, which is normal, at this time, do not give up your initiative, as long as you show the sincerity of communication, the average person will not refuse.

If it is a conflict that is more difficult to resolve or a relatively large conflict, you should also take the initiative to communicate with your colleague to review your mistakes and seek forgiveness from the other party. Don't be like some people, although they also take the initiative to communicate and seek peace, but when they talk about it, it becomes a tough statement of their own views, and it becomes a pure tour of defending themselves.

Please have a meal and just talk about it. If you feel guilty and show your sincerity to others, you can't force the other party to forgive you, but you have to show an attitude of admitting your mistakes; If you think that both parties have a problem, you should first be honest and clear about your thoughts. If the other party is still unwilling to accept the difference in your sincere attitude, then I don't think you need to work hard, one reason may be that the other party really doesn't want to be good with you, and no matter how hard you try, it will be in vain; There is also a possibility that the other party is not worthy of you, and you don't need to spend a lot of effort on the other party.