Let s talk about how to express your negative emotions to the other person in a relationship.

Step 1: Pick a time when both parties are in a good mood, at least a moment to think rationally, which seems simple, but many people only use aggression to vent some suppressed thoughts when they are angry. Step 2:

Tell the other person how you feel about this matter, don't rise to a certain height or stand on any position, just stand on the point of maintaining your relationship, you tell him, I feel what I feel about something, I know maybe I am not right, but this greatly affects my feelings and judgment of you; Maybe we can correct it together, I'll try to adjust it first, would you like to join me? Step 3: Give back and fix a pattern of behavior you want to correct in a positive reinforcement way.

The above three steps are used for most couples who are of equal importance.

I am very grateful to my boyfriend for telling me not to suppress myself when I have dissatisfied, unpleasant negative emotions, and to tell him. If I suppress my dissatisfaction, I am not who I am, and it is not what he likes. But now everyone is under a lot of pressure, and blindly leaning negative emotions towards your boyfriend will inevitably lead to the suspicion of using your boyfriend as an emotional trash can, and your boyfriend will be very aggrieved.

Therefore, it is recommended that girls can try to talk about things when expressing negative emotions, and do not use the topic to play. Don't lose your temper hysterically. Your little unpleasant boyfriend will be very sensitive to the experience, and there will be overwhelmed nervousness.

So your hysteria is likely to break him down as well, and boys are actually vulnerable. On the other hand, if your girlfriend is willing to tell you about her unhappiness, whether it is caused by you or not, it means that she is very dependent on you, and you are already her own person within her intimate range. Your boyfriend should also be generous at this time and don't be frightened by your girlfriend's temper.

A lot of times it's not that you're doing something wrong, it's just that she needs an outlet to vent.

I know you don't want to be disturbed, and I've given you room to calm down alone. Delivering food is the only thing I can disturb your dormitory door, and I won't blow up WeChat. It's just that if you're clear that you don't need to care at all, make sure that you're okay with the next time you're alone and helpless, and if that's how much more comfortable you'll feel.

And you don't blame me for losing your temper with me, I'll change it if it's not right, you need me to comfort you and tell me, you don't have to be angry with me if you want me to shut up. You don't want to talk to me about your negative emotions, I don't know if it's because you're used to it or if you don't trust me enough, and you've been completely disappointed in the way I comfort people. But you still lose your temper, but you don't listen to me.

If this continues, I'll really leave you.

It doesn't matter if it's negative or not, everyone has bad emotions, the key is the way of communication. Bear to hurt yourself, blame, complain and hurt each other, and only say it calmly, which is conducive to the development of long-term relationships. I have read Mr. Zhao Yongheng's "Five Abilities of Love" before, one of which is "narration", facts + statements + feelings.

Do not exaggerate or distort the facts, and truly reflect your own preferences, dislikes and emotions. For example, my office colleagues made a loud noise, which made me unable to work with peace of mind, and I should be irritable at this time. If I say to him, "It's noisy, turn it off" The next two people will be unhappy, but I will say to him, "You are a little loud, so I can't concentrate on work, can you turn it off a little bit" Then wouldn't it be better at this time?

Well, as a person who used to communicate with his girlfriends in high school, this doesn't seem to be suitable. Fortunately, I have been reflecting on myself, so after work, we quarrel less, but every time the friendship warms up, it is inseparable from a quarrel, and everyone laughs every time they quarrel. Later, I found out that good quarrels, without dirty words, show weakness to each other, go down the stairs when they are given, and they will not talk the opposite.

To put it simply, it is to express what you want to express directly, for example, I am sad, I am really wrong. Later, I met the object, in fact, she was also a person who didn't like to talk before, and always believed in the sentence on the Internet that people who understand it naturally, but in fact, he is also a simple person, and then when we were together, I influenced him and told my thoughts directly. For example, I'm late.

I will say I'm sorry I was wrong, she will say now, I'm angry, I have to go to work before what time in the afternoon, we only have a few hours, you look at it, I said okay, leave it to me, arrange it for the uncle. In love, look more at each other's good and less at people who are not pleasing to the eye, this is what he taught me, improve each other, learn from each other. Whether it's love or friendship, encourage each other.

Talk calmly, what you have encountered, your own feelings, if he understands a little, he will know and comfort you. In fact, negative emotions are just a matter of a while, and you still need to be able to heal yourself and distract yourself. Even the closest person should try not to spread your negative energy in front of him or her all the time.

If you really have always been more emotional, when everyone is in a normal state, make it clear first, encounter problems, and prescribe the right medicine.

It's normal, it's very straightforward, express what's wrong with you, what you want to do. Once, I complained to my boyfriend, but my boyfriend kept arguing with me, saying that it was my fault, and it became more and more intense. Later, he directly said that he wanted him to comfort him, and it was only then that a war that could break out was ended.

In love, there are things, difficulties, and unhappiness, all of which should be expressed in an appropriate way. When a person's difficulties are shared, they are no longer difficult.

I was frustrated at work, very sad, very sad. When I got off work in the evening, I confided in him all the way, and he criticized me all the way for this and that, and finally he was so angry that he squatted on the side of the road and refused to leave. I went back to comfort him, let's go home.

After that, I no longer had any illusions about his future. In a relationship, someone can be willing to accept the negative emotions of the other person, provided that both people are in love.

This society exerts more pressure on men, and it is generally believed that men have the responsibility to shoulder the pillars of their family careers, so some so-called good men who have a family and a career in their hearts will always have nowhere to put the hardships and pressure. However, some partners don't understand this very well, and they still lose their temper and feel that they are not cared for. Over time, it is inevitable that there will be estrangement and estrangement between the two sides.

Is this the reason for the increase in the divorce rate? Therefore, for small and large trivial matters, rational communication is probably the most important, and I hope that the world's lovers will not be dispersed, and live a good life of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea

Is it hard to control your emotions? Easy** and like to get angry? It's hard to swallow a little breath outside?

This is the legendary yellow character, who likes to attack others, and will continue to attack even if his partner retreats, and he can't stop at all. The only solution is to find a man with a good temper, such as Otogi and Xin Jinnan. If you really can't do it, you can become a monk, and then return to Hongchen after you have cultivated. ‍‍

During the relationship, you can euphemistically express to the other party that you have bad emotions in your heart and want to be understood and comforted by the other party. Generally speaking, as a lover, when the other party sees that you are in a bad mood, they will take the initiative to ask if there is anything unhappy, and at this time, you can confide in him and seek comfort. Negative emotions, if you often choose to self-digest and accumulate in your heart, may lead to psychological problemsProper emotional catharsis, on the one hand, can make one's mood better, and on the other hand, can make the relationship between two people better.

Too many bad emotions will seriously affect the relationship between the two. So, every once in a while,It is necessary to choose an appropriate time to pour out the inner anguish, just like emptying the trash can, which makes people much easier. But it should be noted that the other party is not a garbage collector, so choose a suitable timeDon't choose when the other person's emotions are high, to vent negative emotionsOtherwise, your bad mood will be like a basin of cold water, instantly extinguishing the other party's interest, and such an exchange will lead to conflicts between the two parties.

In the process of confiding,Always pay attention to the changes in the other person's expression and eyes. If he is concerned, you can choose to continue. If you can clearly feel that the other person is gradually tired and the eyes reveal discomfort, then it is necessary to stop in moderation.

Men and women alike should not complain too often. When the other party feels wronged, it is possible for the two to be aloneEuphemistically expressed that he had been wronged, hoping that the other party could understand the problem and the two would solve the problem together. Blindly complaining is a sharp blade that hurts the feelings of two people, don't always talk about complaints and negative emotions.

In short, when you feel unhappy because of your partner, you must find a time to talk to the other person. Small contradictions are easy to solve, if small contradictions are piled up, there will be a large contradiction that cannot be solved, and the two are very likely to break up because of this matter.

During the relationship, if you have negative emotions, you can talk to the other party and tell the other party that you are unhappy or have difficulties and need the other party to help solve them, and you must tell the other party in time.

It is best to express your negative emotions in a coquettish tone, and it is best to accompany physical movements, such as shaking his arm and pouting to make it more lovable.

When you fall in love, you can directly express your unhappy emotions to the other party, and then take the initiative to communicate with the other party.

The method of expressing negative emotions in the love section is as follows:

Leaving the best side of yourself to others, and leaving the worst side to lovers, there are many people like this, especially girls. But they may overestimate one point, that is, the ability of lovers to deal with negative emotions for themselves, in the relationship, it is no longer because of negative emotions to deal with negative emotions, but to deal with negative emotions to create negative emotions.

When you are single, you can endure the inconveniences of the past, and after you have a lover, you must have a lover to help you solve it, otherwise he doesn't love me and I want a boyfriend.

You asked your boyfriend to buy something, and he bought the wrong thing.

You get angry, "Why don't you have any heart, you can't do a little thing!" ”

Why don't I care? There are so many requirements not to say sooner? ”

How many times have I told you about ......”

Am I still not okay if I do it wrong? Do you want to die if you make a mistake? ”

You ......Are you wrong and reasonable?! ”

You are angry, but you don't know how to express it, you don't get your lover's understanding and comfort, but he avoids the emotional you, and your anger not only does not ease, but further escalates and expands.

So how to express negative emotions better?

1.Don't be impulsive and learn to anticipate the outcome.

Before you start expressing your negative emotions, you can set boundaries for the conversation, and you should also envision the possible consequences and make sure that you can accept and accept them. You shouldn't be impulsive, the expression of anger is easily contagious, and it is difficult to get them to change immediately.

2.Emotional expression is not emotional catharsis.

Emotional expression does not mean emotional catharsis, and the way you express your emotions may not be able to express what you want to express correctly. Remember that you are lovers, not enemies.

3.Don't shy away from direct expressions.

When negative emotions arise, many people will respond "nothing" to their significant other, but will express the negative emotions in other places (such as behavior). This indirect expression is not an expression that favors the disappearance of negative emotions and is not conducive to your intimacy, and they will feel that they do not have your trust.

4.Learn to defuse negative emotions6

You have to learn to dissolve negative emotions by yourself, digest some of them by yourself, lovers can be the trash can of your negative emotions, but the trash can will also be full. There is also the fact that he himself has negative emotions to contribute, so your negative emotions should be moderate, don't let your lover feel stressed because of your negative emotions, it is best to alleviate your lover's negative emotions.

When faced with mood swings, many people instinctively want to seek an outlet from the outside world, so as a lover, it is natural to bear the brunt. Some people even take it for granted that their lover has the obligation to help them absorb and alleviate negative emotions.

1. Negative emotions themselves are a burden, even the most intimate people absorb negative emotions to a certain extent, once it exceeds the range that they can accept, it is easy to cause disgust. You can empathize, if others see you all day long sigh and complain, at first you may sympathize and want to help, but after a long time you will resist, after all, there are boundaries between people, and the boundaries between lovers are closer, but they still exist.

Second, and you must recognize a reality, simply venting negative emotions will not help you get rid of it, and in this constant memory and expression, it is easier to fall into it. In addition, you are also easily influenced by the other party, once the other party does not give you the desired response (in fact, this is difficult, many people themselves do not know how to comfort others to be happy), you will feel more that others do not understand you, and even cause quarrels, and negative emotions continue to escalate.

3. So, before talking about the reasonable expression of negative emotions, you must first think about one point: what is your purpose?

1. Usually, expressing negative emotions is to solve the problem, not to let others know how miserable you are, and not to prove whether the other party loves you.

Expressing emotions reasonably is one way to solve problems.

2. Under normal circumstances, negative emotions are divided into two types, one is directly related to the other party, for example, you feel that your boyfriend has snubbed you recently and you are very unhappy. The other is something that has nothing to do with the other party, such as being severely criticized by your boss at work today.

For the former, your goal is to make your boyfriend aware of your feelings and pay more attention to you, which ultimately makes the relationship stronger. Then one-way blame or quarrel is meaningless, it will only aggravate the other party's resistance, and it will not be good for the relationship in the long run. At this time, the reasonable way of expression should be to feel self + understand the other party + put forward expectations.

3. As for the latter, negative emotions that have nothing to do with the other party, you have to know that the root of the solution lies with yourself, and the other party is only enlightening and auxiliary at best. In addition, when the other party is overwhelmed by your complaints, it is best to provide practical solutions, such as after speaking, you can say, don't say these unhappy, maybe I'm too bored to be alone, you go to watch a movie with me. Of course, it is best to thank and respond to his efforts, because no one is really obligated to take responsibility for your negative emotions.

And the worst expression is probably the catharsis of one-way negative energy, and when the other party tries to enlighten, he pushes away and says something like you don't understand.