At what point in college do you feel particularly lonely?

I graduated in June this year, but almost all of my roommates in the first semester of my senior year have moved away, and I live with men, rent a house to go to graduate school, and locals always go home...I was left with another out-of-town roommate. A dormitory that was originally a lively freshman and sophomore suddenly became clean and quiet. Occasionally, when I go to bed and no one is around, I sit on the edge of the bed and think, ah, she played the guitar three years ago over there, and she kept trying to keep it in her sophomore year.

Thinking about it starts to get sad. In fact, I have been in college for four years, my junior year is abroad, my senior year is gone, and I have only lived with everyone for two years. But the expensive thing is that everyone is very harmonious.

The exam week has passed, and I have been interning for half a semester, so I have been living in the dormitory for two or three days before the winter break. The other roommate had already gone home, and the school had become deserted (oddly enough, many dormitories were still lit). Whenever there is nothing to do, I reminisce, probably because I miss the past.

Yesterday afternoon, I left my dormitory and moved to the vicinity of the company. It was a snow-free, well-lit and blue afternoon, and when I walked downstairs to the dormitory, I cut to an IU song, which was very sad. I looked up at the window of the dormitory.

There's no time when everyone is there. It's time to leave this year, who will be in the future, full of hope and joy to live in it for four years? Just like we did.

At that moment, loneliness crept up from the back.

Eating alone, going to self-study, playing ball, running, this is the norm of my college life, the loneliest time is when I have an argument with the most familiar group of people in the university because of some small things, and then I want to invite them to dinner to apologize, and I shirk the night when something happened. I walked back from the study room to the dormitory, passing by the familiar café where we used to chat and discuss, and when I saw them talking and laughing inside, I thought that university was like that.

In my freshman year, there were four people in the dormitory, two from Fujian and one from Shaanxi, and I was a local. On the Friday after the final exams, the Shaanxi man went home, and on Saturday morning the other two Fujianese also left, and I had to wait until Monday to go home because I had to go through the formalities. I was alone in my dorm room.

Blowing the air conditioner and heating, playing with the mobile phone with wifi, and the uneaten snacks on the table, but I really feel the loneliness that penetrates the bone marrow, sitting alone at the table at night and watching the "Hobbit" movie, I cry inexplicably when I look at it. I never want to experience this loneliness again.

There are five people living in the dormitory of the university, and there is a semester, and it just so happens that four of us have classes at 8 o'clock on the same day (because our school is special, different majors and grades are mixed, and we choose courses independently, so there are really not many chances of several people attending classes at one time). Roommate A said, "Let's go to the cafeteria for breakfast."

All three of us said yes. I started getting my things ready for class, and then I changed my clothes (our dorm room was small, and opening the closet door blocked the view of the other three beds, and when I changed my clothes, I happily closed the closet door to tell them that we were ready to go. As a result, the three of them have already left.

Originally. They didn't say "together" and didn't include me, even though they knew that I had classes like them that day, and they knew that I would go to the cafeteria for breakfast every day.

In the senior year, the interview list of the insurance research institute was announced. It's a few years of test scores, all kinds of extra points, and so on, more than 20 people in the whole grade have interview opportunities, and I am sixth. You only need to pass the interview to get a graduate school, so more than 20 of us occupy a classroom.

They review their expertise to prepare for interviews. I studied BEC and prepared for the current exam to earn some money, but people didn't understand it, and I didn't explain it. Listen to English with headphones.

It was raining outside the window, and I cried inexplicably, although I still don't have an annual salary of one million, and I'm still a working girl. But I know that I have changed the fate of my children by my own efforts. She doesn't need to sneak around and take risks to earn money on behalf of the exam like me, and she doesn't need to give up Baoyan to find a job.

At 10 o'clock in the evening, I was walking alone in the library on my way back to bed, and I saw a couple of couples and friends laughing and playing on the road. However, I thought about it in the address book, and there was no one who could contact me at this time, and I felt very lonely in the cold wind of the night.

In my freshman year, I played the "Freshman Cup" basketball game, as the main force in the class, worked hard, and finally won the game, after the game, a person walked in front, and when I was about to leave the court, I suddenly had a cramp in my right leg, which hurt, but my dear classmates who walked behind, no one found out, and then silently, alone, endured the pain, and returned to the dormitory.

It's normal to be lonely in college! Many college students are studying in foreign countries, and they are admitted to schools far away from home, and some are even admitted overseas, which is truly a foreign country. As the saying goes, "being alone in a foreign land as a stranger, thinking of relatives every festival", people who have been away for a long time are wanderers, and it is normal for wanderers to feel lonely, especially when they first arrived, they started a strange journey again in a strange city, and at the beginning they were only alone, facing everything strange around them alone, this feeling of loneliness was even stronger, so many college newcomers will chat with their families and old acquaintances and old classmates for a period of time, and they will feel lonely to varying degrees.

This is normal, this is just because at the beginning, everything is strange to us, and people will always feel lonely when they feel uncomfortable, but after a while, this feeling will slowly fade, we will begin to get acquainted, we will begin to accept everything around us, and slowly we will feel lonely when we first came.

In addition, there will also be students who feel that everyone around them is in love, and they are still a single dog, so they can't help but sigh that they are lonely in the dead of night, especially on special days. Whenever I am sad and sad, or happy and want to share, and I can't find the right person around me, that feeling of loneliness will arise spontaneously, and I will choose to swallow the emotions that come up and bear it alone. This is actually very normal, people will always want to have someone to talk to, a spiritual harbor, and a person to accompany them.

Since he is still a person, it can only mean that fate has not arrived, and it is not his fault. In the process of waiting for fate, you might as well work hard to improve yourself, the fragrance of flowers has its own butterflies, isn't it?

Of course, there are some people who are born introverted, not good at words, and even have the so-called "social phobia", which depends on the situation, if the symptoms are more serious, it is best to seek medical attention in time, do not worry too much, everything will be fine. And it's normal for introverts to feel lonely, but don't worry. When you are alone, you can do what you can do alone, and you can make a lot of good friends when you travel in the book

I think it's normal to be lonely in college, I don't know how many students have felt this way in college, seeing others in groups all day long, chatting and chatting, only to be left alone and lonely, overwhelmed. Is this feeling normal? Normal, so normal! <>

If you don't want to do nothing for four years of college, then loneliness is a test you have to go through. To be gregarious too early is to assimilate to mediocrity. Like things gather, people gather in groups, and your ability level determines the environment you can access.

Before you have enough ability, you can only come into contact with a group of people who are similar to you, or even inferior to yours. And in such an environment, being gregarious is a waste of time. Obviously, I want to study hard in class, but everyone sits in the back row and plays with their mobile phones, in order to be gregarious, you can only sit at the end with them, obviously you want to go to the library to read books, but your roommates are chasing dramas and playing games, in order to be gregarious, you can only kill time with them; You can have a lot of time to do what you want, but in order to fit in, you can only keep sacrificing your time to wait for them.

There is a sentence in "The Rabble": "As soon as people enter the group, their IQ is seriously reduced, and in order to gain recognition, individuals are willing to abandon right and wrong, and use IQ in exchange for a sense of belonging that makes people feel safe." "Even if you know it's wrong, you have to do it in order to go along with them.

It's like a runway, when your growth rate exceeds the speed of the group, you are the only one by your side, once you can't stand this loneliness and choose to be gregarious, it means that you have to stop and wait for them. But when you are too slow to break away from the group, the group will never stop and wait for you alone. <>

You can choose to study or you can choose to play games; You can choose to read a book, or you can choose to brush Tik Tok; You can choose to travel or you can choose to sleep. This lonely time is completely in your hands, and what you do means what kind of person you will become after that.

Some people are busier in college than in high school, with academic pressure, various clubs and student unions, and they don't have a chance to fall in love, and there are also people who have nothing to do in college and are idle all day long, and even feel lonely without friends, is it normal for them to feel lonely in college? In my opinion, loneliness in college is very normal.

Everyone is an independent individual, everyone has their own personality, we do not pursue to meet others in order not to be lonely, we have to adapt to loneliness, but we can't be lonely all the time.

We have to learn to be alone, because, if you don't know how to be alone, for fear of loneliness, you will wronged yourself, cater to others, or even immediately find the opposite sex to get rid of singles, you will not get sincere friendship and love, and you are likely to become a licking dog ......When you have experienced a lot of things, you will find that if you want not to be alone, you must first be self-reliant and know how to be alone! Being alone means that I can live happily alone!

Loneliness is a normal thing. We have to learn to accept our own character, some people are congenitally shy and not good at dealing with others, go back to the roots, you will find the influence of genetics, family and growth environment! So what?

It's not a shame to accept that you're not good at socializing! When you truly accept yourself and reconcile with your shortcomings, you will have the confidence to take the next step! What we need to learn is to learn empathy, the essence of interpersonal communication is mutual benefit, think about what you can help others do, people's hearts for hearts, you expect others to treat you how you want to be treated, you will treat others!

Although, it is possible that you have given sincerely, others may not treat you sincerely! But please believe that there is always someone who will reward you!

The word loneliness, it seems that many college students want to avoid this state, because it seems that once it appears to us, we seem out of place with other people. But our life is originally lonely, in the early stage, with the support of our parents, we went through the road of studying alone, and in the later stage, we looked for our own light in our own world. However, loneliness is also a great state, and there is nothing out of the ordinary.

It's normal to feel lonely in college, so we might as well analyze the reasons and solve the problem.

1 You didn't find your purpose in college.

Maybe from high school to college, you didn't fully adapt to it, in the face of this high degree of freedom, you lost yourself, you have no direction, you don't know what you should do, and you don't even know what your major is and what you can do in the future? If you don't have a plan for your future, you don't have a goal, so you feel empty. Sometimes this kind of loneliness is a kind of weakness of mind.

Looking at the busy appearance of others, you are always questioning yourself, what is the meaning of such a university?

eg: My friend was very lonely because he felt that he had no goal in college, and he lay alone in the dormitory for five days, except for eating and sleeping.

2 Because you don't have your own hobbies. Or maybe you're too empty. I think it is better to cultivate your interests and hobbies in college, because in high school, we are faced with busy studies and have no time to take care of these, but college is a small society with comprehensive development, and if you want to mix better, you have to learn more.

For example, you can join some clubs, you can join some hip-hop clubs, guitar clubs, gyms. There are really a lot of resources in the university, you can follow your own interests or hobbies, you can deliberately cultivate a hobby, so that you can pass a certain time. And in the process you can learn a lot of things, such as interpersonal skills, organizational management skills, these are all possible.

When you're busy, you naturally don't have time to think about it. For example, I now have no time to think about whether I will be lonely in college except for classes and writing essays every day. Actually, I still longed for myself to feel a little lonely.

3 The reason is because you didn't make friends.

If you say that you make friends in general, there are naturally a lot, a smile will have a friend, but if it is the kind of true friend, then it can only be a handful. You will feel lonely because you can't say it to your bosom friend, you may not find a suitable partner, and if you have a friend to help you share this, then you will definitely not feel lonely. Once the loneliness strikes, you can ask your best friend to go out shopping and eat together, as long as you are with him, you will feel that life is still full of meaning.

To sum up, if you want to know why you are lonely in college, then you have to imagine what your heart desires the most, if you are longing for a fulfilling life, it means that you have too much free time, if you are longing for a relationship, it may be that you have reached the age of love. If what you desire is a colorful life, then it may mean that your current life is relatively boring and boring, so everything must be the right medicine, you can seriously think about what you want, then you will know why you are lonely.