Why are people reluctant to get married nowadays?

The existence of any relationship and the existence of a marriage is because two people are happy and willing! Whether it is a relationship or a marriage, it is a matter of two people. It's like a doubles match where two people work together, and if one of them gives up, the other team won't be able to win the match, no matter how hard they try!

You can never wake up someone who is pretending to be asleep, and you can never get back someone who decides to leave!

In this world, every moment and every second, there are two people who decide to be together, and at the same time, there are two people who decide to separate. So, how do you do when you face a breakup?

When I was with her, I never thought that one day we would break up. Although we occasionally quarrel, when she sent me a WeChat message saying that she wanted to break up, I still couldn't accept it. So she changed, went to her place of work every day to wait for her, called her every day, sent her WeChat, until, she blocked my ** WeChat also.

Even though she told me the reason for the breakup very clearly, I still went to the unit every day to wait for her. Until, she changed her job, changed her mobile phone number and ***, and completely disappeared from my world. Now that I think about it, that would be too young!

Therefore, I can't accept the hurt caused by the breakup. "This is a sign of immaturity, immature feelings, and it will not end well in the end.

He and I used to fantasize about what the wedding would look like, and we discussed how many children we were going to have, and we even thought of the names of the children. has been in a long-distance relationship for three years, and the saved train tickets are several meters away. However, our relationship was ultimately defeated by a long-distance relationship.

He said that there was a girl next to him who had been chasing him for three years, and he really couldn't bear to hurt her! So, choose to hurt me! I couldn't believe it was all true, so, pestering it all the time!

I kept calling him, and I sent him a large WeChat message, looking forward to recalling his love for me with the beauty of the past. Every weekend, I would take the train to find him and even yelled at him downstairs in his dorm. However, all that I did did not bring back his heart.

Instead, he witnessed that he and her walked together more firmly. I'm too good to him, so the entanglement after the breakup is actually just my own unwillingness! Looking back on all this now, I just feel that I was so stupid at the beginning!

The person who can say the breakup, his heart can't be kept for a long time! I couldn't help but sigh, such a girl is really stupid.

If you break up, don't dwell on it anymore! Any form of entanglement is actually unacceptable! Because, if you are willing to break up with you, his heart will not be with you for a long time!

The entanglement after the breakup seems to me to be a recovery of lost self-esteem, but in the eyes of others, it is nothing more than disgusting behaviors and actions! In this world, everyone has the right to love, and at the same time, everyone also has the right to give up love! Perhaps, he once regarded you as a jewel, maybe, he once swore an alliance with you, perhaps, he once sheltered you from the wind and rain!

However, after the breakup, don't dwell on it anymore! Because, everything is not worth it.

First, I didn't find the right one I liked.

Second, the financial pressure after marriage is still relatively large.

Third, for girls, after getting married and having children, they have to take care of their families and careers.

The cost of marriage is high, the cost of having children is high, and the competition in life and work is fierce, so there are singles, dink. But for the sake of the country, the nation, and the family and society, we should still get married, otherwise, life is not comprehensive, not exciting, and there are shortcomings!

He likes you very much in his heart, loves you very much, she is willing to be with you and get along well, well, it must be your feeling for him, and it is also very good.

Young people are comfortable alone.

Marriage is like a siege, those who come in want to get out, and those who go out want to come in. Today's young people have a unique understanding of marriage, and in the face of the surging divorce rate, more and more people are reluctant to get married, and even have some fear of marriage. Marriage doesn't give them security, and marriage doesn't mean peace of mind.

There are three main reasons why many people are reluctant to get married:

First: I didn't meet the right one.

The best is not necessarily the most suitable for you, the most important thing is the suitability. Everyone has their own criteria for choosing a mate, maybe because he (she) is handsome (very beautiful), maybe because he (she) has a lot of money, maybe because he (she) has a lot of talent, or maybe because he (she) is very reliable, and so on.

In the eyes of a lover, maybe in the eyes of others, he (she) is not excellent, nor special, but for you he (she) is excellent, is special, for today's young people, it is very important to find a suitable person to spend the rest of their lives! They won't settle! If they can't find it, they'd rather be single than overwhelmed.

Second: the economic pressure is too great.

Marriage requires a cost, and now marriage requires "three haves", a house, a car, and a deposit. The threshold for marriage is getting higher and higher, for young people nowadays, if there is no family relief, it is difficult for them to bear the price of marriage, for most families, they are not very wealthy, and it is very difficult to buy a house.

Now that housing prices are getting higher and higher, many young people have worked hard for several years, and in the end they can't even afford a down payment, not to mention that after getting married, they have to have children, raise children, and support the elderly on both sides. It's not our material things, it's that life is inseparable from money everywhere. Thinking about this, most young people can only be discouraged.

Third: Enjoy the single life.

Some young people, a person is used to being free, he (she) enjoys the current state of life very much, does not want to change the status quo easily, and does not want to be bound by marriage, when alone, you can do whatever you want, one person is full, the whole family is not hungry, there are not too many ties and burdens.

After getting married, you have to think about your life together, take care of each other's emotions and family, and work hard to run your own small family, you can't do what you want to do. Some young people can't stand this kind of bondage, so they prefer to maintain the status quo rather than get married.

When it comes to love, many people are looking forward to it, because we all know that love is happy and very sweet.

Especially when we meet someone we like, then many people will be more positive and more proactive. Because they hope that through their own initiative and initiative, they will be able to be better together with the person they like, and getting along with each other will eventually allow them to have happiness and sweet love.

Although love is happy and very sweet, we still see some young people. They don't have friends of the opposite sex and they don't want to get married, so some people wonder why some young people don't want to get married.

First of all, because there are many girls nowadays, they are very realistic, especially in love. They will put a lot of high demands on boys, they will demand that boys have a car, a house, a good job, and a good family. Only when a boy can meet or meet the requirements and conditions of a girl can the girl be willing to be with the boy and get along.

But we know that for many boys, it is actually difficult for them to meet the requirements and conditions of girls. So even if a guy wants to be with a girl, there's no way to do it.

Of course, there are some people who feel that they are not good enough, so they want to be better, so they will put more time and energy into working hard to improve themselves. Because only when they can learn more and master more, will they be better.

So we see that there are some young people now who have neither friends of the opposite sex nor are they married. But in fact, for them, they are also very much looking forward to having love. Because after all, they also know that love is happy, and it is very sweet.

Therefore, as young people, they themselves should be more active and work hard, because only when they themselves are more active and hard-working. This will make them even better. In this way, they will finally be able to find a suitable person for themselves, so that they can truly have their own happiness and sweet love.

Increase in singleness rates

Now a person has to pay a lot to get married, and the house, car and savings seem to have become the standard, so choosing to get married is likely to be equivalent to choosing debt, unless your family conditions are very good and can help you.

In order to be able to pay off their mortgage and car loan, the easiest thing to do is to reduce their expenses and reduce their desire to buy, because they understand that when they decide to have children, the financial pressure will become heavier.

Parents are wealthy and don't need to work on their own

Although the world is fair, many things are also unfair, because the young people of this era, influenced by the previous generation, or even the last two or three generations, will be richer and the poor will still be poor.

Under such circumstances, many young people give up struggling, causing them to gradually lose their motivation to struggle.

In other words, 80% of the wealth in society is now concentrated in the hands of the top 20% of the population, so it is too difficult for young people to make money, not that young people are unwilling to get out of their singles and unwilling to fall in love and get married, but the cost is too great.

Children from ordinary families whose parents do not have a lot of power and money, so it is difficult for them to rise in status, while those children of wealthy families with strong social resources can easily obtain decent jobs, higher incomes, and broader development space.

So sometimes the world isn't so fair, which makes it even more difficult to move from the bottom of society to the middle and beyond.

In this case, many young people have no desire and no desire, they no longer have the ambition to start a business, and those grassroots highly educated people have formed the concept of "learning and excelling" since childhood, and their own advantage cognition, after entering the society, they are crushed by the cruel and unfair reality, so they are getting more and more low desire.

No, the people around me are basically married.

There are many reasons why modern young people are reluctant to get married, such as work pressure, housing pressure, life pressure, loan pressure, and support for the elderly.

With the development of the economy, although the standard of living is much higher, modern young people are facing unprecedented pressure, they dare not fall in love, and even their own survival is a problem, let alone dare to think about starting a family. If you have money, no one wants to be single, which is caused by many pressures.

Young people are under a lot of financial pressure.

For most men, the economy must be a prerequisite for a young person to enter a marriage and the basis for building a new family.

Therefore, they hope to work hard for their careers when they are young, and only when they have a certain economic foundation will they dare to propose to the woman they love.

Of course, in addition to this reason, many men need to have a house of their own and a car, and if they do not have these material conditions, they do not have enough confidence to propose to the woman they love, so it is very financially stressful for young men.

Especially in some places where the bride price is more important, many men often worry about the bride price money, and even after marriage, they will continue to worry about the family's livelihood.

Putting aside the cost of the wedding for the time being, after marriage, not only will they worry about the miscellaneous trivialities of firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, but also after they have children, milk powder money and various expenses of early education classes will also follow.

There may be several reasons why young people don't want to get married and want to fall in love:

1.Economic pressure: The economic pressure in modern society is greater, and many young people are facing great difficulties in work and life. Getting married comes with more financial responsibilities and obligations, which can be prohibitive for some young people.

2.Personal pursuit: Modern young people pay more attention to personal pursuit and freedom, they want to be able to enjoy the joy and freedom of love, and are not willing to be bound and restricted by marriage.

3.Changes in the concept of marriage: With the development of society and the diversification of culture, some young people's views on marriage have also changed. They see marriage as not a necessity or a burden, but a choice and way of life.

4.Marriage phobia: Some young people may develop a fear of marriage because of past marital experiences or other reasons, and they fear that marriage will bring pain and unhappiness to them.

It is important to note that these are just some of the possible causes, and different people will have different thoughts and feelings. At the same time, marriage and love are different concepts, and everyone has their own choices and pursuits. It's important to respect each other's choices and lifestyles.