Why do many people always like to lose their temper with people close to them?

Many people will find that their temper is likely to be unable to control their emotions in daily life, and a state like this is also very bad. Because for many people, they don't want to lose their temper with those close to them in their daily lives, but sometimes they just can't control it. Phenomena like this are also very likely to be slaves to emotions in daily life, and it is very bad to not be able to control your emotions.

After all, for everyone, the people close to us in daily life are also for our good, and even many ideas are for us to persuade, or want to urge us. Situations like this,If we have a situation of resistance in our hearts, or if we don't want to hear these urges, we may develop a kind of rebellion. A rebellious mentality like this is also a disservice to them.

After all, for many people, they will not supervise the people they hate to a certain extent in their daily lives, or ask them to do something. And only some of the people around us who are close or close friends will play a caring role in all aspects of life, or want to be good for you. Therefore, in this case, you should also maintain a friendly attitude towards the people close to you in your daily life.

After all, for everyone, people close to us are also people who are really good to us in their hearts, so we shouldn't lose our temper with them in this situation.

But many people may feel that due to some language conflicts or some frictions, there may be some language conflicts. In this case, we should also maintain a relatively peaceful state of mind, after all, if there is no communication in daily life, there may not be some contradictions. But after all, for these close people, of course, there will be some verbal communication in daily life.

However, in the process of this kind of language exchange, if there is something that is not good to say, or there is something offensive to the other party, it may make everyone feel very unhappy, but there is no need to take these things too seriously.

Because these people understand that the people close to them have a certain emotional foundation with themselves, and will be kind to themselves and tolerate their temper, so they dare to lose their temper; And for outsiders who have no emotional foundation, he doesn't dare to lose his temper, because others will not tolerate him.

This is because there are many people who are more able to show their true nature in front of those close to them, so they will bring out their bad side or bad temper in front of those close to them.

Because you don't need to disguise yourself in front of your closest people, you will completely relax and think that the closest relatives will tolerate you, so you will have no scruples and lose your temper.

It's because the more people who have a good relationship with themselves, they don't have to suppress their temper, and their requirements are higher for each other, so they are prone to tantrums.

Because the people closest to him will not abandon him and dislike him because of his temper. So making the people close to him become his emotional trash can.

This is because people tend to feel more secure in front of people close to them, and they can also be particularly willful in front of them, so they always lose their temper.

Because these people feel that losing their temper with people close to them will not have any effect, so they will lose their temper with people close to them unscrupulously.

It's because these people are very kind to him, and no matter how much he loses his temper with him, he never wants to leave him.

Because they have been under a lot of pressure from the outside world, they have vented these grievances to their families, intentionally or unintentionally.

In fact, I have always found that people have a characteristic, that is, they like to bully the weak and fear the hard. We always like to lose our temper with people close to us, because we know deep down that even if we lose our temper with someone close to us, they will not really get angry, but they will understand us and tolerate us. If it's a stranger, we don't lose our temper with him, because we don't know what the consequences will be.

The first reason is that people close to us know our temper better.

In fact, we know the people close to us, and the people close to us know us better. So they know when we're angry and when we're not? When is it angry to speak?

When is it not angry to say. If two people don't know each other so well, it's not a good thing to lose your temper at will, and of course it's not a good thing to lose your temper in front of someone close to you. This is because they know our temper, so they don't bother us too much, so it's not easy to cause conflicts, but I suggest you don't lose your temper, which is a very bad thing.

The second reason is that people close to us are more tolerant and understanding of us.

People close to them, they are more able to tolerate and understand us, understand some of our little tempers, but if it is a stranger, they will not understand them, and they will not tolerate. Because they don't feel close to us, they don't need to understand, tolerate us and consider our feelings, and if they feel offended, they may fight back against us. Originally, we lost our temper just to vent our emotions, but we were put on a show by others, which will definitely add fuel to the fire and add to the anger.

The third reason is that people close to us don't lose their temper at us because of this.

People close to us, they don't get angry at us for throwing tantrums at them, and maybe sometimes they comfort us in turn. They will come and ask us what is going on that makes us so emotionally out of control, so what we need is the performance that they comfort us in turn, so we like to lose our temper with people close to us.

Why do we always like to lose our temper with those closest to us?

This is human nature, only in front of close people, people can completely eliminate the guard, can directly express their emotions. In front of strangers, you have to think about what you say first. Although the people close to you will be considerate of you, but it will hurt the feelings between you over time, so you still have to restrain yourself.

This is a common phenomenon, and people will behave very casually in front of what they think is close. If you lose your temper with strangers or outsiders, it may cause a fight or someone else to fight back.

Because you know they will forgive you.

Why some people always lose their temper with those closest to them, you will understand after reading it.

I like to lose my temper with people close to me, in fact, the main reason is that I have encountered some pressure, I want to vent it in front of my relatives, and then there is no restraint, because my relatives will not blame me, so I like to lose my temper with them.

Because we subconsciously think that the people we are close to will not leave us and we have a sense of security, so we dare to lose our temper with them, but we are very polite to outsiders.

Because there are no serious consequences of losing your temper with people close to you, they will try to tolerate us as much as possible.

Because people close to us are always able to forgive, we are always very tolerant, so we always do it.

Because people close to us are usually too kind to us and are not willing to beat and scold us at all, it is natural for them to feel that they lose their temper.

Because I know that kind people will tolerate and forgive myself, so I am so unscrupulous.

Because we know that no matter what we do, they will not leave us, so sometimes the stress of life often makes us bring our emotions back to our families.

Because we know that those who are close to us can tolerate themselves. That's why they will be unscrupulous and lose their temper in front of people close to them.

That's because we feel that people close to us are able to accept us as they really are, and that these people will never leave us.

This mistake is made by the vast majority of people, no matter what age, status, or knowledge. The closer we treat people, the more we can't be kind and pleasant, and we can easily throw out our bad temper; However, when dealing with unfamiliar or strange people, we can control our emotions and maintain a polite, calm and gentle attitude.

Why is there such a difference? From a psychological point of view, this is mainly because we and the people close to us are prone to lose our sense of boundaries, and with a "fearless" attitude to get along with them, it is easy for bad temper to explode against them.

The closer the person, the easier it is to tolerate you.

There is a good saying, why we are willing to easily hurt our dearest people. Because only the dearest person can forgive you again and again. Therefore, if you lose your temper with the people closest to you, they will be the easiest to forgive you, and the lower the cost of your tantrum.

Just imagine, if you lose your temper with colleagues and customers at work, people will ignore you from now on, or they will have resentment in their hearts, and maybe they will retaliate against you later, and people at home often don't do this.

People who lose their temper often have a strong sense of frustration in their hearts.

Why do you like to lose your temper?

Wang Xiaobo said: "All human suffering is essentially anger at one's own incompetence. "So when we lose our temper with our loved ones, we are ostensibly angry at others, but we are actually losing our temper with ourselves.

All anger is essentially an anger at one's own incompetence. We feel powerless and frustrated, so we are full of anxiety and stress, so we want to release our emotions.

The people close to us are like a mirror in our lives, and the reason why we are harsh on them is actually because we are harsh on ourselves.

So many times in life, when we lose our temper with someone close to us, we are actually expressing dissatisfaction with our status quo.

Because it's too close, there's no distance.

With others, it is a relationship of using and being used, and nothing else. As long as you get out of the confines of getting along, you can regain your freedom in your own space.

And those who are close to them live and accompany each other. Without distance, any words and deeds will have an impact on each other. When there is a gap between ideas and opinions, it is very easy to cause conflicts, and tantrums are one of the typical ways of conflict.

Therefore, no matter how close people are, they also need to maintain a certain distance and give each other a certain amount of freedom in life. We strive to achieve a mutually agreeable lifestyle through communication. Distance produces beauty, Lingheng family affection, love Shengwang base affection, friendship are the same.

We always like to lose our temper with those close to us, because our biggest mistake is to give the worst temper and the worst mood to the people closest to us, but to give patience and tolerance to strangers.

We are always angry with our dearest people, which is very wrong, because we have to know that strangers will not love us, only the closest people will love us, and we cannot leave the worst temper for the people closest to us, which will break their hearts.

Families, especially between close family members, are a relatively safe and inclusive environment. Sometimes, we are wronged or under some pressure outside, and we have no way to vent it, so we have to go to our homes to vent. This is the presumptuousness of our treatment of the family, just like a child facing his mother, which is a very normal thing.

If the family members do our harm, the conflict in the family will intensify. A good family atmosphere is ruined by our presumptuousness.

When it comes to our families, our patience is very limited, because we think that our family should know and support us best. In general, it is true that the closer people are, the more understanding and support they will be for each other. However, it is unrealistic for family members to be able to fully understand everything from point to point, and we ourselves cannot always understand and support the needs and ideas of our loved ones.

Why do people always save their worst tempers for those closest to them? Because this is very simple, people in the society is very slow and difficult to vent some bad temper, may sometimes be bullied, can not directly vent the temper, at this time, when they come home, when they see their relatives, may not be able to contain the anger, so they will send the worst temper to the closest people. I think this is a very cowardly performance, it is entirely because your relatives may tolerate your bad temper, so they will vent your temper arbitrarily.

When we face the people closest to us, it is better to lose our temper with the people closest to us, because this is a very cowardly performance, and a truly strong person will not leave a bad temper to the person closest to them.

Life is not easy, and we are eager to meet warm-hearted people.

We are at home, hoping to have a warm-hearted lover, who thinks of you in everything, speaks in a slippery way, and never makes you angry, how good.

In the unit, there is a warm-hearted group, who don't care about everything, don't laugh or talk, and never talk to you, how good;

Outside, there is a group of warm-hearted people, there are people to help them in everything, everyone is kind, and they never blush with you, how good.

If there is such an opportunity, I am afraid that he will be the happiest person in the world. I would like to be such a person, and I don't think anyone would want to. However, looking back, is he a person who thinks about his lover in everything at home?

I always want my lover to treat myself well, but do I treat my lover well!

The ancients said that respecting each other is like a guest, do you treat your lover as a guest? Perhaps, it was okay when I got married for a while, but after a long time, my lover's face was wrinkled, not beautiful, and her speech was vulgar, and Xinzi got tired of it.

Quarrels are frequent, and it is not pleasing to anyone's eyes.

So when you ask people to be nice to you, first you have to be nice to people. Those who love love to return, and the love is deep. On the contrary, complainers complain and ...... when they are distracted

In the unit, you are eager to meet a group of warm-hearted groups, everyone is a group of harmonious, empathetic, do not care about things, the overall amount of others, every day smile at you, never quarrel with you.

But have you done that? Do you give your brightest smile to your colleagues every day?

Do you think about your colleagues and leaders every day? Don't you ever take your anger out on others?

If so, congratulations, you must be the most popular person and the happiest person.

But the thing is that you always bring emotions on your face, one will be sunny and one will be cloudy, one will be this is not good, one will be that bad, and then that is not good, saying that it is wrong in front of colleagues, although it is not a big deal, but it makes people feel that you are always a little wrong, colleagues are alienated from you, leaders do not trust you, such days can be called good days.