It is said that there should be a degree of intimacy, how can we maintain that degree?

Always keep a moderate distance! The so-called "hedgehog effect" is this truth. In order to keep warm and sleep, two hedgehogs will stick to each other when they get closer, and only by finding a balance point so that this distance can not hurt each other, but also keep each other warm.

Interpersonal relationships in the workplace also follow this rule to last. It will be of great help to you in your daily work. In terms of finding friends, when you meet colleagues you like and recognize, take the initiative, sometimes talk more, occasionally have dinner parties during festivals, take your children out to play, and slowly become friends.

Especially when you don't know everyone's personality, you want to get along with everyone, there is a high chance that you will mess up the relationship, and because you don't know everyone's personality, you are likely to misjudge the situation and offend someone without knowing it.

Colleagues must get along with each other and treat each other sincerely, but it should be impossible to stay close to each colleague, and everyone's personality and interests create a different circle of friends. However, there must be a certain sense of distance between subordinates, whether it is from the psychology of people or from the needs of enterprise management, it is impossible to achieve complete equality between subordinates and subordinates. Therefore, if it is a subordinate relationship, keeping a certain distance is the best way to get along.

No, not close to anyone, the same as anyone, there is only a relationship between superiors and subordinates at work, do not play the emotional card, have a common direction of struggle, and walk hand in hand!

After all, the interests are fixed, everyone wants to share more, which is also where the differences between colleagues lie, so the relationship between colleagues is the same as the relationship between friends in the business field. But let's not offend them, after all, we don't see you when you look down. Now the work relationship is very complicated, many people are friends with wine and meat, there are few who can really help you, everything has to rely on yourself, only when you are strong, others can look up to you.

I feel the need to treat my colleagues not only as friends, but also as family members, as if they were relatives. This will make it much easier for you to work. I will also be interested in my work and work harder.

If you want to maintain that degree, you must have eyesight, you must have perseverance, perseverance, and you will not be impulsive when you encounter things, but will only deal with them calmly.

If you want to maintain that degree, you must give each other space, don't interfere too much in each other's lives, and let each other always be relaxed and happy, so that it is best.

If you want to maintain a good degree of intimacy, then you should first realize that all people play different roles in your heart, and what is the relationship with you, if you have a better relationship, then you will be close to him, if this person has a very general relationship with you, then you should not be too close to him, and the same person treats different things differently.

Take the initiative to do your own work, do your boss's arrangement in advance, and ask your colleagues to do a good job, all of which are based on self-consciousness rather than force.

Never say bad things about others, try to say less about self-praise, and say more about others' praise and suggestions, which are based on sincerity rather than interests.

In the long run, the former can enhance your professional skills, while the latter can enhance your relationships.

In the workplace, I am not in a hurry to stand in line, nor am I lonely, nor am I unruly. On the premise of treating everyone equally, select like-minded friends, rather than using them for the purpose of using them from the beginning.

When we don't want to use others, and there is capital that can be used by others, that is where our self-worth lies.

As for the minefield of intercourse, the simple principle is: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. If you don't want people to know your secrets, don't ask about them. Keep the secrets that others tell you as if they were your own.

After that, the truth is dead, and the move is alive. No matter how much others say, they still have to rely on actual flexibility. Allowing yourself to make mistakes, but not in the same place, is what growth is all about.

Omen: I said a personal experience called "Don't treat the equals of superiors as superiors", how can I say ——— this statement?

For example, my immediate supervisor is A, and I am more respectful to him, but some people at the same level as A, such as people in other parallel departments, probably feel that since "I am at the same level as A, and you are A's subordinate, then you are naturally my subordinate", they are not very good to me in terms of attitude, and they shout at me to do this and that.

After I figured out this truth, I was neither humble nor arrogant in my attitude towards the superiors in the parallel departments, and I did not treat them as superiors, even if they were much older than me, I spoke in the tone of my peers, and after a few times, those people would not come to me for trouble.

Huang Kele: Whether you really get along with a colleague depends on how you or the other party get along after leaving.

Chai Peng: To deal with people, you must have your own principles of life. You can maneuver appropriately, but you must have a bottom line of behavior!

If you don't have a bottom line in doing things, then you will be set a bottom line for you by the people around you.

This relationship is different for different people. In general, no matter what your relationship is like, you need to keep a proper distance. Give each other plenty of space.

In fact, when getting along with people, what kind of intimacy to maintain depends on this situation. How familiar are you with this person? If you are very familiar with someone, then it is understandable to be intimate, if you are not very familiar with someone, then keep some distance and get to know each other slowly.

Always keep a moderate distance! The so-called "hedgehog effect" is this truth.

Different friends are treated differently. Such friends have a different approach. There are different ways to go according to different people.

In fact, it is not easy to maintain a high level of intimacy in social interaction for a long time. Confucius once praised Yan Pingzhong for being good at interpersonal relations and respecting him for a long time. That is to say, Yan Pingzhong is very sociable, and he can make others respect him after interacting with people for a long time.

If you don't even have respect for a person, how can such a relationship be intimate? So, why is it easy to lose "respect for each other" after a long relationship?

People may have the experience of being familiar with no scenery. People who live on the shores of West Lake often do not feel the beauty of West Lake because they are too familiar to see it every day.

People often have a sense of mystery about things they don't understand, and if they are already familiar with them, this mystery will disappear. The same is true for interacting with people. In the eyes of people who get along day and night, there is no mystery to each other, and the beautiful will feel less beautiful, and the great man has become a mortal, and what was taken seriously in the past is not taken seriously now.

Just like the change in the tiger's perception of the donkey in Liu Zongyuan's "Donkey of Qian" in the Tang Dynasty.

The relationship is deep, so it is not easy to respect each other as before, and because the closer and more familiar the interpersonal relationship, the less disguise may be; And when they are strangers to each other, they often have to wear a kind of personality mask. Just like a child who goes to a child's house, he will always give people the impression of being quiet and shy at first, and after getting acquainted, he will slowly take off his mask and reveal his naughty true face. Another example is people's grooming, although it is carried out at home, most of them are not for the family to see, but for outsiders.

The so-called "women are pleasing to themselves", not necessarily. At home, the husband often sees his wife who has removed her makeup. Like the Jin Dynasty calligrapher Wang Xizhi, when others came to his house for a blind date, he didn't even pretend to be a person, and the people who were casually frank about the east bed were a minority after all, so it was passed on as a good story of "the east bed and the belly".